Unforgettable Love Story

This is the continuation of Walk on the Wild Side

When you explore your dark side you find out what is true and right for you. You free up the energy that is suppressing a vital part of yourself and holding you back. You open up to your natural guidance system. There are many things in life that you just would not do. Not because someone made a rule, but because you are not inclined to do so. Also because of the unique individual that you are, there are things that you would do that someone else would not. And what if that other person or persons were the ones who made a rule against it? If you obey the rule, now you have a dark side. You have suppressed your natural desires.

Let me give you an example. Many years ago a very dear and trusted friend, I’ll call him Sam, told me he had something extremely personal to share with me and asked if I could keep a secret. I agreed and he told me his story. Sam is a gay man who had recently lost his partner to AIDS. Sam is a very spiritual person and very keen to grow and develop as a person. He is one of the kindest and gentlest people I know. Sam is the kind of person everyone seems to like.

It seems that Sam had always wanted to try S&M and his late partner was very much opposed to this. I did not know much about S&M but I could not believe anyone would want to try it, especially Sam. Because I had a deep love and respect for Sam I listened with an open mind. I don’t want to get into a full description of what Sam shared with me about S&M because that is not the point, but it has to do with dominance and submission and inflicting pain in a role-playing semi-sexual sort of way.

By the time Sam finished his story I was shocked…yet I trusted that he knew what he was doing. Many months passed and Sam gave me updates on what he was learning about himself and about controlling pain. Eventually Sam got what he needed out of his exploration and moved onto other things. It was at that time in Sam’s life that I noticed one of the most significant changes in him for the positive. His confidence grew, has awareness expanded and the wisdom he shared reflected the best things I was learning from my current teacher, who I had the utmost respect for.

I too have explored my dark side and found similar results. I found that the judgments that others had were theirs and had nothing to do with me. I found freedom to be who I am and confidence that the Universe will support me even when others will not. And in most cases I found that I could put away those desires forever, discovering for myself why they were not for me. Before that they were always in the back of my mind longing for fulfillment and draining my energy.

So I encourage you to get out the torch and bring light to the dark recess of your life. Do it boldly and with awareness. Challenge the “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts” of your life and feel what is right for you and what is not. And while you are at it let go of what you think is right or wrong for others. Allow them to be the ones to decide on their path in life. The freedom and confidence that comes from these actions are worth it.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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