Drowning in Worry
This blog is a response to a friend’s request for help. She has given permission to use her question and my answer in this blog. Here is her question…
“For the past many months my life has being going downhill. I have been trying to save money for a house, but it is not working. I have left two jobs in the past four months; I have even tried to work from home, but still no luck. For past seven years I have been a single parent, left on my own with eight kids. My saving are going down not up! I just turned 46 recently and all of a sudden I had this burning desire for a man to come into my life, to comfort me, and to lift my burden of having to always be on my own. I would like to try and achieve something with someone special in my life, and for it not always to be me working hard and not getting very far. But Michael I am still waiting. I feel so lost and I don’t know what to do, or if I will ever find someone that will be true to me and my kids.”
Here is my answer to my friend and all of you who suffer from similar problems…
I have compassion for you. I understand how it can feel like there is no way out. But there is a way out, and it is all contained in your own mind and thought processes. First I want to echo back what you said with some comments, and then I will get down to suggesting a path of recovery.
(There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
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Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story
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January 19th, 2008 at 8:17 pm
Wow. Tremendous problem and excellent advice.
In my life, I have learned that similar feelings of despair are often followed the next day by feeling hopeful. Sometimes I can’t see why I feel negative one day and positive the next. There may be simple factors like eating right and getting enough sleep, etc. But bottom line, my feelings have a life of their own, and are somewhat independent of the realities at hand. So when I feel down, fearful, depressed, I know I need to take care of myself in some way.
In my past, I had put myself in my own complex of troubles. Recovery was and is a project. Little by little I was finally able to put many pieces in order. I had to learn new boundaries. I had to think out of the box. I was already used to hard work. And wouldn’t you know it, when I was finally able to take good care of myself, and was feeling happy, I suddenly met a very like minded individual and we married a few years later. We would not have been interested in each other unless we had our individual houses in order.
January 20th, 2008 at 2:51 am
This is the state most people are in. They are blown about by the winds of fate. External events control their happiness and experience of life.
Hello…WE are the creators. Our mind is what creates our experience, including the outside events.
Glad you enjoyed the blog…by the way this woman is doing fantastic now. She has transformed her life dramatically, and did so within days of reading this advice I had given her. Nearly two months later she is still doing very well.
Of course the rest of my response to her has yet to be posted…be sure to read part two.
January 21st, 2008 at 3:48 pm
I too can appreciate this very much as I was once drowning in worry and FEAR. Once I realized that it was all me, took a little responsibility for my own destiny, I experienced a vast change in my own life.
I still feel fearful every now and then as some of it bubbles to the surface. I can usually say to myself that this is remnants of the old me and that the NEW me knows that nothing can happen to me if I don’t give it power by thinking about it. I think of something else, like what I’m going to do for others, and this gives me much peace.
I look forward to reading more!
Namaste,
Angie
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