Unforgettable Love Story

These questions came in one single email from a friend. I broke them into pieces and answered them a section at a time. So although it may appear that I ask a question and my friend answers, that is not the case.

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I view God as a very loving being/entity/energy that sees me as who I am…a part of God. But here’s where I start getting scared and confused….

Sometimes I wonder if God really exists.

I believe what really worries you is if there really is something else after death or not. Do you continue to exist after you die?

Let’s look at it this way…existence is to something, as nonexistence is to nothing. Nothing is not possible, because once you have something, nothing ceases to be. Nonexistence is not possible, because once you have existence, nonexistence ceases to be. If there was ever a state where nothing was, where would something come from? If there was ever a state of nonexistence, where would existence come from? If existence were to end, where would it go, where could it go, how could nonexistence be possible? If you ceased to exist we would all cease to exist. If you truly contemplate these things you will see that the state of nonexistence is impossible.

God is a name for the creator of all things. God is all things, all things are contained within God. Does God really exist? Do you exist? Certainly you exist, thus there must be a God that created you and everything else that exists.

I mean, EVERYbody has their own interpretations of God and the afterlife. They can’t all be right. Most religions claim that they have the whole truth (mormonism seems to have a corner on that market!!). All people can back their claims with ‘miracles’, visitations, religious experiences, you name it.

So this is my first confusion: Why does everybody get their own proof?? That includes not only religions, but also new agers, spiritualists, wiccans, reincarnationists, etc.

Backing their claims up with miracles, visitations and religious experiences does not mean they understand it all. It IS proof to that person that there is more to this world than meets the five senses, but their version of it, their understanding of it, may not be, and for most people who claim such things, is not complete.

Religions were created by unaware and unenlightened humans who were inspired by an aware and enlightened master’s life and deeds. Masters do not start religions…ordinary people do! Some religions, such as Mormonism were started by a person who experienced some sort of divine inspiration and connection with God, but that does NOT make him a “Fully Enlightened Master.” The individual own proof that you asked about is this divine inspiration that a person experienced while connecting with God.

But here is what happens…People take a REALLY HUGE experience and try to stuff it into a very tiny physical reality construct and try to explain it in even more limited words to people who haven’t even had their own divine experience with God so they are even further unable to relate to what is being said which leads to a lot of confusion, and beliefs, and debates.

(Here is a clue…a person who KNOWS, not believes, but KNOWS will not debate. They may teach, they may correct a misstatement by another person, but when it turns into a debate they let go because they KNOW and the other person obviously does not. There is no point or value in debating. A person who debates does not know, they believe, which is NOT knowing. A person who does not know should be asking questions, not debating as if they know.)

A newbie takes their miracles, visitations and religious experiences and somehow tries to fit them into the context they can understand and describe based upon their training and programming. This is natural; there really is nothing else they can do with it. So a person who is heavily steeped in Christian beliefs and has a near death experience may experience Jesus waiting to welcome him on the other side, or if they were terribly evil, did not confess their final sins, or something else may even find the devil waiting to take him away. Or a person who believes in Mohammad would find Mohammad waiting for her to guide her to heaven. Or if a person did not believe anything at all, except it was the end of life, and they were not so nice to some people, they might just experience how their actions felt to the other person. The point is each person experiences something that is compatible with their beliefs and level of awareness.

The ultimate truth of things is that each of us is an incarnation of God, and as such we carry all of the attributes of God…in His image we were created. As such what we think about creates! When we are on the other side, our beliefs influence what we experience there. When we take our non-physical divine experience and try to translate it into the limitation of physical expression we also create a reality that we then begin to experience on a daily basis. Then that person, especially if they are a newbie, can get lost in their own creation and their creation can over time become more real to them than their original experience.

For most people their proof was a single or rare occurrence that they do not have control of. The limitation of their experience does not give them enough time to explore every aspect of the inner workings of creation so they fill in the gaps with whatever it was they believed at the time. Thus a person such as this has the limitation of their own experience when they attempt to present a vision of the spiritual side of life. I too have some of these limitations. I can go very deep into meditation, I get a lot of divine inspiration, I have an inner teacher guiding me, but I cannot yet go into the state of Samadhi at will.

However I have created many big changes in myself which has resulted in many miracles and many amazing coincidences and I continue to change and have such experiences on a regular basis…this is why I speak of the practical nature of spirituality. This gives me the confidence that I do indeed have some level of understanding of spirituality and the nature of life. This level of proficiency I have comes from an understanding that matches what all of the great enlightened masters teach. The more you understand the true nature of life, the more able you are to put it to use and the more practical it becomes. Results…when you understand the true nature of life, you get results by simply changing your mind and the thoughts you think.

Imagine if you were a fly trying to describe an elephant you saw. You came upon him from the front, flew over the top side, landed on his back for a short rest, and then continued flying on right past his rear. You spent nearly five minutes with this elephant before flying off. Another fly, a friend of yours was at his back side but got distracted by the poo he dropped and began feeding immediately. Another fly friend was flying low and flew right under the elephant and just kept on going.

Later you and your two friends meet up and begin to describe this beast you came upon. Your friends swear the elephant was completely grey. But you saw pink patches around his ears and his upper body. One of your friends saw his tail which you saw too, but the other did not. One of your fly friends saw four legs, which you did not really get a good look at, but the other friend saw only two legs. You also saw the trunk and tusks and actually felt his skin and the little bits of hair scattered about. All three of you had a different experience of this elephant and have a different memory. Since you were flies with short lives, that was your one and only experience of an elephant. There were a few other fly friends who had never seen such a beast. Some of them believed in this grey giant who was reportedly the source of unlimited food since they had heard stories like yours before. But most of your other friends thought you were full of crap and imagined the whole thing or were making up stories.

Well that story is a lot like people’s experience with God and the spiritual side of our lives. Many people really are describing the same thing, but from a different perspective. Yes there are plenty of people who have no personal experience, have only read books or listened to the tales of others. Certainly there are many who are simply full of crap. But there are also many fully enlightened masters who have experienced our divine nature in great depth and detail and from many various perspectives too. Some of these masters have left their wisdom and stories of their experience for us to read and gather clues from in order for us all to have our own experiences.

One of the things I have going for me is that I have studied the teaching of many masters who have been able to enter this state of Samadhi at will as well as the teachings of many channelers who have a very clear communication with God and I have had enough of my own Samadhi experiences and guidance too. All of these different teachings I have studied have given me a three dimensional perspective on this really huge concept we call God and spirituality. It is like I have flown all around this elephant and seen it from many, but not all, of the sides it is possible to see it from. Also I have been getting positive feedback from the Universe in the form of RESULTS. Ultimately you must take all of this information, from many different sources, apply what makes the most sense to you, and gain your own experience and results. Belief is of no value except to spur you on to taking action. Knowledge and experience is where the real value is.

My second confusion: If reincarnation is a true reality, then I feel like all of life is hell. I’ll tell you why: Because I love my identity. I have people tell me that this is just my ego talking and that when I realize who I really am (a soul, not Kristy) I will be thrilled to know and losing my identity as Kristy won’t hurt at all.

Your ego-body identity is like a car that you get into or a piece of clothing that you put on. Only some of the real you is inside of this ego-body you identify with. One day this ego-body will get old and worn out and you will be ready to shed it so that the real you, which is inside, can experience the freedom from the limitations this ego-body places upon you.

Your friends are right, when you do lose your identity as Kristy it will not hurt at all, you will be thrilled. You will also realize that the real you, the you that you know, that very same voice you hear inside of your head that you think is Kristy, is still the same…and immortal too! (This realization at death does depend upon how much you wake up now…see my blog The Evolution of a Soul for more details in that regard. But I would expect that someone who is open minded enough to even explore this topic would also be aware of the transition that occurs at death and be able to make the best of it.)

However, you will not really lose your identity as Kristy. Kristy has always existed and always will exist. You can go back and re-experience the life of Kristy anytime you wish. You can experience it the same way you are experiencing it this time, or you can make different choices and live it a different way and have a different experience.

In reality time does not exist, it is all happening now, you are right now being born and you are also right now dying, right now you are also living in the afterlife and all of your past and future lives are also occurring right now too. It is your perspective and your focus in this place of time and space that causes you to experience only this particular isolated experience. Neale Donald Walsh’s book At Home with God in a Life that Never Ends does a great job of describing this in more detail.

Are you sad that you are no longer driving the first car you ever had? If you could have it back, right now, in its brand new condition, would you want it back? How about your old clothes? Are you sad that you do not have them to wear right now? What if you could have the brand new version of the clothes you wore twenty years ago, would you want to wear them today?

If I truly HAVE lived other lives, then I most surely loved my identity in many of them, and also loved other people (spouses, lovers, children, etc.). And yet I don’t remember a single one of the past people of my other selves (except I sometimes have glimpses of memory that are very intense and real and could be little memories of past lives…??). This makes me sad that all those loves and lives are forgotten. And it brings me little comfort thinking that my ’soul’ retains the memories and the lessons from those lives.

Here’s the deal, though: I am SO happy in this existence right now. My husband is a walking god and he treats me like a queen. He never judges me. He loves me unconditionally. He makes me feel valued, loved, adored, cherished, and even makes me feel HOLY. He is so compassionate and generous and nearly perfect to me. And then there’s my children. I have four of them, ages 27, 15, 6 and 3 (QUITE THE AGE SPAN, EH???) I ADORE my children. One of them (the six year old) is special needs…she has Sotos Syndrome.

You could not have this experience you are SO happy to be having if you remembered your past lives and everything else about yourself. If you remembered how you murdered someone, or lied, cheated and stole your guilt would get in your way and you would feel too inferior to do the great things you shall do now. If you remembered how wealthy you once were you would be sad to live in this limitation. If you remembered how passionately you were in romantic love with your child in a past life, you might be frustrated or confused now, you might commit acts that were illegal or jeopardize your relationship with your husband. If you remembered how badly your husband abused you in a past life, you might not trust him in this life. (This is a generalized response for all people and not intended to state an absolute truth about the past lives of Kristy. However, from the best of my awareness we all have some dramatically negative experiences in our pasts.) And if you truly remembered who you really are, the complete story, the full picture of Life itself, you would not be able to experience anything negative because you would know this manifest world is not real, you would not be able to experience anything positive because without negative there is no positive.

There is a reason you forget it all…forgetting is what makes this experience possible. Without forgetting, you could not have any of this. You wanted to feel sad, angry, and frightened that is why you created it this way. You would not feel that if you knew you were God, if you knew you were totally fine no matter what happened. The realizations that I have of how life works prevents me from being able to experience certain things that I used to love and other people still do love experiencing. I no longer enjoy playing games, but I do enjoy watching others enjoy. I no longer enjoy hanging out with other people for idle chit chat and discussing the news, the shows, the weather, the gossip, whatever, but I do enjoy experiencing their joy with this part of life. I simply enjoy being and I enjoy creating, I enjoy helping others and I enjoy experiencing my creations. Remembering who you are and what you are takes away a lot of possibilities.

Are you SO happy that you want to relive this day over and over, never moving forward to the next day? If tomorrow comes things will change. Did you see the movie Groundhog’s Day ? It is a very accurate description of how life really is. We can and do actually re-experience our lives and make different choices. Although the memory of the details of what happens does not remain in your conscious mind, your desires and what you don’t desire, which grew from each choice made and each experience gained, causes you to make the choices you make now.

Thus when it comes time for your life to end, that too is a choice, it is a point of completion that you naturally come to with this life experience you call Kristy. It is simply moving on to the next form you want life to take. In your other incarnations your husband and kids will certainly be there too, but playing different roles. Perhaps not in every moment of them, but they are not involved with every moment of your life even now. And one day they will all be grown up and move away from home; perhaps to another part of the world…life is always changing. Are you saying you just want a Groundhog’s Day sort of life where this day never changes and keeps repeating?

Here is a huge fear of mine: I fear that if reincarnation is a true principle, then I’ll lose “Kristy” forever once I “die”, and then I will also lose KARL forever. It makes me cling to every moment in this life, but instead of doing it joyfully, I do it in immense fear. I feel like God gave me the most beautiful soul imaginable to share my life with (and my kids, too), and then he’ll take it all away when I die. It almost feels like a big huge cosmic joke. I had a friend write and tell me that “God doesn’t kill to save” but I would like her to elaborate more on that.

So are you happy or are you miserable? You said earlier that you were SO happy in this existence and now you are saying you cling to your life with immense fear. It is when you are grateful for what you do have and when you are present in your now experience that you are SO happy. It is when you worry about these things you don’t understand and cling as if you will lose something that you are in fear and misery. So stop the clinging and the worry…let the feeling of fear be an alarm bell going off that tells you that you are using your mind incorrectly. You are creating fear with your thoughts. You could be creating happiness by being grateful for the moment instead. The choice is yours. It depends upon what you do with your mind.

You will not lose anything. You ARE everything. Life as we experience it here and now, an experience that you are SO happy to be experiencing, is an experience of limitation and of separation. When you really do experience that you are everything and have everything it will be an experience of bliss beyond description…which also gets old so we choose limitation for “a period of time” so we can experience something other than pure bliss. Obviously we get bored easily that is why we constantly change. But that is to be expected since this all goes on forever and has already been going on forever.

I cannot bear the thought of not having my dear Karl forever. It is HELL to me. That would be hell to not have Karl. And it would be hell for me to lose my identity and his.

So don’t think those thoughts if you cannot bear to have them. It is you who are putting yourself into hell. And those thoughts are simply not true. Karl will always exist, just as you always exist.

I sometimes feel (in weaker moments) that if God exists, he is an asshole because he makes it so hard for his children to know who he REALLY is. WHY is there so much confusion? I don’t read scriptures anymore, but when I did, I remember God saying that “he isn’t a god of confusion”. I beg to differ!

Of course God exists, because you are God and you exist. I already explained why we forget…since you do not remember who you are it can be confusing. But if you were not confused, many of these experiences that you are SO happy to have would not be possible.

I have several friends who are really into “ACIM” (A Course in Miracles). This makes no sense to me thus far, because according to ACIM, God created a “son” (Christ Jesus) who was perfect. God cannot create anything that isn’t perfect. According to ACIM, God’s perfect son had an imperfect thought (a “tiny mad moment”) about separation, and as a result, fell asleep. Christ then had a dream of separation, and the result is “us”. The dream is US and also many reincarnated lives having many different experiences…and they teach that this entire life and any other life or planet or universe is all an illusion. NOTHING exists but God.

It has been at least fourteen years since I read ACIM but I don’t believe it refers to God’s son as Christ Jesus, but as Christ. We are all that son…Jesus was aware of being Christ, we are all Christ but most of us still don’t know it. The rest of what you said is pretty much true. This is an illusion. But it sure seems pretty real doesn’t it! Thank God for separation and forgetting and illusions, otherwise this experience we are all having would not be possible. If you really remembered this would all disappear…but do not worry, because you remember this illusion as well, it would all come back to you anytime you decided to be in separation again.

The fallacy in this, for me, is that if God creates nothing but perfection, then he can’t have a perfect son that can have an imperfect thought, let alone an imperfect dream about separation. That would make God imperfect and that just can’t be.

God is a dichotomy. Multiple, conflicting things are all true at the same time. At the basis of it all however is perfection. We simply are. We exist. We are Life itself. We cannot be destroyed and there is nothing outside of us. We are All That Is. There is nothing lacking, we have everything we need and will ever need. All the while this is true, we are also living in a body and take on a perspective that we are small and tiny amongst a vast creation. Pain and suffering seems to happen and we call this imperfect. In a perfect world we would not suffer. So the impossible has been made possible, yet the impossible and the imperfection can all disappear the moment we remember and expand beyond this tiny perspective we have chosen.

I love Neale Donald Walsch’s stuff, except for I literally sobbed (wailed) when I read the part that we FOREVER reincarnate. That is hell to me. I also REALLY struggle over Neale’s teaching that God is forever changing and expanding. I thought God was the same today, now and forever? ?????? Why would God need to experience things if he already knows everything? I realize that knowledge and experience are two different things. I can know ABOUT jumping out of a plane with a parachute, but I can’t truly have a full knowledge without the experience. But still…

Why not reincarnate forever? Do you have a better idea of what to do with forever? You can be God, you can be whole and complete anytime you choose. But right now you are not choosing that. Right now you are choosing to be deeply entrenched in this illusion we all have created, for the fun of it, for the experience of it, in order to utilize our creative powers. What is boredom? Boredom comes from not using your power. Even though being whole and complete is bliss it also becomes boring when it lasts forever. Thus you use your power to create, forever!

What God really and truly is never does change. But the creations of God never cease, why should they? What if God just stopped creating and experiencing? FOREVER! Wouldn’t that be boring?

I am rambling and pouring out my deepest feelings, and I have yet so many more to touch on. But I don’t want to keep you here all day. I hope you can help me and bring some light to these subjects. I am so tired of losing things and I don’t want to lose my darling Karl or my children, let alone my identity or theirs. It makes life seem meaningless.

Life IS meaningless! Life has NO meaning. Life simply is. That means there are NO musts, and NO shoulds, and NO things you have to do. We do it all by choice. We are free.

Do not focus on what you have lost. That is a mind game that will only bring you pain and suffering. Focus on what is, focus on what you do have, and be in gratitude for it. What if you had ten thousand friends, lovers, parents and children all in your home with you right now? If you added up all the loved ones from all of your incarnations it would come out to a large number such as this, perhaps much larger. How would you talk to them all? How could you have an experience with them all? How could you do that?

When you have two hands full, you must let go of one thing in order to pick up something else. The fact that you want to keep it all, hold it all, play with it all, is why life keeps changing and you move from one form to another, one lifetime to another, one relationship to another, so that you can interact with it all, so that you don’t lose any of it, so that you experience all of it. You have all of eternity to experience Karl and your children and the rest of your family which we call humanity. Be happy about that.

All is in Divine Perfection.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Of what value is belief? This conversation began with a simple question about the form life takes throughout the universe. An interesting question…a curiosity to satisfy…but we must first come to know who we are, from experience, NOT from belief or from the teachings of others. Only then we can really know the answers to such questions. You should not believe me or anyone else. You must discover the knowledge that lives inside of you…

Tryphania

I was just curious…and wanted to know what your thoughts are on the possibility of life existing in other parts of our universe? Do you think we are alone?

There is NOWHERE that Life is Not. For God is Everywhere and Everything.

However, the Human experience is the highest experience that God has of Himself in existence. Perhaps that is duplicated in other places; on other planets…some say it is not, others say it is…I am not certain. But human consciousnesses can experience themselves as one with All which is one with God, and can create with the Almighty many things beyond the grasp of the ordinary human.

So, humans are the highest experience that god has of himself… and if you look at reincarnation… then, were we ever in existence of a different form other than human? I’ve always wondered how that works…

Perhaps, I have read in some places that some have been angels who decided to go human. I have read that some go through the experience of being rock, plant, and/or animal then go through the experience of being human.

In other words, what level are animals? I’ve had it explained to me before that animals and humans don’t go together in reincarnation… rather that animals evolve to a higher existence, but they do not ever reincarnate into a human form. I have not yet put my views on reincarnation into a complete belief pattern… simply because just when I think I understand it, I suddenly learn something new… and so my views are always evolving and changing and growing.

I explain much of this in my blog Evolution of a Soul. However, we are getting into pretty abstract territory here. The first problem is there are no words to fully describe an experience that is outside of the physical experience. Our words can only accurately describe that which we can experience in the physical world. Yes there are some words to describe those things beyond the physical, but how is it any person can really understand them if they don’t remember an experience that is beyond the physical?

Belief is Not Knowing

The second problem is with beliefs. Belief is NOT KNOWING. So of what value is a belief? It could be of value in the sense of it taking you to the state of knowing by giving you a guiding point to follow. But beyond that, belief is a limitation where most people get stuck. People decided to believe some philosophy and then search no further for truth, knowledge nor experience. This is the trap that too many religious people find themselves in. They get angry if you challenge their beliefs; their anger exposes the level which they are stuck within their beliefs. So one must be careful with beliefs and always remember that they really don’t know. If a person gets angry when you challenge their beliefs, they don’t know, they don’t want to know, they just want to be peaceful within their beliefs.

I have read that there are times that a human will incarnate as an animal to fulfill a desire that can more easily be fulfilled as an animal. One example was given of someone who was so in love with eating that they came back as a pig since a pig has a far greater capacity to eat than a human; after fulfilling such a desire that one then continues incarnations as a human.

I have also read that once a spark of God passes through the “Idea of Man”, once they become human for the first time then that soul must pass all the way through the many experiences and incarnations necessary to come to full and total realization of themselves once again as the spark of God they are.

I’ve also heard before that as far as reincarnation goes, humans evolve here on earth as far as they can, lifetime after lifetime, but then, once they have moved beyond what they can experience here, then they move onto other planets…where there are other life forms that live in a higher dimensional existence. Or, they stay here, and choose to help other humans on earth with their life experiences. There are whole groups of individuals who have formed religion-like congregations, based from these beliefs.

There is so much out there as far as information goes… and it’s as if the possibilities are endless! It’s also easy to become confused.

I too have read many different accounts of how things are beyond our physical incarnations. There are many versions and ideas, they are a lot of fun to explore since they cause us to expand our thinking and our view of this very small experience of life we call physical reality.

I must say in these regards I do NOT KNOW. What I do KNOW is that we exist, that we are eternal beings, that there is much more than this physical existence or single incarnation. I have had enough experience outside of my body and merged with God that I remember and know this is true, but I have not had enough experience and remembrances to validate these other fascinating things I have read.

I do trust the many sources I have read, their wisdom is so very profound and their achievements are way beyond my own, and they brought me to advance as far as I have advanced thus far and this is why I trust them and follow their lead…so for me it is a belief, a not knowing, it is something I am seeking to verify for myself.

I haven’t yet decided on what I believe, simply because there is so much out there that cannot be proven…and so then it comes down to picking and choosing what I believe…and how much faith I have.

I want to know as much as I could possibly know…and understand as much as I could possibly understand before I let myself start having too much faith in one idea.

Maybe it’s not about what is the truth…maybe it’s simply what kind of truth I want to choose?

I believe truth can be known, but there again you see I too am using the word believe. It has been my experience that I continue to discover more truths about life through experience. I also believe that to know ultimate truths, one will not be in body when one comes to know them. This physical body is too limited of a structure to hold the total truth of the unlimited within it.

For now it is enough to know that the people who go around telling us our life is limited to a single incarnation and we had better follow the one and only son of God, or the one and only master who ever existed, or the one and only true religion…it is enough to know these people do not know what they are talking about and are simply involved in a fantasy.

Go with the practical. Improve your life and your awareness each and every day. Look for evidence and proof that it is improving. Improve upon your personality. Learn how to gather energy and what it is that depletes you of energy. Learn to have your own experience of the Unlimited within yourself. These are the kinds of things I teach in my blogs and in my book. These things will hold you in good standing within yourself and enable you to be strong under any circumstance life presents to you. This will give you the greatest chance of KNOWING the truth of these things you are asking me about.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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I had a friend ask…

“Why is it when it’s on ’God’s time’ it seems that nothing is happening? At least nothing good.”

We are the ones to label things good or bad. There is no such thing as an absolute good or bad, life just is, and it is eternal. That which you are, always has been and always will be.

When people talk about God’s time what they are saying is that the specific things they want sometimes, oftentimes, or even most of the time, takes time…too much time for their taste so they call this God’s time. But these people are missing a key piece.

We always get what we want eventually…or our desires change due to the circumstances in our lives that help us clarify our goals and desires. The reason this is so is that we are all endowed with the creative aspect of God. We are co-creators with God.

The problem is with us. We don’t understand how to use our creative energy and we don’t even understand who we are. So the time it takes for us to create something we desire is the time it takes for us to learn how to create it, how to recognize it when it comes and how to stop blocking it when comes.

Let’s take relationships as an example. There are many people who want a really good juicy relationship. They want the right size, shape and attractiveness. They want the right income level, the right sort of disposition such as kindness or toughness, the right common interests, etc… But too often there is neediness mixed in with these desires. They need someone who will help pay the bills that overwhelm them, or they need someone who will be a good father to the child they already have, or they need someone who will make them feel special and important and loved.

This is not how life works, things and people don’t come to you based on your desperate needs. Like attracts like, dysfunctional people attract dysfunctional people, functional people attract functional people. You might say, “How insulting, I am a really nice woman and my last relationship was with an abusive man.” But I would say that although you might be a nice woman in one or two ways, you are still dysfunctional…you don’t believe you are worthy, or you don’t know how to stand up for yourself, or you don’t know how to tell the difference between a kind and loving person and a person who is abusive, or you don’t know that it takes abusive people a very long time to change and you are trying to change them, or that it takes a lot to get them to want to change, you don’t understand many things that you will learn from your painful relationship experience.

This learning happens in God’s time. Once you have learned all of these things, once you are the kind of person you want in your life, then you will have that sort of person in your life. The same is true with money, health, adventure.

This is why it is essential to be proactive in your efforts to grow. The more you grow, the more you become aware, the more you clear out the misunderstandings you hold about life, the greater the things you attract to yourself will be.

“Then why is it that I see so many screwed up people with good jobs, lots of money, and crazy women with such hot looking men?”

When we look at the surface of other people’s lives they can look really good and appealing. But you don’t know what lies below the surface. If they are indeed screwed up and crazy, then their real life will also be screwed up and crazy. One day they will get so messed up on drugs or too indebt or fool around one too many times that their whole world comes crashing down. They won’t know how to handle it either. Also they cannot really even appreciate the good life they have, because things are ultimately meaningless. If they stop for two minutes with nothing to do they will go crazy because their inner world is crazy. They need to keep forever busy to distract them from their craziness.

If you really understood the people you look at, if you knew their innermost thoughts and desires, you would see that what they have is a perfect match to their vibration. What they have matches their desires and it is teaching them the lessons they need to learn to move on to other unfulfilled desires they hold.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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I know this blog is going to piss some people off. But for all of you who are pissed off at the title and contents, consider this…this idea you keep spreading that God/Jesus/Whoever is out there and we are all separate miserable sinners lucky to be loved by God if we worship him and only him…this message is doing a huge disservice to yourself and to humanity. Why? Because you are delaying some people from realizing their godly self.

I AM GOD. YOU ARE GOD. These are quotes attributed to Jesus, “Do you not know that you are gods? What you do to the least of my brother you do to me. I and the Father are one.” And Psalm 46:10 which also comes from the much revered Bible says, “Be Still and Know that I am God.”

If one is still, stops the mind and goes into the knowing that in that stillness God can be found, then one can experience the “I am” as God. How can it be any clearer than this? “I am” the one who is still is the “I am” that in the stillness can know that they are God. This same thing has been taught by MANY masters worldwide. For those of you deeply involved in a religion such as Christianity or any other religion for that matter, you must realize that there have been more than one master who has walked this earth other than the one you worship. This possibility is available to you. You can master your own life.

People all over the world have become enlightened. People all over the world have experienced the realms of heaven first hand! People all over the world have healed others. People all over the world have raised the dead and have themselves risen from the dead. (See my stories of this in my blog Truth vs. the Bible halfway down into the blog.) People from all over the world, in different cultures, in different religions, and even of no religion, have experienced healing miracles and other phenomena that go way beyond rational explanation. If you discount wholesale the experiences of these thousands of people in favor of the religion you were brainwashed into you are indeed a fool. You have been fooled by a wolf in sheep’s clothing and you have limited yourself to physical experience, limited those who are influenced by you, and kept yourself and others from having a Godly experience of life. In my view of life this is the worst “sin” of all!

There was a time where I was groping in the dark…indeed still there is some darkness for me too. I used to read the magnificent stories of many masters who experienced all those things previously stated and wondered, “Can these things happen for me? Can I experience myself as God?” I want to tell you that it has indeed happened for me too. Now I am not saying I have mastered life to the extent some of these others have mastered life, but I have had some very deep and profound glimpses and I have made some deep and profound changes in my personality in the span of my lifetime so far. If you read my book, Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story , you will see a dramatic difference between the man I was in my thirties and the man who is writing these blogs. That is the result of experience and real change. And I continue to evolve and improve with each and every day. So can you! I am NOT unique. I am NOT special. If you admire me, I hope that you can admire your own self and will seek to experience the God within you. I have even had a couple of experiences of Samadhi, a deep state of meditation where the mind is bypassed and an absolute connection with God is established. In such a state I realized the truth that each and every one of us is indeed One and we are all God. This was a very real experience and it is what motivates me to push forward no matter what the expense to me is to help others in their healing. It is because I KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are one with me and by helping you I am helping myself.

God is more than the connection between all living things. God IS ALL living things, all inanimate things too. God created all of Manifest Creation, from His own Self, and then moved Her own consciousness into creation to experience what He created. For plants and animals She created a group memory for each species. For humans however God created an individual and permanent memory and consciousness for each human being. This is what differentiates each individual from another, but it is still God who is the living being in each individual human being. The human being can and ultimately will discover that She is God and can move beyond this boundary of consciousness and memory to reunite with the wholeness of God and back into the limitation of the boundary anytime He chooses. (For more on this topic please read Evolution of a Soul. )

So I encourage you, wholeheartedly and with love…seek! Discover who you are. I’ll spoil the ending for you…You Are God! But in reality I spoilt nothing, because the intellectual knowledge that you are God is NOT the same thing as remembering that You Are God. Not by a long shot! Make it your intention to remember, and it will happen!

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Most of us are very familiar with how much our own families can hurt us. One of my friends, Jade, wrote to me with her concerns…

I was recently verbally attacked by “Christians” telling me because I am Wiccan I am “of the devil” and that my child (who has a cleft lip) came out deformed because of my way of life. What’s worse is they were family. Should I defend myself and stand up for my beliefs or should I just stand and take it. I know I am in the right, but the comments are really hurtful and I really want to say something but I don’t want to cause conflict.

It sounds to me like you are already doing all the right things except for one…you are making too much of what other people think or say.

There are a lot of really hurtful, ignorant, and immature people in the world. Unfortunately those people are our relatives. You see we all volunteered to take some of them on to help them out…and boy they really do need some help. It is a lot like these folks are in kindergarten; try to see them this way. You could even respond with, “You really crack me up when you say that,” while laughing hysterically.

Then call someone over like your husband or lesbian lover or even your daughter and say, “Listen to momma, she has recently graduated from Our Lady of the Living Saints Medical College and is imparting her gems of wisdom now…shhhh, listen…okay momma, go ahead we are all listening now.”

Okay, so perhaps your response should not be quite like that unless you are quick with the wit. But that is the perspective you need to hold in your mind; not disrespect, but the realization that your family is crazy and they need help. If you don’t take them seriously, if you take what they say like you might take the silly words of a child, and you love them anyway, then you have the best chance of making an impact upon them.

Get to know yourself. Get to the point where you totally accept yourself. Minimize the time you spend with people who are cruel and immature. You can even cut them out of your life for a time if that is what it takes to get yourself on stable ground.

My late wife had a family like this. She was the one light amongst twenty four others who ranged from vile and hateful to almost human but too afraid to be real.

I bet you would enjoy and get a lot out of my book Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story because it tells of many such experiences we went through with negative family members. In the book I reveal the lessons we got from our teachers and how we applied those lessons and the results we got. We had many miracles including physical healing miracles. Honestly, this book touches on most issues that people in relationship will encounter, our dysfunctional ways that needed healing, how we healed them, and the amazing results we got. In the book I am really open especially about my own thoughts and ignorance and harmful ways of trying to meet my own needs, and what it took to heal those things within myself. Not only that, but it is all told in a touching, humorous and emotional love story.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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My friend Ryan Michael Newsome asked me the following question and I answer it below.

This phrase taken from your blog The Golden Compass - A Waste of Mind you wrote, “They feel the need to seek vengeance upon those who make life painful and difficult, they think punishing the bad guys will make the world a better place…” This of course written in response to what I presume can only be zealots immensely if not somewhat foolishly devoted to a cause.

My question I would suppose is what defines their nature? What is it that drives them to reach such a point?

I believe in the good of all people down to the person and I understand and know that they all mean well. I want to believe that they feel so devoted to the overall good of the world that they have defined boundaries, rightly or wrongly, of who or what they believe are standing in the way of global conscious happiness. In that sense it would make them appear to be good.

But then is their action or response therefore bad?
…Of course in the sense of good and bad purely.

Honestly, it feels like shades of grey in this area. It almost seems like misguided energy, determined to go one way but becomes displaced in the process. While I sincerely disbelieve that in “enemies” I do however believe in people who fervently disagree with a viewpoint, whether widely accepted or contested. I know that thoughts heavily influence anything when circulated, either by word, pen, or action.

Therefore if a group of people esteem a certain thought or thoughts that no longer seem to serve the evolution of our well being and world would it truly be disadvantageous to take up a zealot state of mind as some have?

I could be a person of peace, but sometimes to remain as such one would occasionally have to be a person of war.

I feel cloudy on this as it has been on my mind as of late. And since I’m relatively aware of many people’s points of view I sometimes feel double-minded about certain issues. If for no other reason than the fact that I understand them all so compassionately.

And some of it is astral projected off of my conscience I confess because I have read, really read with a certain intensity; the works of Timothy Freake and Peter Gandy on the origins of Christianity. The results were astounding and liberating, with sufficient, plausible evidence to support their claim. Now in response to my sexual orientation, it was like a dead weight was lifted off my shoulders. However it has only added fire to the triste animosity I’ve occasionally borne against today’s Christianity. The deal of mistruths innocently or deliberately preached; has hurt deeply me for years. I’d be lying if I did not say that having a enormous cannon pointed right back their direction would somehow satisfy me, even if temporarily. Maybe a zealot lies dormant inside of me… I realize that this may not be my true nature speaking, and I may still be healing slowly even as I have already healed through the sense of time; but I felt it apt to address this.

Sadly, a religion meant to give the greatest peace has inspire and produced the worst of all atrocities the world’s ever come across in history past and present.

As for zealots I would say if you use that label you would have to label the majority of humanity with it. Just look at the sales figures from movies with a largely violent content. Look at the viewer ratings…quite high, probably the highest market segment. This says that most of humanity sees life this way, and is using the entertainment to explore the ideas. But exploring these ideas as people do just reinforces the ideas and they will come out in physical action when stress occurs. Look at the way US citizens respond to anger, road rage, guns, and supporting wars. In India where such movies are less popular these people are more prone to work out their differences than fight.

We all have that knee-jerk reaction to lash out, defend ourselves, fight, and punish others for their harmful destructive deeds. The idea that “one would occasionally have to be a person of war” is a tempting idea to embrace, because most people do not have enough experience with the alternatives. And the alternatives seem like they would take too long to make a real difference. However I do have enough experience which tells me that the idea of war is flawed. It is a bit like trying to remove your thumbs from a Chinese thumb cuff. The more you pull on them the stronger the grip they hold on you. The more you make war the more war you create.

If we step back from our initial fight or flight reactions we find we come to a place of mind that can come up with alternative solutions. There have been times on the planet where the only visible options were to fight or die. So why not choose death? The problem is by and large we have not explored that option. What if we ran away and then was able to muster up a large enough group of people to imposes some sort of group pressure on the war-mongers to get them to change their ways? In the arena of world events the combination of the two approaches is the one that will ultimately make the difference and change the direction of humanity for good.

We are facing that very issue right now with the way our government is waging war on Iraq. There is a group of people on the planet that are objecting but we are not rioting. We are not grabbing our guns and murdering our own government leaders since it is truly they who are responsible for this attrocity. We are attempting to educate the masses to pay attention and solve this problem through the established political processes.

Ryan your idea about the good in people is accurate from one perspective and inaccurate from another. Yes all beings are good at their foundation. Yet at the same time, in the limitation of their present human incarnation, many of these beings are expressing pure evil. There is a purpose for it, but still the evil is there. Humanity as a whole gets to chose how to deal with this and how to transform and heal this such that beings wishing to express evil in their incarnation has limited ability to do so and limited ability to corrupt the minds and desires of others to also commit evil deeds.

What drives a person to express evil? In some cases it could be the soul wants to experience something it is not in order to understand what it really is. In most cases the desire to express evil comes from a mistaken idea about life, a response that seems to help a person in the face of a greater evil in the short run. Yet the response creates a habit pattern within the person which causes them to respond with evil in situations where it is not called for and it causes them to create, by Law of Attraction, situations where they can fight evil and express their own evil. The longer a person lives with these mistaken ideas the deeper their habits develop and the more evil they create in the world for them to respond to later once they decide to pull out of it. We are creative beings, we have much power, and we have been at it for a very long time now. This is the disadvantage of taking up a zealot state of mind as you have stated.

As an individual, and collectively as well, we must observe and decide if we have the power to stop evil by the power of love, by spreading the light, if so then we must use love to do so. If we do not have that power right now, then we must turn away from evil and ignore it and allow it to do what it will while we gathered enough power to stop it with the power of love and light. So when a child is creating evil, perhaps we can use love to transform them. When the leaders of our country is creating evil, then we must heal more of our own self and become leaders that can help others heal. Then together face the evil with our combined love. This is the approach I have been taking and working towards. Once I have the notoriety, the backing of tens of thousands of people, and the financial resources to protect myself and those I love I will be much more proactive in shining the light on what is going on in our world and teaching as many as I possibly can how to love our way out of the mess we are currently in. But right now I do what I can, I continue my own healing and I continue to teach others how to heal themselves.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
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Continued from What is Right or Wrong: Your Feelings are Your Guide…

Repeat of +Magdalin’s+ earlier statement…”So if you go with your feelings only, you will never try to do right if it feels bad. You will choose to remain how you are until you are confronted with a situation where you must change regardless of how you feel.”

I never said that someone should go with their feelings only. I have always stated they should use their feelings to guide them as an indicator of being on their path or off of it. Our thoughts are the cause of our feelings. We need to look at our thoughts in order to change our feelings. And we need to tag thoughts we discover do not serve us with the command to ourselves to wake up and shift them ASAP so that in the future we become aware much sooner. We need to contemplate and understand why they don’t serve us and what new thoughts we will replace the old habits of thought with.

This practice gives us the power to make ourselves happy and feel good anytime we want, no matter what the outer circumstances contain. However, there is another point to all of this…when we are feeling good we get in touch with a very deep source of inspiration. We get in touch with God. It is like we move to a higher vantage point where we can see a broader overview of our situation and then suddenly many other paths we had not considered appear before us for our consideration. New options emerge out of the darkness. These options and paths are hidden from us by the thoughts that create negative emotion.

So what is “doing right if it feels bad?” To me it sounds like confessing to a crime that you know will get you into trouble in some way. If you are clear about your thinking you will realize it could only feel bad if you have fear involved, or if intuitively you know that a bad outcome would come of your decision. So then is it really “doing right?” If you confess to a crime that you did and that someone else is being blamed and punished for then it would feel better to take the path of confessing than it would letting someone else suffer for your deeds. But if no one is taking the blame, and you have realized your errors, it would definitely feel bad to turn yourself over to someone who will punish you. In that case I say don’t do that. But if confessing feels better to you than living with the guilt then I say confess and let the chips fall where they may. If there are amends to be made then again confessing would probably feel the best.

What if you have cheated on your lover and you realize your error and resolve to never do it again, do you confess? Perhaps not. It may feel better to purge yourself of your guilt than to live with it. But does it feel better at the cost of the mental anguish your lover will then experience as a result of your confession? Will it feel better to have them doubting you forever more? We have more than one question to ask ourselves while trying to sort through such issues. I certainly have not presented all of the possible questions in regards to these situations. We need to think about how our actions in “doing right” affects us and affects others and then feel how each of those courses of actions feel and then choose the course of action that feels the best. That is “doing right” in my opinion.

+Magdalin+ in a prior response, one that somehow got lost, you wrote something to the effect that, “…people can feel good while they do all kinds of wrong things (superficial, and serious).” I want to comment on that notion.

People in that situation feel good relative to how bad they have felt. In some way they have been abused, judged, neglected, or harmed. After a long period of time of dealing with such a situation and the constant negative feeling of being unworthy, unlovable or unacceptable, they find it exhilarating to feel superior to someone else and they feel that superiority when they succeed in doing some sort of harm, be it verbally or physically. But this is a relative pleasure. It is like when the temperature drops below 20F for week and then it suddenly rises back up to 35F…35F now feels warm, when in fact it is nearly freezing!

We have to be aware of the long term affects of our thoughts and not just the short term affects. If we harm another that harm will eventually come back to us and that does not feel good. In fact the pain caused by this boomerang affect of karma is usually far greater than any momentary pleasure we feel by causing another to suffer.

For a person who experiences pleasure from making others suffer or from watching others suffer I recommend the following exercise to get yourself out of that sort of thinking. Which thought feels better? The thought of getting verbal or physical revenge on another…or the thought of healing one’s own self-esteem and of feeling worthy, lovable and acceptable? Wouldn’t you rather be immune to the judgments and unkind words or actions of others? Wouldn’t you rather help unconscious people wake up instead of causing them to suffer more? We need to compare different ideas and how they feel and choose the thoughts that feel the best. And we need to continue to reach for new thoughts that feel even better still as we move through time and gain experience. With each shift to a better feeling place, new thoughts of a better feeling nature become available to us.

So when we teach people to use feelings as their guides, and to understand how our thoughts create our feelings, we must also teach them this sort of process of reasoning so that they can make sense of it all. Some of it comes so naturally to me now that I often forget I need to mention these things. It is only when people begin to question what I have written and object to it that it brings these ideas up. And actually if I just present them, without the questioning from another person, the reason for presenting these concepts can go right over the head of the student. If you give people information they did not ask for, they rarely take notice of its importance. But if the question is asked, then the opening to understanding is created.

“I would like to expand on the abuse comment in brief…As far as the patterns and cycle of abuse goes, I had to counsel people in those areas and I have had friends that have come from such dysfunctional childhoods. Also most of us do not come from perfect family homes… So, more or less, we all need some help in healing in that area. However, depending on the type of abuse, severity of abuse and the mental/emotional/spiritual status of the individual, people respond differently to certain therapies, treatments, practices, ways for healing from that kind of past. Some people have a certain inner strength or, insight, or even destiny, and support needed, that enables them to find ways to heal on their own. Others, can go down the wrong path and lose themselves even more, before they can even recognize the need for internal healing. Others, seem like they have it together, while using faulty self defense mechanisms to avoid the darkness of the pain in them, by all kinds of addictive behaviors, and so on. Thus, “Healing” is a key word in this type of matter. What will cause healing in each person can differ. There are those who can respond to such therapies as the one you mentioned easily, which is similar to what is called, RET (Rational, Emotive Therapy, which is very popular in psychology) and change their behaviors and feelings by using reasoning to control their thinking. But there are those who need “healing” beyond this type of work. How this healing can occur it depends on the individual and their “Will” to seek the healing they need…where and how it can be found. It may be that they need spiritual healing along with psychological, because it is the need to heal the spirit, the most inner part of the soul that has been affected by the darkness of abuse.”

+Magdalin+ I agree with you that there are people my guidance won’t help for precisely the reason you state, lack of will to heal. There are those who have dysfunctional behaviors they are dead set on exploring. This is normal, this is natural, this is our God given right, and this is how we come to fully understand certain things about life. This is the reason I wrote the blog, Evolution of a Soul. A young soul is NOT going to follow the guidance I am giving. Only mature and old souls will be interested in doing this work. Young souls need to get their hands dirty, need to make a mess of things in order to understand why things are the way they are. It is one thing to be told hurting someone else will eventually hurt you, and another to experience the blows of karma when they beat upon your back.

However, anyone who does correctly follow the guidance I am giving can and will heal! Completely 100%. And I am willing to clarify any misconceptions you may hold so that you can follow this guidance correctly.

I am not here to support those who still want to wallow in the negative side of life. I will love them. I will forgive them…actually I just won’t judge them. (Not for very long that is…I occasionally get caught up in judgment for brief periods of time.) I will stay away from them. I will let others deal with them. This is karma. This is the soul’s path. We have all gone down it at some point in our eternal lives.

+Magdalin+ you emphasized a point that I do make often in my writing…One can feel in certain ways and in response, unconsciously do certain things, and make no connection between the thought/feeling/action they are experiencing and responding to. Ultimately it takes much work to understand the thought behind the feelings and actions. You may have to go through the experiences many times. Then it requires honest self evaluation and examination as to whether one’s thoughts are according to “right” practices and/or principles that will guide them to a better place, state, activity etc.

Yes, this is work. This is a practice. This is not a onetime thing that a person does to become aware. It is an ongoing effort to understand this connection and reprogram negative habitual thinking patterns that we have learned and continues to be taught to us by nearly everyone around us.

To rephrase what you said +Magdalin+…Books, blogs, and lectures by those who have mastered these skills can be extremely helpful. They can cut out much effort of trial and error by leading us directly to the sort of thinking we should engage in for the sort of circumstances we will face in our lives. But again, each person must do the work. We each must purposely and consciously engage in the suggested train of thought and feel where it takes us in our emotional state and see how it plays out in our actions.

“… my comment above [originally presented at the very beginning of this blog] centered on the law of attraction, and positive thinking. I agreed with using positive thinking as it is a right practice. However, I disagree with the gospel that this all can bring about certain expectation to come to be. If something is destined it will be. If it is not, then it is wrong for people to believe that if they focus hard enough on something it will happen. It is a wrong principle in that way. What is right is to seek to know what is possible for your life and focus on making that a reality. Use positive thinking against anything that is negative as to make wise choices and decisions to find and pursue the right solution to the problem.”

And with this statement you show us all that you too understand what I said above about being attached to the outcome. There are many people who misunderstand these teachings and believe that the Law of Attraction will get them anything they consciously want and quickly. Those people are in for a big disappointment…that feeling of disappointment will be their clue that their thoughts and ideas are not in alignment with truth.

But I do NOT agree with the idea that something is destined. It may be that at a specific point in time that too much energy and momentum is already behind a certain path of creation that WE have set into motion. We may wake up in circumstances we don’t like, or see something heading towards us that we do not want, but then it is too late. We must deal with it and put in the effort to set a new course and create differently such that our future will contain what it is that we do want. But WE are the creators of our life experience. And as stated in the blog Evolution of a Soul, WE is much bigger than this ego being we normally think of as ourselves. Also the closer one comes into alignment with their inner being and with God, the quicker our thoughts do manifest in the physical world.

“This I must disagree, with you, although I am not ready to expand on it too much at this point. This is a very complicated subject, and my insights come from personal, spiritual, experiences and revelations. There are things that are destined to occur, regardless. They are based on who you are and what you have been born to live out to a certain extent. I believe what you are doing right here, was pre-destined for you to do. However, certain events, situations, circumstances, choices, future states of being can be affected by present choices and decisions. Most times however, people are missing information viable to what choices or, decisions they are to be making today to effect their future in specific ways tomorrow and thus, the future occurs as it would based on where they are today, and what is destined regardless.

“The focus is on the “NOW”, because your actions NOW, determine the consequences you have to live with tomorrow.”

+Magdalin+ I also agree with your concept of destiny…ONLY if you view it from the physical human ego being level. Yes it does appear to us, to most people, that things are destined and out of our control. What you said is accurate from this human perspective. But the truth of Life is that WE are more than this. We have a higher self, that in reality we are one with and not in any way separate from, this part of our being is participating in this creation we call our life experience, and from that perspective WE are creating it. WE have chosen it, WE desire it, these experiences that we as an ego being say we don’t want, those experience that appear negative, the greater WE wants them because IT knows these experiences will balance us and teach us.

Feeling the Thoughts of Others

There is another point I wish to make about feelings. Feelings can tell you about the intentions of other people. A good example of this is discussed in my blog Jealousy and Low Self-Esteem. You are capable of feeling the thoughts and intentions of others. You will notice this when you first encounter someone or first begin to think about someone or first begin to talk with them on the phone. How did your feelings change when this other person first came into your experience? How did it feel, good or bad? When the conversation changes, did your feelings change?

To be able to discern between feeling your own thoughts about that person or their words and feeling the intention behind their words takes clarity of your own mind. You will find this difficult or impossible if you have agendas especially harmful ones. If you have low self-esteem it might feel like you are being judged even when you are not.

Namasté
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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The greatest difficulty with understanding how our minds create stem from the narrow focus we hold on our single physical life. We are much more than this ego person in this body in this single physical lifetime. We are eternal beings whose lives have always been and always will be. Eternity is a very long time. No matter what occurs in a single lifetime it cannot affect who we really and truly are. Losing an arm or one’s eyesight is nothing for a soul that is immortal and perfect. For such a being how could there ever be fear or worry or doubt?

So we setup a game, one in which we forget who we are for what seems to be a very long time. Although time does not really exist we have created the illusion that time is real by a sequencing of events and a space in which these events leave their mark and maintain a continuity. The net result is a seemingly real existence where it seems that we can indeed be harmed…the mark is left and the continuity is maintained. The physical dimension is a place where we can experience and feel fear, something that cannot happen in our pure pristine state as God. Because a small piece of God isolates Itself in a human form and perspective, it can experience the rest of God as separate, vast, and powerful. Because God isolates many parts of Itself into many human forms, God gets many different perspectives to experience Itself form. This also gives God the chance to have many other beings to interact with relieving what must be the ultimate in loneliness.

Once we enter this dimension we take on a boundary that seemingly separates us, or delineates us, from the rest of God. This boundary is maintained by our own unique and individual experiences in the worlds of time and space. This boundary is our personality, which we continuously develop and fine tune over many lifetimes. Desires are born from the seeming lack that exists within any given moment and place; these desires draw life-force energy through us and anchor us in the movement through time and space.

In this playground of creativity we have many physical bodies which we call lifetimes or incarnations. When we start out we are a new soul, have forgotten everything about who we are and have a clean personality barren of any sort of habit or skill. When we complete our cycles of incarnation into physical form, we are a mature old soul, we remember fully who we are, we have a well developed personality which has the habits and skills of a master. There are many stages we pass through during our evolution; infancy, childhood, adolescence, young adult, maturity, and old age. This is why you can find old men who behave like a naughty child and a young child that behaves like a mature adult.

From the perspective of our Oversoul we chose the circumstantial setup of our lifetime. These are the broad brush strokes that paint the background of our life. They include people, places and the type of body that we inhabit.

Once in the body every thought we think, every action we take causes us to develop habits of thought and action. These habits of thought are the only thing that we carry forward with us from lifetime to lifetime. The habits of the body die with the body, but are easier to develop in succeeding lifetimes due to the habit of thought that came with the habit of body. These habits of thought are the personality traits that form the boundary that define who we are as a separate being from the rest of God.

There are consequences to our thoughts and actions which includes our feelings too. As a young and immature soul these consequences and feelings are difficult to relate to our thoughts and more easy to relate to our actions and outer circumstances. As a mature soul we come to realize that our thoughts are at the core of all of our actions and feelings. We also come to realize that we can even manipulate outer circumstances, including the actions of others by the way we think.

Our thoughts form permanent elementals in the psychic world which gain strength and energy with repetition of those thoughts and loose strength and energy by the lack of such thoughts. Elementals are Thought Forms. These elementals are the basis of what we call our energy and our habits of thought. These elementals repel certain people and events and attract others. With enough focus these elementals can even take on physical form. These elementals return to us frequently for a refresh of energy, and we feed them each time we think in the way that we created them. How much we feed them depends upon the length of time we give them our mental focus and how steady that focus is. Thus they seem to have a life of their own and they seem to control us when they return to us for a feeding. We can deplete elementals of their strength and energy by not thinking about them and giving our thoughts and energy to other more desirable elementals.

When we die we shed our physical bodies and live in our psychic and mental bodies. These elementals still exist there. They still influence us, cause us to think in predictable and habitual ways, and create the reality that we perceive in the psychic realm. As an immature soul, we have no understanding of these elementals; we believe them to be of a reality beyond our control. Thus we have either a hellish experience or a heavenly one based on the nature of these elementals, and the thoughts they compel us to think. This is one of the reasons so many young souls insist that there is a heaven or hell while in the physical world because this is what they have experienced. As a mature soul we gain control over these elementals and can deactivate them and create more desirable elementals. As a mature soul we can easily escape any hellish elementals and create heavenly ones even while we exist only in our psychic and mental bodies. This is why mature souls insist that life is what you make it while in the physical world because this is what they have experienced. If you have not gained control over your mind in the physical plane, you will not have control of it in the psychic or mental planes after you die.

At the highest level of our individual being is that which I call our Oversoul. Along with the Masters of Karma, or the Holy Spirit, or God, depending on how you choose to label that level of creation, our Oversoul helps our soul in its evolution. Our Oversoul with the Masters of Karma selects the circumstances of our next incarnation including physical bodies that are prone to illness or health, physical living locations which may contain pollutants that cause illness or a clean and natural environment, and kind loving people or abusive predators as relatives, friends, teachers, doctors, lawyers and other professional people we might encounter in our lifetime. Our Oversouls choose such circumstances in order to have experiences that are impossible to have as an unlimited and immortal being. Our Oversoul also chooses such experiences so that we can learn and correct our mistakes in thought and create elementals that support us in gaining that which we desire. The unfulfilled desires we form in our physical lifetimes are also taken into account in the setup of incarnational circumstances. Ultimately all of our desires will be fulfilled in some way over the course of our many incarnations.

For example if in a lifetime we desired wealth and created it at the expense of others our Oversoul would create circumstances for the soul to understand how it feels to be subjugated by another and used to create wealth for someone other than self. Then in another lifetime the Oversoul may create a lifetime where wealth is inherited, while peace and happiness may be kept at arm’s length for the soul to learn that wealth is not the source of happiness. If in a lifetime a soul created extreme pollution as an industrial leader, the Oversoul would create life circumstances where the soul must live in a polluted environment which would cause physical discomforts and diseases. If in a lifetime where sexual appetites were created by a man who forced sex upon his own or other children, or others who were physically weaker than he was, then a lifetime where he is unwillingly forced to meet the sexual appetites of others is created. You will find that in some past eras this was considered natural and normal in certain cultures and in this era it is considered perverted. As many individuals have experienced both sides of this issue humanity as a whole has changed its view on the situation and it is rare to find a culture that supports it. We must realize that we have done many things in our past lifetimes that we would now consider a crime; it is naïve to think otherwise.

From the perspective of the Oversoul evolution and maturity are the goal. The Oversoul wants to bring this separate, individual soul, to full realization of its oneness with God and into full power and access to the creative resources and attributes of God, while it still maintains its own unique beingness as an individual soul. From the perspective of the soul that incarnates in physical, psychic and mental bodies, desires are born, elementals are created, and the personality is formed, all of which lead to consequences and the creation of balancing and fulfilling circumstances by the Oversoul and the Masters of Karma.

To be continued..

Love and Blessings,

Michael Skowronski

Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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World Transformation Radio Talk Show is about healing individuals and discussing solutions to the problems that plague the world at this time. We will be interviewing guests who are authors, healers and have been involved in providing solutions and reviewing the results they have achieved. The main focus of this show is NOT the problems of the world! The focus is on the solutions.

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*International World Government
*Crime and Punishment…Both are Insane!
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Past Shows

Searching for Missing People
The Plight of the Boat People of Vietnam

Lat February 26th 2008, we had Terin Taylor on our show…

Join us on for our talk with Terin Taylor about her search for her missing sister and the boat people of Vietnam. Terin Taylor is using her notoriety as a beautiful fashion model to help get the word out about her missing sister and her mission to help others who are looking for lost loved ones. Terin has managed to acquire more than 103000 friends on her MySpace account which gives her a pretty good chance of reaching a lot of people with her message.

The Power of Love

This Tuesday, February 19th 2008, we will have two guests on our show…

HANEEFAH EL-AMIN aka Granny Queen.

When I met this woman on MySpace I went and had a look at her photos. I could see a white hair lady with happy friends and young ones. I felt such a loving energy from her that I dubbed her my Granny Queen. Either I didn’t notice her age, or at the time it said 99 or something like that. I didn’t realize she was only 2 year older than me! LOL…anyway I still think of her as my Loving Granny since she is a very loving lady with lots of energy for reaching out and helping others.

Shyni Skowronski

My other guest is my sweet and loving wife Shyni. I could say more about her, but I have already written many blogs about her, the most recent blog which exemplifies the power of love is The Honeymoon and the Truth about Eju.

It is said that Love conquers all, that Love heals all wounds, and that Love is the answer to all problems. This is true. Between the three of us we will be sharing stories that gives testimony to the Power of Love.

Why is Love so important in transforming the world? Look at all that is happening. Our government has gone fascist and continues to go deeper into this state daily. And pretty much everyone hates 13ush these days. Yet we must remember in the midst of our greatest pain that Love is the Power that will bring us out of our despair. We are not going to transform this world by hating these people, or by clamping down harshly and imposing suffering on more people. We need to bring ourselves to a loving place in order to receive the guidance necessary to successfully transform this world into a peaceful and loving place.

The show of February 12th 2008 Features Mark David Gerson

Mark David Gerson is a spiritual teacher and mentor, creativity coach, artist, sound healer and author of two new books — a visionary novel titled The MoonQuest: A True Fantasy, and The Voice of the Muse: Answering the Call to Write, a book and companion CD for anyone who wants to write, doesn’t believe they can write, is feeling blocked in their creativity, has written forever or is new to writing. His goal in all his work is to help people reawaken experience and express the fullness of their passion and potential.

Besides being a wise man and a healer Mark David loves helping other authors. When I was new to MySpace and just starting to market my book Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story Mark David was very kind and gave me many tips and pointed out some great internet resources for authors.

To learn more about Mark David, what he teaches, and his books please visit his websites:
http://markdavidgerson.com
http://lightlinesmedia.com
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Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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This is the latest part of the story with the following installments:

Part 1 - A Marriage Made in Heaven Part I, Part II

Part 2 - The Suicide and the Accident

A side story - The Elephants of India

The Kidnapping and the Wedding

The Kidnapping

The Couple Reunite

We spent our first honeymoon night in a room at the home-stay of Madhu and Sandhya. Had I know about the abduction of my brother-in-law I would not have brought Shyni there. Years later when I questioned Shyni about it, “Why didn’t you talk me into staying somewhere else? Why didn’t you tell me Sandhya participated in kidnapping Shyam?”

She replied, “There was no other place we could have stayed. Everyone in Kumily was jealous of me. If I would have tried to take you somewhere else you would have wanted to know why. I did not want you to know about the kidnapping so soon and you trusted Sandhya. I wanted you to trust me before I began telling you how horrible these people can be. You needed to experience it for yourself first.”

I was still quite naïve about people, much more than I thought at the time. But as the story will eventually show, I did learn a lesson in life that I really needed to learn. Shyni was right to wait and let me discover this truth for myself. It did teach me to trust her more too.

Shyni was quite ill on the evening of our wedding day. She came down with a high fever. I attributed it to her not sleeping much the night before and all of the stress of the wedding. I went to the nearby restaurant owned by our Egyptian and British friends and shared a bottle of wine with them while I waited for my takeaway order to be prepared. Shyni does not drink, never has and insists that she never will, so she was happy I had someone else to celebrate with.

Due to her illness we did not consummate our marriage that evening either. Shyni remained shy about nudity and she objected when I undressed in the bedroom rather than the privacy of bathroom. I just figured it was time for her to get used to a new style of living and a new culture. I did not want to set the tone of our marriage as one of being prudish.

I hired a car and driver to take us to Munnar the next day. It was a beautiful four hour drive through the Western Ghats Mountains. These mountains rise quickly, with deep narrow valleys and another steep rise only one to two kilometers away. They contain plenty of water falls, rivers and lakes and are quite lush and green.

The journey was spectacular and magical…especially with my beautiful bride at my side. We were finally free. We sat close, held hands, looked into each other’s eyes and kissed often. This was something we could not do since the time we met, except when we were in the privacy of our bed room. And even then Shyni was holding back and reserving her affection until after the temple wedding. But now she was much more open and free with me and I was loving it!

At one point in our long drive I said to Shyni, “It’s too bad we can’t take Eju to America with us.” Eju is Shyni’s nine year old nephew, the son of her sister. He is adorable and has an energy that is very similar to ours. I love children and Eju is very easy to love because
he is so affectionate and well behaved. Shyni replied, “Do you mean that? Do you really want to take Eju to the USA?” I said, “Yes, I can see how much he loves you and how much he will miss you when I take you away.”

Shyni then proceeded to tell me how she had adopted Eju as her own son at six months of age. “I first found out about Eju when he was four months old. I came home from nursing school after my first year exams were complete. My family had not even told me that Jessie was pregnant. There was so much shame because Gopal did not want to marry her. For two months they all argued about how much dowry money Gopal’s family would accept for the marriage to take place. My father was too poor and did not have any money to offer. All that he could promise was a one third share in our family home and land. This was not enough for Gopal or his family to accept. Poor Jessie, she loved Gopal and did not want to lose him and she was facing the reality of how people in our culture would treat her as an unwed mother. Neither Jessie nor Gopal was mature enough to be parents, they were like children themselves.

“Then one night Jessie called me to come and help her. I had to ride three hours by bus to get to her house. A lot of Gopal’s family was there, a few of the men were drunk. They were all fighting over the baby and threatening to kill it. One of the men took Eju from the bed and tried to throw him to the floor. I quickly jumped up and caught Eju and ran out of the house with him. It was dark, and wet, the ground was slippery. But I ran as fast as I could down the hill and hid in the dark to see if I was being followed. I had to hold Eju’s mouth closed so they could not hear him cry.

“I watched for awhile as they came out of the house to look for me. It was too dark and it took them a little while to get organized, so I ran to a neighbor’s house and knocked on the door. They let me in and I told them what was happening. They hid us and let us sleep there overnight. I got up and took Eju home with me by bus at five in the morning.

“I had to tell my father what happened. He was very upset but not surprised. Jessie came home a few days later. I took care of Eju during that time, even when Jessie was there. I spoke with my great grandmother Ellie and asked her what I should do. She told me to follow my heart. I told her my heart said to keep Eju and raise him as my own son. My wise old great granny told me that God would support me if I was really confirmed in my decision.

“After about a week Jessie went back to Gopal and I kept Eju. A few days later my father asked me when I was going to send Eju back to his parents and I told him I was never going to send him back. We had a very long talk about it and how it was that I would take care of this baby. My father was already financially stressed and did not want another mouth to feed.

“I transferred from my nursing school, which was four hours away by bus, to a school in Kumily (which is where the family home was) and I took Eju to school with me. I told people he was my baby and his father worked a long ways away. I got a job dancing in shows for resort guests to help feed my baby and pay the bills. My father and brother Shyam played music at the resort, so they also played the music while my Uncle Cebe and me danced in the traditional Kerala style. My mother watched Eju while we performed.”

I interrupted Shyni’s story to ask, “Wasn’t it difficult to go to school, study, take care of a child and dance every evening? How could you manage?”

“Oh, I was often very tired, but I loved my life. I always wanted to be a mother so it was easy to take care of Eju. I loved being with my father and brother while they played music. It was difficult but I just did what I had to do. I could not quit school; I needed to have life out of the poverty that was too common in India. So I put up with it all. Until my father died, that is when I quit dancing and went to Delhi to work. Then my whole family needed money and Delhi was the only place I could earn good pay.”

I was blown away and my eyes were filled with tears. “Wow Shyni, I did not realize. You could have told me that Eju was your son. I can love both of you.”

“I did not know how you would take it. I wasn’t sure if you would understand. I felt I could tell you later and it would be okay.” Shyni said with a little bit of worry in her voice.

“It is okay. I love you and I am happy that we can take him to the States with us…we will be able to take him won’t we? Did you legally adopt him?”

“No. But we can do that if you like.”

“We will probably have to adopt him in order to get him a visa. Will Gopal and Jessie allow this?”

“It will take some time, but I can convince them. Eju does not want them and they don’t really want him either. Eju was so sad on our wedding day. Did you notice? He cried when we were leaving because he thought you were taking me to the USA. He did not understand what a honeymoon was, he thought Honeymoon was a place.”

I felt so happy that it was I who married this woman and not some other foreigner who might have objected. There were so many things in my life, the big things, in complex ways, that always seemed to work out in just the perfect way. I felt like this was one more sign that our marriage was divinely orchestrated and that my new wife Shyni too was moving with the divine flow of life. “Call your mother as soon we get to our resort and tell them we are going to take Eju with us.”

We stopped a couple of times along the way to enjoy the spectacular views. The rivers and valleys and waterfalls were too beautiful to pass by at a quick pace. I held Shyni close as we stood and admired the views. I felt an even deeper sense of connection with her because we were becoming a family. When I was considering taking an Indian wife, I thought it would be nice to find a widow who already had children, because I love children and because I knew a woman with a child would have a harder time finding a husband. I could not imagine taking a wife as young as twenty four like so many of the girls I had met. I did like the idea of having a younger wife, but not at the expense of immaturity. I preferred to have a mature woman even if it meant an older wife. As I held Shyni in my arms I was filled with joy and amazement at how God took so many of my desires into account when he set us up. I got a beautiful young wife who was also a mature woman and a child, this was everything I wanted. And we were getting along very well.

When we arrived at our hotel in Munnar Shyni was again not feeling very well and I needed a walk to stretch my legs after our long drive. She was already used to my routine of taking a morning and evening walk alone so she seemed to be fine with me going for a walk before it got dark. When I returned from my walk however she was not as happy. The hotel staff had questioned her about what she was doing there with me. They wanted to see our wedding certificates, which she showed to them. The man running the hotel did not seem to be impressed but the other two women on the staff began treating Shyni better. I held Shyni in my arms to comfort her and caressed her hair.

Indians have very strange ideas about life and what is appropriate and inappropriate. Actually people in all cultures have this problem, but it is much easier to see it in another culture than it is in your own. However, if you live in a couple of different cultures for a few years, it becomes easy to see the silliness of your own culture as well. I highly recommend that people go and live in a couple of different foreign countries for a few years. It would dramatically help you in your efforts to change your inner programming. If we could only take about one third of the born and raised Americans and transplant them to various third world countries for three years I bet we would see a rapid and dramatic change for the better in the entire world within a few years time. It would change the perspective of so many people who could then be effective agents for worldwide changes.

Shyni had also phoned Chechi (her mother) while I was gone. Chechi was happy to hear from us so soon on our journey. And Eju was very happy to hear about our ideas to take him to the States with us. They were also relieved that I was letting Shyni continue her communication with her family. They wondered how long it would be before they heard from Shyni.

We had a romantic dinner alone together for the first time since I have known Shyni. It was just the two of us, without family, indeed there were no other guests in the dining room at the time we were there. We talked a lot about our lives and our hopes and dreams for our future together and Shyni told me more about the troubles she had protecting Eju from harm.

“After I had been caring for Eju for two months, the president of Gopal’s community called me and she asked me to come to Gopal’s house for a meeting. When I arrived with Eju, Gopal’s cousin Sanu was there along with Gopal, Jessie and this community woman. She talked with us all and told Gopal that he had to pay some money to me for taking care of his baby. Sanu got very angry and picked up a chair, raising it over his head, to smash me with it while I was holding Eju. The community president was a big woman and she caught the chair and stopped him from hitting me. I ran for the door but Sanu caught me and began choking me to try to get me to drop Eju. I nearly passed out but I didn’t drop him so Sanu pushed me out the door. Both Eju and I fell onto the cement porch and got scratched up pretty badly. Gopal just sat there in silence; he said nothing.”

“Oh my God! What did you do?”

“I went back home and never took Eju back there again. But that is not all…Four months later Gopal’s mother and step-father came to visit us. She was being nice and wanted to hold the baby so I let her and I went to the toilet. My mother was there with them so I thought it would be okay. When I came back Gopal’s mother was gone. She had only been at the house for a very short time. I asked Chechi what had happened and she told me Eju’s grandmother gave him some biscuits and then they said they had to go. Very soon Eju started looking sick so we rushed him to the hospital.”

I was in shock. I could hardly believe what I was hearing. “Did they poison him?”

“Yes, Gopal’s mother poisoned Eju.”

“Did they pump out his stomach? Did the test it for poison?”

“Yes, we did have his stomach pumped and they did find that there was poison in the biscuits. They tried to kill him.”

I sat there for a moment with my mind reeling, How could anyone do something like that to a baby? Especially when someone else was taking care of it and not asking for anything. I was feeling mixed emotions. I was very proud that I had such a strong woman as Shyni as my wife and at the same time in shock at how sick some people could be. “Did you go to the police? Did you tell them what had happened?”

“No, we did not want any more trouble from these people. I called Gopal and told him to never come to our house again. I told him to tell the rest of his family to stay away or we would call the police.”

“Did that work, did they stay away?”

“They stayed away until Eju was nearly five. Then Gopal came by with a friend of his. Eju met Gopal at the door and called me. I asked Eju who it was and he said he didn’t know. When I came to the door Gopal had tears in his eyes. I told him I did not want his tears or his drama and sent him away.

“Many months later Gopal came back again. Jessie was staying with us at the time. He said he wanted his wife and child back. My father told me I had no legal right to keep Eju so I should send him back to his father.”

“