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My Spiritual Path & Relationship Counseling - A Radio Interview

 Katy Manna and I had a great conversation on her Feb 2nd 2009 Radio Show. Here are some of the topic we discussed…

Radio Interviews with Michael Skowronski

  • Spiritual Growth and my Spiritual Path
  • Working through Relationship Issues
  • Channeled Spiritual Masters and Channeling
  • Dealing with Cancer - Ovarian Cancer
  • Deepening Understanding of Yourself
  • Healing Miracles and Coincidences
  • Conscious Awareness
  • Reincarnation Stories
  • Relationship Counseling
  • Neediness in Relationships
  • My Arranged Indian Marriage Story

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Radio Interviews with Michael Skowronski

I have done a lot of radio shows in this last year and have enjoyed them all. My interview with Katy was certainly a good one. I have posted most of my radio interviews on my social networking site and you will get access to them all if you join my Relationship Healing Group.I hope you enjoy this one.

Kind Regards,
Michael Skowronski

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What Men Want – Understanding Men & Understanding Yourself

What do Men Want? If you knew would it solve your relationship problems? Would you feel better?

I promise I will give you relationship advice about what men really want later in this blog…but first I have to ask you…what is really going on with you when you find yourself wondering “What Men Want?”

As a woman, is understanding men the most important thing or could understanding yourself be much more important? If you understand men will that change the way men behave? NO!

Can you change a man? NO!

Can you inspire a man to change? YES, sometimes, some men.

But more important, and this is what too many people overlook (including SOME relationship counselors, marriage counselors, online relationship advice sites, etc…), YOU CAN CHANGE HOW YOU RESPOND (react) to relationship problems, relationship issues, relationship breakups, etc…such that you are happy and enjoy life no matter what.

I am not talking about stuffing the pain. No, stuffing pain leads to illnesses of many forms. When you understand yourself, how life really works, how you create your own reality then you can be happy no matter what is going on in your own life. You have it within you to be peaceful, content, calm, cool, and collected even in the midst of relationship breakup.

How? Well that is what makes my relationship books, live relationship advice and relationship healing group different from the online relationship advice sites you find or many of the other relationship books you will find. (Notice I said different, NOT better! I believe both types of information are good to have and so I do offer both.)

You see most relationship counselors and authors are giving you advice for one specific relationship problem or another. They can even give advice for hundreds of situations. If you read enough of their advice then you might find what you are looking for or piece the puzzle together. However…what if you were given the keys to understanding the core root of all relationship problems? What if you were given the tools to happiness no matter what the circumstances? What if these tools improved all aspects of your life not just relationships?

That concept may be difficult to grasp given the relationship issues you now face…but think of it this way…if you could be happy no matter what, then why does it matter if you are in a relationship or out of one? Happy is happy right? RIGHT?

Okay I realize some people just cannot imagine that life could be happy when they are alone or when other people are doing crazy things, but trust me it is possible and many people have mastered this skill.

But here is the most important part…if you are sane and happy then unhappy and crazy people will naturally move out of your life while sane, loving and happy people will move into your life. This is Law of Attraction which is always at work. When you don’t understand yourself or how life works it is easy to attract the people and events that bring you pain and suffering and when you do understand how Law of Attraction works you attract the people and events you do want.

Consider these two contrasting experiences…

You put your time and effort into learning what a man wants and how to attract a man and keep him without understanding yourself or how it is that you create your reality. Then you do a really good job of attracting a man into your life, a man who turns out to be needy and demanding, or abusive, or has some other quality that brings a great deal of pain into the relationship. You do such a good job of keeping him that he clings to you and manipulates you into hanging on to the relationship for so many years that great suffering is the end result.

OR…

You put your time and effort into learning about yourself and how you create your reality and balance that with also learning what men want and how to attract and keep a man. You spend some time alone, but are peaceful and happy. You attract a perfect match for you; he is kind, loving, caring and treats you right. You stay together only because you both continue to enjoy each other so much. Perhaps it takes a while to find that perfect guy but you enjoy spending time with a few different men until you find Mr. Right. You enjoy your male playmates until it ceases to be enjoyable and then you easily walk away because you can and you are stable and secure in and of yourself.

Which experience is more appealing to you?

I’ve seen far too many women who lived the first experience only to find that their youth had slipped away and in the end life did teach them something very profound about themselves and how life really works. I have also met a few women who have had the second experience. These are lovely, powerful and happy women.

What Men Want

I’ve looked at the relationship advice that other relationship counselors have given…in relationship books and in online relationship advice sites; there is a common theme. They make it sound like all guys want the things I will be listing just a little further below. But that is not really true.

There are a lot of men out there that are sick and mentally screwed up. They are in need of spiritual healing, emotional healing, or a great deal of relationship counseling. These men are simply not suitable relationship material. On one hand it may be true that they also want the things listed below. Yet their conflicting dysfunctional beliefs cause them to want and attract someone to use and abuse and someone to blame for the miserable life they suffer.

No matter how much you try, you are not going to get through their severe dysfunction. However after these sick men spend many years using and abusing you and then lose you, they might be motivated to change too. Perhaps in this way you are doing humanity a great service. But is that what you aspire to?

There are a lot of men out there who have severe dysfunction life skills!

How many years of your life do you wish to waste learning this lesson the hard way?

I hope the answer is ZERO and I hope that you will give my Relationship Healing Group a try for that very reason.

What Men Want in Women

Remember that these are generalities, the top seven qualities that a reasonably healthy and balanced man wants. Some men might reorder this list, take things off of it, or add other things to it.

Talk to your man and find out what he believes is important in a woman. Do it as early as possible in the relationship so he is not influenced by what he already knows about you. If he doesn’t know or won’t talk about it…well those are some warning flags that he might not be a very good communicator or not be paying much attention in his own life.

  1. Beauty – Each man has his own idea of what physical beauty in a woman is. Even though the outer package may be the first thing that catches a man’s eye, the inner beauty is what will hold his attention for many years. A man wants his woman to add beauty to his life by the way she dresses, by the way she moves through life and social interactions, and by the way she decorates the home.
  2. Femininity and Nurturing – A man wants to be nurtured and mothered. A man wants to witness his woman nurturing his children or pets or even others in appropriate social circumstances. A man wants to feel the presence of feminine energy in his life.
  3. Playful and Fun – A man likes to play with his woman, to take time out of the seriousness of life to enjoy living. He likes to hear a woman tell cute stories and see her face light up with love, laughter and delight.
  4. Sensuality – A man loves a sexy woman! A woman who knows how to touch and who allows him to see and touch her. (Hint: Don’t always make love in the dark!) A man wants a woman who can delight his senses through food, beautiful fragrances, and even texture and colors.
  5. Youthful Energy – Life can get too serious; it is easy to get caught up in duty and obligations. A man wants a woman who can balance the necessities of life with spontaneity and who can look at the world with awe and enthusiasm as if she were a young girl. This is not about chronological age but about attitude and energy.
  6. Social Planer – Men like to have women keep their social life alive; to plan and arrange interesting and exciting adventures with friends and family and out in society.
  7. Stability and Dependability – A man wants a woman who is honest, reliable, and capable. A man wants a woman who can take care of herself and is emotionally stable.

What Men Want in Their Relationship

  1. Love and Partnership – Yes a man really does want to be loved and a man wants someone he can safely give his love to. A man wants a partner who will work with him in building a life together.
  2. Peace and Freedom – A man wants to be free to be who he is. He does not want to have to fight or defend who he is in his own home or relationship.
  3. Stability and Security – A man wants a life he can depend on. In many ways a man loves a good rut! A man wants to feel like his partner is not going to leave him or cheat on him. Financial security is a big part of this too.
  4. Adventure and Excitement – While it might seem like a contradiction to stability and security, a man does like to take calculated and contained risks.
  5. Logic and Reason – A man wants things to make logical and rational sense. A man likes to know why you want him to do a certain thing and what you hope to gain from doing it.
  6. Self Esteem – A man wants to feel good about himself. He wants to be seen as competent, capable and strong. He wants a partner he is proud to present to others.
  7. Honesty and Fairness – A man wants to do the right thing and wants to do his part to make sure the right thing is done in his life and his world. This is one of the reasons men tend to be disciplinary, and join the police or military or at least admire them.

So what happens if you don’t have one or more of these qualities? How do you develop or improve these qualities in yourself? What happens if you have all of these qualities and the man isn’t treating you like the love of his life or the most precious thing in his life? What happens if he breaks up with you?

After posting this blog I got the following message from a woman…

“But what about what women want and need? We all know this…and it becomes more increasingly clear that we must just bend over and bleach our hair…or become a lying cheating whore…”

“I’m sorry if I’m sounding bitter but I am. I’ve recently met a wonderful man, I could see myself spending the rest of my life with and overnight everything changed…I really believe the internet has been the downfall of us all, who are single. There is always someone better a click away, and they are available, no one seems to have morals anymore. And believe me, after dating as long as I have, and to have almost every guy come back wanting friendship or get back together, I just don’t know anymore. I’m to the point of giving up. I’m so tired. This last one has done me in. I started feeling like a mouse that was being played with by a cat…I just don’t know anymore Michael”

- Joanne

This is where coming to understand life and yourself better becomes important.  How is understanding yourself related to why guys do the things they do? Do you have any idea of the numbers of hours I would have to spend trying to explain it all to you?

It is exactly these sorts of questions that I answer in my four hour audio program The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing, in the fifty or more blogs that are on my Relationship Healing Group website and in my live tele-classes.

Seriously, if you read this blog and still have that sort of comment to make then you really do need my Relationship Advice Products and Services. My package is one of the least expensive ways available to you to listen to and read the best wisdom available on these topics and to then be able to get your lingering questions answered.

Also I reveal how I came to understand this aspect of life and grew to be aware of my own inner resources and gain healthy self esteem in my entertaining book Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story.

So please submit your email address in the form on the right or better yet…Click Here to join the Relationship Healing Group NOW!

Kind and Loving Regards,
Michael Skowronski

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Difficulties Letting Go of a Relationship Gone Wrong

I received this letter from a friend who told me…

“I am finding it so difficult to move on and let go of a relationship gone wrong.

“I met person this man on the internet who lied and manipulated me for one year. We had the worst abusive arguments in which he used my own childhood abuse against me. He used other women to make me jealous and disappeared on me more times than I can count. Yet he obsessively sought to possess and control me, accuse me of cheating even though I never did.

“I was not innocent either…I was moody, quiet, bored easily with conversation, demanding, and also very argumentative at times. I entered into abusive behavior and insults and often would self destruct by jeopardizing things when they were smooth. I’m not sure if it was because I was so angry inside, depressed, unfulfilled, lonely, desperate, and resentful or just testing his love for me and my trust of him.

“I have seen these are my issues and have been working on them myself. A lot of things seem clearer but many not and still very confused over everything. After one year we did meet and had some very rare and few beautiful moments, but mostly the same old dramas continued. I also found out lot of truth in this time that the man was a virgin at 42 years old; he lived life of recluse, suffered with mental illness, anger, paranoia, OCD and lived a weird unhealthy life with his mother who he claimed to take care of but he slept all day whilst caregivers took care of her.

“It is my fault that things haven’t stopped because I hold on and it’s been two and a half years now, although after the last huge fight and disappearance at Christmas I tried to get on with life, went on self development courses and did lots of research into my behavior and healing work.

“Three months later he returned wanting me back and saying he loved me, admitting much was his fault. Then be began again to go into old behavior of past and blame and starting fights so I wouldn’t go back, but it sent me backwards and I haven’t been able to get back on track since.

“He has left me alone but I contact him still looking for answers, sometimes comfort sometimes hoping he will realize and change but he feels no changes are needed and goes as far to say that I interpret too much, go to deep when talking about ego and behavior and reasons behind it, also says I use it to get myself off hook, which isn’t true of course.

“He tells me what happened in first year is unrelated, that after we met he made great effort and I destroyed it all with my attitude and pressure on him, so he tells me he’s too exhausted to try though loves me and has no will.

“You would think that would be enough to send me on my way but i am filled with anger and resentment at sacrifices I’ve made as well as time wasted, all the hurt and not having sex for 3 years to please and be faithful to him.

“I’ve come to the end of my rope and through research and self development and my own writing I am much stronger in many ways and aware of much, I still feel confused is this my fault? Why did it happen to me?

“Why does he not realize and change? Why does he not love me enough or see me as special enough to fight for me? But more importantly why can’t I just let this go and get over him, sometimes I just feel he isn’t worth it at all and this is just my own ego in turmoil because it was rejected.

“I would really appreciate some insight into this and how to move forward, also if it helps others can be used for blog but just ask you don’t use my name or links as he is on MySpace too and I fear he would do something nasty if he found out I told anyone of this.”

You won’t find answers in other people. Consider how screwed up you feel at times. From what you have written I know you must feel screwed up. Well MOST of humanity is like that. We tend to think other people are doing fine, when in reality most are just barely holding it together. So don’t look for answers about why other people are the way they are. The reasons are many. There are no answers except to say that other people are very fluid, shifting and changing…there is no stability in others.

You must find the answers inside of yourself. You must find this stability inside of yourself. My blogs are specifically written to help people find that stability. Recently I have hardly done any blogging. That is because the blogs I have already written do contain all the answers you need to gain sanity in your life. They also include reading and video recommendations to help keep your mind focused on positive, uplifting, life giving topics.

Start here Self Healing Guide – From Misery to Bliss because that blog recommends which blogs to read and why to read them as well as fills in the gaps for a complete self healing plan.

(I removed much information at this point due to the reasons stated below)

Be sure to read this blog too…Attracting the Right Kind of Lover because it talks about how to read the signs when meeting a new person and first getting involved. All the signs are there right in front of you but you do not know how to read them.

(I removed much information at this point due to the reasons stated below)

I hope I have not sounded harsh or judgmental. That is NOT my intention. It is clear to me, and I am sure it is clear to many of my friends who are reading this, that right now you cannot see what is right in front of you. This is because you don’t have enough experience with good healthy people and don’t know what they look or feel like. It will take some time for you to adjust and see through these things. Continue doing the work on yourself and eventually you will get there.

“I’m grateful for your help, everything made sense of what you said, but I am still very disturbed as I gave everything for first time in my life to someone I hardly knew, I also saw what that woman said [in the comments below] that she loved even before she met him and I was very same. Its very difficult to explain but I saw something in him beneath everything like some deep connection I have never experienced before. Maybe he came to teach me a lesson.”

 (There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
see details below)


Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

  • The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  • All of my blogs.
  • MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  • Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  • Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

Popularity: 70% [?]

Attracting the Right Kind of Lover

How do you attract the right kind of lover? By being a vibrational energetic match to the kind of lover you wish to attract! People are really confused about how life works when they say, “Why do I always attract the wrong kind of person?” It is because the person you are attracted to is mirroring something back to you that you need to see. The fact that you are asking the question means you don’t see it. If you make it your intention to see it then you can change and move on sooner. If you simply blame it on the others, you may stay in a seemingly endless pattern of attracting the same kind of person until you do see what it is that is in you that attracts such people.

While I was dating I met many women who said they wanted a kind and loving man; one who was interested in spiritual growth. Yet when they looked at me they could NOT recognize that I had those qualities. And the men they were attracted to, the ones who they had that chemistry with, those were usually the men who did not have those qualities. Not being able to recognize certain qualities means you don’t have them yourself or that something inside of you, some conflicting desire you hold, is blinding you to what is really there.

Later in life, those women who were paying attention, who were learning from life and healing their self-esteem found themselves naturally attracted to those kind, loving men who were interested in spiritual growth and they lost their attraction for the rough and abusive sort of men.

If you just want a relationship and are desperate to have one, you may find yourself in a difficult place…

(There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
see details below)


Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

  • The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  • All of my blogs.
  • MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  • Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  • Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

Popularity: 22% [?]