Comments on: Have You Been Abused? Are You Healed? http://gr8wisdom.com/have-you-been-abused-are-you-healed Spiritual Wisdom Love & Romance Counseling Wed, 07 Jan 2009 18:35:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: admin http://gr8wisdom.com/have-you-been-abused-are-you-healed#comment-357 admin Fri, 21 Mar 2008 02:26:53 +0000 http://gr8wisdom.com/have-you-been-abused-are-you-healed#comment-357 Lisa, There is a very important message here that you totally misunderstand. It seems to me that you are used to being blamed. For that I am very sorry. But blame is not what this blog was about at all. In fact blame is a horrible thought process and energy to ever engage in. This is about responsibility. Blame is about condemning judgment and shame. Responsibility is about understanding how life works and choosing to go with the flow instead of against it. If you have been a victim and you don’t understand how you attract it then throwing your anger at someone who is telling the truth about how life works does not serve you or anyone else. You must understand there is a cause and effect to everything that happens in our lives. Nothing happens by accident. I teach all of these things in my blogs. If you return and read them with a open mind, be patient and read enough of them to start to break through your ideas about how life works that are clearly wrong, then you will dramatically improve the quality of your life. I would really like to take the time to personally address these concerns you have in more depth but I know my blogs already address these concerns. I do care, and I do have experience, and I hope you will come back and read with that perspective in mind. Kind and Loving Regards, Michael Lisa,

There is a very important message here that you totally misunderstand. It seems to me that you are used to being blamed. For that I am very sorry. But blame is not what this blog was about at all. In fact blame is a horrible thought process and energy to ever engage in. This is about responsibility. Blame is about condemning judgment and shame. Responsibility is about understanding how life works and choosing to go with the flow instead of against it.

If you have been a victim and you don’t understand how you attract it then throwing your anger at someone who is telling the truth about how life works does not serve you or anyone else. You must understand there is a cause and effect to everything that happens in our lives. Nothing happens by accident.

I teach all of these things in my blogs. If you return and read them with a open mind, be patient and read enough of them to start to break through your ideas about how life works that are clearly wrong, then you will dramatically improve the quality of your life.

I would really like to take the time to personally address these concerns you have in more depth but I know my blogs already address these concerns. I do care, and I do have experience, and I hope you will come back and read with that perspective in mind.

Kind and Loving Regards,
Michael

]]> By: Nancy Lee Gray http://gr8wisdom.com/have-you-been-abused-are-you-healed#comment-355 Nancy Lee Gray Thu, 20 Mar 2008 12:45:34 +0000 http://gr8wisdom.com/have-you-been-abused-are-you-healed#comment-355 How sad that in the comment above from Ohmyword! the writer seems to have missed the point. Of course we have no control over the behavior of another...but we sure can have over our own. I've been abused, horribly so as a child, been an abuser as a young mother, who thanks God every day for leading me to help to stop the abuse and begin my own healing as well as providing opportunities for my children to begin their healing while still young. And I've been in abusive marriages and a last relationship that nearly ended with being choked to death. I abuse no one, and no one abuses me now. I work on keeping it that way every day. Once we are adults, we can do that... Thanks for a great site! A Child is Waiting. Take care...be aware. Nancy Gray <em>Nancy Lee Gray's last blog post..<a href='http://childpersonfromthesouth.blogspot.com/2008/03/norman-juster-quote-you-can-swim-all.html' rel="nofollow">Filling Squares, Training [NOT] and Child Abuse</a></em> How sad that in the comment above from Ohmyword! the writer seems to have missed the point. Of course we have no control over the behavior of another…but we sure can have over our own.
I’ve been abused, horribly so as a child, been an abuser as a young mother, who thanks God every day for leading me to help to stop the abuse and begin my own healing as well as providing opportunities for my children to begin their healing while still young. And I’ve been in abusive marriages and a last relationship that nearly ended with being choked to death. I abuse no one, and no one abuses me now. I work on keeping it that way every day. Once we are adults, we can do that…
Thanks for a great site!

A Child is Waiting.
Take care…be aware.
Nancy Gray

Nancy Lee Gray’s last blog post..Filling Squares, Training [NOT] and Child Abuse

]]> By: Omyword! http://gr8wisdom.com/have-you-been-abused-are-you-healed#comment-281 Omyword! Thu, 28 Feb 2008 18:35:48 +0000 http://gr8wisdom.com/have-you-been-abused-are-you-healed#comment-281 This post made me very angry. Implying that because a person has been a victim of abuse, that they are still attracting more abuse, is an ignorant and horrible thing to do. Victims of abuse spend a LIFETIME trying to stop blaming themselves for the inexcusable behavior of another human being. We have no control over the behavior of others. We can only control our own responses. Sometimes perpetrators overpower others, and the "victim" cannot physically or mentally respond. They must do their best to survive - whatever it takes. To imply that they somehow brought this on themselves because of having a "victim mentality" is, frankly, abusive. <em>Omyword!'s last blog post..<a href='http://omywordblog.blogspot.com/2008/02/earth-hour-2008-turn-off-lights.html' rel="nofollow">Earth Hour 2008: Turn Off The Lights</a></em> This post made me very angry. Implying that because a person has been a victim of abuse, that they are still attracting more abuse, is an ignorant and horrible thing to do. Victims of abuse spend a LIFETIME trying to stop blaming themselves for the inexcusable behavior of another human being. We have no control over the behavior of others. We can only control our own responses. Sometimes perpetrators overpower others, and the “victim” cannot physically or mentally respond. They must do their best to survive - whatever it takes. To imply that they somehow brought this on themselves because of having a “victim mentality” is, frankly, abusive.

Omyword!’s last blog post..Earth Hour 2008: Turn Off The Lights

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