A woman lied to her husband about making their car payments. Of course it came out later and now there is great turmoil in their lives. What relationship advice would you give this couple?
The following phrase comes to mind when giving relationship advice, “Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.”
The reason is because this woman, if she is paying attention, has certainly learned something. The man too. Specific relationship advice may not be needed. But overall personal growth and understanding are certainly needed for these two people…otherwise they would not be making such big mistakes. Yet perhaps right now they do need specific relationship advice for handling this specific relationship problem. Like a hungry man, its hard to learn how to fish when you are hungry…so give the fish but then teach the skill of fishing.
Specific Relationship Advice - Eat This Fish
The wife needs to sincerely apologize and make it right by taking care of the financial problem she created. The husband needs to love her anyways and try to discover how and if he helped create this situation. Did he somehow leave her desperate for money? Blame won’t help now. Seeking to understand and improve your responses to life will.
Live and learn. When people try to make it about right and wrong, when condemning judgment enters the picture much pain and suffering is sure to follow.
Own what you have done. Make sure you learn from it. Evaluate how it made him feel, how it made you feel, what it did to your own self esteem, how you lost trust in his eyes, how it will feel the next time he questions you and perhaps does not trust you are telling the truth.
But do not condemn yourself or him. Instead come to understand yourself better and the cause and effect nature of life. Reprogram yourself so the habits of thought and action that caused this situation no longer occur.
Having a coach to help you understand life, yourself and your relationships better is one of the best investments you can make in yourself. DO IT, and you will be fed for all of your life times! (Yes plural, life times!)
In desperation she exclaimed, “I just want love! All I want is love! I want to love somebody! Is that too much to ask? Is there something wrong with that?”
I answered her frustrated questions by explaining, “There is nothing wrong with wanting love, however if you want love, you must feel love which comes from being love…” Then I asked, “How is your self esteem? Do you have low self esteem?”
She was still very emotional and almost in tears when she replied, “What is self esteem?!? When someone treats me right I have high self esteem. When I have been alone for too long I have no self esteem, it is like nobody loves me. But when my boyfriend was fighting with me and when he left me I did have low self esteem…I…I felt like a piece of shit. I just want somebody to love! What does self esteem have to do with this? My self esteem depends on how they treat me.” Her tears came flooding out with those last words.
Sadly this is the state of mind far too many people are in. They simply want to know love, to feel loved, to love forever. But they don’t know how. They don’t know why love is missing from their lives. They don’t know why they attract people who don’t love them back, or who use them and then leave them.
I used to feel that way a lot in my twenties and thirties. Even in my early forties I felt that way at times. But something happened to me in my mid forties that changed me forever. I finally built high self esteem and I became enlightened.
I have a challenge for those of you who are thinking, “What kind of ego trip is this guy on? Enlightened? Who does he think he is?” The challenge is this…for you to think that way means that you don’t believe enlightenment is really possible for us mere mortals, or that you believe it is very rare. You believe enlightenment and high self esteem must be something very difficult to come by. You have not known anyone who was enlightened or had high self esteem.
Is that correct? Do you think and believe something along those lines?
Well I am here to tell you that enlightenment and healthy self esteem are not as rare as you might think and it is not as impossible to come by as you might imagine.
They are skills that must be developed. Like an athlete who wishes to compete against other athletes it requires training and a coach. Certainly you have to do the work, but without someone who knows how to get you there, without the guidance of someone who knows the territory it is easy to get lost and confused and to come to the conclusion that enlightenment is impossible and low self esteem will be your lot in life forever.
Okay, so I digressed…My point is that once I became enlightened, once I had high self esteem, my relationship problems, loneliness and my relationship issues became a thing of the past.
Now I always have love. Now I am never lonely, not even when I am alone. Now I love being alone. And I only spend time with people who treat me good. I find it easy to walk away from situations where I am disrespected without engaging in an ego battle. I am happy whenever I want to be happy, no matter what is happening in the outside world.
I am not bragging here. I am trying to help you realize what is possible! I know many other people who have transformed their lives in just such a way as I have done. I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT TOO! YOU CAN TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE! You can be love, you can give love, and you can receive love…and you can be in love…but not until YOU change. It won’t happen because some knight in shining armor comes along and whisks you away from your troubles. Unless you change love and happiness will be like water held in the palm of your hands, it will slip through your fingers.
Hopefully you are now asking, “How can I build self esteem? What is the best way to improve self esteem? How do I become enlightened?” It doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time and practice. But once you gain these qualities, they are yours forever more.
That is why I wrote my book, Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story. It tells my story of going through this process. And my story of loving and losing a loved one…yet still having love. This book will answer those questions.
That is why I wrote The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing and made it into an audio program so you could listen to it as well as read it to learn from it. That is why I created the Relationship Healing Group so that you could get the personal coaching you need at an affordable price.
You must make an investment in your own life and in your future. At a bare minimum you must invest your time. You must seek out this better life. There are plenty of inexpensive and free resources available. However, having a relationship coach giving you personalized relationship advice, having a life coach teaching you how life really works, having someone to counsel you and guide you will certainly help your personal growth occur much much faster.
What frustrates me is how few people really want to be healthy and happy. Their lack of action speaks loud and clear. They would rather just complain about how unfair life is than to put any effort into changing themselves.
Imagine how much more amazing this world would be if each person owned their own personal power and stopped blaming their miserable lives on others. Happy people everywhere…not the just the fake smiles and temporary gratification that comes from shopping or coffee at the local coffee bar…but true inner happiness.
Truly happy people are a rare gift. I love to bask in their energy when I discover such people. What if everyone was like this? A guy can dream can’t he?
Unfortunately ending relationship problems often means ending a relationship. Whether you want to know how to break up with your boyfriend, girlfriend, or just a friend…“How to break up a relationship?” is a difficult question to answer.
What makes “How to breakup advice” so difficult? Well that is just one of the questions I will answer in this “How to Breaking Up Advice” blog as well as giving you relationship advice on…
What I will be actually teaching you is how you will know what is best for you in your own unique circumstances. I wish to empower you to be able to make breakup and other decisions with confidence and create the best outcome possible.
Why is How to Breakup Advice so Difficult?
I believe this funny video provides a true glimpse into the nature of unaware people. We are surrounded by such people who are constantly advising us from their limited perspective on life even though they have a lot of relationship problems of their own.
I wish to help you move towards a more powerful and aware version of yourself and away from the influence of such people. Not because they are unworthy but because their approach to life and relationships will not serve you in being happy and fulfilled.
One of the reasons giving relationship advice is so difficult is because the advice that actually brings you the best future life is often NOT what the majority of people are advising. Like all of the characters in that video most people are unaware. They have a very narrow focus in life and are not paying attention to how life really works.People operate from bad habits they learned growing up. People react to their emotions rather than from a peaceful place of knowing what is really going on and from the logic of what will truly bring the best outcome into their life experience.
Unfortunately this majority mindset has too much influence on a person who is suffering over the decision of ending a relationship and how to break up.
While I can and will give you specific relationship advice like “how to breakup” and “how to know when to break up” wouldn’t it be even better if I helped you move into a place of true wisdom and personal power?
Join the Relationship Healing Group and you will discover the root of all of life’s problems and how to overcome them all.
You will have to make millions of decisions in your life. Learning how to make tough decisions for yourself is more important than taking the advice for one specific relationship problem from someone else who does not walk in your shoes.
When to End a Relationship
Ending a relationship should occur when you feel like it is time, when you are ready for it to end…not when other people think you should end it. When YOU are ready!
It does not matter if you took marriage vows of “till death do us part.” It does not matter if your partner will suffer great emotional stress or even threatens to commit suicide. And it does not matter if other people are screaming at you to leave when you feel you should stay.
YOU must make YOUR OWN decisions about what is best for YOU in YOUR LIFE. Other people must make decisions on what is best for them in their own lives. We are all responsible for ourselves number one first and foremost.
You will make the best decisions when you are in a peaceful and loving state of mind, not when you are under emotional stress. Strong emotions cause us to think and react in irrational ways.
This process will help you make ending relationship decisions as well as other important decisions…
Bring yourself to a calm and peaceful state of mind. (Do what it takes. This is a very important step.)
Close your eyes and imagine one of your perceived options playing itself out.
Imagine it in great detail and what each decision leads to.
FEEL how it feels to live that experience as you are imagining it.
Repeat those steps above with each possible option.
Choose the option that feels the best, make the decision, and move forward to the next step.
Life changes, more options appear, you have the opportunities to decide again…repeat the entire process every day of your life. (Notice that this requires that you remain awake and continue to feel and make decisions that make you feel good.)
I teach more about this process and why it works so well in The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing audio program. If you JOIN MY Relationship Healing Group you can ask me personally for more help with this process or anything else I teach along the lines of Relationship Advice and Spiritual Healing.
My specific breakup advice for ending a bad relationship is to get out once you see a negative pattern. Abuse, judgments, manipulations, lies, cheating, anger, hatred are habits that people develop. The very nature of habits is that they are repeated.
When you first start dating you will see your lover behave in a negative way only towards other people, then when they get comfortable with you and have won your trust and devotion they will behave badly with you too.
Unless a person is taking an active role in changing, they will not change. It is that simple…so who are their teachers?
Who is your teacher? If you wish to attract a different sort of person you too need to change; otherwise you can break up and leave this person yet the next person is likely to behave very much the same until you do change. So who is your teacher? Who will guide you in making your changes?
How to End a Relationship – How to Break Up Nicely
The key is to break up as nicely as possible. No matter what your soon to be ex has done, no matter how badly they have behaved, do not let the other person turn you into a monster! You still have to answer to Karma, to God, to your own conscious (and even to the laws of your country) for your thoughts, words and deeds.
By behaving badly yourself you will develop your own bad habits of behaving badly. Do NO Harm! Let Life deal with your soon to be ex-partner and their bad habits…trust me, eventually Life will do exactly that. Even if you never see them get what is coming to them.
However, do not misconstrue this advice to mean you should not protect yourself. You definitely need to protect yourself. But question what is necessary and what is not. Go back to the decision making advice I gave earlier in this blog. Remain calm and peaceful and carefully work out your best options and then follow through to the best of your ability.
Why can’t you “Text Message Breakup” as in the video at the top of this blog? Who says you can’t do it that way? It might just be the right way for you to do it. However in most cases, this is NOT the most respectful way to break up with someone you love or have loved.
Breaking up with someone is difficult. It is emotionally stressful. There is guilt about your own actions. There is worry and fear about what your partner’s reaction might be and all sorts of other negative feelings.
Do NOT run away from your feelings. Feel them! Acknowledge them. Ask yourself which of your own thoughts and actions each of your feelings come from. Make your mind up to change your own habits, to reprogram yourself, such that you do not repeat any behaviors that give you negative feelings.
Negative feelings in regards to your own behaviors tells you that you are not doing your best, you are not living up to your potential, and you are not heading towards your own true goals in life. So let your feelings help you to see where it is that you need to change, and then make the necessary changes in yourself.
How to Break Up Depends Upon Your Circumstances
If your partner might get violent or abusive, do it in public or with a calm and protective friend. If you feel like you might get stalked or harassed seek out legal advice and seek out advice on avoiding a stalker. Protect yourself with information.
A WARNING about involving the police…These days the police are willing to lock up anybody, anytime, for any reason. It is a sad state of affairs in America. A woman can call the police and get a man locked up with a few lies.
Legal fees to pay for an attorney are steep. If you need to involve the police have some compassion for the person you are getting locked up. Be honest. Do not take advantage of the situation to get revenge.
I have seen too much of this lately with women who call the police as a way to get revenge on a man who displeases them in some way. Play nice and play fair.
Jail time and $10,000 in legal fees is not a fair price to pay when someone simply changes their mind or cheats on you or plays some other silly drama. Reserve the calls to the police for when there is a real possibility of danger.
If you feel your partner might do harm to themselves then ask one of their own trusted friends to come and be with you both when you break up so that when you leave your partner they have some immediate support.
If you have a relatively sane partner then just do it quickly and cleanly. You don’t have to go into great detail. By the time it comes to breaking up either you should have already talked your issues out and seen that you were not getting satisfaction, or you just came to the place where you were through with the relationship.
In depth explanations at breakup time should not be necessary.
Trying to remain friends does work for some people. But if there are strong attachments on one side or another, then someone is going to be hoping to reunite every time you meet up as friends. That will be awkward and prolong the pain.
Your intentions are the key in this delicate situation. Wish the best for the partner you are breaking up with. Wish them love and peace and abundance and emotional sanity.
For the next 21 days pray for them daily to have these things. Then go about creating the life you wish to live for yourself.
Relationship breakups can open you up to a whole new world of possibilities. Get excited about what lies ahead and let go of the attachments and pain of the past.
Best Wishes on a Happy New Life,
Michael Skowronski
P.S. Getting involved in my Relationship Healing Group and listening to The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing can help you at any stage of your life. Whether you are single, just starting a new relationship, struggling to keep it together, or breaking up, my Relationship Healing products and services will help you evolve and become enlightened about life.
“I am finding it so difficult to move on and let go of a relationship gone wrong.
“I met person this man on the internet who lied and manipulated me for one year. We had the worst abusive arguments in which he used my own childhood abuse against me. He used other women to make me jealous and disappeared on me more times than I can count. Yet he obsessively sought to possess and control me, accuse me of cheating even though I never did.
“I was not innocent either…I was moody, quiet, bored easily with conversation, demanding, and also very argumentative at times. I entered into abusive behavior and insults and often would self destruct by jeopardizing things when they were smooth. I’m not sure if it was because I was so angry inside, depressed, unfulfilled, lonely, desperate, and resentful or just testing his love for me and my trust of him.
“I have seen these are my issues and have been working on them myself. A lot of things seem clearer but many not and still very confused over everything. After one year we did meet and had some very rare and few beautiful moments, but mostly the same old dramas continued. I also found out lot of truth in this time that the man was a virgin at 42 years old; he lived life of recluse, suffered with mental illness, anger, paranoia, OCD and lived a weird unhealthy life with his mother who he claimed to take care of but he slept all day whilst caregivers took care of her.
“It is my fault that things haven’t stopped because I hold on and it’s been two and a half years now, although after the last huge fight and disappearance at Christmas I tried to get on with life, went on self development courses and did lots of research into my behavior and healing work.
“Three months later he returned wanting me back and saying he loved me, admitting much was his fault. Then be began again to go into old behavior of past and blame and starting fights so I wouldn’t go back, but it sent me backwards and I haven’t been able to get back on track since.
“He has left me alone but I contact him still looking for answers, sometimes comfort sometimes hoping he will realize and change but he feels no changes are needed and goes as far to say that I interpret too much, go to deep when talking about ego and behavior and reasons behind it, also says I use it to get myself off hook, which isn’t true of course.
“He tells me what happened in first year is unrelated, that after we met he made great effort and I destroyed it all with my attitude and pressure on him, so he tells me he’s too exhausted to try though loves me and has no will.
“You would think that would be enough to send me on my way but i am filled with anger and resentment at sacrifices I’ve made as well as time wasted, all the hurt and not having sex for 3 years to please and be faithful to him.
“I’ve come to the end of my rope and through research and self development and my own writing I am much stronger in many ways and aware of much, I still feel confused is this my fault? Why did it happen to me?
“Why does he not realize and change? Why does he not love me enough or see me as special enough to fight for me? But more importantly why can’t I just let this go and get over him, sometimes I just feel he isn’t worth it at all and this is just my own ego in turmoil because it was rejected.
“I would really appreciate some insight into this and how to move forward, also if it helps others can be used for blog but just ask you don’t use my name or links as he is on MySpace too and I fear he would do something nasty if he found out I told anyone of this.”
You won’t find answers in other people. Consider how screwed up you feel at times. From what you have written I know you must feel screwed up. Well MOST of humanity is like that. We tend to think other people are doing fine, when in reality most are just barely holding it together. So don’t look for answers about why other people are the way they are. The reasons are many. There are no answers except to say that other people are very fluid, shifting and changing…there is no stability in others.
You must find the answers inside of yourself. You must find this stability inside of yourself. My blogs are specifically written to help people find that stability. Recently I have hardly done any blogging. That is because the blogs I have already written do contain all the answers you need to gain sanity in your life. They also include reading and video recommendations to help keep your mind focused on positive, uplifting, life giving topics.
Start here Self Healing Guide – From Misery to Bliss because that blog recommends which blogs to read and why to read them as well as fills in the gaps for a complete self healing plan.
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Be sure to read this blog too…Attracting the Right Kind of Lover because it talks about how to read the signs when meeting a new person and first getting involved. All the signs are there right in front of you but you do not know how to read them.
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I hope I have not sounded harsh or judgmental. That is NOT my intention. It is clear to me, and I am sure it is clear to many of my friends who are reading this, that right now you cannot see what is right in front of you. This is because you don’t have enough experience with good healthy people and don’t know what they look or feel like. It will take some time for you to adjust and see through these things. Continue doing the work on yourself and eventually you will get there.
“I’m grateful for your help, everything made sense of what you said, but I am still very disturbed as I gave everything for first time in my life to someone I hardly knew, I also saw what that woman said [in the comments below] that she loved even before she met him and I was very same. Its very difficult to explain but I saw something in him beneath everything like some deep connection I have never experienced before. Maybe he came to teach me a lesson.”
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Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…
The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
All of my blogs.
MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?
I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!
Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.
My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com
Of what value is belief? This conversation began with a simple question about the form life takes throughout the universe. An interesting question…a curiosity to satisfy…but we must first come to know who we are, from experience, NOT from belief or from the teachings of others. Only then we can really know the answers to such questions. You should not believe me or anyone else. You must discover the knowledge that lives inside of you…
“I was just curious…and wanted to know what your thoughts are on the possibility of life existing in other parts of our universe? Do you think we are alone?”
There is NOWHERE that Life is Not. For God is Everywhere and Everything.
However, the Human experience is the highest experience that God has of Himself in existence. Perhaps that is duplicated in other places; on other planets…some say it is not, others say it is…I am not certain. But human consciousnesses can experience themselves as one with All which is one with God, and can create with the Almighty many things beyond the grasp of the ordinary human.
“So, humans are the highest experience that god has of himself… and if you look at reincarnation… then, were we ever in existence of a different form other than human? I’ve always wondered how that works…
“Perhaps, I have read in some places that some have been angels who decided to go human. I have read that some go through the experience of being rock, plant, and/or animal then go through the experience of being human.
“In other words, what level are animals? I’ve had it explained to me before that animals and humans don’t go together in reincarnation… rather that animals evolve to a higher existence, but they do not ever reincarnate into a human form. I have not yet put my views on reincarnation into a complete belief pattern… simply because just when I think I understand it, I suddenly learn something new… and so my views are always evolving and changing and growing.”
I explain much of this in my blog Evolution of a Soul. However, we are getting into pretty abstract territory here. The first problem is there are no words to fully describe an experience that is outside of the physical experience. Our words can only accurately describe that which we can experience in the physical world. Yes there are some words to describe those things beyond the physical, but how is it any person can really understand them if they don’t remember an experience that is beyond the physical?
Belief is Not Knowing
The second problem is with beliefs. Belief is NOT KNOWING. So of what value is a belief?
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“I’ve also heard before that as far as reincarnation goes, humans evolve here on earth as far as they can, lifetime after lifetime, but then, once they have moved beyond what they can experience here, then they move onto other planets…where there are other life forms that live in a higher dimensional existence. Or, they stay here, and choose to help other humans on earth with their life experiences. There are whole groups of individuals who have formed religion-like congregations, based from these beliefs.
“There is so much out there as far as information goes… and it’s as if the possibilities are endless! It’s also easy to become confused.”
I too have read many different accounts of how things are beyond our physical incarnations. There are many versions and ideas, they are a lot of fun to explore since they cause us to expand our thinking and our view of this very small experience of life we call physical reality…
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“I haven’t yet decided on what I believe, simply because there is so much out there that cannot be proven…and so then it comes down to picking and choosing what I believe…and how much faith I have.
“I want to know as much as I could possibly know…and understand as much as I could possibly understand before I let myself start having too much faith in one idea.
“Maybe it’s not about what is the truth…maybe it’s simply what kind of truth I want to choose?”
I believe truth can be known, but there again you see I too am using the word believe. It has been my experience that I continue to discover more truths about life through experience…
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Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…
The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
All of my blogs.
MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?
I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!
Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.
My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com
“Do you think there is an evil force directing people? Or is all the evilness and wrongdoing in the world only a direct result of past life karma?”
Yes and no…it depends upon your perspective. From the perspective of our individual ego selves, certainly there is…
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But there is another level, another perspective that you can operate from. It is from this perspective that the answer is no, there is no evil at all…
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All of us have participated in evil thoughts and deeds at some point in our eternal life. I know many people find this hard to believe since they are so good and nice in this lifetime, and some people don’t believe in reincarnation. Those folk will probably have a difficult time understanding this lesson..
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Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…
The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
All of my blogs.
MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?
I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!
Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.
My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com
Most of us are very familiar with how much our own families can hurt us. One of my friends wrote to me with her concerns…
“I was recently verbally attacked by “Christians” telling me because I am Wiccan I am “of the devil” and that my child (who has a cleft lip) came out deformed because of my way of life. What’s worse is they were family. Should I defend myself and stand up for my beliefs or should I just stand and take it. I know I am in the right, but the comments are really hurtful and I really want to say something but I don’t want to cause conflict.“
It sounds to me like you are already doing all the right things except for one…you are making too much of what other people think or say.
There are a lot of really hurtful, ignorant, and immature people in the world. Unfortunately those people are our relatives…
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I bet you would enjoy and get a lot out of my book Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story because it tells of many such experiences we went through with negative family members. In the book I reveal the lessons we got from our teachers and how we applied those lessons and the results we got. We had many miracles including physical healing miracles. Honestly, this book touches on most issues that people in relationship will encounter, our dysfunctional ways that needed healing, how we healed them, and the amazing results we got. In the book I am really open especially about my own thoughts and ignorance and harmful ways of trying to meet my own needs, and what it took to heal those things within myself. Not only that, but it is all told in a touching, humorous and emotional love story.
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Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…
The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
All of my blogs.
MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?
I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!
Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.
My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com
This first paragraph from my blog, Relationship Breakups How to Cope, triggered a conversation about Suicide that I thought more people would be interested in.
Suicide will not take you were you believe you will be going, to a place of peace. Suicide is trying to escape from yourself, and you just cannot do it. Wherever you go, there you are. In the afterlife, you will not be in the heaven you think you will be in; you will still be enmeshed in your life’s troubles, because the afterlife is still life. It is just life in another dimension. And you will not have the ability to change your programming there. You will be stuck with it, playing out your dramas over and over until your next physical life begins. And in your next physical life you will set up the same dramas so that you can finally face the issues and move through them. So in reality you will have to walk through that fire all over again, face the same pain all over again, and finish the walk to the other side. Don’t do it!
“How does ANYONE really know what the outcome of suicide is?
“At any given moment, we are right where we are suppose to be… And, each of us eventually does leave our physical bodies to rejoin All That Is…
“I know many of us have theories and beliefs about killing one self - mostly horrible beliefs with horrible believed outcomes…Are we sure that these conditioned beliefs are not just that? Conditioned beliefs.?.?.?
“This topic is something I have been theorizing about for about a year now…Personally the doom and gloom theory does not “work” for me…
“I am wondering if you are implying that suicide is not an option only IF it has to do with a relationship gone bad…
“What about the terminally ill?
“What if they decide to stop all forms of treatment, knowing that there body will cease to live by doing so? Are they too doomed to such darkness on the “other side”?
“What about the smokers of the world, are they not “killing” themselves each and every day? Sure, it is not a quick gun shot to the head, but in the end, it is still the same, isn’t it?
I make these statements based on two thing:
Personal experience and remembrances of the other side…as dim as they may be.
The teaching of many masters I have read. Why do I trust they know what is what? Because they brought me quite a ways on my spiritual path, ie.. I got results, and I don’t believe their teachings could have brought me results if these masters did not know what they were talking about.
So in answer to your question…
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This is not about being punished for killing yourself. This horrible afterlife experience is not due to an edict passed down by God that says you must suffer for taking your own life…NO! It is about the fact that…
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“Are not ALL illness’s created from some sort of unresolved psychological states of mind? EVERYTHING that is our life, IS created by our thoughts…Illness included…So, how is this scenario any different from any other?”
I would say not in all cases, but in most cases yes. There are cases where masters are helping to balance the karmic load of a love one. In the book series…
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Lets take Hit.ler as an example…He killed himself because he had lost his war and the rest of the world would soon be coming to take him away, to ridicule him and abuse him and kill him…
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“First I must say….Love the 13ush/Hit.ler theory….I believe that without even having to “decide”…
“Second…How can we be certain that the person who commits suicide is not indeed facing the very “challenge” they set forth to accomplish in this life?
“I’ve heard it called “soul contracts” and “sacred contracts”…. but, could it not be possible that suicide was what that person came here to do? Maybe as a “lesson” for someone in their lives? Maybe a contract was set forth between the two “souls” before manifesting here in this reality? Maybe the act itself goes according to the plan they themselves chose for their “dance” this time around on the big stage…???
“What if I personally wanted to experience the experience of a loved one who kills themselves as one of MY “soul contracts”… Would that “experience” not have to be fulfilled by someone in order for me to experience mine?????”
You obviously think a lot and in depth about things. Bravo. Be sure to feel too. Just a caution from personal experience…thinkers tend not to feel as much and need to make more of an effort to do so.
I’ll admit there are probably cases where a soul chooses to experience killing themselves and also there are those who choose to experience a loved one killing themselves.
But still we come down to the real point to my original statement and that is death is not going to magically transform you. You will…
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Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…
The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
All of my blogs.
MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?
I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!
Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.
My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com
“Hi: Right or wrong?… Somethings are really uncomplicated when it comes to that topic.. for example, if I took my time to send you and your wife a Valentine’s comment, it would had been RIGHT or proper for one of you to reciprocate and send one back or at least have the courtesy to acknowledge the receipt.. now, that was WRONG! Trust me your time is NOT more valuable than mine whatsoever! Preach… Walk the talk!”
(The rest of this blog has been removed…see details below. This is a VERY IMPORTANT topic in terms of living a happy and successful life or living in pain in missery…so do be sure to tap into my blogs.)
Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…
The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
All of my blogs.
MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?
I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!
Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.
My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com
Is it your fault that someone lied to you, abused you, cheated on you or disrespected you? Is it your fault when you are mistreated? Are you to blame?
Unfortunately this is such a common belief that too many people hold when they are mistreated by someone else. For most of us as we grew up there were those who we trusted, those who were stronger than us, those who had more skills, those who were in charge of our lives, or those who were cool that gave us messages like, “It is your fault that I am blowing up on you. If you were smarter, prettier, paying more attention, if you did not do that thing you just did, bla bla bla…I would not be treating you like this.” Have any of us escaped the experience of someone else spewing their verbal abuse upon us?
When this happens to us at a young and impressionable age we tend to believe it. We develop all sorts of methods to cope. Some people rebel, get angry, abuse others, break some rule, or damage something. Other people hold it in, think they are at fault, and walk through life doubting themselves. No matter which way you react, the result is a person with low self-esteem.
A rebel who lashes out or who abuses others is just being arrogant. They may know they don’t deserve the ill treatment, they may be strong enough to express it, but they still have low self-esteem and they do not really love themselves…
(There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
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Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…
The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
All of my blogs.
MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?
I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!
Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.
My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com
"This is nothing like I have ever read. I found it entertaining, educational and at the same time quite emotional.
I found it interesting that Michael is not always shown in a positive light. All his flaws are laid bare so as to
make the reader think how a person could change if they have their mind and soul set upon it.
"There are many
extraordinary incidents and miracles recounted in the book which interested me very much. I found the teachings in
the book quite inspiring and thought provoking and even made me look into my own character and how I could improve
as a human being. It surely had an impact on me, I am sure you would feel it too. I would recommend this book to
anyone who would like to read a good love story as well as those of you who are in search of the meaning of life."
This is a great book for anyone who wishes to learn to be self-sufficient and make their own fuel for diesel cars, trucks, generators, heating and whatever other diesel fuel need you may have.
Did you know that Algae is the #1 crop for producing the highest yield of vegetable oil? Algae can be easily grown in nonfood producing lands such as a desert.
This book is 650 pages long and goes into great detail on the procedures. It starts out simple and then dives in much deeper. Making Algae Biodiesel at Home gives you instructions for…
Making biodiesel from algae oil or waste cooking oil.
How to grow algae yourself at home.
How to harvest & dry the algae.
How to build a couple of oil presses to collect the oil.
Also after you have pressed the oil out of the Algae you can also ferment the algae to make ethanol (another fuel) and then use the remainder from that process to produce high protein animal feed.
My friend asked the following question…
Most of us are very familiar with how much our own families can hurt us. One of my friends wrote to me with her concerns…
This first paragraph from my blog, 
