Have You Been Abused? Are You Healed?
This blog was inspired while I was watching the movie Patch Adams with Robin Williams. There is a scene in the move where his girlfriend is killed because she goes to help a mental patient. The movie was based on a true story, and that particular scene reminded me so much of the real life experiences I have witnessed over and over again with folks who have been abused.
Like attracts like, but as we can see in real life, opposites attract too. Life is always striving to balance Itself out. A perpetrator needs a victim, and a victim needs a perpetrator. Are you a victim? Are you still feeling wounded from the pain you have suffered at the hands of a perpetrator? If so then I caution you to take care, take very good care. Energetically you are still a like magnet, attracting your opposite to you to work out the idea that you are a victim.
I am not saying this to be cruel. I am saying this in hopes that this advice will protect you from further harm…
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I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!
Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.
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Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story
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February 28th, 2008 at 6:35 pm
This post made me very angry. Implying that because a person has been a victim of abuse, that they are still attracting more abuse, is an ignorant and horrible thing to do. Victims of abuse spend a LIFETIME trying to stop blaming themselves for the inexcusable behavior of another human being. We have no control over the behavior of others. We can only control our own responses. Sometimes perpetrators overpower others, and the “victim” cannot physically or mentally respond. They must do their best to survive - whatever it takes. To imply that they somehow brought this on themselves because of having a “victim mentality” is, frankly, abusive.
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March 20th, 2008 at 12:45 pm
How sad that in the comment above from Ohmyword! the writer seems to have missed the point. Of course we have no control over the behavior of another…but we sure can have over our own.
I’ve been abused, horribly so as a child, been an abuser as a young mother, who thanks God every day for leading me to help to stop the abuse and begin my own healing as well as providing opportunities for my children to begin their healing while still young. And I’ve been in abusive marriages and a last relationship that nearly ended with being choked to death. I abuse no one, and no one abuses me now. I work on keeping it that way every day. Once we are adults, we can do that…
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A Child is Waiting.
Take care…be aware.
Nancy Gray
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March 21st, 2008 at 2:26 am
Lisa,
There is a very important message here that you totally misunderstand. It seems to me that you are used to being blamed. For that I am very sorry. But blame is not what this blog was about at all. In fact blame is a horrible thought process and energy to ever engage in. This is about responsibility. Blame is about condemning judgment and shame. Responsibility is about understanding how life works and choosing to go with the flow instead of against it.
If you have been a victim and you don’t understand how you attract it then throwing your anger at someone who is telling the truth about how life works does not serve you or anyone else. You must understand there is a cause and effect to everything that happens in our lives. Nothing happens by accident.
I teach all of these things in my blogs. If you return and read them with a open mind, be patient and read enough of them to start to break through your ideas about how life works that are clearly wrong, then you will dramatically improve the quality of your life.
I would really like to take the time to personally address these concerns you have in more depth but I know my blogs already address these concerns. I do care, and I do have experience, and I hope you will come back and read with that perspective in mind.
Kind and Loving Regards,
Michael