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Are you aware that there are many people who see right through you? No? Okay, so look around the room; make sure no one is looking over your shoulder. Yes, I am writing this to you. Directly to you, the one who is reading this right now.

How does it make you feel to contemplate the fact that you are transparent? Does it push against your right to privacy? Do you believe your thoughts and intentions are private? You don’t have something to hide…or do you?

This is not a joke. This is real folks. There are plenty of people who can see right through you, right now. There are probably a few of them in your life. If that thought makes you just a little bit uncomfortable then you would benefit greatly from the information contained in this and my other blogs.

There are two ways in which this occurs. The first way is that we all give off many clues to our inner state and thinking through our words and actions. The second way is that some people are that psychic that they can read you clearly without even looking at you or ever having met you before.

Psychics are Watching You

Whoooooh…okay you caught me…I was intentionally trying to give you the heebeegeebees, there are no psychics watching you, not to my knowledge anyway. But through the course of your day, and probably nestled somewhere in your life are people who know if you are up to no good or not. They know if you have something to contribute or if you are just there for the taking. They know if you intend harm or love.

In my early thirties, even though I had already had a few psychic experiences myself, I was relatively unaware and skeptical about this side of life. That was until I met my late wife. We spent seven years together before she died in 1998 of cancer. There were so many experiences where she accurately read my mind and intentions, as well as the intentions of other people. I say she read me and others accurately because I was there. I knew what was what; I knew what I was hiding and what I was not facing. I would later get confirmation about the other people. We also studied with multiple spiritual masters who in great detail described the personality of people in our lives that they never met.

Stories of these times and what we learned can be found in my book Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story.

As I continued to study, practice and grow I too developed these abilities. Not to the same remarkable level as others I have known, but enough to amaze myself. And enough to give me a distinct edge in walking though life safely and in peace. I use my psychic abilities daily to make choices. My feelings are an indispensible guide that have lead me into an unforgettable life.

Your Words and Actions Expose You

Too many people look at the actions of others and then jump to incorrect conclusions. I know just how easy that is to do from personal experience. That comes from a negative, frightened or watchful place inside that is trying to protect us. A common example of this is when someone sees a woman flirting or in some way being sexual and labels her a sinner or lowlife whore.

Okay so we know that plenty of people jump to incorrect conclusion and are judgmental, but don’t let that discount the fact that people can read us by our words and actions. That would be a mistake. Given enough time the results of your words and actions will speak for you and about you. People who are paying attention will notice. Okay so not too many people are paying attention right? Sad but true, that is indeed right. But still, there are some people who are paying attention and they do notice.

One of the well known things about life is that we develop habits of behavior through repetition. (Psychologists, hypnotherapists, marketers all know this.) When a person begins to lie, and each time he continues, he reinforces the behavior until it becomes a habit. Soon lies slip out everywhere and they are noticed. If a person develops a habit of judging others, even if it is in the privacy of their own mind, soon the judgments will slip out in the form of words. The habit of thought becomes too strong and then the judgments are being spoken. And if others reinforce the same insane mental activity of being judgmental, then the words become actions.

Maybe while talking with you, face to face, a person is nice. But when they tell you about what happened between them and an ex-friend, they tell you heaps about themselves. The way they talk about another person exposes the habits of thought they hold. These thoughts were thought about enough by that person that they came out in words. People say, “Oh sorry, I don’t know why I said that.” But in truth they said it because they have thought it many times. It is very rare that a person says something that they have never thought about before. And those are the times that our divine nature is more clearly expressing itself through us. Not when we say something mean or stupid.

So when I watch someone stab another in the back, I wonder when they will do that to me. I know they have no respect for others, and no respect for themselves. If they try to explain how the other person deserved it then I know that they think some people are worthy and others are not, and that they don’t really know where their inherent worth comes from. They don’t know how their thoughts affect their future. In essence they don’t know the most important things a person should know about life. When someone complains to me that I have done such and such to them, yet I know that I have not, then I begin to wonder how many people they have done such and such to. People who complain about others are most often trying to shift the focus from themselves and onto others. In reality they are pointing out their own character defects.

An Example

A real life example of this was a friend who came to me to tell me about how her brother was lying about her and accusing her of cheating in a joint real-estate deal they had going. He made a very emotional scene in front of other family members. I asked her if she was trying to cheat and she said no. I then told her, “It is he who was trying to cheat you. I suspect this because of his emotional reaction. A person reacts strongly when they are out of control. When they are out of control they fall back on their programming, their repeated thoughts and behaviors. Your brother could only see that you were cheating him because in his world everyone cheats. Everyone includes himself.”

My friend replied, “Well that is interesting because that is the reason why I came to talk to you. I was about to sign some final papers to close out our dealings and we each were going to take our share. When I saw the numbers I looked at the original contract and he had modified it so that he would get a larger share in the property than he should.”

This point bears repetition…A person reacts strongly when they are out of control. When they are out of control they fall back on their programming, they repeat their thoughts and behaviors from previous experiences. This will tell you about who they are and it has no reflection upon you…unless you of course feel a strong attraction to hanging around with this particular person.

One of the reasons people can’t read things clearly is because their desires get in the way. You want or think you need something so badly that you are willing to look past the obvious and keep heading towards your goal. You become willing to believe someone’s words when their actions or prior words already communicated their true intentions. But if you think about it carefully you will know that you have known fact from fiction, many times in the past. Start paying attention and you will begin to understand when you are correct and when you are projecting your fears and worries on a situation.

What to do about it? I say you should be proactive and face your fears. Dive in and begin to deal with the places in life that you are not authentic. Your personality is your greatest asset. The quality of it determines what you will attract to yourself, the level of health you experience in the body, and the peace of mind that you experience. Put in the effort, pay attention to your thoughts, think only thoughts that make you feel good and your actions will flow from there. Make a loving harmonious outcome the intention you approach all of life with.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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I had a friend ask…

“Why is it when it’s on ’God’s time’ it seems that nothing is happening? At least nothing good.”

We are the ones to label things good or bad. There is no such thing as an absolute good or bad, life just is, and it is eternal. That which you are, always has been and always will be.

When people talk about God’s time what they are saying is that the specific things they want sometimes, oftentimes, or even most of the time, takes time…too much time for their taste so they call this God’s time. But these people are missing a key piece.

We always get what we want eventually…or our desires change due to the circumstances in our lives that help us clarify our goals and desires. The reason this is so is that we are all endowed with the creative aspect of God. We are co-creators with God.

The problem is with us. We don’t understand how to use our creative energy and we don’t even understand who we are. So the time it takes for us to create something we desire is the time it takes for us to learn how to create it, how to recognize it when it comes and how to stop blocking it when comes.

Let’s take relationships as an example. There are many people who want a really good juicy relationship. They want the right size, shape and attractiveness. They want the right income level, the right sort of disposition such as kindness or toughness, the right common interests, etc… But too often there is neediness mixed in with these desires. They need someone who will help pay the bills that overwhelm them, or they need someone who will be a good father to the child they already have, or they need someone who will make them feel special and important and loved.

This is not how life works, things and people don’t come to you based on your desperate needs. Like attracts like, dysfunctional people attract dysfunctional people, functional people attract functional people. You might say, “How insulting, I am a really nice woman and my last relationship was with an abusive man.” But I would say that although you might be a nice woman in one or two ways, you are still dysfunctional…you don’t believe you are worthy, or you don’t know how to stand up for yourself, or you don’t know how to tell the difference between a kind and loving person and a person who is abusive, or you don’t know that it takes abusive people a very long time to change and you are trying to change them, or that it takes a lot to get them to want to change, you don’t understand many things that you will learn from your painful relationship experience.

This learning happens in God’s time. Once you have learned all of these things, once you are the kind of person you want in your life, then you will have that sort of person in your life. The same is true with money, health, adventure.

This is why it is essential to be proactive in your efforts to grow. The more you grow, the more you become aware, the more you clear out the misunderstandings you hold about life, the greater the things you attract to yourself will be.

“Then why is it that I see so many screwed up people with good jobs, lots of money, and crazy women with such hot looking men?”

When we look at the surface of other people’s lives they can look really good and appealing. But you don’t know what lies below the surface. If they are indeed screwed up and crazy, then their real life will also be screwed up and crazy. One day they will get so messed up on drugs or too indebt or fool around one too many times that their whole world comes crashing down. They won’t know how to handle it either. Also they cannot really even appreciate the good life they have, because things are ultimately meaningless. If they stop for two minutes with nothing to do they will go crazy because their inner world is crazy. They need to keep forever busy to distract them from their craziness.

If you really understood the people you look at, if you knew their innermost thoughts and desires, you would see that what they have is a perfect match to their vibration. What they have matches their desires and it is teaching them the lessons they need to learn to move on to other unfulfilled desires they hold.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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The greatest difficulty with understanding how our minds create stem from the narrow focus we hold on our single physical life. We are much more than this ego person in this body in this single physical lifetime. We are eternal beings whose lives have always been and always will be. Eternity is a very long time. No matter what occurs in a single lifetime it cannot affect who we really and truly are. Losing an arm or one’s eyesight is nothing for a soul that is immortal and perfect. For such a being how could there ever be fear or worry or doubt?

So we setup a game, one in which we forget who we are for what seems to be a very long time. Although time does not really exist we have created the illusion that time is real by a sequencing of events and a space in which these events leave their mark and maintain a continuity. The net result is a seemingly real existence where it seems that we can indeed be harmed…the mark is left and the continuity is maintained. The physical dimension is a place where we can experience and feel fear, something that cannot happen in our pure pristine state as God. Because a small piece of God isolates Itself in a human form and perspective, it can experience the rest of God as separate, vast, and powerful. Because God isolates many parts of Itself into many human forms, God gets many different perspectives to experience Itself form. This also gives God the chance to have many other beings to interact with relieving what must be the ultimate in loneliness.

Once we enter this dimension we take on a boundary that seemingly separates us, or delineates us, from the rest of God. This boundary is maintained by our own unique and individual experiences in the worlds of time and space. This boundary is our personality, which we continuously develop and fine tune over many lifetimes. Desires are born from the seeming lack that exists within any given moment and place; these desires draw life-force energy through us and anchor us in the movement through time and space.

In this playground of creativity we have many physical bodies which we call lifetimes or incarnations. When we start out we are a new soul, have forgotten everything about who we are and have a clean personality barren of any sort of habit or skill. When we complete our cycles of incarnation into physical form, we are a mature old soul, we remember fully who we are, we have a well developed personality which has the habits and skills of a master. There are many stages we pass through during our evolution; infancy, childhood, adolescence, young adult, maturity, and old age. This is why you can find old men who behave like a naughty child and a young child that behaves like a mature adult.

From the perspective of our Oversoul we chose the circumstantial setup of our lifetime. These are the broad brush strokes that paint the background of our life. They include people, places and the type of body that we inhabit.

Once in the body every thought we think, every action we take causes us to develop habits of thought and action. These habits of thought are the only thing that we carry forward with us from lifetime to lifetime. The habits of the body die with the body, but are easier to develop in succeeding lifetimes due to the habit of thought that came with the habit of body. These habits of thought are the personality traits that form the boundary that define who we are as a separate being from the rest of God.

There are consequences to our thoughts and actions which includes our feelings too. As a young and immature soul these consequences and feelings are difficult to relate to our thoughts and more easy to relate to our actions and outer circumstances. As a mature soul we come to realize that our thoughts are at the core of all of our actions and feelings. We also come to realize that we can even manipulate outer circumstances, including the actions of others by the way we think.

Our thoughts form permanent elementals in the psychic world which gain strength and energy with repetition of those thoughts and loose strength and energy by the lack of such thoughts. Elementals are Thought Forms. These elementals are the basis of what we call our energy and our habits of thought. These elementals repel certain people and events and attract others. With enough focus these elementals can even take on physical form. These elementals return to us frequently for a refresh of energy, and we feed them each time we think in the way that we created them. How much we feed them depends upon the length of time we give them our mental focus and how steady that focus is. Thus they seem to have a life of their own and they seem to control us when they return to us for a feeding. We can deplete elementals of their strength and energy by not thinking about them and giving our thoughts and energy to other more desirable elementals.

When we die we shed our physical bodies and live in our psychic and mental bodies. These elementals still exist there. They still influence us, cause us to think in predictable and habitual ways, and create the reality that we perceive in the psychic realm. As an immature soul, we have no understanding of these elementals; we believe them to be of a reality beyond our control. Thus we have either a hellish experience or a heavenly one based on the nature of these elementals, and the thoughts they compel us to think. This is one of the reasons so many young souls insist that there is a heaven or hell while in the physical world because this is what they have experienced. As a mature soul we gain control over these elementals and can deactivate them and create more desirable elementals. As a mature soul we can easily escape any hellish elementals and create heavenly ones even while we exist only in our psychic and mental bodies. This is why mature souls insist that life is what you make it while in the physical world because this is what they have experienced. If you have not gained control over your mind in the physical plane, you will not have control of it in the psychic or mental planes after you die.

At the highest level of our individual being is that which I call our Oversoul. Along with the Masters of Karma, or the Holy Spirit, or God, depending on how you choose to label that level of creation, our Oversoul helps our soul in its evolution. Our Oversoul with the Masters of Karma selects the circumstances of our next incarnation including physical bodies that are prone to illness or health, physical living locations which may contain pollutants that cause illness or a clean and natural environment, and kind loving people or abusive predators as relatives, friends, teachers, doctors, lawyers and other professional people we might encounter in our lifetime. Our Oversouls choose such circumstances in order to have experiences that are impossible to have as an unlimited and immortal being. Our Oversoul also chooses such experiences so that we can learn and correct our mistakes in thought and create elementals that support us in gaining that which we desire. The unfulfilled desires we form in our physical lifetimes are also taken into account in the setup of incarnational circumstances. Ultimately all of our desires will be fulfilled in some way over the course of our many incarnations.

For example if in a lifetime we desired wealth and created it at the expense of others our Oversoul would create circumstances for the soul to understand how it feels to be subjugated by another and used to create wealth for someone other than self. Then in another lifetime the Oversoul may create a lifetime where wealth is inherited, while peace and happiness may be kept at arm’s length for the soul to learn that wealth is not the source of happiness. If in a lifetime a soul created extreme pollution as an industrial leader, the Oversoul would create life circumstances where the soul must live in a polluted environment which would cause physical discomforts and diseases. If in a lifetime where sexual appetites were created by a man who forced sex upon his own or other children, or others who were physically weaker than he was, then a lifetime where he is unwillingly forced to meet the sexual appetites of others is created. You will find that in some past eras this was considered natural and normal in certain cultures and in this era it is considered perverted. As many individuals have experienced both sides of this issue humanity as a whole has changed its view on the situation and it is rare to find a culture that supports it. We must realize that we have done many things in our past lifetimes that we would now consider a crime; it is naïve to think otherwise.

From the perspective of the Oversoul evolution and maturity are the goal. The Oversoul wants to bring this separate, individual soul, to full realization of its oneness with God and into full power and access to the creative resources and attributes of God, while it still maintains its own unique beingness as an individual soul. From the perspective of the soul that incarnates in physical, psychic and mental bodies, desires are born, elementals are created, and the personality is formed, all of which lead to consequences and the creation of balancing and fulfilling circumstances by the Oversoul and the Masters of Karma.

To be continued..

Love and Blessings,

Michael Skowronski

Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Searching for Missing People
The Plight of the Boat People of Vietnam

Lat February 26th 2008, we had Terin Taylor on our show…

Join us on for our talk with Terin Taylor about her search for her missing sister and the boat people of Vietnam. Terin Taylor is using her notoriety as a beautiful fashion model to help get the word out about her missing sister and her mission to help others who are looking for lost loved ones. Terin has managed to acquire more than 103000 friends on her MySpace account which gives her a pretty good chance of reaching a lot of people with her message.

The Power of Love

This Tuesday, February 19th 2008, we will have two guests on our show…

HANEEFAH EL-AMIN aka Granny Queen.

When I met this woman on MySpace I went and had a look at her photos. I could see a white hair lady with happy friends and young ones. I felt such a loving energy from her that I dubbed her my Granny Queen. Either I didn’t notice her age, or at the time it said 99 or something like that. I didn’t realize she was only 2 year older than me! LOL…anyway I still think of her as my Loving Granny since she is a very loving lady with lots of energy for reaching out and helping others.

Shyni Skowronski

My other guest is my sweet and loving wife Shyni. I could say more about her, but I have already written many blogs about her, the most recent blog which exemplifies the power of love is The Honeymoon and the Truth about Eju.

It is said that Love conquers all, that Love heals all wounds, and that Love is the answer to all problems. This is true. Between the three of us we will be sharing stories that gives testimony to the Power of Love.

Why is Love so important in transforming the world? Look at all that is happening. Our government has gone fascist and continues to go deeper into this state daily. And pretty much everyone hates 13ush these days. Yet we must remember in the midst of our greatest pain that Love is the Power that will bring us out of our despair. We are not going to transform this world by hating these people, or by clamping down harshly and imposing suffering on more people. We need to bring ourselves to a loving place in order to receive the guidance necessary to successfully transform this world into a peaceful and loving place.

The show of February 12th 2008 Features Mark David Gerson

Mark David Gerson is a spiritual teacher and mentor, creativity coach, artist, sound healer and author of two new books — a visionary novel titled The MoonQuest: A True Fantasy, and The Voice of the Muse: Answering the Call to Write, a book and companion CD for anyone who wants to write, doesn’t believe they can write, is feeling blocked in their creativity, has written forever or is new to writing. His goal in all his work is to help people reawaken experience and express the fullness of their passion and potential.

Besides being a wise man and a healer Mark David loves helping other authors. When I was new to MySpace and just starting to market my book Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story Mark David was very kind and gave me many tips and pointed out some great internet resources for authors.

To learn more about Mark David, what he teaches, and his books please visit his websites:
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Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Ahhh romance that elusive experience that comes and goes. When we have it we think it will last forever, when we dont we worry that it will never come again. It is an experience that so many crave yet have had so little of in their lives.

True romance feels good. It should not frighten you. If it does not feel good to you then you are confusing romance with all the bad things that happens in dysfunctional relationships.

Do you remember how good it feels when you begin falling in love with someone? The intensity of these good feelings come from our connection with our Source, from many spiritual beings, including our own Inner Being, radiating their enthusiasm and excitement that we have found our hearts desire. This is why they are so powerful.

Good feelings always result from being in alignment with the whole of our being and what we have been asking for. If you already have romance in your life, whether it is a new relationship or one that you have had for a while, you are in a very good place. Your dominant vibration is one of great happiness, great joy and great passion.

That means you have an incredible connection with your source. You should understand that this is responsible for many of the other wonderful things that are falling into place in your life right now.

If you dont have romance in your life, but you want it, then you are going to have to bring yourself to that place. You are going to have to romance yourself. You are going to have to treat yourself wonderfully and give yourself love and nurturing and caring and bring yourself into a place of great joy and passion for life.

Who wants to be around a sourpuss? No one. Who wants to be around someone with misery in their life? Very few people want that. If they do want that in their life, do you want them in yours?

So you have to take care of yourself. Look after yourself. Nurture and love yourself, take yourself out to dinner. Buy yourself wonderful things. Look in the mirror and flirt with yourself. Challenge the negative messages others have given you. Find things within you that contradict those negative messages. You need to feel loveable for someone to want to love you and for you to let it in.

If you are in a relationship now and it does not have the romance elements in it that you want or you want more from it, then you are the one who is going to have to create that. You are going to have to make yourself more available for that. You are going to have to treat yourself better so that you are in a better feeling place so that you are more attractive to your partner. And if this does not re-kindle the fire in the heart of your partner it will repel them and attract one that is better suited to who you are now.

Romance is about relationships and getting to know another person. It is about the discovery of your own beauty through the eyes of an attentive other.

Part of what makes it feel good, of what keeps you open to receiving, is your recognition of qualities that you appreciate in this other person. It is your focus on the beauty you find in them.

What makes Romance go bad? When does it stop feeling good and start feeling bad? When you discover and focus on things you do not like in this other person. These bad feelings are an indication that you are focused on something that you do not want. They are an indication that you are pinching off your connection with your life giving, energizing, All Knowing and All Seeing Source.

Does pinching off your Source sound like something you want to do? It is not because you or they have done something bad that you are cut off from your Source. It is your focus on what you do not want the cuts you off from your Source.

This article is NOT intended to address how to deal with the dramatically abusive things that happen in some relationships. If you need that kind of help then please seek appropriate counseling, you can even ask me for help I offer it for free. The concepts addressed here will help, but you will also need help understanding how so many of the ideas that you hold about life keep you from the happiness you seek.

Most relationships suffer from a break down in focus way before any of the more serious problems occur. One event at a time each person notices something they dont like in their partner. Then they focus on it and make it a little bigger.

When you worry about something your partner did or does, and you tell others about how annoying it is, you are focusing your attention on it and you are shifting your vibration so that it matches those same unwanted behaviors. You are actually turning yourself into a magnet for more such experiences.

Not only that but if you are telling others about it you are probably setting up resentments in them towards your partner. So now there are two people holding negative energy towards your partner. Your friend may even begin to distance themselves from you because of the negative energy they perceive that you are making them feel.

Can you see how this would affect you? Can you see how this is not romantic energy you will be feeling, or even open to feeling if you are holding such thoughts in your mind? Can you see how this would affect your partner?

We all respond to our feelings and the feelings we pick up from others much more than we consciously realize. These feelings push and pull us, most dont know why they go where they do, but yet they do go. Your work is to become conscious of the energies at play in your life and romantic relationships give you plenty of chances to generate the widest variety of feelings.

Negativity that you feel towards your partner will be noticed. Most people are not aware enough to turn away from this negativity so you are likely to arouse similar negativities within them or push them away from you if they do not wish to engage in them.

If your partner did something you did not like, of course you will feel bad. But the solution, the answer to the desire that is born from that event, comes from focusing on what you do desire. You dont do battle with the problem, you turn away from it and walk towards what you do want.

One day I was in my girlfriends kitchen preparing a meal (well call her Shelia). I put a skillet on the burner and turned it onto high to preheat it.

Shelia came in and upon seeing the skillet being heated with nothing in it became angry. “You’re going to ruin my pans! Dont do that!” She snapped as she turned the heat off.

I was in a particularly clear space at that point in time and I decided to try turning her anger into love. I focused on many things about her that I loved and appreciated. I focused on some of the nice vacations we had taken together and on the feelings of making love with her.

I said nothing in my defense nor did anything else. Shelia said a few more derogatory words and then left the room. When the meal was ready I went to get her. She then blasted me with a few choice things from our past.

Here is where so many relationships go wrong. As you can see Sheila was still holding on to past issues. There is this accumulation process that most people do when something hurts them, they hang on to it and when other painful events occur at later times those old hurts also come to the foreground and receive focus. Even though I know how destructive this can be, I still catch myself doing it.

Sheila was focusing on what she did not want, not on what she did want. There was only one bad thing that happened yet she multiplied it into at least five other things. Thus increasing the intensity of her bad experience.

What affect would Sheilas actions have had on you? I could feel it draw a very defensive and negative energy out of me. This is a great example of the creation process in action.

I was determined to keep my good feeling state of mind. I reached for better feeling thoughts about Sheila. I realized that she was already annoyed at the kangaroos that were eating the new grass she had just planted. (Of course this happened in Australia.) I knew of other things that had gone bad for her that day too. So I could understand how she got so angry when she discovered the empty skillet I was overheating. These thoughts gave me compassion for her.

In my mind I reminded myself, I am a good partner. I treat her well. I am only trying to make lunch for us both. I have done nothing wrong. All of these thoughts helped me to feel better about myself and remain centered.

Rather than defend myself I said to Sheila, “These things have no bearing on this incident. In fact we have already sorted them out. Please, lets go and enjoy a nice meal together.”

I continued to hold the thoughts of good times with Shelia. It was not even an hour later that the whole energy between us changed. We had a very nice and romantic connection for the rest of the day. Things like this used to cause us many hours or even days of disconnection. I am certain that the shift I made in my energy made the difference in this case.

So often people think that the romance in their life is due to the things they do. I know it is easy to believe this. However, if your actions are not in alignment with your thoughts and feelings then you are only wasting your energy and cutting yourself off from your Source.

There are many books that teach you how to re-kindle the love you once knew. They are full of great techniques and ideas. These are very helpful, but the actions you take must be inspired actions; inspired by the love and appreciation you have for your partner. So keep seeking out those things to admire and appreciate in your partner and in yourself.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story
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Sex does improve with Spiritual Growth! I can attest to that. And I will give you a real life example in just a moment. But first let’s bust a couple of myths, okay?

MYTH 1: Spiritual Growth is a Waste of Time

Anyone on a path of intense spiritual growth knows that very few people want to know about it. Why is that? That is because most people believe that learning about and focusing on spiritual growth is not important; not relevant to paying the bills, or to having friends or someone to love and hold on to.

Dogmatists try to pass morality off as spirituality and it is not. Morality is a manmade social construct. Anyone with eyes to see, and who travels around the world and gets involved with people in other cultures with different ideas and customs of morality can plainly see that morality is manmade and localized. It changes from place to place. And those who are pushing morality the strongest know the least about true spirituality.

Unfortunately those folks give spirituality, sexuality, and religion too, a bad name. Sexuality is not a moral issue. It is a gift of God.

MYTH 2: I Belong to a Religion, I am Growing Spiritually

Pick your teachers well. Many use religious faith as an excuse to remain limited and stuck, don’t do that. I have no knowledge of you or your teachers; I am only speaking from what I have seen. If you are growing spiritually you will see dramatic change, on a regular basis, in your own inner experience and in the outer world as well.

A Good Lover has a One Track Mind

So who is to be the judge of whether a lover is good or not? Well that would have to be the lover of the lover right? Actually it would be both, but you can’t lie to the other. Who will enjoy it the most, the good lover or the one receiving the good luvin? Definitely it will be the one giving that enjoys it the most. And of course if both are giving it their all, then double your pleasure and double your fun right. RIGHT!

If you focus your mind on giving pleasure to your lover, your own pleasure will heighten. Imagine for a moment that your lover is naked on the bed waiting for your touch. You caress them with such awareness. You notice how their bare skin feels against your hands. How the body curves and flows. How the change of texture at hairy and moist spots delights you…even your fingers become curious. Soak it all in like it has been a very long time since you had the pleasure of touching a naked human body. Feel how your chemistry changes. Feel how you can intensify that chemistry with your focus on giving pleasure to your beloved.

See just by thinking about it you felt a sense of pleasure. This is the power of a focused mind. And that power goes beyond the boundaries of your body.

How do you think your lover felt to be touched in that way? If you were really into it, you would touch your lover like this for a long time just to prolong your own pleasure. Yet your lover would feel your pleasure too! Your energy, your passion would be palpable. It would be so hot for them, and their passion would further fuel your passion. You would become like crazy animals, like dogs and rabbits. You couldn’t keep your hands off of each other.

Spiritual Growth Increases the Energy Others Feel Coming from You

The more you evolve as a spiritual human being, the clearer your energy becomes. What that means is that others will feel good around you much more often than they did earlier when you still had some issues to work out. You are much more capable of channeling a powerful loving energy directly from God and others will feel it.

There was a point in my life where I changed from taking energy from a person when I hugged them to giving them energy. I began to realize that I had more to offer and would begin breathing deeply and consciously asking God to channel loving energy through me to them. When that point occurred people began making comments about how good it felt to hug me, especially lovers. Children, animals, strangers and life in general have all responded in a positive way to my increased clarity.

How will your lover respond when love is flowing from you like a river? Spiritual growth is about making that possible.

Conscious use of Mind is the Power of Spiritual Growth

You are not your body, you are not your emotions, and you are not your mind. The real you needs to make a conscious effort to control and use all three bodies; mental, emotional, and physical. And the mental body is the first cause behind changes in the other two bodies.

Okay, so that may be a bit technical, and for the most part, unprovable…but what I am saying is that you are not your mind but need to gain control of your mind. Using sexual performance was a great way for me to grab your attention but your performance in any endeavor will be greatly improved by conscious deliberate focus of attention. By feeling your way through the activity, monitoring your performance, even using the outside eyes and experience of a coach, you can fine tune your performance.

So don’t be slack and let your thoughts and actions drift into unconsciousness. Start where you suffer. Where is it that you are suffering in life? Under what circumstances do you go unconscious and automatically react in a way that you later regret? What buttons do you have that others can push?

Let your feelings be your guide. If it feels good, your thoughts, your actions, are in alignment with the Source of your power. If they feel bad, you are moving away from your Source, away from what you truly want from life.

Feel free to post questions directly in my blogs and I will respond as I can and post them back in my blogs.

Namasté
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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This blog is a response to a friend’s request for help. She has given permission to use her question and my answer in this blog. Here is her question…

“For the past many months my life has being going downhill. I have been trying to save money for a house, but it is not working. I have left two jobs in the past four months; I have even tried to work from home, but still no luck. For past seven years I have been a single parent, left on my own with eight kids. My saving are going down not up! I just turned 46 recently and all of a sudden I had this burning desire for a man to come into my life, to comfort me, and to lift my burden of having to always be on my own. I would like to try and achieve something with someone special in my life, and for it not always to be me working hard and not getting very far. But Michael I am still waiting. I feel so lost and I don’t know what to do, or if I will ever find someone that will be true to me and my kids.”

Here is my answer to my friend and all of you who suffer from similar problems…

I have compassion for you. I understand how it can feel like there is no way out. But there is a way out, and it is all contained in your own mind and thought processes. First I want to echo back what you said with some comments, and then I will get down to suggesting a path of recovery.

“My life has being going downhill.” I expect that is how you think and feel about your life and yet it is NOT the true facts about it. Your life is what you have created, what you have hoped for, asked for, dreamed for, and worried for…yes worried. Our worrisome thoughts are just as creative as our conscious deliberate thoughts, even more so since they run on automatic pilot and often go on and on for hours on end, day after day…and the conscious ones are held for only a few moments at a time, and probably days go by before you remember to dream a creative dream. So you have created this and likewise you can create something else.

“Eight Kids…” Wow you did set yourself up for a challenge! How much help are the kids? How much trouble? With the right resources and training you have yourself a small company! How many of them are up for the challenge of creating an internet business? Or some other sort of business? Just an idea.

“If I will ever find someone that will be true to me and my kids…” That too can be a challenge, most men would run screaming from such a situation…or enjoy you for as long as they can and then leave once it starts getting difficult or serious…but still it is not impossible to attract a man who will help…but having a man to help is not the only way to cope with this situation. So don’t be attached to that idea.

“My saving are going down not up!” That would be a scary picture to look at for almost anyone. You need something positive to be looking at when it comes to finances and this is not it.

“I turned 46 recently.” I hope that does not mean that you believe it is all downhill from here, or “what can possibly be left in my life if I still don’t have a solid relationship?” It is easy to think that way, but that is one of the kinds of thoughts you must catch and stop.

“A man to come into my life, to comfort me,” no one else can truly comfort you. You must learn to comfort yourself. Indeed someone can comfort you for a moment, but it won’t be long before their comfort will cease to sooth you and your worried mind will take over and ruin your life experience once again. They too will become a burden and cease being a comfort.

“And to lift my burden of having to always be on my own.” Someone else cannot lift your burden. Your burden is your worry and your attachment to your desire for something you do not have, not your life circumstances. There is nothing wrong with desire, but
attachment to the where and when and how it will show up will definitely cause you to suffer. Hold desire without attachment.

“And achieve something with someone special in my life.” Having a partner can be nice, or it can be hell…but you want a partner that has strength and courage and honesty and integrity and ability…is that right? Be sure you are clear about what kind of partner you want, and NOT someone who has just been released from jail or who prefers to hang out at the local pub with his mates. If you are clear you won’t waste your time with the wrong sort of bloke and you will know when the right one comes along. If all you want is a little sex and play and touch for a few hours, nothing wrong with that by the way, then be clear about that when it happens and make sure he does not hang around like a lost puppy.

“And for it not always to be me working hard and not getting very far.” When the work is hard, it is because you are swimming upstream. When you stop doing that then it will stop being hard work. You must learn to go with the flow. It may seem like the flow is not taking you where you want, but that is impossible…the flow is always going where you want, it is your vision that is limited. You have not yet learned how to trust Life so you go against it.

“I am still waiting.” Stop waiting and make yourself happy now. Never wait, make yourself happy in each moment. Then with each passing day count the blessings you do have, and the desires that have become manifest. That is much more fun.

“I feel so lost and I don’t know what to do.” Your thoughts are attacking you. You believe something has gone horribly wrong in your life. Make yourself happy. That is what you need to do!

Okay so I have picked apart the things you have written. I hope I did not offend you, that was not my intention. You need to learn how to do this very same thing for yourself. First write out your problem, then go back and read your own words, your own thoughts, and find out what is wrong with them, but more importantly challenge them with thoughts that feel much better.

There are two approaches you can take…1) going after financial resources and a man to help…or 2) going after happiness. If you take approach 1 you will be waiting a long time to be happy. But if you take approach 2 YOU CAN BE HAPPY ANYTIME YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY! And you can still attract the financial resources and a man at the same time. So I suggest approach 2.

To be continued…

Love and Blessings,

Michael Skowronski

Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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This is the second part of this Life Coaching Transcript for Laurie .

Laurie said:

… but there is another piece, that I am more of an introvert in the first place, and have a HUGE creative side to my nature and have been developing my art and photography interests this last year.

Right now this may be the best thing for you to focus on. It sounds like it gives you joy and that you have less resistance in this area. Art is a very healing thing. Bring your energy to a place of great passion, joy and enthusiasm before you begin your work and your images will convey this to your admirers.

If someone asks you a question, if they actually come to you seeking comfort and advice, are you introverted or are you enthusiastic and ready to help? So remain open and let it come to you. When the time is right to make things happen you will be guided.

But most importantly know this… you affect people everyday of your life… people who will never tell you how much you changed their life. With each success you have, with each joyful moment you create within your own mind and feelings, you are adding to the light on the planet. This is a fact! This does affect thousands of people. Your desire to grow and expand draws more life force energy through us all… It has done this for me today.

Laurie said:

And I’ve also discovered another cool possibility for a home business, creating stargazing ceilings for people with a special process available through a company called Starscapes! It is the magic-loving/creative side of me that is REALLY attracted to that, and I’ve sent for their intro kit and sample.

Laurie said:

There are so MANY choices about how to do any one of the things I am interested in! …The other part is, I am genuinely swayed and get enthused about each area of interest as I am exposed to other people who are into the same thing or material I find on the web… most days, by the end of the day I feel dizzy from all my shifts of feeling enthused about one thing after another, and frustrated by my lack of significant momentum toward any one of them!

Some things just do catch my eye and I investigate. But I set time limits on this and I tell myself, “There will always be plenty of choices on offer. When I am ready, there will be some fantastic ground floor opportunity to get into. But right now I am doing what I love and that is teaching.”

See, again it is about reaching for the better feeling thoughts. Because the offers of great wealth feel good we tend to go towards them. This is good, until it feels bad as you described. But there are other things that feel good too, so pick the most important ones to you and make them the priority.

Referring to your hypnosis training you said heaps but I’ll focus on this:

… it involves lots of regression to cause and informed child work plus forgiveness work of others and self, and sometimes parts mediation if necessary due to secondary gain issues. Being an Abe-head, there is something about that that just doesn’t sit right with me

Hypnosis happens all the time… if you listen to Abraham speak he is always using hypnosis. All you need to do is create an altered state in someone and then program them with the tools to get to where they want.

For example…

Can you remember a time when you were hypnotized? Can you remember how being regressed felt and how it brought up all that pain? Go ahead feel that memory of all that pain now. Did it feel good? No, well don’t do that anymore!

How do you feel when you listen to Abraham? Do you feel inspired and passionate? Do you feel the sense of, “Of course this is so easy?” As you remember this feeling… know that you too can create this state in another. Listen carefully to Abraham as he does this. Let the feeling sense of it settle into your being. YOU TOO CAN DO THIS for others! Did you get that?

YOU TOO CAN DO THIS!

They want to feel good. So listen to what they complain about and recognize it is an indication of how important the topic is to them. Tell them how you understand the importance of this issue. You gain immediate rapport when you do this. Create a better feeling image around the important bits. You can do this! Repeat yourself. You can do this. The programming sinks in deeper and deeper as you repeat yourself. You can do this too! You can even do it in writing as I have just been doing with you!

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Do you have too many things to do? Is life pulling at you in all directions? You need to eat, sleep, work, pay the bills, meet the expectations of others… play, do you even have time to play? Well now you can relax because… you will never get it done!

Nearly twenty years ago when I was running my own software business I was working 50 to 60 hours per week on a regular basis because there was just so much to do. I kept thinking when I get this list of things done I can relax. I got more and more stressed out as I watched the weeks and months roll by and the list kept getting bigger not smaller. So I worked harder and longer until one evening I snapped!

Can you relate to this?

I was up working past midnight, as I often did, and I accidentally deleted an entire folder of important software I had written. I picked up the keyboard and slammed it down on the desk. Discovering that I had broken it I screamed obscenities while I pounded it with my fists. I had promised my client this software update in the morning. What was I going to do?

I had been meaning to backup this folder but I kept putting it off until I got another more important task done. Now I had a broken keyboard. I had a very sore throat, wrist and hand. And I lost more than a week of work! I threw myself to the floor in a heap and began to cry.

It’s surprising how much relief and awareness can come from a good cry. It was then and there that I realized I would never get it done. There is a never-ending stream of new and important things to do coming into my life every day and I could never keep up with it. NEVER! So I gave up trying.

Just a short while ago this lesson came back to me in much deeper and profound way when Abraham, a well-respected teacher of mine, told me “You can never get it wrong because you never get it done.” What Abraham was referring to is when we discover something lacking in our life, or something we desire, or something that seems broken, to look at it as one of those things that are just not done yet. And we have all of eternity to get it done!

Think about it. We are eternal beings. We live forever; not in our present body of course (thank God). But we do have one experience after another, one life after another, whether it is here on this planet, another planet, or another dimension. You can read more about my take on God and Spirituality in the article “Many Gods. Conflicting Theories. Who is Right. But for now lets stay focused on why never getting it done is a good thing.)

So if you live forever, do you really want to get it all done today? Don’t you want to save something interesting to do for tomorrow? Or would you rather have it *perfect* right now and for the rest of eternity to continue on unchanged in some state of eternal perfection with nothing left to do? That last options sounds pretty dull and boring to me. I’d rather be dead, permanently dead, dead like there is no dead.

Now that you have considered this new way of viewing your life, can you get excited that you still have important changes you want to make in it? There is no reason to judge yourself because you cannot do something. You still have time to learn how. You can now be patient and wait for something wonderful that you desire to arrive.

Most important of all you can celebrate who you are today and what you have today because it is the culmination of many of the things you wanted yesterday! You are a success! You have grown, you have achieved and you will continue to grow and achieve! Do you realize that the peace of mind this kind of thinking and logic brings to you now will actually open the doors to let more of what you want into your life? The key to success in all areas of your life is to simply find better feeling ways to think about things or better feeling things to focus your attention upon.

Love and Blessings,

Michael Skowronski

Author of Unforgettable: A Story of Love and Spiritual Growth

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Is sexuality spiritual? So many religions and cultures would have you think not. Yet probably most people reading this forum would disagree. The talk is pretty open on it.

From my own personal experience in life I have come to the understanding and wisdom that sexuality is indeed spiritual. In fact all of Life is spiritual, because it all springs forth from spirit. Sexuality is one of our soul’s biggest reasons for incarnating into physical human form.

So why do masters preach abstinence? Why do religions make it taboo? Well, if you are paying attention and reading the vast volume of profound spiritual material that is available these days you will know that masters will speak of both relationships and celibacy as a path to God.

It depends upon the person, what experiences are next for them, the desires of their soul, and the desires of the ego physical human body. If you have a strong desire, you must either fulfill it or discipline it out of yourself. It is easiest if desire is never created, but once it is, it is often easier if it is fulfilled than to try to tame it back and cut it off. And all too often it is the deep desire of the soul which must be fulfilled at some point in time and space.

As a being evolves and has enough experience with their sexual desires over many lifetimes, those desires are fulfilled and celibacy becomes natural. The being learns that the physical relationship is actually depleting compared with what he/she could be doing with that same time and energy. It is not that the pleasure of sexuality is gone; it is still very much enjoyed. But the need for it is gone and there are other goals that require that energy.

You know how when you want something really badly, and it is expensive, you decide you can do without certain things, you can cut back. Even though you like those things, you want this other thing so much more. And what happens is God gives people a taste. An experience of Self-Realization. They get a glimpse and true remembrance of the fact that they are God, they are one with Everything, and that they created Everything. It is so beautiful, and so addicting, that they will give anything to have it.

And so they are motivated to stretch and to reach and to practice. If a person is so lucky, has advanced enough in their personal spiritual growth, they have such an experience. It is the push, the motivation, to reach for that state. The practices become known to them and the effort begins. Thus they have no time or energy for sexuality. It becomes a distraction rather than a pleasure.

This is why abstinence is taught. Abstinence is not meant for those who are not ready for it. But there are plenty of people who do not understand the teachings of the masters and they go about preaching and creating religions with only half understood truths. Also there are too many people who want to know God so badly, they want a taste of divine union so badly, that they think if they imitate the masters, and remain celibate, that they will achieve the same level of awareness quickly. For most this does not happen, they only frustrate themselves, especially when they break their vows.

So it is time to go within, and decide for yourself whether you are meant to fulfill your sexual desires or if you are over it. There is no right or wrong as a rule. Do not let others dictate how appropriate your sexual expression is. There is only right or wrong for you. Feel your feelings, understand the thoughts that are at the root of those feelings, and go with the thoughts and feelings that bring you joy and love. In this way you will bring clarity into your life and your sexuality.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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