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Michael Skowronski’s Relationship Advice, Spiritual Healing, Wisdom & Love Stories
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How to Break Up – Advice for Ending a Relationship

Unfortunately ending relationship problems often means ending a relationship. Whether you want to know how to break up with your boyfriend, girlfriend, or just a friend…“How to break up a relationship?” is a difficult question to answer.

What makes “How to breakup advice” so difficult? Well that is just one of the questions I will answer in this “How to Breaking Up Advice” blog as well as giving you relationship advice on…

  • When to End a Relationship
  • How to End a Relationship
  • How to Break Up Nicely

Click Here for Advice on
How to Cope with a Relationship Breakup

What I will be actually teaching you is how you will know what is best for you in your own unique circumstances. I wish to empower you to be able to make breakup and other decisions with confidence and create the best outcome possible.

Why is How to Breakup Advice so Difficult?

I believe this funny video provides a true glimpse into the nature of unaware people. We are surrounded by such people who are constantly advising us from their limited perspective on life even though they have a lot of relationship problems of their own.

I wish to help you move towards a more powerful and aware version of yourself and away from the influence of such people. Not because they are unworthy but because their approach to life and relationships will not serve you in being happy and fulfilled.

One of the reasons giving relationship advice is so difficult is because the advice that actually brings you the best future life is often NOT what the majority of people are advising. Like all of the characters in that video most people are unaware. They have a very narrow focus in life and are not paying attention to how life really works.People operate from bad habits they learned growing up. People react to their emotions rather than from a peaceful place of knowing what is really going on and from the logic of what will truly bring the best outcome into their life experience.

Unfortunately this majority mindset has too much influence on a person who is suffering over the decision of ending a relationship and how to break up.

While I can and will give you specific relationship advice like “how to breakup” and “how to know when to break up” wouldn’t it be even better if I helped you move into a place of true wisdom and personal power?

In my four hour audio program The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing and in my Relationship Healing Group I help you achieve Spiritual Healing and become a powerful person capable of making decisions that serve you.

Join the Relationship Healing Group and you will discover the root of all of life’s problems and how to overcome them all.

You will have to make millions of decisions in your life. Learning how to make tough decisions for yourself is more important than taking the advice for one specific relationship problem from someone else who does not walk in your shoes.

When to End a Relationship

Ending a relationship should occur when you feel like it is time, when you are ready for it to end…not when other people think you should end it. When YOU are ready!

It does not matter if you took marriage vows of “till death do us part.” It does not matter if your partner will suffer great emotional stress or even threatens to commit suicide. And it does not matter if other people are screaming at you to leave when you feel you should stay.

YOU must make YOUR OWN decisions about what is best for YOU in YOUR LIFE. Other people must make decisions on what is best for them in their own lives. We are all responsible for ourselves number one first and foremost.

You will make the best decisions when you are in a peaceful and loving state of mind, not when you are under emotional stress. Strong emotions cause us to think and react in irrational ways.

This process will help you make ending relationship decisions as well as other important decisions…

  1. Bring yourself to a calm and peaceful state of mind. (Do what it takes. This is a very important step.)
  2. Close your eyes and imagine one of your perceived options playing itself out.
  3. Imagine it in great detail and what each decision leads to.
  4. FEEL how it feels to live that experience as you are imagining it.
  5. Repeat those steps above with each possible option.
  6. Choose the option that feels the best, make the decision, and move forward to the next step.
  7. Life changes, more options appear, you have the opportunities to decide again…repeat the entire process every day of your life. (Notice that this requires that you remain awake and continue to feel and make decisions that make you feel good.)

I teach more about this process and why it works so well in The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing audio program. If you JOIN MY Relationship Healing Group you can ask me personally for more help with this process or anything else I teach along the lines of Relationship Advice and Spiritual Healing.

My specific breakup advice for ending a bad relationship is to get out once you see a negative pattern. Abuse, judgments, manipulations, lies, cheating, anger, hatred are habits that people develop. The very nature of habits is that they are repeated.

When you first start dating you will see your lover behave in a negative way only towards other people, then when they get comfortable with you and have won your trust and devotion they will behave badly with you too.

Unless a person is taking an active role in changing, they will not change. It is that simple…so who are their teachers?

Who is your teacher? If you wish to attract a different sort of person you too need to change; otherwise you can break up and leave this person yet the next person is likely to behave very much the same until you do change. So who is your teacher? Who will guide you in making your changes?

How to End a Relationship – How to Break Up Nicely

The key is to break up as nicely as possible. No matter what your soon to be ex has done, no matter how badly they have behaved, do not let the other person turn you into a monster! You still have to answer to Karma, to God, to your own conscious (and even to the laws of your country) for your thoughts, words and deeds.

By behaving badly yourself you will develop your own bad habits of behaving badly. Do NO Harm! Let Life deal with your soon to be ex-partner and their bad habits…trust me, eventually Life will do exactly that. Even if you never see them get what is coming to them.

However, do not misconstrue this advice to mean you should not protect yourself. You definitely need to protect yourself. But question what is necessary and what is not. Go back to the decision making advice I gave earlier in this blog. Remain calm and peaceful and carefully work out your best options and then follow through to the best of your ability.

Why can’t you “Text Message Breakup” as in the video at the top of this blog? Who says you can’t do it that way? It might just be the right way for you to do it. However in most cases, this is NOT the most respectful way to break up with someone you love or have loved.

Breaking up with someone is difficult. It is emotionally stressful. There is guilt about your own actions. There is worry and fear about what your partner’s reaction might be and all sorts of other negative feelings.

Do NOT run away from your feelings. Feel them! Acknowledge them. Ask yourself which of your own thoughts and actions each of your feelings come from. Make your mind up to change your own habits, to reprogram yourself, such that you do not repeat any behaviors that give you negative feelings.

Negative feelings in regards to your own behaviors tells you that you are not doing your best, you are not living up to your potential, and you are not heading towards your own true goals in life. So let your feelings help you to see where it is that you need to change, and then make the necessary changes in yourself.

How to Break Up Depends Upon Your Circumstances

If your partner might get violent or abusive, do it in public or with a calm and protective friend. If you feel like you might get stalked or harassed seek out legal advice and seek out advice on avoiding a stalker. Protect yourself with information.

A WARNING about involving the police…These days the police are willing to lock up anybody, anytime, for any reason. It is a sad state of affairs in America. A woman can call the police and get a man locked up with a few lies.

Legal fees to pay for an attorney are steep. If you need to involve the police have some compassion for the person you are getting locked up. Be honest. Do not take advantage of the situation to get revenge.

I have seen too much of this lately with women who call the police as a way to get revenge on a man who displeases them in some way. Play nice and play fair.

Jail time and $10,000 in legal fees is not a fair price to pay when someone simply changes their mind or cheats on you or plays some other silly drama. Reserve the calls to the police for when there is a real possibility of danger.

If you feel your partner might do harm to themselves then ask one of their own trusted friends to come and be with you both when you break up so that when you leave your partner they have some immediate support.

If you have a relatively sane partner then just do it quickly and cleanly. You don’t have to go into great detail. By the time it comes to breaking up either you should have already talked your issues out and seen that you were not getting satisfaction, or you just came to the place where you were through with the relationship.

In depth explanations at breakup time should not be necessary.

Trying to remain friends does work for some people. But if there are strong attachments on one side or another, then someone is going to be hoping to reunite every time you meet up as friends. That will be awkward and prolong the pain.

Your intentions are the key in this delicate situation. Wish the best for the partner you are breaking up with. Wish them love and peace and abundance and emotional sanity.

For the next 21 days pray for them daily to have these things. Then go about creating the life you wish to live for yourself.

Relationship breakups can open you up to a whole new world of possibilities. Get excited about what lies ahead and let go of the attachments and pain of the past.

Best Wishes on a Happy New Life,
Michael Skowronski

P.S. Getting involved in my Relationship Healing Group and listening to The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing can help you at any stage of your life. Whether you are single, just starting a new relationship, struggling to keep it together, or breaking up, my Relationship Healing products and services will help you evolve and become enlightened about life.

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Drug Addicts, Prostitutes, Child Molesters, Liars & Cheaters - are They the Scum of the Earth?

Scum of the Earth

Where are you going in your life? Are you seeking heaven or hell?

If you are seeking hell, then judgment such as the title of this article will take you there quicker than the actions of those in the title. Wait now, don’t close off and run away…even if you differ in opinion, and you have a right to, for your sake read this full article and take it all in. Then experiment in your own life with these ideas and in time you will discover the truth. Are you willing to discover truth and move beyond belief?

If you are seeking heaven, if you are seeking a peaceful life, if you want to make this planet a safe place for our children to grow up in and play, then this article will show you how to create that in a very practical way.

First let’s get this point straight…Judgment, Hatred and Anger will take you to hell faster than anything I know of. Believe me I speak from personal experience. I have been working through these issues for many years now. I have made great progress and most people that really know me consider me quite advanced in how I handle difficult situations when compared to the majority of people in the world…

(There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
see details below)


Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

  • The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  • All of my blogs.
  • MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  • Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  • Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

 I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Marriage Made in Heaven Part II

Blushing BrideWhen I first began speaking to Shyni I was talking in broken English as I had become accustom to speaking with all of the locals that way. But when I asked Shyni a question she replied in very good English which surprised me. It turned out that Shyni spoke six different languages. After that we had an excellent conversation, Shyni was easy to talk to.

Shyni had worked as a nurse for ten years, some of that time she spent in Delhi, which is India’s Capital city. She was highly respected for her work (and now I too understand why), as Shyni told me a few stories of her work life, I was very impressed. She had done many selfless things, like canceling a vacation to help a young man who had a very bad accident. As Shyni was getting ready to leave for that vacation a doctor grabbed her and told her he needed her help in the emergency room. The surgery lasted nine hours. After this young man’s surgery was over, he had no-one else to take care of him and no money, so Shyni canceled her trip and spent the next few weeks nursing him. There was no romance; her actions came from her compassion. Her story brought tears to my eyes and I prayed to God that if she was not destined to be my wife that I find a woman just like her.

When I met Shyni she was just thirty years old which was sixteen years younger than me. And she was very beautiful. Even though I was concerned that this was still too young for me, I decided to get to know her better anyway. Of course Shyni is black, nearly as black as they come. She is a very spiritual woman and has a strong desire to help people. When she told me her birth date, I was happy because I knew it was reasonably compatible. Still I checked the numerology report, which gave a fantastic report. The only thing that the report left in doubt was how compatible we would be sexually, it cautioned us that our sex life might be the challenge for us. I knew I would have no chance to find out for sure before our marriage, so this did concern me just a little bit. In all other ways the report said it was a very good match…a match made in heaven.

The next day I took the report to Shyni and asked her to read it and verify that it fit her personality.

Most people are amazed at the accuracy of these reports; they think I have sent spies out to gather information about them. Even still, a few people don’t feel that the reports are accurate for them, so I wanted to check. Shyni confirmed that the report fit her like a glove, she laughed many times at the things it said because it was so revealing.

All of my life I told myself I would never marry a woman who I had not had sex with. I have met too many women who were not affectionate and not very good sexually. Yet here in India my chances of having any sort of intimacy before marriage seemed extremely remote. I was at the point where I had to decide…do I agree to marry Shyni and stick around to get to know her, or do I leave and never see her again? No one told me those were my choices, but I understood that it was so.

Everything else felt right. Intellectually Shyni fit into my life, but the feelings told me more. I was excited about having this woman as a partner. I felt like I was getting a really good, kind and loving human being for a wife and partner. However, the sexual thing was a very big deal to me. After all I am a Scorpio. By that time in my life I could feel if a woman had the hots for me. I knew with absolute certainly that if a woman wanted me in a sexual way I could feel it. And I was not feeling any sexual energy coming from Shyni.

Finally however, I decided that God would not put me in this situation, or that He would stop me before we committed, if Shyni would have no sexual attraction for me. So I made the commitment. I asked Shyni to marry me and she said yes. At most we had only spent about three hours together before we made our decision.

Shyni’s brother Shyam was the first person I met when I arrived at Shyni’s house that morning. He was working on the front porch on a pair of broken tablas. He shouted out something in Malayalam that I could not understand, and Shyni came to the door. Shyam did not look happy to see me. Actually he scared me just a little; he felt like a protective big brother. It turned out he was eight years younger than Shyni. I met Shyni’s mother. They called her Chechi which meant elder sister. Later I would experience strangers who were younger than Shyni calling her Chechi. Shyni’s mother greated me politely and then went back to her work in the kitchen leaving me to talk with Shyni.

I had met Shyni’s nephew Eju, a cute ten year old boy. I was told he was staying with Shyni, her mother and brother because of the school exams. Once they were finished he was to return to his parent’s house, which was three hours away by bus. After we agreed to get married, Shyni called her Sister, Eju’s birth mother, and told her the good news. Jessy was happy for Shyni and made arrangements for her and her husband Gopal to come to stay with the family in Kumily.

When I first arrived at Shyni’s house, before we had even discussed the numerology report, she gave me some disturbing news. Mohammad, a young Indian man who I knew, had been spying on us as we had our introductory meeting the night before. He was standing just outside of the window of Meena’s home where we were meeting and he was listening in on our conversation. Once I had left, Mohammad burst into their home and started shouting at them all, “What are you doing? Shyni can’t marry him. He is a very corrupt person. He had five wives and he killed them all. He will kill you too.”

I was shocked, but things were beginning to make sense now. I ran into Mohammad right before going to meet Shyni for the first time. He was someone I knew because he was friends with the owners of my home-stay. Also I had rented a motorcycle from him. Since he spoke pretty good English, I asked him to teach me a few Malayalam phrases that I could use in my conversation with Shyni. When Mohammad realized I was going to meet a prospective wife, he asked me, “Are you going to meet Shyni? I know where it is you are going. I know the woman who is arranging this. I am sure it must be Shyni that she is introducing you to. Do not marry her. She is corrupt. She is a very bad woman in this community.” At the time he said this I just blew him off. I knew I could sort out the good from the bad.

I did not understand why anyone would do such a thing, why they would want to interfere. But I was about to embark on a life lesson that still has my head spinning in wonder to this very day.

Why was it that everyone in Shyni’s family was so afraid of Mohammad? How would a motorcycle accident incite him to kidnap my brother-in-law and a family friend? How was it that the lovely couple who owned the home-stay I was sleeping at were involved in Mohammad’s corrupt little world?

Click Here to read the Next Installment of this story…
The Suicide and the Accident

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Is Your Past Real?

Positivism and Compassion

One evening many years ago, my late wife Kathryn, a friend Sam, and I were leaving a movie theater. On our way to the car a man began to follow us asking for money. He looked like he lived on the street and was noticeably intoxicated on something other than alcohol. I got the feeling he was not going to take “no” for an answer.

The closer we got to the car the darker it got and the more worried I got about our safety. I was running a defense plan over in my mind in case we got into some sort of physical altercation…especially since it was me he had picked on to harass. And sure enough, when we arrived at our car and I stopped, he stood in my face making it clear that he was not going to give up without a fight.

I turned and walked away from my car. The man followed, as I hoped he would. Kathryn and Sam stayed near the car watching. I turned around faced the man and commanded, “Stay right here and leave me alone!” I then turned and walked back towards my car.

Still I could hear him walking right behind me…

(There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
see details below)


Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

  • The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  • All of my blogs.
  • MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  • Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  • Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

 I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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