Comments on: Raped by My Father Every Night for Years http://gr8wisdom.com/raped-by-my-father-every-night-for-years Michael Skowronski's Relationship Advice, Spiritual Healing, Wisdom & Love Stories Fri, 18 May 2012 10:47:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: RuthnJasper http://gr8wisdom.com/raped-by-my-father-every-night-for-years#comment-333 RuthnJasper Thu, 13 Mar 2008 11:30:06 +0000 http://gr8wisdom.com/raped-by-my-father-every-night-for-years#comment-333 My heart goes out to this person. I too am the victim of childhood sexual abuse which has blighted my life enormously. It is only in recent years that I have begun to deal with the issue and try to heal the hurt. I had some wonderful counselling from an organisation called RASAC (Rape & Sexual Abuse Counselling) and learned from my hospital worker (I suffer from depression) about Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (how to analyse different stages of your thought processes to work out which areas are most troublesome and provides strategies to cope). I also read an extremely helpful book called "Breaking Free: Help for Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse" by Caroline Ainscough & Kay Toon. It took a while to pluck up courage to read it, but I was so glad I eventually did. It was such a blessing. Has your writer thought about sending letters to her father and mother, expressing her thoughts in writing and telling them exactly why what they did was wrong and how it has made her feel? Even if they don't read them it is good to get those thoughts out on paper. The father in this case doesn't sound very Christian, telling the writer she is going to Hell, etc. It sounds like he is taunting her. God will judge him and his wife for their many sins and He knows the truth of their hearts. Your correspondent is very brave. She has taken the first steps on the long and hard road to recovery - I hope she will have the strength and courage to go on and live a happy and productive life. Why should the abuser have the satisfaction of ruining the rest of her days? He should not be allowed to win the battle. I hope the writer knows that she is NOT alone; she is doing the right thing. It is OK to be angry. And it IS possible to learn to live with the horrors of what has happened and go on to have a life. Good luck to her. love, Roo xx My heart goes out to this person. I too am the victim of childhood sexual abuse which has blighted my life enormously. It is only in recent years that I have begun to deal with the issue and try to heal the hurt. I had some wonderful counselling from an organisation called RASAC (Rape & Sexual Abuse Counselling) and learned from my hospital worker (I suffer from depression) about Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (how to analyse different stages of your thought processes to work out which areas are most troublesome and provides strategies to cope). I also read an extremely helpful book called “Breaking Free: Help for Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse” by Caroline Ainscough & Kay Toon. It took a while to pluck up courage to read it, but I was so glad I eventually did. It was such a blessing. Has your writer thought about sending letters to her father and mother, expressing her thoughts in writing and telling them exactly why what they did was wrong and how it has made her feel? Even if they don’t read them it is good to get those thoughts out on paper.
The father in this case doesn’t sound very Christian, telling the writer she is going to Hell, etc. It sounds like he is taunting her. God will judge him and his wife for their many sins and He knows the truth of their hearts.
Your correspondent is very brave. She has taken the first steps on the long and hard road to recovery - I hope she will have the strength and courage to go on and live a happy and productive life. Why should the abuser have the satisfaction of ruining the rest of her days? He should not be allowed to win the battle. I hope the writer knows that she is NOT alone; she is doing the right thing. It is OK to be angry. And it IS possible to learn to live with the horrors of what has happened and go on to have a life. Good luck to her.
love,
Roo xx

]]> By: emma53 http://gr8wisdom.com/raped-by-my-father-every-night-for-years#comment-332 emma53 Thu, 13 Mar 2008 04:57:31 +0000 http://gr8wisdom.com/raped-by-my-father-every-night-for-years#comment-332 I'm so touched by the story and admired your delicate handling of the situation, you're doing a tough job. You see, is not easy to just emphatize with the person, the fact that you also have this love of God that transcend over and above every situation enable you to compose a heartfelt counsel. I wanted to share the saving grace of Jesus Christ, but when I read how the father's ridicule statement on his daughter, taking Christianity in the wrong perspective, I felt so sorry for the father. He is just one of those disillussion fallen angels inside the church. I'm thankful that the daughter has finally found a confidante soul in you. I think the consensus of women's cry against all forms of abuses should take a louder stance this time. In the Philippines, when law on giving a graveous sentence on crime committed against child and women's abuse was finally enacted, a lot of cases and complain have started to show up and be heard publicly and so more and more hidden cases have resurfaced and disclosed. Women have become more articulate and bolder to expose sexual abuses inside the homes. <em>emma53's last blog post..<a href='http://lifemomento.blogspot.com/2008/03/how-should-we-pray.html' rel="nofollow">How Should We Pray?</a></em> I’m so touched by the story and admired your delicate handling of the situation, you’re doing a tough job. You see, is not easy to just emphatize with the person, the fact that you also have this love of God that transcend over and above every situation enable you to compose a heartfelt counsel.
I wanted to share the saving grace of Jesus Christ, but when I read how the father’s ridicule statement on his daughter, taking Christianity in the wrong perspective, I felt so sorry for the father. He is just one of those disillussion fallen angels inside the church. I’m thankful that the daughter has finally found a confidante soul in you.
I think the consensus of women’s cry against all forms of abuses should take a louder stance this time. In the Philippines, when law on giving a graveous sentence on crime committed against child and women’s abuse was finally enacted, a lot of cases and complain have started to show up and be heard publicly and so more and more hidden cases have resurfaced and disclosed. Women have become more articulate and bolder to expose sexual abuses inside the homes.

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]]> By: blackstone http://gr8wisdom.com/raped-by-my-father-every-night-for-years#comment-327 blackstone Wed, 12 Mar 2008 13:36:59 +0000 http://gr8wisdom.com/raped-by-my-father-every-night-for-years#comment-327 That is definitely tough. As you said, it's not something you can just give the cliche advice, "look on the bright side" or "don't worry about it". I think alot of us think we have to forget, if not forget, at least forgive. I don't believe you have to do none of it. I think the only thing you can do is accept that it happened, there's nothing you can do to change it and live your life to the fullest now. <em>blackstone's last blog post..<a href='http://power-2-people.blogspot.com/2008/03/chinese-and-zambia-in-collision-course.html' rel="nofollow">Chinese and Zambia in Collision Course</a></em> That is definitely tough. As you said, it’s not something you can just give the cliche advice, “look on the bright side” or “don’t worry about it”.

I think alot of us think we have to forget, if not forget, at least forgive. I don’t believe you have to do none of it. I think the only thing you can do is accept that it happened, there’s nothing you can do to change it and live your life to the fullest now.

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