Relationship Advice - Spiritual Healing

This is a conversation that occurred in the comment of my blog Evolution of a Soul. It is such an important topic and the debate/discussion brings up many good points that I thought it deserved its own blog so that many people would read it. There is a lot of very good information contained in the comments of my blogs. I have many friends with fantastic insight who add greatly to my blogs by their comments. There are the occasions like this one where I respond which usually means I am answering an important question or clarifying a misunderstanding. If you are on a path of self-healing it would serve you well to read such comments.

+Magdalin+ and I did not always agree, but even when we thought we disagreed, the more we wrote the more we realized we were on the same page just articulating our experiences in different ways. I found +Magdalin+ to be intelligent, experienced in the art of counseling others and to have a lot to offer. Perhaps you will even favor her perspective, if so you might contact her for friendship or her counseling services.

This conversation has been re-ordered slightly so as to match up the point-counterpoints made more clearly. Some of the conversation was removed only because it was more about being polite to each other and not about the topic at hand.  I also added some extra clarification as well. If you wish to see the full conversation in the original context it occurred then do read it in my blog Evolution of a Soul.

+Magdalin+

“…My experiences has led me to know that reality and why things happen or, do not happen, is much more complicated than the laws of attraction or detraction. I believe in living according to right principles and practices that can align me with the Divine Source (God), and lead me into the insights necessary to know the proper solution and answer, as it fits each situation. I believe that when you abide in a state of goodness (that being your immediate destiny) it is easy to attract good things and then, because of that, believe that it was your mind’s capacity rather than your present life state to acquire good. Positive thinking is always good, and it should be a practice we apply continuously. But positive thinking alone does not create. It rather propels one to continue striving for the best, for the better. Feelings are not wrong as long as they don’t control you and you are in control of them. When your feelings become a driving force than you must evaluate how they may be affecting your life, your functioning, your purpose. Thoughts and feelings describe where you are mentally and emotionally and can only become a block if they stop you from doing right, from making right choices, and decisions, from reasoning properly, from becoming a better person, from influencing your actions, relationships in negative ways, from leading you down the wrong path, etc…”  

It makes me wonder if you and others do not realize that what I am teaching is precisely what you have said. How do you know if you are living according to right principals and practices? Did you read what those are in a book? Did someone tell you what those RIGHT principals and practices are? Because no one can do that, it would be an infinitely long book of rules and exceptions to the rules.

[THIS IS A VERY IMPORTANT TOPIC. One you should not miss because it is the key to understaing life, knowing the true intentions of others even if their spoken words are lies, and receiving guidance directly from God.]

 (There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
see details below)

Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

• The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  
• All of my blogs.
  
• MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  
• Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  
• Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
  

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

 I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

Popularity: 7% [?]

I got the following email from a friend and am answering it here in this blog…with her permission of course.

“Hey Michael,

“I am in a sort of internship I believe. I still have some issues of my own. Most of the abuse I have sustained was of the psychological kind and was done at the time when I was most absorbent (childhood). So… I feel that I have forgiven but that my next step is to accept that I will know this same harmful intent in others.

“I think I am what is called a “sensitive”. I respond to the feelings of others…and yes, I have always said that I can feel the feelings of others. My problem is that I am not always able to determine that the feelings are not necessarily directed at me; therefore I ‘think’ they are. As a result I become angry or hurt.

“In a way, that is the same as saying I feel responsible and that is not healthy.

“I am NOW able to acknowledge when I feel extremely uncomfortable around others; when I sense their toxicity; their ambivalence.”

Munga, you made a very good observation here. First of all it does not matter if it was directed at you or not. What matters is do you really deserve the energy being projected? Do you know? Are you clear enough to know?

Most people “think” that the words and perceived attitude of others are directed at them. This is a very standard assumption we all make. I still catch this happening in myself when my wife becomes unhappy. ..

(Removed much of my advice due to the reasons stated below.)

“I know that is weird but you must know that women truly have different issues than men. With women, it is often about outward appearances; there is a vanity there in addition to everything else. This co-worker was morbidly obese, but then again, the three other employees (including boss) are also obese”

(Removed my advice due to the reasons stated below.)

“Living in this world with other hurt people is not easy. There are no quick or fool proof solutions. I would love to be able to rise above the sickness in others, but I have a feeling that none of us is ever really healed, we just get better.”

(Removed my advice due to the reasons stated below.)

“When I realized that the co worker literally was directing HATE towards me, I tried talking to her in a tactful and gentle way. I told her I wanted us to get along and even enjoy working together. I felt good about what I said to her and felt I had done so in a loving and heartfelt way. Obviously, I should not have spoken about it to her because she merely became more resentful.”

(Removed my advice due to the reasons stated below.)

“I am not an overt, exciting person. I can’t walk in a room and uplift others by giving them extreme praise or making them feel wonderful. My personality is very calm and low key… but I smile and am friendly. This is the part I felt I had failed at. This is when, for a moment, I wished I were a different sort of person… one who could “win friends and influence people”.

(Removed my advice due to the reasons stated below.)

“I think that I am a help to many of my friends… that they sense they are safe with me (and I with them) and we are able to help each other. But, that is not necessarily true of all relationships.”

(Removed my advice due to the reasons stated below.)

“I wanted to be a help to my ex husband (while we were still married). (At first of course, I was very angry and showed my anger towards him). But after learning more, reading more, I tried to be loving and tolerant; knowing he suffered from alcoholism. But, to be honest, this change in me seemed to make things worse… now perhaps that is natural progression of alcoholism and nothing to do with me, but I was the one who had to eventually flee. Not for my life, but for my sanity. My already bruised ego hung perilously on the edge of a breakdown.”

(Removed my advice due to the reasons stated below.)

“I still question why my love wasn’t enough to help my ex. I still wonder why I have to “feel” the feelings of others. They only hurt for the most part.”

Your love has helped, you just don’t see all the ways it has helped him…

(There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
see details below)

Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

• The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  
• All of my blogs.
  
• MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  
• Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  
• Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
  

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

 I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

Popularity: 18% [?]

This blog was inspired while I was watching the movie Patch Adams with Robin Williams. There is a scene in the move where his girlfriend is killed because she goes to help a mental patient. The movie was based on a true story, and that particular scene reminded me so much of the real life experiences I have witnessed over and over again with folks who have been abused.

Like attracts like, but as we can see in real life, opposites attract too. Life is always striving to balance Itself out. A perpetrator needs a victim, and a victim needs a perpetrator. Are you a victim? Are you still feeling wounded from the pain you have suffered at the hands of a perpetrator? If so then I caution you to take care, take very good care. Energetically you are still a like magnet, attracting your opposite to you to work out the idea that you are a victim.

I am not saying this to be cruel. I am saying this in hopes that this advice will protect you from further harm…

(There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
see details below)

Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

• The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  
• All of my blogs.
  
• MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  
• Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  
• Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
  

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

 I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

Popularity: 8% [?]

I would ask those of you who have seen the Golden Compass and liked it to read this blog since you are the audience I especially want to reach. I am sure that you have a heart, would like to see a world in peace, and would like to see a world absent of suffering due to poverty and corrupt governments.

This movie had a lot of controversy. Primarily it seemed to be Christians who objected to it due to some sort of satanic influence of demons and witchcraft and psychic phenomenon. Perhaps there were other objections, even those along the lines I will shortly state, but on MySpace they were drowned out by the Christians and anti-Christians bashing each other over conflicting philosophies.

I saw the preview online and was immediately turned off by the violence of the film. I decided against seeing it. But I continued to read comments posted about the film, some of which were by my friends on MySpace in favor of the film. So I decided that I should have an open mind, see the film in its entirety and then come to my own conclusions.

I thoroughly enjoyed the first half of the Golden Compass. I loved the idea of an alternative world where every human has an empathetic animal, which the writers of the film called “demons”. I expect if they were called “angels” there would have been far less Christians objections. It is sad really, that people can’t get past their labels and form their opinions based on the true nature of that which is being labeled because these demons were more like angels than demons. They reflected the state of mind and feeling of the human and vice versa. If the human suffered from a wound or was killed so did the demons suffer the same fate. If the demons were hurt in anyway the human suffered in the same way. People in our reality have become far too numb to their own suffering. Having such a demon might just be a good way for them to notice how much they really are suffering and prompt them to do something about changing it. We’ve learned to ignore our feelings too well.

It was the violence in this film that causes me to call The Golden Compass “a waste of mind.” All of the wonderful creativity of this alternative world was used to suck us into yet another violent film. Now I do understand that this world does indeed contain violence. To reflect it properly, there must be some level of it in our art, including films. But that is not what happens in films like this. What is happening is people who consider themselves good and righteous and loving and caring, consider this to be good violence. The bad guys are getting what they deserve. It is portrayed as the good fight. This “good fight” makes up far too much of the theme of the film and the alternative ways of changing the world are not even presented.

These types of films do great harm to the minds of the masses of the people in the world. They create in us a certain level of acceptability of the idea that violence is an effective tool for change in the world, when it is not that at all. To end violence, we must…

(There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
see details below)

Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

• The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  
• All of my blogs.
  
• MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  
• Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  
• Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
  

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

 I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

Popularity: 7% [?]

Where are you going in your life? Are you seeking heaven or hell?

If you are seeking hell, then judgment such as the title of this article will take you there quicker than the actions of those in the title. Wait now, don’t close off and run away…even if you differ in opinion, and you have a right to, for your sake read this full article and take it all in. Then experiment in your own life with these ideas and in time you will discover the truth. Are you willing to discover truth and move beyond belief?

If you are seeking heaven, if you are seeking a peaceful life, if you want to make this planet a safe place for our children to grow up in and play, then this article will show you how to create that in a very practical way.

First let’s get this point straight…Judgment, Hatred and Anger will take you to hell faster than anything I know of. Believe me I speak from personal experience. I have been working through these issues for many years now. I have made great progress and most people that really know me consider me quite advanced in how I handle difficult situations when compared to the majority of people in the world…

(There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
see details below)

Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

• The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  
• All of my blogs.
  
• MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  
• Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  
• Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
  

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

 I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

Popularity: 14% [?]

Well for some it is true that Life is Like a Car Crash. And that is unfortunate, because Life does not have to be that way. Yet living life by accident is the only option available to one who does not understand how life works.

Don’t you wish to expand your options? Well perhaps I am preaching to the choir here, because if you are reading my posts you probably are Expanding Your Options Now. That is what my teachings have to offer, expanded life options.

My wife had driven this very same loop at least ten times. This time I was letting her make the right turn herself. I was trying not to compensate for her over steering. We were creeping along so slow anyway. But when she was just about to hit the curb I shouted, “Shyni Stop!” And that is when she floored it!

Up the curb, quickly gaining speed, through the picket fence, heading straight for the solid cement corner of the garage, I thought, At this speed we will certainly plow right though into their living room. It was all happening in slow motion. I did not even have my seat belt on.

Then somehow, the car made a dramatic turn to the left, barely missing the garage, our lives seemed somehow to have been pulled out of some nightmare that should have happened but did not. Pedal to the floor, still gaining speed, we blew through the picket fence further down the garden. It flew across the street. At which point I reportedly slapped my wife on the back of the head and said, “The breaks, for God sakes the brakes Shyni!” I don’t really remember that part, but she did. Fortunately she found the breaks.

The house owners run out of their house and the wife said, “Is anybody hurt? What happened? Oh my God look at my garden. Look what she did to my garden!” And the husband said, “Honey, go into the house and call the police.” So the wife went inside to call the police. Thank God. Neighbors came out, the police came, by then all was worked out, details exchanged. Hysterical neighbor wife calmed down. We went home.

I never realized how dangerous it was teaching someone to drive. A simple slip of the foot, no built in automatic reaction; too much happened too quickly for either of us to think. We could have killed someone.

Now it would have been easy to blame my wife and shout at her. In the past I would have. It would have lasted for days, weeks, months or longer. But I’ve grown past that, and it took a lot of work too, but that is not the topic this time…

The reason this happened is because when the sh!t hit the fan my wife had no driving skills to fall back on. She was stuck. What happens when the sh!t hits the fan in your life? How do you react? How long does it take you to recover from the event? How much extra work or hardship did you make for yourself because of your reaction?

My wife has not even learned to ride a bike. So her skills of dexterity in motion have not been developed. The safest thing for her to do is to get her practice in a car with dual controls. And a lot of practice is what she needs. There is nothing wrong with her. She just needs practice to train her body. Then her automatic reactions will be the ones that will keep her safe behind the wheel.

And this is true about you and the other people in your life too. There is nothing wrong with you, you are not inherently broken. But unfortunately you have training that does not serve you. Perhaps it did at one point in your eternal life, but it does not serve you now. So you need new training and you need to practice your new skills.

Hey, I will make you a deal…I will provide the training if you will practice. So check out my blogs which offer the wisdom of the ages. There is a secret. Well it is not really a secret, but most people have disrespected and discounted this wisdom so much that it might as well be a secret. For as far back as there is recorded history in any civilization there are stories and teachings of masters who have passed down the secret to their mystical powers. These stories all tell the same secret and if you follow these time proven practices, you too will discover the secret in your very own life.

I hope you will join us on this fantastic journey of Self discovery and awakening. Don’t crash your life, it will just be more work to fix it up and get it running smoothly again. Be proactive, study, and practice. Take it from me, someone who knows from personal experience. Nothing you do with your life will benefit you more.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski

P.S. My book Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story is not just an entertaining love story. It is also a book filled with time proven wisdom that teaches by real life example. This is a true story of powerful personal and spiritual transformation.

Popularity: 8% [?]

One of the most common things I hear people say about meditation is, “I have tried many times to sit down and meditate, but I just can’t seem to get my mind to be quiet. No matter what I do it never works, my mind just wanders off onto many other things. I wish I could be like others who love meditation and get so much out of it. But I just can’t do it!”

If this is your problem, join the club, you are amongst the majority and this blog is written especially for you. If you are seasoned in the art of meditation, practice regularly, and enjoy meditation, then please post a comment that expands on what I have to offer here. Other points of view especially from those who are seasoned mediators would be really helpful to those who are reading this blog.

Have you ever noticed that masters refer to meditation as a practice? Meditation is a Practice! It is exercise for the mind, an exercise to gain control of the mind. For most people the mind goes wherever it will, without control of the owner. It is like the servant is ruling the master. You need to become the master of your mind; you need to direct the mind in where it is going…

(There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
see details below)

Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

• The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  
• All of my blogs.
  
• MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  
• Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  
• Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
  

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

 I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

Popularity: 8% [?]

This blog is a response to a friend’s request for help. She has given permission to use her question and my answer in this blog. Here is her question…

(There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
see details below)

Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

• The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  
• All of my blogs.
  
• MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  
• Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  
• Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
  

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

 I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

Popularity: 9% [?]

This is the part 2 of my blog Reprogramming Yourself.

It happened one day while I was living in the state of Kerala, South India…

I have ideas of what a safe and considerate driver should be based upon my experiences in America and Australia. Indians do not drive like I would like. When I first arrived in India I liked the freedom from over-regulation that Indians enjoy, but too many drivers drive very dangerously or without consideration of anyone else on the road. Coming only inches from being hit by a driver who is traveling in the opposite direction at very high speeds are common occurrences. Having someone cut a turn right in front of you with no time to stop is a common occurrence. People walking in the street, with no regard for their own safety, animals, large rocks, other objects and large potholes, all add to the stress of driving in India.

I took my wife for a doctor’s appointment in Kottayam, which was a three hour drive from our home in Kumily; we left at 6 am. This was a trip we made every week for many weeks. I had plenty of time to build up some habits of judgmental, angry and hateful thoughts; Law of Attraction had plenty of time to deliver me experiences that matched my thoughts.

On this particular drive back home I had three different drivers deliberately move into my way for no reason while I was trying to pass them. They were going slower than I wanted to go; I drive a safe but brisk speed. I had signaled with my horn as usual. They responded by moving into the middle of the road preventing me from passing them. There was no apparent reason for doing this. There were no blockages on their side of the road, these incidences did not occur at curves, and there were no oncoming vehicles. What I was trying to do was usual and expected driving behavior there in India. I believed they were blocking me on purpose and I got quite angry. I began accumulating these offenses and thinking about pulling one of them over, yanking them out of their car, and beating them in the street. I spent a fair amount of time thinking these kinds of thoughts, never really intending to do so. On top of this I was also accumulating judgment about all of the other oncoming busses, trucks and even cars that were driving in my lane when there was plenty of room in their own lane. The anger in me built up.

Then it happened…I was passing a bus in a very safe manor on wide open road. I had nearly gotten past the bus when I heard it lightly hit the left rear bumper of my car. I flew into a mad rage. If I had thought about it I would have known he did no damage to my car. He did not affect my course of driving at all. But all of that built up emotion enraged me. Somehow I grabbed the parking brake lever and pulled it up. I never use that, except for parking and starting out on a hill. I don’t know why I pulled on it. That type of break locks into place. You have to push a button to release it. Because of the speed we were driving and not really understanding what I had just done I did not have the presence of mind to release the break. This caused me to spin my car and land on the side of the road in tall grass and weeds up against a hillside.

I got out of the car in a furious rage. I went to the bus driver’s window, climbed up, reached in and smacked him on the face. I didn’t slap him very hard, but it was insulting. Then I broke one of his windshield wipers off and threw it in the street. He got off the bus and I threatened to beat him. About twenty other men got off the bus and they were all threatening to beat me. I am sure they did not even know that the bus driver hit me. All they knew was that I spun my car and then smacked the driver for it and then continued to abuse him verbally. It was really crazy. Eventually my wife Shyni got me to calm down and we left. Thank God there was no real damage to our car or to us.

I felt justified in my mind that their actions were wrong and that my ideas about driving were right. Until this event occurred. After that I realized that God was prodding me through that bus driver and all of the other drivers too. It became very clear because the bus driver really did nothing to me, nor did the other drivers. My desire to police Indian drives attracted the worst drivers into my path. My judgmental thinking made me slap a man, which is something I just don’t do. My anger nearly killed Shyni and me when I spun our car, and nearly got me beaten by a mob of angry men from the bus.

In my life I have learned, more than once, and in more than one way, that if I expect the world to change, or even any single person or event to change, because I did not like it or because “I was right and they were wrong” that I would make myself miserable. Unless I catch each thought of judgment and criticism and change them, then those thoughts would slowly build up and eventually flare up in anger at some specific person or event that probably did not even deserve the anger that was heaped upon them.

It is a big job, but we must watch each and every thought and change the ones that do not serve us. But how do we do this? What are the practices that help us to change our habits of thinking? How do we know what changes we really need to make?

The answers to these questions are what I have been seeking and experimenting with for many years now. In this particular situation I knew from experience what I needed to do and I immediately made the necessary changes. I could make the correct changes immediately and effectively because I had proper guidance from my teachers and I had much practice in this art of personal transformation.

The Miracle

What I did worked and very powerfully so…I made at least ten more long distance drives like that in India since that incident. Each time I was able to maintain my new practice. AND the outer world changed as a result of my new practice.

I am sure those same crappy drivers were still on the road doing their same dangerous and stupid things, but not while I was around. I only encountered drivers when their behavior was good. The drivers in my path were polite and courteous. The drivers I shared the road with were safe and operating sanely.

The real world changed as a result of changing my mind. This change persisted in every single drive I made since that time, which was many. The difference in driving experiences was so remarkable that every family member who rode in the car with me has noticed. Certainly they noticed how much calmer I was, but more than that they noticed that the outer world changed too.

Making that change in myself had a ripple effect in my psyche. I now calm down much quicker in other situations where anger is rising in me even if I feel justified in my perspective on a situation. We shall see what else Life has to reveal to me and in what other ways anger might try to find expression in my life, but for now I know a dramatic change has taken place within me and it is a welcome one.

One by one, piece by piece, we whittle away at our unwanted personality traits and develop new ones that serve us in ever more powerful ways.

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 I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

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How can anyone tell you who God is? How can a church, a religion, or any teacher tell you who or what God is? They can not!. Have they seen Him? Have they talked to Her? Of course not! Not in the physical sense that so many seem to think that God is in.

Our language is not rich enough to put into words the incredible unlimited nature of God. The only thing anyone can do is describe to you how they have come to know and experience God. And even then the fullness and intensity of their experience will be lost in their words.

If you have been reading the various spiritual books on the topic of God and spirituality you may have noticed many inconsistencies or contradictions amongst authors. This includes all books; “The Bible” as well as the huge volume of modern books available to us.

You may have read some books that have been channeled and thought, “Because some spiritual entity is teaching through this author or speaker it must be true.” Then you read another author and find contradictions. How can they both be right?

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Scroll down to read the comments from folks who read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below. You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

• The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  
• All of my blogs.
  
• MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  
• Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  
• Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
  

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

 I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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