Unforgettable Love Story

Most of us are very familiar with how much our own families can hurt us. One of my friends, Jade, wrote to me with her concerns…

I was recently verbally attacked by “Christians” telling me because I am Wiccan I am “of the devil” and that my child (who has a cleft lip) came out deformed because of my way of life. What’s worse is they were family. Should I defend myself and stand up for my beliefs or should I just stand and take it. I know I am in the right, but the comments are really hurtful and I really want to say something but I don’t want to cause conflict.

It sounds to me like you are already doing all the right things except for one…you are making too much of what other people think or say.

There are a lot of really hurtful, ignorant, and immature people in the world. Unfortunately those people are our relatives. You see we all volunteered to take some of them on to help them out…and boy they really do need some help. It is a lot like these folks are in kindergarten; try to see them this way. You could even respond with, “You really crack me up when you say that,” while laughing hysterically.

Then call someone over like your husband or lesbian lover or even your daughter and say, “Listen to momma, she has recently graduated from Our Lady of the Living Saints Medical College and is imparting her gems of wisdom now…shhhh, listen…okay momma, go ahead we are all listening now.”

Okay, so perhaps your response should not be quite like that unless you are quick with the wit. But that is the perspective you need to hold in your mind; not disrespect, but the realization that your family is crazy and they need help. If you don’t take them seriously, if you take what they say like you might take the silly words of a child, and you love them anyway, then you have the best chance of making an impact upon them.

Get to know yourself. Get to the point where you totally accept yourself. Minimize the time you spend with people who are cruel and immature. You can even cut them out of your life for a time if that is what it takes to get yourself on stable ground.

My late wife had a family like this. She was the one light amongst twenty four others who ranged from vile and hateful to almost human but too afraid to be real.

I bet you would enjoy and get a lot out of my book Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story because it tells of many such experiences we went through with negative family members. In the book I reveal the lessons we got from our teachers and how we applied those lessons and the results we got. We had many miracles including physical healing miracles. Honestly, this book touches on most issues that people in relationship will encounter, our dysfunctional ways that needed healing, how we healed them, and the amazing results we got. In the book I am really open especially about my own thoughts and ignorance and harmful ways of trying to meet my own needs, and what it took to heal those things within myself. Not only that, but it is all told in a touching, humorous and emotional love story.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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