Unforgettable Love Story

We all have a dark side; most of us have suppressed it. Often when I make such a statement, I get the following questions…”But shouldn’t we suppress it? Don’t we want to keep that part of ourselves buried so that no one will have to experience it?”

Suppressing a part of yourself is exactly what makes it a “dark side.” What is darkness? It is the absence of light. What do you think will happen if you explore it? Well you would need a light to do that and then…well, the darkness disappears.

Why do we have dark sides? Because of judgments and the rules our society has placed upon us. Fear is at the heart of this. Someone experienced something painful, decided the pain was due to a specific action, and then made a law that excludes that action from our lives.

But laws and rules do not work all of the time for all people! They cannot because everyone is different. If they always worked wouldn’t bad things stop happening? If they always worked wouldn’t our jails be empty?

We have a guidance system that is meant to protect us from harm. Our guidance system is our feelings. When we are feeling good we are on the right track. We are connected with our vast Inner-Being and going where it is guiding us to go. It is like we have a guy in a helicopter directing us where to turn so that we take the quickest route to our destination given the up to the minute conditions. And notice I said “OUR” destination, not the destination that the helicopter pilot wants to direct us to. This is not some great plan that God has for us; we are making the plans. God’s part in all of this is to experience life through us.

When we are feeling bad it is a natural and good thing. This is our protection from harm. Feeling bad is the result of closing ourselves off from our vast Inner-Being. It’s like we stopped listening to the guy in the helicopter and found ourselves stuck in a traffic jam. What is the solution? Stop, look and listen with your feelings. Choose a new path or activity that feels good.

Why would we ignore our guidance? Because for many years we have had people with loud voices and big sticks telling us things like “Shut up and stop crying.” Or “Push forward in the face of adversity.” Or “In order to get ahead in life you have to work hard and ignore the stress that comes with that.” And we were given rules to live by to replace our guidance system. Needless to say, most of the planet is attempting to move through life following a static, and outdated, road map rather than an infinitely wise guidance system. No wonder we run into roadblocks and ditches. Life is not static! It is always changing. There is no rule that works in all situations.

This blog is continued in Take a Walk on the Wild Side - Part II

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Tags: feelings, judgement, self-exploration, self development

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