What came to me was that not being able to pinpoint the direct cause is a very common occurrence in people due to the way we slowly let the stresses of life accumulate. The emotions of these stresses accumulate in the body and then they come out once an extra stress comes along like traffic or someone doing something unexpected or unwanted. These stresses could be from simple things like worrying about the bills, or if our diet or exercise program is not going well, or if someone we love is going through some difficulty, or as a counselor we are giving too much of our energy away to our clients.

I don’t know about the EFT technique. But I do know that deep breathing exercises, and other physical exercise along with meditation can release emotional stress and help us gather the energy we need to cope with such situations better.
For me in my situation with the traffic I was able to catch it, notice I was on edge, and talk myself into calmness. It was easy for me because I have so much practice with this now; I understand for a beginner how this might be a bit more difficult. (A general comment, not necessarily intended to imply that Angie is a beginner.) Once I got to work, I stayed in the car and did some deep breathing and meditation before going into the office.

Second, I think your blog has some very helpful information that I have personally used to control my own anger (boy did I have a temper and still can if I’m not careful). I have also added EFT (Emotional Freedom Tapping) to my repertoire of personal growth tools and even today when I felt angry and irritable I was able to tap the feelings into submission.

Also, asking myself “why am I angry now?” has been helpful but sometimes I really can’t pinpoint the direct cause or the moment when I started to feel not happy.

Finally, I just wanted to add that I finished your book and it is incredibly inspiring on a number of levels. I cried myself at the beauty of it and to see how far you have come even after all of that. It really does put things into perspective for me and I personally plan on telling others about it.

Namaste!
-Angie