Unforgettable Love Story

In this blog I will be delivering solid evidence that we can heal this world using the real life examples of people who have achieved dramatic results. In particular I will be reviewing the wonderful achievements of the Delancey Street Foundation. These folks have a thirty-seven year history of successfully healing the worst of society’s criminals while working WITHOUT government funding.

GOALS to Healing the World: For every single person on the planet…provide housing, food, clean water, sewage, energy, health care. Move into living sustainably on the planet, heal the mental dysfunction that causes so much hatred and violence, cut crime and violence by 90%, reduce drug usage and addiction by 70%, and end all wars. While dramatically increasing the quality of life, peace and happiness of all people everywhere.

I bet if you were to take a poll of all of the people in the world today and ask them if we have the resources to achieve such a goal most folks would say no. I believe the real question is not can we achieve this, but do we have the will and the desire to achieve this?

Solid Evidence – Dramatic Results

Delancey Street Foundation has been in operation since 1971. That makes thirty-seven years they have been in operation as of 2008! That sort of longevity says they must be doing something right. Although their achievements are many I wish to focus on the following since these achievments are critical in duplicating Delancey’s model for healing the entire planet and achieving the goals I stated earlier.

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They have reformed thousands of the worst criminals in society.
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They have helped thousands recover from drug addiction.
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They have educated thousands who were failed by our public education system.
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They have funded their operations largely by their own efforts through businesses that they themselves have created and through private donations.
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They have maintained the highest level of service and integrity in the businesses they run.
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They continue to expand nationwide in the USA as well as influencing programs in other countries too.
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They use an “each one teach one” principle where older residents help newer ones…everybody works.

The basic principle of healing the planet is that people need a better education on how to live a healthy, happy, and abundant life. People need to be given the skills to succeed in their relationships with others, the skills to maintain a healthy mind and body, and the skills to be productive in the workforce. Society as a whole needs better systems to solve the problems we face and manage the common resources we are all creating in our everyday work life.

If an organization like the Delancey Street Foundation can take people with the most dysfunctional life skills and transform them into people with functional and even exceptional life skills, then we can reproduce this success on a larger scale.

What Delancey Street Foundation does is it has the residents who have been in their program longer teaching the newer ones all that they need to know to be healthy and happy members of society. Using this system everyone gets at least a high school equivalent education complete with certification, and many even get a BA college degree. But there is much more power in this system than the fact that a person gets the certificates and degrees that can help get them a job in the real world. Each resident becomes a teacher and a leader too. THIS IS SIGNIFICANT!

By helping each resident become a teacher and leader they also move a long ways towards achieving a healthy sense of self-esteem. They each get to experience patience and compassion. They each have to become a good example for another person to follow. This is a level of responsibility we just are not taught in our usual course of schooling. If you read my blogs Healing the World Using Law of Attraction and A Beautiful Vision for Re-architecting Our World you will see I had suggested a system such as this. Do we really need expensive universities? Perhaps for some things they are necessary, but for many things we could go back to more of an apprenticeship program for teaching job skills. Or we could mix the high school and college education in with on the job training. It would make things more interesting for the students and give businesses cheaper labor.

The other thing that the Delancey Street Foundation is doing is creating businesses and using the residents to run those businesses. We are not talking small, barely making it businesses…no, WE ARE TALKING FIRST CLASS, AWARD WINNING BUSINESSES THAT ARE ROLE MODELS THAT ALL OTHER BUSINESSES SHOULD BE FOLLOWING!

They have a moving and trucking company, run by convicted criminals, that has the highest rating for non breakage and not a single incidence of theft or loss of property. It has been in operation for 33 years. It is the largest independent moving company in the bay area averaging 5100 moving jobs per year.

They built their own headquarters, a beautiful Mediterranean style housing complex for 500 on the waterfront in San Francisco. It won the “Award of Honor for Design Excellence” from the American Institute of Architects.

This complex also houses one of the finest restaurants in San Francisco the Delancey Street Restaurant, which they also operate and use to train their residents in. It was named one of “San Francisco’s Delicious Dozen” and won other awards and high reviews in local newspapers.

The Crossroads Café, Bookstore and Art Gallery is another one of Delancey Street Foundation’s businesses. And like their other businesses this too is a first class operation with attractive décor, spacious and inviting. It provides the best of coffees, fresh juice, bagels and other fare typical of a café.

That is not the end of it either. You really should pay a visit to the http://delanceystreetfoundation.org website to see how truly remarkable this organization is. You will find heaps of videos, articles, photos and resources. You may even find a service they offer that makes you want to hire them yourself or take one of their training courses.

Does this inspire you? It should! If an organization like this can take convicted murders, thieves, drug dealers and addicts and teach them life skills, turn their lives around while at the same time running first class businesses that pay their expenses then certainly we can achieve the goals stated earlier using the same sort of techniques these folks are using. And we could free millions of people who are suffering in prisons all over America and all over the world.

I believe the acomplishments of the Delancey Street Foundation proves that what I have suggested in these other blogs will work for transforming this world; we can achieve these goals. Please read these and help us all by holding these visions in your own mind too.

Healing the World Using Law of Attraction
International World Government
Crime and Punishment…Both are Insane!
A Beautiful Vision for Re-architecting Our World

There are many more poor and disenfranchised people on the planet than there are those who currently control the governments of the world. We need to pool the power of this majority to overcome the sick and corrupted systems we currently call “government”. If we treat them well and give them what they need we will form a solid point of power that will sweep across the entire planet by law of attraction. We can transform this world into a peaceful, loving and functional home where we all thrive.

Use this blog as a hopeful dream of a future that WILL be!

Namasté
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story
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The greatest difficulty with understanding how our minds create stem from the narrow focus we hold on our single physical life. We are much more than this ego person in this body in this single physical lifetime. We are eternal beings whose lives have always been and always will be. Eternity is a very long time. No matter what occurs in a single lifetime it cannot affect who we really and truly are. Losing an arm or one’s eyesight is nothing for a soul that is immortal and perfect. For such a being how could there ever be fear or worry or doubt?

So we setup a game, one in which we forget who we are for what seems to be a very long time. Although time does not really exist we have created the illusion that time is real by a sequencing of events and a space in which these events leave their mark and maintain a continuity. The net result is a seemingly real existence where it seems that we can indeed be harmed…the mark is left and the continuity is maintained. The physical dimension is a place where we can experience and feel fear, something that cannot happen in our pure pristine state as God. Because a small piece of God isolates Itself in a human form and perspective, it can experience the rest of God as separate, vast, and powerful. Because God isolates many parts of Itself into many human forms, God gets many different perspectives to experience Itself form. This also gives God the chance to have many other beings to interact with relieving what must be the ultimate in loneliness.

Once we enter this dimension we take on a boundary that seemingly separates us, or delineates us, from the rest of God. This boundary is maintained by our own unique and individual experiences in the worlds of time and space. This boundary is our personality, which we continuously develop and fine tune over many lifetimes. Desires are born from the seeming lack that exists within any given moment and place; these desires draw life-force energy through us and anchor us in the movement through time and space.

In this playground of creativity we have many physical bodies which we call lifetimes or incarnations. When we start out we are a new soul, have forgotten everything about who we are and have a clean personality barren of any sort of habit or skill. When we complete our cycles of incarnation into physical form, we are a mature old soul, we remember fully who we are, we have a well developed personality which has the habits and skills of a master. There are many stages we pass through during our evolution; infancy, childhood, adolescence, young adult, maturity, and old age. This is why you can find old men who behave like a naughty child and a young child that behaves like a mature adult.

From the perspective of our Oversoul we chose the circumstantial setup of our lifetime. These are the broad brush strokes that paint the background of our life. They include people, places and the type of body that we inhabit.

Once in the body every thought we think, every action we take causes us to develop habits of thought and action. These habits of thought are the only thing that we carry forward with us from lifetime to lifetime. The habits of the body die with the body, but are easier to develop in succeeding lifetimes due to the habit of thought that came with the habit of body. These habits of thought are the personality traits that form the boundary that define who we are as a separate being from the rest of God.

There are consequences to our thoughts and actions which includes our feelings too. As a young and immature soul these consequences and feelings are difficult to relate to our thoughts and more easy to relate to our actions and outer circumstances. As a mature soul we come to realize that our thoughts are at the core of all of our actions and feelings. We also come to realize that we can even manipulate outer circumstances, including the actions of others by the way we think.

Our thoughts form permanent elementals in the psychic world which gain strength and energy with repetition of those thoughts and loose strength and energy by the lack of such thoughts. Elementals are Thought Forms. These elementals are the basis of what we call our energy and our habits of thought. These elementals repel certain people and events and attract others. With enough focus these elementals can even take on physical form. These elementals return to us frequently for a refresh of energy, and we feed them each time we think in the way that we created them. How much we feed them depends upon the length of time we give them our mental focus and how steady that focus is. Thus they seem to have a life of their own and they seem to control us when they return to us for a feeding. We can deplete elementals of their strength and energy by not thinking about them and giving our thoughts and energy to other more desirable elementals.

When we die we shed our physical bodies and live in our psychic and mental bodies. These elementals still exist there. They still influence us, cause us to think in predictable and habitual ways, and create the reality that we perceive in the psychic realm. As an immature soul, we have no understanding of these elementals; we believe them to be of a reality beyond our control. Thus we have either a hellish experience or a heavenly one based on the nature of these elementals, and the thoughts they compel us to think. This is one of the reasons so many young souls insist that there is a heaven or hell while in the physical world because this is what they have experienced. As a mature soul we gain control over these elementals and can deactivate them and create more desirable elementals. As a mature soul we can easily escape any hellish elementals and create heavenly ones even while we exist only in our psychic and mental bodies. This is why mature souls insist that life is what you make it while in the physical world because this is what they have experienced. If you have not gained control over your mind in the physical plane, you will not have control of it in the psychic or mental planes after you die.

At the highest level of our individual being is that which I call our Oversoul. Along with the Masters of Karma, or the Holy Spirit, or God, depending on how you choose to label that level of creation, our Oversoul helps our soul in its evolution. Our Oversoul with the Masters of Karma selects the circumstances of our next incarnation including physical bodies that are prone to illness or health, physical living locations which may contain pollutants that cause illness or a clean and natural environment, and kind loving people or abusive predators as relatives, friends, teachers, doctors, lawyers and other professional people we might encounter in our lifetime. Our Oversouls choose such circumstances in order to have experiences that are impossible to have as an unlimited and immortal being. Our Oversoul also chooses such experiences so that we can learn and correct our mistakes in thought and create elementals that support us in gaining that which we desire. The unfulfilled desires we form in our physical lifetimes are also taken into account in the setup of incarnational circumstances. Ultimately all of our desires will be fulfilled in some way over the course of our many incarnations.

For example if in a lifetime we desired wealth and created it at the expense of others our Oversoul would create circumstances for the soul to understand how it feels to be subjugated by another and used to create wealth for someone other than self. Then in another lifetime the Oversoul may create a lifetime where wealth is inherited, while peace and happiness may be kept at arm’s length for the soul to learn that wealth is not the source of happiness. If in a lifetime a soul created extreme pollution as an industrial leader, the Oversoul would create life circumstances where the soul must live in a polluted environment which would cause physical discomforts and diseases. If in a lifetime where sexual appetites were created by a man who forced sex upon his own or other children, or others who were physically weaker than he was, then a lifetime where he is unwillingly forced to meet the sexual appetites of others is created. You will find that in some past eras this was considered natural and normal in certain cultures and in this era it is considered perverted. As many individuals have experienced both sides of this issue humanity as a whole has changed its view on the situation and it is rare to find a culture that supports it. We must realize that we have done many things in our past lifetimes that we would now consider a crime; it is naïve to think otherwise.

From the perspective of the Oversoul evolution and maturity are the goal. The Oversoul wants to bring this separate, individual soul, to full realization of its oneness with God and into full power and access to the creative resources and attributes of God, while it still maintains its own unique beingness as an individual soul. From the perspective of the soul that incarnates in physical, psychic and mental bodies, desires are born, elementals are created, and the personality is formed, all of which lead to consequences and the creation of balancing and fulfilling circumstances by the Oversoul and the Masters of Karma.

To be continued..

Love and Blessings,

Michael Skowronski

Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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*Healing the World Using Law of Attraction
*International World Government
*Crime and Punishment…Both are Insane!
*A Beautiful Vision for Re-architecting Our World

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Past Shows

 

Searching for Missing People
The Plight of the Boat People of Vietnam

Lat February 26th 2008, we had Terin Taylor on our show…

Join us on for our talk with Terin Taylor about her search for her missing sister and the boat people of Vietnam. Terin Taylor is using her notoriety as a beautiful fashion model to help get the word out about her missing sister and her mission to help others who are looking for lost loved ones. Terin has managed to acquire more than 103000 friends on her MySpace account which gives her a pretty good chance of reaching a lot of people with her message.

 

The Power of Love

This Tuesday, February 19th 2008, we will have two guests on our show…

HANEEFAH EL-AMIN aka Granny Queen.

When I met this woman on MySpace I went and had a look at her photos. I could see a white hair lady with happy friends and young ones. I felt such a loving energy from her that I dubbed her my Granny Queen. Either I didn’t notice her age, or at the time it said 99 or something like that. I didn’t realize she was only 2 year older than me! LOL…anyway I still think of her as my Loving Granny since she is a very loving lady with lots of energy for reaching out and helping others.

Shyni Skowronski

My other guest is my sweet and loving wife Shyni. I could say more about her, but I have already written many blogs about her, the most recent blog which exemplifies the power of love is The Honeymoon and the Truth about Eju.

It is said that Love conquers all, that Love heals all wounds, and that Love is the answer to all problems. This is true. Between the three of us we will be sharing stories that gives testimony to the Power of Love.

Why is Love so important in transforming the world? Look at all that is happening. Our government has gone fascist and continues to go deeper into this state daily. And pretty much everyone hates 13ush these days. Yet we must remember in the midst of our greatest pain that Love is the Power that will bring us out of our despair. We are not going to transform this world by hating these people, or by clamping down harshly and imposing suffering on more people. We need to bring ourselves to a loving place in order to receive the guidance necessary to successfully transform this world into a peaceful and loving place.

 

The show of February 12th 2008 Features Mark David Gerson

Mark David Gerson is a spiritual teacher and mentor, creativity coach, artist, sound healer and author of two new books — a visionary novel titled The MoonQuest: A True Fantasy, and The Voice of the Muse: Answering the Call to Write, a book and companion CD for anyone who wants to write, doesn’t believe they can write, is feeling blocked in their creativity, has written forever or is new to writing. His goal in all his work is to help people reawaken experience and express the fullness of their passion and potential.

Besides being a wise man and a healer Mark David loves helping other authors. When I was new to MySpace and just starting to market my book Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story Mark David was very kind and gave me many tips and pointed out some great internet resources for authors.

To learn more about Mark David, what he teaches, and his books please visit his websites:
http://markdavidgerson.com
http://lightlinesmedia.com
You can also find Mark David’s books and CD on Amazon.com.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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I got the following email from a friend and am answering it here in this blog…with her permission of course.

Hey Michael,

I am in a sort of internship I believe. I still have some issues of my own. Most of the abuse I have sustained was of the psychological kind and was done at the time when I was most absorbent (childhood). So… I feel that I have forgiven but that my next step is to accept that I will know this same harmful intent in others.

I think I am what is called a “sensitive”. I respond to the feelings of others…and yes, I have always said that I can feel the feelings of others. My problem is that I am not always able to determine that the feelings are not necessarily directed at me; therefore I ‘think’ they are. As a result I become angry or hurt.

In a way, that is the same as saying I feel responsible and that is not healthy.

I am NOW able to acknowledge when I feel extremely uncomfortable around others; when I sense their toxicity; their ambivalence.

Munga, you made a very good observation here. First of all it does not matter if it was directed at you or not. What matters is do you really deserve the energy being projected? Do you know? Are you clear enough to know?

Most people “think” that the words and perceived attitude of others are directed at them. This is a very standard assumption we all make. I still catch this happening in myself when my wife becomes unhappy. When she finally gets around to explaining it to me, it is due to something else. Either she is physically uncomfortable for some reason, or she is worrying about something else or somebody else in her family. Now my wife is pretty honest and owns her own stuff, but other people are not so honest, or worse don’t even understand their own minds and do not even know what it is they are thinking about. Other people may even truly believe YOU are the problem of the moment, and they project that energetically upon you or they project it quite vocally with words. So this causes most people to doubt themselves.

This is the point of work that needs to be done in many people who are sensitive and who will develop their sensitivity in the future. We need to be clear at all times about ourselves, who we are, what our intentions are, what we think and what we do. And when we do make mistakes, out of habit, and go against our true intention, we need to recognize that we have done so and take the steps necessary to reprogram our habits such that we come into alignment with our true intentions. Which I would assume is, to be loving and harmless in all of our thoughts and deeds. If that is not your intention, then guilt will surely follow you all the days of your lives!

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People think perfection is not possible. They say, “We are only human.” But when a person realizes that perfection is very simple then it becomes possible. I say that perfection is making it your intention to be loving and harmless in every thought, word, and deed and reprogramming your habits of thought, word and deed that go against that intention. For me making a mistake such as spilling the milk, or hitting the gas pedal when you meant to hit the breaks or some other such human mistake does not mean a person is not perfect. But to remain loving and harmless in the midst of anything that occurs, intentional or accidental, that is perfection.

When your intention is to be loving and harmless, and your habits nearly always reflect that intention, then it is easy to not take the energetic or spoken resentments and accusations of others as if you are at fault. If your intentions and actions are clear, then begin to remind yourself of this every time someone near you gets upset and you will soon find yourself at peace in these sorts of situations.

The other problem we face is we want the other person to understand us, to understand our intentions and to change how they view us and our actions. If this understanding does not come for them automatically it is not likely to come at all. We can argue with people, and try to convince them, but unfortunately even if they pretend to be convinced, in most cases they will hold on to their perceived experience and hold you responsible for whatever negative feelings they have. This may seem like a sad realization and a sad outcome, but ultimately our awakening and our clarity does lead us to increasingly better circumstances for ourselves. It really does not matter what other people think about us.

Recently, I had to get another job, for financial reasons. I have had to change jobs 3 times in the last three years. I am not someone who does this… I would like to find my niche and hang in there; my personality is such that I am loyal and tenacious. But…due to some odd circumstances, I have had to move on and continue to find work in other places. I have a lot to give to a company.

Odd circumstances, hmmm…sounds like the hands of God at work here. Didn’t you say you were in internship? Internship for what…running a corporation or healing the planet? Those who are waking up are indeed in an internship. And we are here at this moment in time to transform this planet. These shakeups we experience when we are so very close to enlightenment are those things that will shake loose those old habits of thought word and deed that no longer serve us. These shakeups give us the training necessary to understand what we are up against, and what our true job in this world is.

I found a job that looked like something I would like. With the right training, I could run this office like a well oiled machine. They hired me on the spot! I was pleased. But before the interview took place, I noticed that one of the co-workers (my equal) was very hostile towards me. Not overtly but passively. I felt terribly uncomfortable but kept telling myself not to be “paranoid”.

Be careful, be watchful, and be aware when you feel this sort of thing. Certainly the hostility is there. Not everyone wants their work environment to run like a well oiled machine. When they slack off, when they need time for themselves, it will be noticed. They will be resentful that you have taken this away from them. It is unfortunate but most companies don’t just give employees enough free time in their day to tend to their own needs. Thus we all create it and hide it in the cracks of the disorganization that exist.

I have been on the job for three weeks and the other person up and quit because she was so intimidated by my presence. This was so upsetting to me. I had done nothing to her but get hired! I am shy and reserved but friendly and kind… I know this about myself. I tried to be “nicer” to her, sensing her insecurities, but that only seemed to add fuel to the fire.

Problem is, if I am in the workplace; there is nowhere to go… there is often no choice but to hang in there. I’m sure others will say, “Quit the job” but that is not an option for me at this point. I just started!!! I kept thinking that this situation was one that I caused.

Yes, you are the cause. Your light is shinning too brightly and you give those who cower in the darkness nowhere to hide. So perhaps you should shrink back into the darkness, lie, cheat, and do a few evil deeds every once in a while so that you can be accepted. NOT! :^)

What is your job? Is it possible that in the course of your duties you may reveal something this person did that was wrong like some sort of embezzlement? Or were they frightened they would be seen as incompetent or too slow? Or is it that just having a nice person around made them sick?

I do know this…people are frightened, people are jealous, and people have low self-esteem. There are many reasons for this, but primarily and foremost is that it is NOT their intention to be loving and harmless in all of their thoughts, words, and deeds. If you dig deep enough into the reason they have low-self esteem you will find this issue is within them. For example, someone who has been abused could claim the low-self esteem is due to their abuse, but I say it is due to their desire for justice and judgment about what has been done to them and it could also be unhealed judgment of self due to their own past harmful and unloving intentions. Of course it is considered normal to want vengeance, but still it is the cause of the low self-esteem. We still have to get past our judgments if we ever expect to feel good about ourselves.

When your intention is to be loving and harmless then you know who you are and you feel good about yourself no matter what anyone says or does. This causes healthy self-esteem. It occurs over time as events occur and you witness yourself consistently responding in loving ways. Over time you receive internal guidance and you recognize your oneness with God and All That Is.

I know that is weird but you must know that women truly have different issues than men. With women, it is often about outward appearances; there is a vanity there in addition to everything else. This co-worker was morbidly obese, but then again, the three other employees (including boss) are also obese.

Certainly men and women face different issues; it is not so weird since we are biologically and socially different. A person who is generally considered physically beautiful does have to face the jealousy of those who are not generally considered physically beautiful. When the inner beauty is not there either, that jealousy comes out and can be felt.

Living in this world with other hurt people is not easy. There are no quick or fool proof solutions. I would love to be able to rise above the sickness in others, but I have a feeling that none of us is ever really healed, we just get better.

It is not easy, but it is possible…your healing can occur in spite of others who remain wounded! There are no quick solutions, but there are fool proof solutions. I just gave them above. It takes time, and it sounds to me like you are already on your way.

People are hurt, people are dysfunctional, and these are the facts of life. These wounded and dysfunctional people do seem to get in our way, they do seem to interfere with our lives, but we can change our focus and we can have peace and happiness no matter what is occurring in the outer world. I offer much advice along these lines in my other blogs such as Drowning in Worry and Reprogramming Yourself just to name a few. Over the course of our journey through life we gain much from even these experiences that challenge us.

When I realized that the co worker literally was directing HATE towards me, I tried talking to her in a tactful and gentle way. I told her I wanted us to get along and even enjoy working together. I felt good about what I said to her and felt I had done so in a loving and heartfelt way. Obviously, I should not have spoken about it to her because she merely became more resentful.

As you have found, most of the time talk does not cut it. You can’t talk your way out of being who you are. She hates you for who you are, a mirror that shows her who she is, which is a person she does not like. You are not willing and should not be willing to paint over your mirror with a pretty picture of who she is. Even your tactful and gentle talk mirrors back to her her own hatred and inability to be kind and loving.

I am not an overt, exciting person. I can’t walk in a room and uplift others by giving them extreme praise or making them feel wonderful. My personality is very calm and low key… but I smile and am friendly. This is the part I felt I had failed at. This is when, for a moment, I wished I were a different sort of person… one who could “win friends and influence people”.

To win friends and influence people by words alone or attempts to make them feel wonderful is a manipulation, it is fake and it is an energy that you do not want to engage in. When you are filled with your own sense of your true self, when your self-esteem is healthy and strong, when you are not frightened by the hatred, jealousy, and woundedness of others, when you trust life and that you ARE in the right place at the right time, you will walk into a room and uplift others by your mere presence. No words will be necessary. And those who are not uplifted will be those who are frightened by your light.

I think that I am a help to many of my friends… that they sense they are safe with me (and I with them) and we are able to help each other. But, that is not necessarily true of all relationships.

Agreed! You cannot help everyone. Not everyone will respond to you in the way you would like them to. Accept that and move on.

I wanted to be a help to my ex husband (while we were still married). (At first of course, I was very angry and showed my anger towards him). But after learning more, reading more, I tried to be loving and tolerant; knowing he suffered from alcoholism. But, to be honest, this change in me seemed to make things worse… now perhaps that is natural progression of alcoholism and nothing to do with me, but I was the one who had to eventually flee. Not for my life, but for my sanity. My already bruised ego hung perilously on the edge of a breakdown.

As we grow we must change our outer circumstances. It MUST occur and that is a good thing! We experience the pain of separation from the old, but wait…the new holds gifts for us. The new life circumstances contain many of the things we have been asking for.

I still question why my love wasn’t enough to help my ex. I still wonder why I have to “feel” the feelings of others. They only hurt for the most part.

Your love has helped, you just don’t see all the ways it has helped him yet. Your love wasn’t enough to “help” your ex because your ex has free choice. Your ex still has more to experience in the circumstances he chose for his life.

Do you have any thoughts on this? Or do you require money for your services? lol

Munga

I do not charge for my counseling services. I am especially grateful when someone allows me to be of service and allows me to post them in a blog so that others may be helped by the questions and answers.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story
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This is the latest part of the story with the following installments:

Part 1 - A Marriage Made in Heaven Part I, Part II

Part 2 - The Suicide and the Accident

A side story - The Elephants of India

The Kidnapping and the Wedding

The Kidnapping

The Couple Reunite

We spent our first honeymoon night in a room at the home-stay of Madhu and Sandhya. Had I know about the abduction of my brother-in-law I would not have brought Shyni there. Years later when I questioned Shyni about it, “Why didn’t you talk me into staying somewhere else? Why didn’t you tell me Sandhya participated in kidnapping Shyam?”

She replied, “There was no other place we could have stayed. Everyone in Kumily was jealous of me. If I would have tried to take you somewhere else you would have wanted to know why. I did not want you to know about the kidnapping so soon and you trusted Sandhya. I wanted you to trust me before I began telling you how horrible these people can be. You needed to experience it for yourself first.”

I was still quite naïve about people, much more than I thought at the time. But as the story will eventually show, I did learn a lesson in life that I really needed to learn. Shyni was right to wait and let me discover this truth for myself. It did teach me to trust her more too.

Shyni was quite ill on the evening of our wedding day. She came down with a high fever. I attributed it to her not sleeping much the night before and all of the stress of the wedding. I went to the nearby restaurant owned by our Egyptian and British friends and shared a bottle of wine with them while I waited for my takeaway order to be prepared. Shyni does not drink, never has and insists that she never will, so she was happy I had someone else to celebrate with.

Due to her illness we did not consummate our marriage that evening either. Shyni remained shy about nudity and she objected when I undressed in the bedroom rather than the privacy of bathroom. I just figured it was time for her to get used to a new style of living and a new culture. I did not want to set the tone of our marriage as one of being prudish.

I hired a car and driver to take us to Munnar the next day. It was a beautiful four hour drive through the Western Ghats Mountains. These mountains rise quickly, with deep narrow valleys and another steep rise only one to two kilometers away. They contain plenty of water falls, rivers and lakes and are quite lush and green.

The journey was spectacular and magical…especially with my beautiful bride at my side. We were finally free. We sat close, held hands, looked into each other’s eyes and kissed often. This was something we could not do since the time we met, except when we were in the privacy of our bed room. And even then Shyni was holding back and reserving her affection until after the temple wedding. But now she was much more open and free with me and I was loving it!

At one point in our long drive I said to Shyni, “It’s too bad we can’t take Eju to America with us.” Eju is Shyni’s nine year old nephew, the son of her sister. He is adorable and has an energy that is very similar to ours. I love children and Eju is very easy to love because
he is so affectionate and well behaved. Shyni replied, “Do you mean that? Do you really want to take Eju to the USA?” I said, “Yes, I can see how much he loves you and how much he will miss you when I take you away.”

Shyni then proceeded to tell me how she had adopted Eju as her own son at six months of age. “I first found out about Eju when he was four months old. I came home from nursing school after my first year exams were complete. My family had not even told me that Jessie was pregnant. There was so much shame because Gopal did not want to marry her. For two months they all argued about how much dowry money Gopal’s family would accept for the marriage to take place. My father was too poor and did not have any money to offer. All that he could promise was a one third share in our family home and land. This was not enough for Gopal or his family to accept. Poor Jessie, she loved Gopal and did not want to lose him and she was facing the reality of how people in our culture would treat her as an unwed mother. Neither Jessie nor Gopal was mature enough to be parents, they were like children themselves.

“Then one night Jessie called me to come and help her. I had to ride three hours by bus to get to her house. A lot of Gopal’s family was there, a few of the men were drunk. They were all fighting over the baby and threatening to kill it. One of the men took Eju from the bed and tried to throw him to the floor. I quickly jumped up and caught Eju and ran out of the house with him. It was dark, and wet, the ground was slippery. But I ran as fast as I could down the hill and hid in the dark to see if I was being followed. I had to hold Eju’s mouth closed so they could not hear him cry.

“I watched for awhile as they came out of the house to look for me. It was too dark and it took them a little while to get organized, so I ran to a neighbor’s house and knocked on the door. They let me in and I told them what was happening. They hid us and let us sleep there overnight. I got up and took Eju home with me by bus at five in the morning.

“I had to tell my father what happened. He was very upset but not surprised. Jessie came home a few days later. I took care of Eju during that time, even when Jessie was there. I spoke with my great grandmother Ellie and asked her what I should do. She told me to follow my heart. I told her my heart said to keep Eju and raise him as my own son. My wise old great granny told me that God would support me if I was really confirmed in my decision.

“After about a week Jessie went back to Gopal and I kept Eju. A few days later my father asked me when I was going to send Eju back to his parents and I told him I was never going to send him back. We had a very long talk about it and how it was that I would take care of this baby. My father was already financially stressed and did not want another mouth to feed.

“I transferred from my nursing school, which was four hours away by bus, to a school in Kumily (which is where the family home was) and I took Eju to school with me. I told people he was my baby and his father worked a long ways away. I got a job dancing in shows for resort guests to help feed my baby and pay the bills. My father and brother Shyam played music at the resort, so they also played the music while my Uncle Cebe and me danced in the traditional Kerala style. My mother watched Eju while we performed.”

I interrupted Shyni’s story to ask, “Wasn’t it difficult to go to school, study, take care of a child and dance every evening? How could you manage?”

“Oh, I was often very tired, but I loved my life. I always wanted to be a mother so it was easy to take care of Eju. I loved being with my father and brother while they played music. It was difficult but I just did what I had to do. I could not quit school; I needed to have life out of the poverty that was too common in India. So I put up with it all. Until my father died, that is when I quit dancing and went to Delhi to work. Then my whole family needed money and Delhi was the only place I could earn good pay.”

I was blown away and my eyes were filled with tears. “Wow Shyni, I did not realize. You could have told me that Eju was your son. I can love both of you.”

“I did not know how you would take it. I wasn’t sure if you would understand. I felt I could tell you later and it would be okay.” Shyni said with a little bit of worry in her voice.

“It is okay. I love you and I am happy that we can take him to the States with us…we will be able to take him won’t we? Did you legally adopt him?”

“No. But we can do that if you like.”

“We will probably have to adopt him in order to get him a visa. Will Gopal and Jessie allow this?”

“It will take some time, but I can convince them. Eju does not want them and they don’t really want him either. Eju was so sad on our wedding day. Did you notice? He cried when we were leaving because he thought you were taking me to the USA. He did not understand what a honeymoon was, he thought Honeymoon was a place.”

I felt so happy that it was I who married this woman and not some other foreigner who might have objected. There were so many things in my life, the big things, in complex ways, that always seemed to work out in just the perfect way. I felt like this was one more sign that our marriage was divinely orchestrated and that my new wife Shyni too was moving with the divine flow of life. “Call your mother as soon we get to our resort and tell them we are going to take Eju with us.”

We stopped a couple of times along the way to enjoy the spectacular views. The rivers and valleys and waterfalls were too beautiful to pass by at a quick pace. I held Shyni close as we stood and admired the views. I felt an even deeper sense of connection with her because we were becoming a family. When I was considering taking an Indian wife, I thought it would be nice to find a widow who already had children, because I love children and because I knew a woman with a child would have a harder time finding a husband. I could not imagine taking a wife as young as twenty four like so many of the girls I had met. I did like the idea of having a younger wife, but not at the expense of immaturity. I preferred to have a mature woman even if it meant an older wife. As I held Shyni in my arms I was filled with joy and amazement at how God took so many of my desires into account when he set us up. I got a beautiful young wife who was also a mature woman and a child, this was everything I wanted. And we were getting along very well.

When we arrived at our hotel in Munnar Shyni was again not feeling very well and I needed a walk to stretch my legs after our long drive. She was already used to my routine of taking a morning and evening walk alone so she seemed to be fine with me going for a walk before it got dark. When I returned from my walk however she was not as happy. The hotel staff had questioned her about what she was doing there with me. They wanted to see our wedding certificates, which she showed to them. The man running the hotel did not seem to be impressed but the other two women on the staff began treating Shyni better. I held Shyni in my arms to comfort her and caressed her hair.

Indians have very strange ideas about life and what is appropriate and inappropriate. Actually people in all cultures have this problem, but it is much easier to see it in another culture than it is in your own. However, if you live in a couple of different cultures for a few years, it becomes easy to see the silliness of your own culture as well. I highly recommend that people go and live in a couple of different foreign countries for a few years. It would dramatically help you in your efforts to change your inner programming. If we could only take about one third of the born and raised Americans and transplant them to various third world countries for three years I bet we would see a rapid and dramatic change for the better in the entire world within a few years time. It would change the perspective of so many people who could then be effective agents for worldwide changes.

Shyni had also phoned Chechi (her mother) while I was gone. Chechi was happy to hear from us so soon on our journey. And Eju was very happy to hear about our ideas to take him to the States with us. They were also relieved that I was letting Shyni continue her communication with her family. They wondered how long it would be before they heard from Shyni.

We had a romantic dinner alone together for the first time since I have known Shyni. It was just the two of us, without family, indeed there were no other guests in the dining room at the time we were there. We talked a lot about our lives and our hopes and dreams for our future together and Shyni told me more about the troubles she had protecting Eju from harm.

“After I had been caring for Eju for two months, the president of Gopal’s community called me and she asked me to come to Gopal’s house for a meeting. When I arrived with Eju, Gopal’s cousin Sanu was there along with Gopal, Jessie and this community woman. She talked with us all and told Gopal that he had to pay some money to me for taking care of his baby. Sanu got very angry and picked up a chair, raising it over his head, to smash me with it while I was holding Eju. The community president was a big woman and she caught the chair and stopped him from hitting me. I ran for the door but Sanu caught me and began choking me to try to get me to drop Eju. I nearly passed out but I didn’t drop him so Sanu pushed me out the door. Both Eju and I fell onto the cement porch and got scratched up pretty badly. Gopal just sat there in silence; he said nothing.”

“Oh my God! What did you do?”

“I went back home and never took Eju back there again. But that is not all…Four months later Gopal’s mother and step-father came to visit us. She was being nice and wanted to hold the baby so I let her and I went to the toilet. My mother was there with them so I thought it would be okay. When I came back Gopal’s mother was gone. She had only been at the house for a very short time. I asked Chechi what had happened and she told me Eju’s grandmother gave him some biscuits and then they said they had to go. Very soon Eju started looking sick so we rushed him to the hospital.”

I was in shock. I could hardly believe what I was hearing. “Did they poison him?”

“Yes, Gopal’s mother poisoned Eju.”

“Did they pump out his stomach? Did the test it for poison?”

“Yes, we did have his stomach pumped and they did find that there was poison in the biscuits. They tried to kill him.”

I sat there for a moment with my mind reeling, How could anyone do something like that to a baby? Especially when someone else was taking care of it and not asking for anything. I was feeling mixed emotions. I was very proud that I had such a strong woman as Shyni as my wife and at the same time in shock at how sick some people could be. “Did you go to the police? Did you tell them what had happened?”

“No, we did not want any more trouble from these people. I called Gopal and told him to never come to our house again. I told him to tell the rest of his family to stay away or we would call the police.”

“Did that work, did they stay away?”

“They stayed away until Eju was nearly five. Then Gopal came by with a friend of his. Eju met Gopal at the door and called me. I asked Eju who it was and he said he didn’t know. When I came to the door Gopal had tears in his eyes. I told him I did not want his tears or his drama and sent him away.

“Many months later Gopal came back again. Jessie was staying with us at the time. He said he wanted his wife and child back. My father told me I had no legal right to keep Eju so I should send him back to his father.”

“Oh my God! What did you do?”

“I had to send him back. But I went with them. After two days I could see that Gopal was not acting like a father. He gave no love to Eju. He did not pick Eju up or play with him or hug and kiss him. And Jessie too began ignoring Eju again. So I took Eju with me and left.”

“How long was Jessie living with you at your house?”

“On and off for a year and a half. The longest she stayed with us was eight months.”

“Wow Shyni, you are a strong woman. You don’t ever have to worry about having that kind of drama with me. I will take good care of both you and Eju. Will they give us any trouble adopting him?”

“I can manage them. It will take some time. But we will get the legal papers.”

“After your father died, what did you do with Eju then? That is when you went to Delhi to work as a nurse right?”

“I couldn’t take Eju with me. It would have been too difficult. I had to learn a new language and learn my way around Delhi. I could not trust anybody in a strange city to take care of Eju while I was at work. So my mother took care of Eju while I was gone. I was making good money and saved most of it to send home to take care of the bills my father left behind and to feed my family. I took the train back home a couple of times each year to visit.”

Shyni’s story had me in tears. I was very impressed with Shyni and so thankful that I could be there to help make the rest of her life easier. We enjoyed our dinner together and then went back to our room. Shyni still had a fever and wanted to go to sleep early so we did.

I made no moves to have sex with her because she was still ill. But while we were lying in bed cuddling Shyni told me she was ready and wanted to make love so we did. It was awkward for us at first; more awkward than any other sexual experience I had in the past, but it was the start. It took many months for us to become totally comfortable with our sexual experience together. She had a lot to learn, and I learned some new things too.

Now I can honestly say that Shyni is the best sexual partner I have ever had. Although there are many reasons for this, I believe one of the biggest reasons is that we are both totally committed without any thought or desire for anyone else. That is not something I can say about my past relationships. In the past there was always a desire in the back of my mind for other sexual experiences with other women. In my younger years I thought it was natural and normal for a young man to have strong sexual urges and desire for multiple sexual partners. Now I am certain that energy tainted my past relationships and made them less than they could have been. By the time I had married Shyni too much had happened in my life, good times and painful times, things that got me ready for this woman and the commitment she had to be totally faithful to her husband. So faithful that she waited thirty years without sharing so much as a kiss with another man. I don’t mean this to be critical in any way of anybody else; I am just presenting our experience.

We thoroughly enjoyed the rest of our honeymoon together, but there were some challenges. We stayed two nights at this hotel which was higher up in the mountains than the village of Munnar. There was a lake and dam and tea plantations to explore. We stayed two more nights in the village of Munnar where Shyni was very ill and we had to call a doctor to our home-stay room to examin her and give her medication. While there we enjoyed a paddle boat ride on a river; I did all of the peddling since Shyni was not feeling well. Then we went down to a village called Kumarakom near the coast, not too far from Cochin. Shyni felt much better there because the climate was hot. Munnar was five thousand feet high and quite cold at night, and even cool during the day. We stayed three nights in a home-stay right on a canal and took a motor boat cruise of the canals while we were there. We also drove around and enjoyed all of the beautiful natural sights of the area.

Shyni stayed in touch with her family the whole time we were on our honeymoon. While we were in Kumarakom she got the disturbing news that Gopal had beat his wife Jessie. Because of that, and because I wanted to get back to work writing my book Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story, we cut our honeymoon short by a few days. We had one more costal city we were going to visit but decided to return to Kumily instead.

Karma Changes People

Because I have reported some pretty horrible things about Shyni’s relatives in this story I wish to balance it out by saying something else about these people. It is nearly three years later and during this time Life has had quite an impact on them. Jessie and Gopal have stayed with us for many days and nights on many occasions. We did legally adopt Eju and their second child Geethu has also come under our care. Geethu wants us to adopt her too and Jessie and Gopal have consented. Jessie is not without fault in their fights; indeed she has a very big mouth, can be quite mean, and does not know when to shut up. She talks constantly, and I do mean constantly. Once my brother pulled the circuit breaker in our house so Jessie would think we had a power outage and go to sleep. It worked and she stopped talking.

Jessie and Gopal are getting along a lot better now as a result of so many things, including the influence that Shyni and I have had on them. Shyni’s mother Chechi is taking care of the kids since we have no visa’s for them yet. Jessie and Gopal are helping out and have become very responsible. The kids deny that Jessie and Gopal are their parents, treats them like servants, insults them any time they screw up, and tries to show them the correct way to care for children. Otherwise both kids are strong loving and competent beings. Eju has won a few singing competitions and at age twelve has become quite the entrepreneur starting a few of his own side businesses. Geethu has been the top student of her class in both kindergarten and first grades. I keep telling Shyni to talk to the kids about respecting their birth parents, but we don’t have that much control from here. I don’t speak their language yet and the kid’s English is not real good either. So Jessie and Gopal are being given some very hard lessons and they are changing.

The second husband of Gopal’s mother died recently and her stepchildren kicked her out of her husband’s home. This is the woman who poisoned Eju as a baby. Gopal’s father, which is her first husband, lives with Jessie and Gopal and will not have her back. So Gopal can’t care for his own mother who faces being homeless. She is not homeless however, because she is now living with Shyni’s mother Chechi, Eju and Geethu. Eju is loving his grandmother who tried to kill him early in his life. She has to live with what she did on a daily basis. Her vial deeds were returned with love.

It is funny how Eju’s life and existence has influenced these people who were so desperate for money when he was born and so ready to kill him because they thought he would be a burden in their lives. When Eju was two years old he played Tabla with his grandfather at the Spice Village Resort and earned Rs. 100 for his performance, a day’s wage for an Indian man. Just the other day the family needed food yet Chechi and Gopal both were out of money. We normally give them money but the ATM card they were using was stolen and the new one has not yet arrived. So twelve year old Eju told Chechi that he would go and do some work so they could eat. He went out and returned only a couple of hours later with Rs. 600 (for installing a home theater); this is a week’s wage for an Indian man. They all ate that evening and for many more days because of the baby they wanted to kill. Life has its ways of teaching us what we need to learn.

Stay tuned for the next installment – Stranded in India

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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What can we do to stop the brutal killings and acts of unspeakable horror that continue to infect this planet…acts that are happening to someone somewhere even on this very day? Today I received a request from a friend to add more friends for her somewhat new MySpace page. She is trying to stop the brutality and insane killings in Iran. Her page made me sick with grief , but it is a worthy cause indeed, and one we must all take up in the name of Love.

Please sign this petition through this website, her MySpace friend name is: www.stopchildexecutions.com ~ GrassRootSaviors

A SPECIAL NOTE TO FUNDAMENTALIST CHRISTIANS, MUSLIMS and OTHERS OF FUNDAMENTALIST RELIGIONS…INCLUDING FUNDAMENTALIST ATHEISTS…YOU have the greatest chance to make this world a better place…Please read further down for this note written specifically for you…

Sometimes when I see such things I think US President Bush is right in going to war with the Middle East…of course I know it is not the best we can do. And I also know that the majority of what Bush is doing is self-serving and insane, but it does make me feel sick and angry and want to kick some butt when I see such things are still going on in the world. We must all transcend these feelings and move onto a more productive place in our hearts and minds if we ever want to see real change take place on this planet.

Is this our karma to watch this in helplessness? Yes and no…Yes, whenever we spread our own anger. Yes, whenever we spread hatred and separation. Yes, when we look at someone else in judgment and criticize. Yes, when we think and act like we are better than someone else.

Is this our karma to watch this in helplessness? Yes and no…NO, because we have a chance to do something about this. NO, because we are creative beings. NO, because our minds are powerful tools of creation. NO, because our prayers are powerful tools that have been proven to work time and time again. Many studies have been done. We have seen many reports and even books that detail the demonstrations of the power that creative visualization and prayer has in healing violence and illness. The proof is out there, seek and you will find it…better yet give it a real try and discover this truth for yourself!

Pray for these murders that they find peace and love within their own hearts. Pray that the light of awareness shines within their minds and that they become aware of what their thoughts and actions are doing to us all, and ultimately to themselves. You can stop reading now to take a moment to do exactly that…and then make this a daily habit, include this in your daily practice of prayer and meditation.

When Jesus was dying on the cross he asked God to, “Forgive them for they know not what they do.” If one of the most powerful masters on the planet thought and prayed that way, then perhaps this is what we all should do too. And if we really and truly think this way, and are sincere in our prayers, then let our actions towards all others reflect these thoughts and prayers of forgiveness.

We need real solutions to these very real problems. We are each of us gods and ultimately it will be us that will answer our own prayers. Thus I ask you to start with yourselves and get to work on healing these issues of separation in your own lives. Otherwise you have nothing of real value to offer the planet and will only continue to hold us all back in the mass evolution we desire.

A SPECIAL NOTE TO FUNDAMENTILIST CHRISTIANS, MUSLIMS and OTHERS OF FUNDAMENTALIST RELIGIONS…INCLUDING FUNDAMENTILIST ATHIESTS…YOU have the greatest chance to make this world a better place and here is how…

Heal the hatred and separation that lives in your own mind…for this is the hallmark of a FUNDAMENTILIST! Stop preaching things that cause others to hate. Stop reacting in hate to those with different points of view. Start looking for a way to join together with all others in creating peace and harmony on the planet. If you are feeling bad, look at your own mind and thoughts, they are the cause of your pain and suffering, not other people. STOP BLAMING OTHERS! Shift your own thinking until you do feel better. Then you will be on track and joining the Whole that we all know of as God.

Here are examples of the kinds of things I speak of:

*Judging and hating others because of prostitution or displays of nudity or sexual content.

*Judging and hating others because of drug use.

*Judging and hating others because they speak of channeling, psychics, or teach about other God like humans than the one your religion worships.

*Judging and hating others because they are murders, rapists, or child molesters.

*Judging and hating others because they are Fundamentalist Christians or Muslims or of other Religions or from other countries.

It is this sort of thinking that crucified Christ. When you judge and hate you are the ones responsible for the violence and killings because you support it with your energy. You must stop this if peace is to prevail on the planet. You are the biggest weak link in the chain of peace when you are in judgment and hatred of others, no matter how justified you feel.

SOLUTIONS

For more practical solutions to these problems please read the following blogs, comment and take the lessons into your own heart such that you become a part of the solution and stop being a part of the problem…

*Healing the World Using Law of Attraction
*International World Government
*Crime and Punishment…Both are Insane!
*Reprogramming Yourself

Who else needs support? Start your comment with “HELP ***” in all caps so that your comment stands out for those who are reading looking for others to support.

Who else has support to offer? Start your comment with “SUPPORT ***” in all caps so that your comment stands out as an offer of support…many of my friends and blog readers are very enlightened people, they can offer you awesome support in healing yourselves.

If you have a blog or other resource that is of value and related to solving the problems of violence and hatred and brutality in the world, please post a link to it or mention it. If you email me I can turn HTML on for you and your comment, or post it myself as a reply to your comments. I am thinking about things like world meditations timed for a specific date and time, or awesome peace inspiring videos, etc…

PLEASE TELL OTHERS ABOUT my Healing the World Using Law of Attraction BLOG…let’s work together to raise awareness of how to solve these worldwide problems.

Namasté
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Are miracles that are reported throughout history true? Or are they just the hopeful fantasies of silly superstitious people? I say, for the most part, they are true and I will tell you why further down…

When Jesus performed his miracle of the loaves and fishes before the great crowds that came to hear him speak what was the first thing that he did? FIRST He gave thanks, second he broke the bread and fishes, and third he instructed his disciples to distribute them to the crowds. Jesus gave thanks even before the miracle had occurred. Gratitude is a very powerful tool for creating. You cannot just give lip service, or mental service to gratitude, for when gratitude is done properly it is ALWAYS followed by a very good feeling that we refer to as gratitude. This feeling often moves us to tears…that is how powerful this feeling is.

I am often moved to tears by the responses of my friends on MySpace and here on my blog. THANK YOU FOR YOUR LOVE!!! Some of my friends send me their gratitude for the work they see me doing. This brings tears to my eyes. Some of my friends have asked for my help to get them through some difficult situation. Once I have finished composing my email response to them, I am filled with intense gratitude because helping people is the biggest goal that I have for my life…more tears, even before I receive a grateful response back.

It is our emotions that tell us when our thoughts are on target. If we are feeling bad, we have separated ourselves from God, we have separated ourselves from our own higher power, from our source of energetic sustenance. But when we feel good, we are on target, we are connected with God, we are receiving our intuition, we are on our path in life heading where we ultimately want to be heading. And do not confuse this with the path that others, such as our family or our society, want us to go, this path I am referring to is the path that we have chosen along with the higher aspects of ourselves that is in direct communication with God.

I have experienced MANY miracles in my life. First let me say, that a miracle is just an event in life that we do not understand. All miracles occur according to spiritual law and coming into alignment with spiritual law. But for the most part we don’t understand these laws and so it seems like there has been some sort of divine intervention. There is no intervention, we are divine, we have only forgotten this fact and happened to stumble unknowingly upon the right thoughts and actions to receive our miracle. (Even if I word things otherwise, which I sometimes do, it is only so that what I am saying can be easily understood or accepted by others…other masters do the same…but they too know this fact I just stated.)

The more you practice the more you will understand Spiritual Law. Taking an active role by studying the teachings of great masters is the best place to start…but you still have to do the work, do the practice. You must come to understand the relationship between your thoughts and your feelings and the results you receive…including both the inner changes in your personality as well as the outer world changes that become manifest in your experience.

There was a time that I thought these reported miracles were a myth, a fantasy, the delusions of some superstitious people. But I no longer brush reports of miracles off so easily. I have had two major physical healing miracles in my life, and many minor ones too. The first major one is detailed in my book, Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story. The second one is detailed in a book that is just about to be published by another author called Living the Law of Attraction. Details about that book can be found at this website: http://livingtheloa.com

I live an amazing life…I know some of you who have read my bulletins and blogs might think I have a lot of dramas, that is true I do, but for every drama I have about ten things that are going so very very well. And those dramas I am also calling to myself by deliberately asking God to heal me of the last of my issues with judgment, anger, and criticism. I have been saving the best stories of amazing coincidences and miracles for my books. These experiences I have had, and deliberately call to myself, are due to the spiritual laws that I do understand…and GRATTITUDE is at the TOP of the list when it comes to POWERFUL ways to use the mind.

Be sure to remember to take ten minutes to remember everything you are grateful for. Actually this is a good practice to do every day. You too would experience many miracles if you did this ten minute practice every day. Guaranteed!

Love and Blessings to all,

Michael Skowronski

Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story
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I received the following question from one of my blog readers…
“Do you think that we are put on this earth to reproduce certain children or for another purpose and when that is done and over with that God takes us back with him or on to something better?”

My answer is as follows…

There are many reasons that we incarnate into physical form. The first and foremost reason that we take our first incarnation, is so that we can know ourselves as an individual soul amongst all of God’s creations. We still retain our oneness with God and All That Is but we gain an individuated experience, one of comparison of us to all of the rest. The sum total of all of our individual experiences is what makes us unique and what forms the boundaries that seemingly separate us from others. God is made up of all of these individual experiences of Herself and so much more.

This is a game for God, entertainment, something to do with Her creativity and with eternity. This is a way for God to experience Himself. As a single being, which ultimately God is, God has nothing to compare Herself to. But as the myriad of multiple beings, God can choose a single perspective and experience Himself in relationship to the rest of creation. The individual soul is the storage place for those experiences. The multiple souls are the many different perspectives from which God can know Herself.

My late wife Kathryn, the one in my book, died in 1998. She has reincarnated as the daughter (Geethu) of my wife’s sister (born in June 2002). We have all but adopted her legally and have promised to do so as soon as we can. When I was first told this by two different psychics in India I was surprised…but as I consider all of Geethu’s personality traits they are just like Kathryn. It does feel like this is accurate to me.

We do not leave this life until we are ready. You as an ego being may not be aware of your readiness but your soul is…and many people are consciously aware of it. If you choose, you can develop your awareness to the extent that you are consciously aware and even though you may not tell others you will know when you are ready to go.

We hit a state of completion, a state where we have done what we came to do, and it is more than one thing, much more. This body, this ego, is capable of only so much. To have other experiences, we need a different body and a different ego. Have you ever marveled at children and what they can do? Have you ever wished you were born when they were with the resources they have and imagined what more you could do? That is it! WE ARE THE CREATORS OF OUR LIFE AND EXPERIENCE…desire is the way we create.

Read Neale Donald Walsh’s book “Home with God: In a Life that Never Ends” IT WILL BLOW YOU AWAY! I know from my own personal peaks behind the vail that life is FAR BIGGER than we can ever imagine. And I do believe that Neale gets it right at least 98% of the time.

We definitely came here with MANY purposes. Not just one. So do not limit Life in that way.

Love and blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Normally I don’t refer to the Bible much. But the Parable of the Wedding Banquet from Mathew 22 in the Bible is so appropriate and has been a well-understood and experienced parable for me, especially lately. I posted a blog titled Truth vs. the Bible and I received a lot of traffic. It was a pretty hot topic. I got a lot of support for what I wrote from my friends who have been open and drinking in spiritual lessons and applying them and getting results in the form of an improved quality of life. And I got a few emails from others who found the blog posting and angrily replied calling me Satan or one of his followers.

There are a lot of crazy people out in the world. Too many of them settle into religion and blindly believe what is fed to them by their parents and ministers. They seem to be the sort of people who love the idea that they are forgiven and attempt to merrily skip through life doing as they please, judging and hating as they go, and since they have accepted Jesus as their savior or since they have done the ritual of confession, feel that there is no further consequence to their thoughts or actions.

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Here is the first part of this revelation about Karma and Cosmology

The word karma is often used to explain why bad things happen, saying it is due to something bad one did in a prior lifetime or even earlier in this one. But karma is much more than that. As we spend time in this physical dimension of Life we develop our personalities. Our subconscious mind is formed by this development and causes the automatic reactions we have to certain events and ideas. Our karma is intimately linked to our personality and subconscious mind. Karma is our point of attraction based on the energy caused by the shape of our personality and thought patterns held in our subconscious mind.

It works like this, if you hold a lot of judgment in your mind, then your karma will attract people and situations for you to judge. If you are focused on money, making it, saving it, investing it, putting it to work, then opportunities to work with money in these ways are sure to be in your face all of the time. If you are focused on how beautiful life is, how grateful you are to have such abundance, how everything seems to work out in perfect timing then life will happen that way for you.

In terms of the lifespan of a single ego-being, what keeps you here is your karma. If you, your soul, is not finished with this physical experience then it sticks around. If your soul is finished with its desires for this lifetime, or gone as far as your present personality is capable of going it will orchestrate your death. It may even be that your soul needs to experience an early death, an accident or being murdered. Evolved beings know when their time is near, or even desire or long to pass on. Often they are capable of leaving consciously, without a disease or accident to make it happen.

You need to come to a perspective that you are not just this body, this ego-being, that you experience in this limited life experience. You are this ongoing life that has already been eternally at it and will continue to be at it forever more. When you adopt this perspective then it will be much easier for you to handle the little disappointments of life that seem so big in the moment they are occurring. You will remember that now is the only moment that matters so you must make the best of it. You will also be able to see how your karma and personality and subconscious are all shaped by the choices you make and the thoughts you think thus defining what you are attracting and capable of responding to in your future moments.

When you die, you simply leave this body behind. The personality remains exactly where it has always been, in the eternal bosom of God. Your awareness does not change. If you were unaware, then you remain unaware in the afterlife until your next incarnation where you have the chance to evolve some more. In such a case you will be in a heaven or hell of your own making. If you were a nice person, but unaware, you will continue to experience a nice life. If you were a miserable person, but unaware, you will continue to experience a miserable life. Once we evolve in the physical dimension far enough to have some conscious control over our psychic (emotional) and noetic (mental) bodies then we will also have that same control once we leave our bodies. And then our personalities can also evolve while in the afterlife experience.

This is really a rather simplistic description of a very complex topic. I could go on but these are the essentials that explain why it is so important to be proactive about reprogramming your personality. Your personality is the only thing that you carry with you from life to life. This is what Jesus meant when he cautioned us against storing up our treasures on earth, where dust and rust and moth corrupt. Where time and thieves can steal your wealth. Instead store up your treasures in heaven, in the Kingdom of God, which is your personality.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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