The Secret to Happiness
This is continued from Drowning in Worry…
Letting go of attachments to people, places, things, or getting what you want, is the first thing you need to consider. You don’t need anything outside of yourself to make yourself happy. If you did then people with lots of stuff and plenty of money would be happy. But for the most part, they are unhappy too. Or they constantly need exciting things to happen in their lives to be happy, and when the excitement ends so does their happiness. Soon such people will enter a cycle of life where their resources are gone and they are forced to find happiness inside or be miserable. Perhaps you are in such a cycle now. This is Life’s way of teaching us; it is not a punishment as too many people think.
Slow Down. While the changes are in progress we need to slow down and change our expectations of life and of ourselves. We will make mistakes, love yourself anyway. You need to be okay with mistakes that have already been made, but then be firm and stick with your reprogramming efforts.
Feel Your Feelings. We need to check in frequently to make sure we are still on track. Something that felt good at one time may not feel good at another time. We need to feel, and notice when something does not feel good and then notice our focus, notice our thoughts. What are we thinking, what are we feeling, how do they relate? Where is our focus? We need to notice what our automatic reaction is and become aware of the programming that is to be changed.
Meditation and Contemplation. Is meditation a habit for you? It really is necessary in some form or another. Is it a joy for you? It can be and will be if you are doing it correctly. It should be as important in your day as eating, sleeping, bathing and exercising (if you are leaving one of those items out put it back in!) You need to be so skilled at meditation that you can sit down in a moment of deep suffering and bring yourself back into balance, back to peace. This requires practice, repetitive, ongoing, daily practice. If you say you don’t have time for meditation then what you are really saying is that you don’t have time to have a good life.
Visualizations. We need to visualize the way we want to be and the way we want life to be. We need to script our response to life for specific situations that come up and tie it to the triggering events. I give a powerful example of doing this in my post Reprogramming Yourself . This takes only 30 seconds to 2 minutes to do but should be repeated as often as you can until the change registers in your response. Your scripted response should be loving, it should feel good to contemplate it.
Stop Negative Thinking. You will know you are in negative thinking when you feel bad! Make sure you notice when you feel bad and then notice what you are thinking. During your visualization time, if negative thoughts occur stop them and counter them. You need to become skilled at finding new ways to view the situation such that you feel better about it and can respond from a loving place. Practicing this when you feel good will make it easier to do when you feel bad.
RESULTS. When you get results, you need to remember them, re-live them, use them to re-inspire yourself in the future when you are feeling blue and when you feel like you are not making any progress.
Hang Out ONLY with Positive People or People ONLY when they are Positive. This can and should take the form of books, movies, and audio programs. Of course this can be real live people too, but you may not have such people in your life at the moment, so do what you can with what you have. When negativity creeps into your experience, in whatever form, slow down, change your focus, change your thinking, end that particular dialog or end your visit with the person you are with. This may be difficult at first but it is necessary.
Prepare Yourself for the Life you wish to Live. Again this would be study of books, movies, audio programs, and classes that will prepare your mind and change your thinking. This can be fun as long as you are not attached to an outcome such as becoming rich this year. Educate yourself for the sake of enjoying the positive flow of ideas into your mind and life. Here are some book suggestions…
* “Rich Dad Poor Dad” by Robert Kiyosaki
* “Conversations with Millionaires” by Mike Litman
* “The One Minute Millionaire” by Robert Allen and Mark Victor Hansen
Reading these books or listening to them as audio books will teach you something about wealth. Being wealthy and staying wealthy is a skill. People who win the lottery most often end up in a worse position within a few years, deeply in debt, because they do not understand money, or how to make it work for them.
Stop watching TV and begin to study. Opportunities are coming to us all of the time. You must be the person who is ready and capable of taking advantage of the opportunities that are coming. Learn how to trade stocks, and practice without investing until you are very successful. Learn how to market on the internet. Learn how to manage others who will work for your business. Don’t get the idea you will be rich next week or even next year, but if you keep on studying and practicing, one day you will become rich and forever more you will have these skills programmed into your very being. A treasure that is stored up in heaven so to speak, a treasure that will travel with you into your next life times.
Read books on developing relationship skills. After all “Like Attracts Like”, which means if your skills have caused you to push men out of your life, then you will continue to do so, and you will not attract a man who is good for you. You will attract a man with relationship skills that match yours in some way.
My book, Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story , will teach you better relationship skills. It will also teach you how to make yourself happy and improve your self-esteem. And it is entertaining as well so it can satisfy multiple needs at the same time. And there are many other good books on these topics as well. Check out http://Abraham-Hicks.com . Abraham is one of the best teachers you will find.
While doing all of this study and practice, make happiness right now, each and every minute of each and every day, your 1 goal. If you do, everything else will fall easily into place.
I hope this helps. If ANYONE READING THIS BLOG has more specific questions feel free to post questions directly in my blogs and I will respond as I can and post them back in my blogs.
Namasté
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story
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Selfishness is underrated, in fact we should all be taught to be selfish rather than selfless! Our society has it all backwards with their rules of how we should all behave.
