Deciding on What Will Make You Happiest Part III
This is the last part of the Life Coaching Transcript for Laurie. Here are its first and second part.
Laurie said:
…We are all going in together to share a booth at the local New Age Expo here in November, and now she dropped out of participating in that… bla bla bla (no insult intended) … but it’s like she wants it to go just HER way instead of allowing every to have equal say as a TEAM.
Do you really want to be involved with that energy when you present your skills to the public? Or is this a learning experience whose time has passed? Or can you let it all go, and just bring your sweet loving energy to the expo and stand out amongst the crowd?
Keep asking yourself such questions and go with the answer that feels the best to you.
Laurie said:
…In my additional defence, I’ve gotten strong feedback from at least 3 others in the group that she is the one out of line and I have not done ANYTHING wrong.
Of course that is the case. Whenever anyone is expressing strong emotional feelings it is theirs and only theirs. It’s a good thing to remember when it is you that is ranting and raving too! Your part in it is that you simply still believe you are less than others and deserve to take a beating for it.
Laurie said:
…But after exchanging heated emails, she called me and the conversation left me with that feeling of someone trying to assert their own viewpoints on me
Your participation in this is your own doing. Don’t respond. I know how hard that is, but look where the choice you made got you. Learn from this and cut these sort of things short!
Laurie said:
…but it leaves me with that feeling like as a kid, when your parents spank you “for you own good because I love you” — does that make any sense?
Anytime someone is taking on the strong emotionally charged accusations of another it is because of earlier wounding and a low sense of self-esteem. The fix for this is to focus your attention elsewhere and remind yourself that…Whenever anyone is expressing strong emotional feelings it is theirs and only theirs. The more you do this the less attractive you are to people like that. But the best part is that you discover that there are more and more nice loving people out there who own their own feelings and don’t blame you for their problems.
Laurie said:
…This is the bottom line… in the last week, I had those two situations and had to stand up for myself very strongly, which is very hard for me to do – so hard I ended up feeling as though I had been run over by a truck, literally, physically, and I got very sick for 4 days with a sinus infection/cold thing… just feeling more human today.
See what standing up for yourself does! You don’t have to stand up to the illusions of others, they fall apart of their own accord. Have you read the books “A Course In Miracles”? It says, “In my defencelessness my safety lies.” This is absolutely true!
Let them rant and rave. Walk out on them. Hang up the phone. Get out of the car. Tune them out and remember the last time you had hot steamy passionate loving sex with a gorgeous man. They won’t understand the dreamy look on your face; that should give them a shock!
Laurie said:
…I am trying to figure out what in my vibration has attracted these situations, and it may just very well be the inner conflict
Your pushing against their emotional storm is what keeps you stuck in this cycle. If you really knew your self-worth you would simply shake your head and walk away. In your defencelessness your safety lies.
Laurie said:
…If I decide I do not want to pursue the hypnotherapy (at least at this time) to concentrate on my network marketing business and/or my art or that Starscapes thing, then I feel I will be letting down this hypnosis group, both by failing to complete the assignments I’ve taken on to prepare for the Expo and for my monetary share toward it.
If you don’t look after your self first you will have nothing of value to offer anyone else. If you don’t look after your self first you will continue to attract the abuse of others.
Laurie said:
…How do I know if my sense of reluctance about actually getting around to working with clients is more about fearing I won’t do it well enough
From everything I have read so far you are not ready to do this full on yet and your reluctant feeling is telling you this. You know you do have something of value to offer, but you also know you need to do some more healing yourself before you will make a big splash in the healing pond.
I say don’t give up; help those who find their way to you. But spend your time and energy healing yourself first and making the money you so strongly desire. Your success in the marketing side of your life will allow the healing to occur and provide you with the expertise to promote yourself when you are ready.
Having said that… you must be the one to make this choice, no one can tell you what to do. Not I, not Abraham, and not God.
Laurie said:
…and there is an ego thing of feeling like being a hypnotist would be a “cool” thing and people would like me more if that is what I do!
This is also a credit to your own insight. Trust it.
Laurie said:
…I have the most trouble trusting that I can make enough money with my creative endeavours, but can see dividing my time more easily between that and the internet marketing stuff.
I see this as the easier path for you at the moment. That Guerrilla coaching service you are in will help you heaps.
You can do this! Give it time and you will know when you are ready. Make heaps of money and have fun doing it.
Laurie said:
… I am very excited to have found a coach so well versed in Abraham principles… and that you offered your free questions. I count that as good manifesting on my part, a true gift from the Universe (and you!) I’m involved in the Prosperity Partnership coaching program, with Elyse Hope Killoran, and she incorporates a lot of Abe stuff, but there’s a lot of other stuff mixed in, too (it’s all good, though!).Even so, I’ve been feeling ’spiritually lonely’ — so to speak — because even in the alternative spiritual communities I am involved in, online and in real life, nobody else is such an Abe ‘purist’ (most have never heard of Abraham). Susan James is another of my favorite teachers, and she started out as an Abraham person, but is now incorporating tiny bits of ascension stuff into her teaching. A bit of it helps to raise my energy to a certain extent, but there’s this little intuitive thing inside of me that has been saying that kind of thinking is just yet another belief system, and that it really does not fit with what Abe teaches, and of all I’ve heard, Abraham still feels the best to me. Susan’s take on Abraham is that it is “beginner” stuff — well, that’s her opinion and she’s welcome to it! I still enjoy her stuff a lot. I’ve learned to take what I like and leave the rest as much as possible in regards to spiritual stuff.
Did you read the “Many Gods. Conflicting Theories. Who is Right?” article? That might help you deal with people like Susan James and conflicting ideas. I have a feeling there is something to those theories, but I don’t quite understand how they all fit together. I don’t believe everything Esterham says either.
It is interesting that Susan James calls Abraham beginners stuff. I call it advanced stuff. Now, you said Susan started out with Abe. I started out with many others. I have found that I, and others that I know, think the latest channeller or guru that comes along is the advanced stuff.
I recently went back to some transcripts from my old apprenticeship group.I thought what Abraham was teaching me was more advanced than Amoram. Yet as I read Amoram’s stuff with my new awareness I could see that he was saying the same thing with different words. It is all an illusion we hold in our minds.
But none of that really matters. Take what feels good and works for you and you will continue to thrive and expand in awareness. The rest will fall into place… and if you find yourself rising up out of your body up to the heavens then you will know who was right… ![]()
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January 8th, 2008 at 3:22 pm
Something else to consider (as a fond reader of Conversations with God books) is that each time you re-visit these kinds of teachings, you do approach it with a greater awareness than last time and you almost ALWAYS get something new out of the same message over and over. I LOVE that!
Great advice Michael. I think we all can learn from Laurie’s situation and I feel that she is in a really great place right now, even if it doesn’t necessarily feel like that for her.
Namaste!