Is it Your Fault?
Is it your fault that someone lied to you, abused you, cheated on you or disrespected you? Is it your fault when you are mistreated? Are you to blame?
Unfortunately this is such a common belief that too many people hold when they are mistreated by someone else. For most of us as we grew up there were those who we trusted, those who were stronger than us, those who had more skills, those who were in charge of our lives, or those who were cool that gave us messages like, “It is your fault that I am blowing up on you. If you were smarter, prettier, paying more attention, if you did not do that thing you just did, bla bla bla…I would not be treating you like this.” Have any of us escaped the experience of someone else spewing their verbal abuse upon us?
When this happens to us at a young and impressionable age we tend to believe it. We develop all sorts of methods to cope. Some people rebel, get angry, abuse others, break some rule, or damage something. Other people hold it in, think they are at fault, and walk through life doubting themselves. No matter which way you react, the result is a person with low self-esteem.
A rebel who lashes out or who abuses others is just being arrogant. They may know they don’t deserve the ill treatment, they may be strong enough to express it, but they still have low self-esteem and they do not really love themselves…
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Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com 
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Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?
I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!
Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.
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Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story
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March 22nd, 2008 at 3:28 am
I’ve been obsessing all day about one of those guys…you know…the kind that blame all bad things on someone else. I was feeling completely responsible for the demise of our relationship. then you added me as a friend…and I came to read your blog…and you said exactly what i needed to hear.
thank you.
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March 22nd, 2008 at 3:13 pm
Being in a toxic relationship breeds a sense of helplessness. It is a chicken and egg thing. The “if-only’s”never stop nagging.
Yes, That’s living in the past.
So I say, if there’s time to leave, leave now. Easier said than done. I should know.
Surely, nothing can stop you if you are determined.
Thanks for sharing.
Cheers!
March 24th, 2008 at 10:41 pm
Wow! this was kinda linked to my latest post in this blog.
Thanks for this wondeful post
enlightening. If you don’t mind I’ll link up your blog to mine 
thanks 
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March 25th, 2008 at 10:07 am
Wonderful post. Yes, it is important that we cure our low self esteem. We must know what we are capable of accomplishing in life and what we can’t. No point in pretending that we are something else. Very intelligent post. I really like it. Thanks for the post. God bless.