Unforgettable Love Story

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Like I said earlier, enlightenment is simplicity itself. Living a good, happy, joyful and peaceful life is simple. It only seems difficult due to the programming we have. These habitual thought patterns take us down the wrong path. In most cases you don’t even question them. If you read my blogs you will see MANY people object to what I teach. They tell me they have “different beliefs” than I do…For the most part I AM NOT TEACHING BELIEFS! I am teaching what I KNOW. Belief is not knowledge. So what these people are really saying is, “I have beliefs that conflict with truth. I choose to remain in my beliefs and refuse to explore the possibility that I can attain knowledge or that I can move past belief to knowing the true nature of life.” But if your life sucks or if it is not going how you want it to in even the most minor of ways, isn’t it time to open up and explore something that is different than your beliefs? Perhaps it is your beliefs that are wrong. Don’t be insulted…investigate. TRY SOMETHING NEW.

For example, in my blog What is Right or Wrong? Your Feelings are Your Guide! many people disagreed with what I had written. There was more disagreement than the comments you see in the blog itself since I received private emails about it too. But this is a very simple thing to prove for yourself. Is there any harm in trying an experiment in your own mind and life to see if my words are true or not? Or are you attached to being right and attached to your beliefs?

Experiments You Can Try

Sit down and think about a relaxing place in nature. Imagine yourself there, enjoying the sounds and the smells…how does it feel? Does it feel good to you? Then imagine someone being abused or raped. How does that feel? As you can see the feelings are different based on different thoughts. Your thoughts do tell you the quality of your thoughts.

Then imagine that you are going about your normal life. Perhaps you generally feel good. You are involved in sports, work family, all is well for the most part. Then you hear from a good friend or relative that someone you love dearly died three days ago, it was a tragic accident while away on vacation in the wilderness and it took three days to get back to civilization to report the accident. All of a sudden you are suffering from the news and the grief. But why didn’t you suffer three days ago when it actually happened? It is because your mind just now became aware and your mind has thoughts about death that cause you to suffer. If you were more psychically aware you may have picked up on this incident when it happened and because of that it would trigger the same worrisome thoughts and a general feeling of grief and despair. But the feelings are telling you about your thoughts about what happened in the life of someone you loved.

Start paying attention to your feeling when you interact with others. Focus on other people. Listen to them. Let go of your thoughts about them and what they say and just feel how that other person feels. How does it feel? Then compare that with your experience of them over time. As time passes you should be able to recognize the connection. When a person says nice things to you but it feels bad and then later you find out they were lying or setting you up to be cheated in some way you will know why the bad feelings came. Or perhaps they say they are fine but inside you feel they are hurting and later you find out their husband had been cheating on them. This is an experiment with feeling others and then comparing it to the outcomes once you have that information.

An experiment in choosing the best option…so you have a choice to make, which one do you choose? Bring yourself to a good feeling place. To do that remember something that feels good to you, being in nature, playing with your children, being with your lover, whatever it is that makes you feel good. Then when you are feeling free and relaxed think about your various choices one at a time. Follow the path one choice will lead you down and see how it feels. Then follow the path of each of the choices, how do they each feel. Don’t get too intellectual and start thinking, I don’t know how I will have the money or the time or the skills or any such thoughts. Just feel what it would be like if the things you needed were there to support each path. Then choose the best feeling path. Observe over time how it works out. You should find that good feelings guide you to the correct path and that bad feelings warn you of the difficulties to come. You are tuning into a higher guidance in this case.

These are the sorts of thing you can pick up with your feelings. They tell you about the quality of your thoughts or the thoughts of others. Feeling good connects you with God and your own Higher Self. Feeling bad is an indication of separation from God or your own Higher Self. So you can experiment with these things in time and prove to yourself if what I am teaching is true or not. Don’t just limit yourself to “I don’t believe that.”

In order to shift from struggling to get through life to loving life you must change your habits of thought. To do so you must hang out with different influences. You can do this in the form of books and movies. And certainly you should be careful of the people you choose to hang out with. Cut loose the relationships with those who do not feel good to be around.There is nothing wrong with this. Those people might tell you there is, but if you are really desperate then you should be willing to take desperate measures. You can always welcome those people back into your life at a later time when you are stronger and have excess energy to cope with them and their games. Perhaps they too will change for the better in that time and the reunion will be a joyful one.

Yes, I have given you a lot of blogs to read. And certainly over time more will come from me and others whose wisdom you respect. Take your time. Read a little each day. And below you will find more reading assignments for your health and wellbeing in the form of book recommendations. In the Golden Compass blog you will find recommendations for movies. Hang out in this different environment for awhile, I am talking years, and you will find that you do indeed change. Make it your intention to change, to grow, to heal, to come in touch with the real you, the you that is One with God and All That Is.

Book Recommendations…

Entertaining Biographical Stories I personally like stories about the lives of masters that also contain wisdom the best because of the entertainment value that goes with the wisdom.

Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story by Michael Skowronski. Yes this is my own book. It gives my own real life examples of how I grew from being a somewhat dysfunctional person into being a much more aware and compassionate person. There is much honesty in this story of how I thought and how those thoughts were creating my reality. It may leave you feeling naked and exposed, because I am sure you will find yourself relating to the thoughts I have thought and you will realize how such thoughts can damage your relationship with others. Of course there is much wisdom offered about thinking and actions that will improve your life too. It is a true story and full of emotion and miracles. Yes actual physical healing miracles occurred in my life and in the life of my late wife Kathryn.

The Magus of Strovolos, Fire in the Heart, and Homage to the Sun all by Kyriacos C. Markedes this is an awesome trilogy about a Greek Mystic who performed many healing miracles and adeptly describes life in the other dimensions.

Autobiography of a Yogi by Paramahansa Yogananda. This is filled with stories of masters of India and the amazing miracles they performed. There are many stories of overcoming death, as in raising others from the dead. The first time I read this book I loved it but wondered if it were true. These days I have no doubt because over the years since I read that book I learned to live the wisdom it contains and have created many profound miracles in my life as a result. These are not the stories of a superstitious uninformed man. These are the stories of a man who has experienced a life we are all evolving toward.

Living with the Himalayan Masters, by Swami Rama
Walking With a Himalayan Master by Justin O’Brien
At the Eleventh Hour: The biography of Swami Rama by Pandit Rajmani Tigunait

Swami Rama died in 1996. He was a very powerful Yogi and like Yogananda also relates his first hand experiences with fantastic miracles over nature and life and death itself. Swami Rama was an intelligent, well educated and articulate man who himself conquered death and proved his amazing miraculous powers to modern scientists in many controlled laboratory experiments. He himself has written many books on the science of yoga that are also well worth reading, however they are too numerous to mention here. They can easily be found by searching the internet.

Books purely on the topic of spirituality, all these are channeled, I recommend…

Planetary Brother, I Come as a Brother, Reflections of an Elder Brother by BARTHOLOMEW as well as the other books by BARTHOLOMEW

Conversations with God I, II & III as well as At Home With God in a Life that Never Ends by Neale Donald Walsch

I have read and recommend Kryon books 1-3 & 6-11

Messages from Michael by Chelsea Quinn Yarbro

A Course in Miracles by Jesus Christ as channeled by Helen Schucman

By the time you run out of these I am sure there will be more recommendations from me posted. I also expect some of my friends will post some recommended reading material in the comments below.

You can heal yourself and you can have a life that is beautiful and meaningful. Don’t let your current level of insanity and suffering stop you. Begin now, right where you are. Take it slowly. Take it one step at a time. But do the work each day and do not stop until you are clear in your heart and your mind that you are loveable, capable, and filled with wisdom.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story
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In this blog I want to make as many resources available to you as possible for greatly improving the quality of your life. Besides my blogs, I offer personal, one on one counseling for free. But I do ask you to read my blogs since they contain so much of what I would teach you anyways. I am also offering you FREE Abraham CDs. (See http://abraham-hicks.com for more information about the teachings of Abraham.). I give credit for my own enlightenment to the information contained on these CDs. They are so powerful that I got them weekly for four years and listened to each CD more than once. This marked a huge surge forward for me in my own personal growth. Which brings up a good point…REPETITION!

If you want me to send you one of these Abraham CDs for free then email me with your mailing address and I will send it to you. This offer is limited to supplies I have on hand. I also have plenty of CASSETTE TAPES, if you have a tape player I can send you one of those tapes instead.

Repetition is essential to moving yourself into a healthy state of mind and in manifesting the things you want in the outer world too. Please allow me to repeat myself so as to emphasize this point. Repetition is necessary, you should read and reread the same material over and over again if you wish to make it part of your being. Repetition develops new habits of thought. You are constantly being exposed to nonsense in your everyday life coming at you from all directions. To counter this you must engage in repetition of material that trains your mind in the way you wish to have it trained.

Enlightenment is simplicity itself. If you are reading and studying true wisdom there will by its very nature be a lot of repetition within it. The complexity in life comes from the nonsense that we are brainwashed with on a daily basis. The complexity in spiritual wisdom comes from helping the student overcome the crazy ideas about life that we all hold.

Exercise is a very important part of maintaining sanity and Self-Healing. There have been times in my life when I just did not get much exercise in for various reasons…until I started to notice I was becoming depressed. Then I overcame the excuses, stopped procrastinating and found some way to get my body back into motion. So if you are not exercising, you MUST add exercise back into your routine. There has to be a way, and no excuse is good enough to let this one go. I know of many mental health care professionals who have prescribed exercise for their patients and the beneficial results were so amazing they did not feel the need to return to their mental health professional for further care.

Yoga is an excellent practice to take on. It consists of stretching exercises, pranayama exercises which is deep breathing, and meditation exercises. All three of these practices are essential for the good health of the body. All of these are intended to be done regularly. Although I don’t do the stretching daily, I do the meditation and pranayamas daily. Yoga classes are offered all over the world these days. So do give it a try. Yoga has helped me to overcome back pains that used to require regular chiropractic visits. I’ll be 50 years old in November 2008. I have been in much better health in my forties than I was in my thirties. Most people think I am 35 years old when they look at me.

I give many good lessons in other blogs I have written, there is enough there to get your healing process well underway. The rest of what you need to complete the process will come to you naturally and seemingly magicly over time. The following is an overview of those blogs so you can easily find the lessons that will help you create peace and happiness in your own life.

It may seem overwhelming. But here is the secret. Take them one at a time. Go back and read the comments too. We get into some very profound discussions in the comments! If you read all of these blogs, and more than once, you will spend many days contemplating some very profound questions about your life and how your mind has created the life you are now living. At the same time the negative brainwashing will be put on hold. You will gain much ground, make much progress in improving the quality of your life. Also reading material like this will raise questions in your mind. When a question is asked, the answer will follow. Some how some way life will present the answer to you if you only ask. Seek and you will find.

Drowning in Worry contains a lesson I call the Secret to Happiness. This blog is an answer to a woman who had so many difficulties she felt like she was drowning in them.

Reprogramming Yourself contains a lesson in overcoming anger. This blog contains a powerful true life lesson in what we can do with the power of our minds to change ourselves and the external world. A miracle occurred. When a person is overwhelmed by the painful dramas in their lives they feel it is not possible to change things. True stories like this are powerful because they help us see what is possible. I give stories like this, from other authors, credit for transforming my own life into what it is today.

A POWERFUL Creative Tool – Giving Thanks explores the power of gratitude.

Relationship Break Ups – How to Cope. This blog will help you understand the importance of living without a regular romantic partner while you are trying to improve your own life.

Drug Addicts, Prostitutes, Child Molesters, Liars & Cheaters…are They the Scum of the Earth? As well as Crime and Punishment…Both are Insane! Are two blogs that will help you to understand the necessity for forgiveness. Do not underestimate the message or the power in these two blogs. I believe this is the biggest place that people fall down in their evolution. Holding onto judgment, hatred and anger is one of the greatest things that holds people back.

What is Right or Wrong? Your Feelings are Your Guide! This blog contains a lot of detail to help you understand one of the most fundamental principles of my teachings…that your feelings will guide you to right thinking and right action and they can protect you by warning you of the harmful intentions of others.

Jealousy and Low Self-Esteem Seem to Ruin Our Lives is a blog about how our attempts to grow and do our best can trigger jealousy and other strong negative emotions in other people and how to deal with that.

The Secret to Creating Lasting Romance is a blog written to help those in relationship improve their relationships and those who are not improve their point of attraction such that they can attract the relationship they desire.

Meditation and the Wandering Mind is a blog about how to meditate. I bet a lot of people really don’t understand the purpose of meditation. Meditation helps a person gain control of their mind first and foremost. there are other purposes beyond that, but gaining control of the mind is the most important purpose of meditation.

Have You Been Abused? Are You Healed? Is a blog written for those who have been abused cautioning them about their point of attraction. Which is to say, if you have been abused repeatedly already you are very likely to be attracted to other abusers in a way that seems very natural and attractive.

Raped by My Father Every Night for Years is a blog written to help those who have suffered sexual or violent abuse.

Is Your Past Real? Is an interesting blog about how we hold ideas about people and events in a certain way that may not be true, and from those ideas we make our choices, take certain actions, and form habits of thought and action. However, as we grow our ideas about life evolve and come closer to the truth, yet do we go back and re-evaluate the past or what we believe happened? Many people did not get this blog…but it will pose some profound questions about what is real and what is not. Also it gives some interesting real life experiences of how we can influence outcomes by changing the way we think. The cool thing about this blog, and most of my blogs, is that the comments bring up some very good questions and the answers are quite profound. READ THE COMMENTS TOO!

You Will Never Get It Done! This is a short and sweet blog that reminds us that there is always way more to do than is possible to do. So let go, let God, do what you can and let the rest go undone! There is always tomorrow.

Cancer and the Law of Attraction is a blog that discusses the frightening issues of life threatening diseases.

The Evolution of a Soul is a blog that helps make sense of the bigger picture…like…Why does God let bad things happen to good people? And is there really such a thing as Good and Bad?

The Golden Compass - A Waste of Mind this is a highly controversial blog that presents the problem of influence the predominant media of film, TV, and the news has upon us. This blog contains many movie recommendations that will serve you better in your healing efforts than the predominant popular movies that are based primarily on violence, suspense, thrills and chills. While MANY people disagreed with what I have presented I would say that most of these people are really defending their taste in movies and their right to choose. They have different goals in life than I do. They feel the need to seek vengeance upon those who make life painful and difficult, they think punishing the bad guys will make the world a better place and are experimenting with such thoughts through their choice in entertainment. Also they have not gone as far with their life experiences as I have nor have they created the magic and miracles I have nor have they had the incredibly close contact with God that I have. Please don’t mistake this statement for arrogance; I am NOT saying I am better or more worthy than they are, I am simply stating I have more experience than they do. It is more like comparing a grade school or high school student with a college graduate who is actively putting his education to the test in the real world of experience. One person is not better than the other, but one person certainly has a far vaster wealth of experience to draw upon. This blog reveals a powerful part of what keeps people stuck in their dysfunctional lives. READ THE COMMENTS TOO!

Continue by reading Part III…

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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While conversing through comments The Golden Compass with my friend Caryl I came to find out about her situation with her daughter who had cancer. Because the conversation in that blog got off topic and because of a statement that I made regarding how our thoughts are creative spurred the following statement from Caryl I thought I would write this blog to help clarify in greater detail how our thoughts create and how Law of Attraction actually works in relationship to diseases such as cancer.

Caryl’s aka Miss Màdamn comment…
One more thing I have heard you repeat, that does somewhat bother me, is that you say (loosely paraphrased here) — our thoughts bring about the experiences, hardships, etc. that come our way. Neither my child nor I thought about disease or anything negative of this type to manifest this experience. It was shocking and far from anything we’d consciously or subconsciously think about. So, I’m hoping you mean that a lot of things can surface from our thinking, rather than all.

As I began to answer this question it too went somewhat off topic, actually a new topic arose, one which will answer the questions of many people about many issues in their lives. I posted that blog and called it Evolution of a Soul.

A few days after posting that blog Caryl said, “This is a great blog… A lot of answers, to questions I asked of you, are within it… and beyond. Thank you :)”

So go and read that blog! It will give context to the answers I am giving here. Even still I want to answer Caryl’s other questions and an email she sent me a bit more directly and with more specifics regarding disease.

Taken from my blog Evolution of a Soul:

Like attracts like. We attract things to us based on our dominant vibrations. These vibrations are formed by our thoughts and our feelings tell us the nature of these energies. Life is filled with random events, people and things that pass us by on a continuous basis. Yet we only tune into a small fragment of what is passing us by. This tuning in occurs based on our vibration that was created by our thoughts. If we have a desire, but are lost in the “whoa is me” sort of thinking, our desire can float on by and not be noticed due to the mismatch in our vibration. But if you are happy and carefree and feeling good you will notice your desire as it floats on by and reel it in.

Here is the last email Caryl sent me about this topic along with my comments…

I replied to your newest blog reply, before reading this [my last comment to her in the Golden Compass Blog…this takes off where the comments in that blog left off…click here to read the comments in that blog search for Caryl’s picture]. It’s so difficult to reply in short and say all that’s on my mind, in response to what you write. Each time I’ve read again what I’ve written and think of things I should have clarified more. It’s okay. Hopefully, you and others will know there is more, and that I’m not really butting heads with you, just my own thoughts, really. It truly has been of great help to read some of your teachings so far and to hear your words, addressed personally to me. I believe it was meant to be.

My Daughter doesn’t exhibit a lot of stress in her life. She is unaware of the new findings, though. There’s nothing that can be done at this point and I wanted to let her get through Christmas and her birthday, worry-free, before we deal with anything we may have to in the near months. Her birthday is January 3rd and she will be 18. She was diagnosed the October before last, at age 16. She was in kidney failure and later developed an intestinal blockage, as well as many other chemo related complications…line infections, allergic reactions, and a whole lot more. We spent 4-1/2 months in the hospital, through all of the holidays last year and her 17th birthday, which she was in the Oncology ICU at the time. She went through 15 surgeries…5 rounds of aggressive chemo…illness, etc. in that short time. But, today, she is much better. She was very close to death upon her initial hospital admission. After her release from treatment, she was admitted again, due to a severe drug withdraw, which almost took her life again…the doctors forgot to wean her off of a drug. So, all in all, I should be elated that she made it through so much, a couple of close calls, and more…and, I was…and her future looked bright, to suddenly be dulled again by a ‘possible’ recurrence. I know I should be happy she’s not in a ‘true’ recurrence…but, I’m stuck, as I’ve said before.

I understand it’s my own doing, my own thoughts, and it’s of no use to myself or my daughter. I know this…something is keeping me attached to the fear and worry, though…And, I fear I will be the cause of a negative outcome, over a positive one that she stays well. Part of why I questioned your words about our thoughts leading to outcomes we create…One thought leads to another and begins to spiral out of control. I understand this…and, I understand I have the power to control it, however I don’t understand why I’m not.

Your lack of control is a matter of a lack of practice, strong habits that do not serve you, and also a matter of not fully realizing through experience how much power you really do have in the way you think…life still seems to be something that is happening to you and not something that is happening through you. This is simply where you are on your journey though life, not a judgment about where you should be. As far as being a negative influence goes, you must do the best you can for where you are at. If you worry about it or have fear about it, you remain stuck in the harmful energy.

This information about our thoughts and how it creates our feelings and life experience is not to be used to flog yourself but to improve your experience of life and to evolve. Also to assign the label of negative outcome to ill health and positive outcome to staying well will not help maters either. You can still want health without being attached to it. It is the attachment to it, and the labels you assign to it, and the way you view it that causes the suffering. It takes practice, contemplation, and experience to really understand the difference.

I feel I need to get a handle on it all, somewhere, either the root of it, or to just change it…

Get control over your thoughts and give up trying to control the disease or the disease process. If a new cure emerges, and if it feels right to try the treatment out, then by all means go for it. But until that happens, and at all times, go with the flow of what is happening. In a fast moving river if you swim against the stream you will only exhaust yourself. If you go with it, then you can travel with ease. You can also swim towards the shore while at the same time going with the flow. That is what gaining control of your mind is. I know it is not a perfect analogy since you can’t really remove yourself from the river of life.

And, I feel I do change my energy and thinking when I’m around her — although I know my personal thoughts, even when not around her still have an adverse affect on her. These thoughts are strongest when I’m alone. When I’m around her, I notice my thoughts switch to those that are only loving and I feel as if I’m glowing from within and I just stare at her and smile (and she finds it creepy, lol) and during these times my thoughts are about how happy I am she’s alive and how grateful I am that I have each moment I’m in, with her…able to sit next to her, talk to her, love her, and on an on. There’s so much more to each moment in any given day, but just too much to relay here. So, I guess what I’m trying to say is that it’s almost as if I bounce from one extreme to another. I’ll find a good balance. I can feel I will. And, I am conscious of how I think, all the time…for me, at least, a step toward improving.

I read about your previous wife and her cancer. I want to say I’m sorry for your loss, but somehow it doesn’t seem fitting. I also read how you feel a lot of good experiences came into your life, later, which would not have occurred if she was still in your life. That’s another point I’m not at yet. I can’t imagine caring about life beyond my Daughter’s. And, I understand how that is holding on to thoughts or ideas for whatever reasons, not beneficial to myself…and, not wording it well right now.

I can’t blame you and you should not blame yourself. I found it very difficult to focus on positive things while my wife was suffering with cancer. I also was not as aware of the need to change my thinking as I am now. I also did not have the skill for changing my thoughts as I do now. Much of what I know now is a result of having gone through those and many other painful experiences. You are where you are. Do the best you can and accept what is as best you can. And in all of that you can continue to dream of an ongoing life experience with your daughter, just stop yourself from dwelling on a loss that may or may not come, or on some future reoccurrence of disease that may or may not come.

Change your thinking NOT to change the course of this disease or of your lives, but change your thinking so that you can feel better in the NOW MOMENT. This gives you the best possible experience of life and the best possible chance of things changing…but do not do it to change things in the outer world, because holding on to that as a goal is attachment and it will cause you to suffer.

I met many parents who resided with their children on the Oncology floor. Many lost their children. I saw how their thoughts changed with each reality they had to cope with…or accept. Many started off fearful, worried, and angry…full of fight to do all they could to save their children…but, as the illnesses took over, many softened, even some began to look as if they were becoming more at peace, with each turn for the worse with their children. It scared me. I felt as if they had lost the fight within themselves and were giving up on hope…accepting what once wasn’t acceptable. At the same time it scared me, it intrigued me and provided a different kind of hope. Although their seemingly different mindsets were appropriate in the times, wanting to let go so the suffering of the children would end, finding peace within their newly found acceptance - and more than just that, I felt they had lost a part of themselves, as if they had each undergone a lobotomy…content and less emotional…uncaring…although, not true.

You have witnessed how difficult life circumstances changes people for the better. Those people learned how to go with the flow and enjoy their lives. That is all that this is about. Life is happening NOW, you cannot live in some future time. Struggling to save the future is not necessary nor is it possible. The future will come and if you struggle to save it you still will not have the skills to enjoy the NOW when that future is the NOW. It may have seemed like they had undergone a lobotomy, but in most cases that is not true. They just came to understand how life works. They made the best of a shitty situation. They enjoyed life in spite of what seemed to be going wrong. They enjoyed their last days with their loved one rather than suffering through them and causing their loved one to suffer even more.

So, now you can see…which you probably did to begin with…where a lot of my questioning comes from…imaginative fear…and other type thoughts. Letting go…replacing thoughts…and so much more…I understand. I’m just stuck. And, the more I say it and think it and believe it the more it is so. I know this, lol. And, it’s not funny…Just something I have to really work on…

And, this was all written without hesitation to say something different, or to correct anything, knowing I haven’t addressed all you wrote to me…but, it is long and repetitive in some words, so I’ll end it now. And, I will read again this last message you’ve written and other replies, as well as other blogs you have written, and hopefully you’ll begin to see a positive change real soon. And, my daughter’s health isn’t the only thing in my life, obviously, but I am the sole legal guardian for my Father, who became paralyzed about 3 years ago (he’s in a nursing home now) and when my Daughter become ill I had to give up our home (live with my Aunt now) and my job, income, security and more…and, I’m not that bad off compared to others…I’m very blessed in many ways and I know so…but, just expressing some of my circumstances…even if I sound like a martyr, lol.

Anyway, I feel you’ve already generously spent so much time responding to me, so I wouldn’t ask for more, other than maybe in the near future, on other blog topics, etc

Thank you so much, Michael. You’ve been caring, understanding, generous, and encouraging in many ways. I truly appreciate it.

Much love,
Caryl

Caryl, you do have a very good grasp on what you have to do, now it is a matter of practice and learning from the experiences you are having. My heart goes out to you as I am sure so many readers hearts too. You and your daughter will be in all of our prayers.

You are welcome. I am here to help you and others walk through these difficult life situations. What you shared was honest and nearly everyone on the planet can relate to how you feel. There is no judgment here, only the opportunity to learn and evolve. Make the best of this situation by gaining as much control over your thoughts as you can. Pay attention and continue to feel. Cry when you need to, scream when you need to, and then take control of your mind once again.

One day when I went surfing out in some huge waves I nearly died by being dashed on a rock jetty. The waves were so big that I had to jump off of the pier to even get out into the surf. I caught one good wave and loved the ride. But on the second wave I lost control, fell off my board, and the force of the wave snapped my leash so I lost my board. I tumbled on the bottom of the ocean for a long time. Then I stood on the bottom with foam over my head waiting for it to die down so I could float up to the surface for a breath. (You can’t float in the foam and you can’t breathe in it either.) I could barely hold my breath. Once I was on the surface I tried swimming into the shore but I found myself being sucked into another wave and the whole drama repeated itself more than once. Finally I realized that the next wave that sucked me in and spit me out would spit me out onto a rock jetty and would probably end my life. This time I swam into the wave and dove under it…the sucking energy of the wave helped me do it. I made it past the breakers and the current swept me past the jetty. I was able to catch the next wave and body surf it into shore. Had I continued to fight the waves and current I would have surely died that day. Sometimes we must do the opposite of what it seems like we must do in order to survive.

Remember to have a read of the Evolution of a Soul if you have not already done so. It will explain so much more about this process we call Life. People, places, things, and events may come and go, but life is eternal. There is always more time to have the things you want. It may not happen in this physical life time, but it will happen if it is truly what you want. So let go, trust God, and go with the flow.

Namasté
Michael Skowronski
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I have a friend I met on MySpace, one who I have been counseling and for a time had been doing better as a result of trying out the things I had suggested. I recently inquired about her wellbeing and she was again in a depressed state. Life can be tough and sometimes all the road blocks seem to be up when we feel like we are ready to move full steam ahead. I tried to comfort her and then she wrote this to me…

“Michael, I have tried to love my father and my mother too, but I cannot forget as easily as they have. My father began raping me at 8 years of age and he did it nearly every night. What kind of monster does such a thing to his little girl? And my mother chose my father over me and ignored what she knew was happening. Now my father tells me he has repented to God for his dirty deeds; he tells me he is going to heaven and he is forgiven and that I am going to hell because I have not accepted Jesus Christ as my personal savior. Like his shit don’t stink and mine does! When I try to talk to my mother she tries to make it better by saying, ‘Oh well I tried to get rid of you, but no, you wanted to live. So that was the life you got.’ Neither of my parents wants to talk to me anymore. What a joke! And you expect me to forgive these people!”

This was the first time I had heard this side of her story. She had other painful experiences, but this really felt bad to read. I know I am the one who is always telling people to focus on what feels good…but there are times you just have to deal with what is. For healing to occur you must focus, at least for a short time on painful experiences like this. No matter how evolved you are, no matter how enlightened you are, reading something like this hurts. I often cry when I get emails from my friends who are suffering. Although I know there is much more going on than meets the eye, this sort of thing really sucks.

So please don’t think I take everything so lightly. You probably won’t see me cry or feel depressed because I won’t allow myself to stay in such a place for very long, but I do take the time to understand what is going on with my friends and loved ones and I do feel the pain like everyone else does.

There comes a time to realize…right now is the first day of the rest of my life. Right now I can choose, “Do I wish to suffer more by dwelling on what has happened? Or do I wish to move on, take what happened as an understanding of how bad people can be, and create the bright and beautiful future I wish to have?” Because this is the choice. If you do not forgive these people, your parents or anyone else who has abused you, you will suffer each time you remember what has happened. If you do not forgive these people, you will also remain stuck in the suffering you are currently living with. Which do you want more, to feel better, to have a better life, or do you wish to remain in the pain of the past? That is your choice right now.

Before I continue on with healing this horrible wound I want to mention an important point that I forgot to mention when I originally posted this blog. You will notice that a few people comment below about this so please don’t think they did not read this blog completely…this paragraph has been added since so many people commented. There is a stage of dealing with the pain and the wounds that have been left behind by such abuse. Emotional release is the key. People can stuff their feelings because this is such an ugly thing that they feel they need to hide. But stuffing your feelings will lead to disease. You must scream and cry and beat pillows or punch punching bags or do whatever else is necessary to let it out. There are many body oriented therapies that are designed to help release such trauma from the body. Things like massage and reiki and acupuncture and acupressure and hundreds of other techniques. But this is the first-aid stage of healing these emotional wounds. Very often first-aid does require the help of another person, so seek that help and engage the services of a trusted healer. However, the real healing occurs in the mind. These events transform your thinking about the world, your value and place within it and what you can expect from others in the future. You will need to counter those eroneous thoughts with the truth that you are worthy and did not deserve to be abused in this way. There are those who would say, myself included, that in a past life you may have committed similar abuses upon another person and thus this is your karma. Although this MAY be true, it is not necessiarly true. And even IF it is true, you still did not deserve this treatment based on anything you have done here in this lifetime which is all that you really know about anyway. So the idea of karma is meant to help you make sense of such things from the perspective of the big picture, not from the perspective of this lifetime. If the ideas about karma are not helping you right now in the stage you are in then ignore them. You must get to a better feeling place about yourself first before you can go into that kind of thinking. When you are in the correct frame of mind ideas of karma will feel better because you know that the perpetrator of those crimes against you will need something to get them to change.

Okay…so how does one forgive such horrible things? The answer to this question is what I am going to dedicate the rest of this blog to.

To get past the pain and the judgment you need to take on a new perspective of life. You need to begin seeing the bigger picture. I wrote a blog called The Evolution of a Soul. Please read that blog because it will give you the perspective of our lives that you need to have. I understand that such a perspective might be difficult for some people to believe, especially since many in our culture were taught that life has different boundaries and limitations, but such a perspective really is the only one that makes sense and is the only perspective that can make things like being raped by your own father easier to understand and forgive.

There is an audio program I would like you to listen to. You can find this 22 minute audio of the storyLittle Soul and the Sun which was written by Neale Donald Walsch and dramatized into an audio production by Timothy Richard Jessup and Sound Design Inc. by clicking here . Listen to the second recording on the page.

I will now explain what is in that audio program, but I still believe it is worth listening to for the dramatic effect it will have on you and the feelings it will stir in you. I encourage you to listen to the entire audio, with the understanding it was produced for children and that it will evoke feelings and understanding within you.

You are a brilliant light amongst a seemingly infinite number of other brilliant beings of light. How is it that you are going to experience the light that you are amongst so much light? The only way for that to happen is for you to be isolated in the dark. If you are in the dark, then you can experience the light that you are. But if all other beings are also brilliant light, how can you experience your own light? It happens because they love you enough to slow down their own vibration enough to be the dark, amongst which you can shine and be the light. But to do so they forget who they are and they need you to remind them and bring them back to their own light.

In so many ways your parents who have abused you in such a great way, have actually given you the greatest gift that you could be given…the gift of knowing who you really are. No matter how dark they have been, you have survived, you have given life to others, you have shined in spite of the darkness. And now it is your turn to return the favor. You need to remember who they are, brilliant beings of light, just as you are. You need to remind them, not in words, but in how you think of them and how you treat them. If you do this, if you forgive them, if you see them as being the light of God, then you will free them and you will free yourself as well. (Remember, to do this does not mean you will continue to allow them to abuse you, it only means you will see things different despite appearances. It may mean you never see them again, but continue to love them from afar.)

So this will take effort. It will be difficult because right now you have years of abuse programmed into your mind and experience. You have years of looking at them as the villains. Now it will take effort. You will have to stretch yourself and decide that no matter what, you will come to view this in an entirely different way. You will change your thoughts about all that has happened such that you can love your parents and anyone else who has harmed you so that you can be free and so that you can experience your wholeness and connection with God once again. Because in truth these people are indeed as much a part of God as you are; without them you are nothing, with them you are everything.

So every time you think of them and what they did, wish them love. Know that a part of them really does know what they did and knows how hideous they have been. Know that it was so bad that even they cannot face their own actions. Try to understand why they don’t want to talk with you about it, because the pain of it would crush them. Wish and pray for them that they come to understand. Do not allow yourself to dwell on some fantasy of some horrible event occurring in their life as a payback, but simply give the “how they come to understand” part up to God. Wish them peace. Wish them love. Wish them abundance. Wish them clear and complete knowledge of themselves as God even as you wish to have this awareness for yourself.

So this is a nice story I have weaved out of a very negative segment of life. It represents reality but does not even begin to fully describe it. However, if you do this you will see that it does produce results in your life. Results that will please you and results that you desire…you will be healed of this pain that you now suffer with. Because I love you, and because I would like to know that you are living a wonderful and beautiful life, I would like to ask you to give this a real try. I am confident that you will succeed and be healed of these painful wounds if you do. My personal experience and that of many other people as well, says healing for you must happen as it has for us.

Namasté
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

WE NEED YOUR HELP! Victims of abuse, incest, rape, child molestation…these people have suffered for years with these sorts of abuse. They have had repetitive exposure to such bad behavior that they have come to believe they were worthless or deserved such abuse. Their minds have been programmed to accept this as normal and inescapable. Our minds are creative and as such these people will continue to draw these sorts of experiences into their lives unless they receive regular love and reassurance that they are okay and that they deserve better than this.

Are there free groups for these people to go to for this love and support? If not can we organize such things? Look at Alcoholics Anonymous and the other 12 step groups and how successful they are in people helping people. Is there such a thing for victims of abuse? These victims need repetitive assistance in shifting their beliefs and how their minds function so as to become strong and never to be abused again.

Please leave your comments and share what you know about helping such people. We can make a difference!

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This blog is a guide for healing your life. We all have the power to heal ourselves. Sometimes people think they need expensive weekly therapy for months or years in order to heal. Perhaps in some cases that is true. But most people are capable of healing themselves if they truly desire to do so and if they have access to the right resources. Mental and emotional sanity is much simpler than most people realize, indeed enlightenment is much simpler than most people realize. If sanity feels like a goal that is too far away for you to reach then this guide is for you.

I encounter many people who have extremely difficult lives and continue to have many difficulties even today. To use the word difficult is an understatement in many of these cases…for too many people life really does suck and they just can’t wait for it all to be over. If that is how you have felt about life then this blog is for you. There is a lot here, but it will take a lot of work to heal this big mess. Take your time go through it slowly; reach out for help when you need it.

People like this would find it very difficult to understand what it is like to have a life like mine. How could it be possible to feel good, to feel happy, to be in love and feel love day after day, every day? How could it be possible to be happy even when people insult and abuse you or when you are fired from a job or when a relationship ends or when a loved one dies? How is it possible to be happy even when you have been thrown in jail under false charges? How is it possible to be happy when everything you have worked for or ever wanted is constantly being taken away from you? How is it possible to be happy when you are deported from a country you have made your home, where you have a financial investment in property, and investment in friends and a dog you love?

When I wrote this last paragraph I started out describing the circumstances that others faced, but realized everything in it has happened to me and some of it is still happening to me. Yet to be fair I must also admit that my life has contained many beautiful blessings too. Mostly I have held high paying jobs and received much respect for the work I do. I have been head over heels in love many times, which of course means I have lost many loves too. I have lived in beautiful homes with beautiful views, in various countries around the world. I have had many children come into my life, but they have all left it too. I have no children of my own yet, except for my two adopted children who are stuck in India while we work through the process of getting them visas, so even now I am separated from them as well. I am intelligent, I have written a book, and I have achieved many accomplishments in my life. I am loved by many people, but that has not always been the case. I have been the target of much jealousy and lost many friendships.

I have known the joys of getting what I want and the sorrow of not getting what I want. Earlier in my life I was very lost and blown about by the winds of fate. So I feel that I am the perfect person to write a blog such as this and to give the advice I am giving here because I know both sides of the issue of enjoying life no matter what is happening.

I want to state emphatically that you can have happiness whenever you want it. It is possible. You can listen to your own mind that says it is impossible or you can listen to others who do not have happiness tell you it is impossible or you can listen to those who know, those who have experienced it, those who have mastered life tell you that it is possible. You can learn the secrets to happiness no matter how deep you are in your misery. Creating happiness anytime you want it, no matter what is going on in the outerworld, is a skill.

Continue reading part II…

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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This is a conversation that occurred in the comment of my blog Evolution of a Soul. It is such an important topic and the debate/discussion brings up many good points that I thought it deserved its own blog so that many people would read it. There is a lot of very good information contained in the comments of my blogs. I have many friends with fantastic insight who add greatly to my blogs by their comments. There are the occasions like this one where I respond which usually means I am answering an important question or clarifying a misunderstanding. If you are on a path of self-healing it would serve you well to read such comments.

+Magdalin+ and I did not always agree, but even when we thought we disagreed, the more we wrote the more we realized we were on the same page just articulating our experiences in different ways. I found +Magdalin+ to be intelligent, experienced in the art of counseling others and to have a lot to offer. Perhaps you will even favor her perspective, if so you might contact her for friendship or her counseling services.

This conversation has been re-ordered slightly so as to match up the point-counterpoints made more clearly. Some of the conversation was removed only because it was more about being polite to each other and not about the topic at hand. I also added some extra clarification as well. If you wish to see the full conversation in the original context it occurred then do read it in my blog Evolution of a Soul.

+Magdalin+

“…My experiences has led me to know that reality and why things happen or, do not happen, is much more complicated than the laws of attraction or detraction. I believe in living according to right principles and practices that can align me with the Divine Source (God), and lead me into the insights necessary to know the proper solution and answer, as it fits each situation. I believe that when you abide in a state of goodness (that being your immediate destiny) it is easy to attract good things and then, because of that, believe that it was your mind’s capacity rather than your present life state to acquire good. Positive thinking is always good, and it should be a practice we apply continuously. But positive thinking alone does not create. It rather propels one to continue striving for the best, for the better. Feelings are not wrong as long as they don’t control you and you are in control of them. When your feelings become a driving force than you must evaluate how they may be affecting your life, your functioning, your purpose. Thoughts and feelings describe where you are mentally and emotionally and can only become a block if they stop you from doing right, from making right choices, and decisions, from reasoning properly, from becoming a better person, from influencing your actions, relationships in negative ways, from leading you down the wrong path, etc…”

+Magdalin+ you said, “I believe in living according to right principles and practices that can align me with the Divine Source (God), and lead me into the insights necessary to know the proper solution and answer, as it fits each situation.”

It makes me wonder if you and others do not realize that what I am teaching is precisely what you have said. How do you know if you are living according to right principals and practices? Did you read what those are in a book? Did someone tell you what those RIGHT principals and practices are? Because no one can do that, it would be an infinitely long book of rules and exceptions to the rules.

“Well, you are semi-correct. I agree, that would be an infinitely long book. But in order for yourself to become that Life Book, you must become a student of all kinds of books first. And then, take what you learn and apply it in writing your own book as you go along….”

What I am teaching is how each person can tell for themselves, without a book of rules, what RIGHT principals and practices are as it fits each situation. Your feelings are your guide. If you are feeling bad, you are NOT thinking/being/speaking/doing/living RIGHT principals and practices. This is simplicity itself. All the rest that I say is to help make sense of that basic philosophy.

“Well, your feelings should not be your guide unless you have mastered your thoughts and they are of Light only. I know many people who feel great while doing all the wrong things, and having all the wrong thoughts. Learning to do right can create pressure, distress, frustration, anger, sadness etc. As anything new that you need to learn to apply or do and while training yourself you feel distressed it is the same with learning to do right. So if you go with your feelings only, you will never try to do right if it feels bad. You will choose to remain how you are until you are confronted with a situation where you must change regardless of how you feel.”

So many people get guidance in so many different ways…some see colors, some hear angels speak to them, others follow the bible or some other book, others talk to God directly…but what is common amongst ALL people? FEELINGS! We ALL have feelings. They are the common guide that everyone can depend upon having available to them.

Both positive and negative thinking creates…It is not just positive thinking that creates. Thought is our creative power. But what is it that you create? Your feelings guide you and tell you the answer.

I never said feeling were wrong. I never said feelings are wrong. FEELINGS ARE NEVER WRONG! I do not, nor will I ever teach that feelings are wrong. FEELINGS ARE ALWAYS CORRECT! They guide us and tell us where we are…on track or off track, with God or moving away from God.

I repeated that so that it would be very clear for everyone. Not to make an example of +Magdalin+ whose comments I am responding to. I know some people think I am knocking feelings. Some people misread what I teach quite often.

You also said “Feelings are not wrong as long as they don’t control you and you are in control of them.” (which is one of the reason I wrote the above statements as well as those below)

How can a feeling control you? IT IS Your thoughts that control you. You might think, I don’t like this feeling so I will not do that. Or you might think, I don’t like how it feels to look foolish so I will hide this thing I did, I will blame it on someone else, I will do further wrongs to cover up something wrong I did. But that is thought controlling you, not feelings. The person is simply running away from the feelings and not understanding that the source of their feelings is their thoughts.

Women tend to confuse this much more than men. IN GENERAL Women worship feelings and men worship thinking. When women approach my writing some of them to want to defend feelings and say things like, “Feelings just are, you need to accept them.” This is simply because they do not understand what I am saying about feelings. And they do not understand the role their thoughts play in creating feelings. Men need to get more in touch with their feeling and understand that their feelings are guiding them in regards to the quality of their thoughts.

“Again we seem to semi-agree as your comment sounds similar to what I am saying. Your thoughts do control you. But one can feel in certain ways and in response, unconsciously do certain things, and has made no connection between the thought/feeling/action they are experiencing and responding to. Ultimately it takes, many times, work to understand the thought behind the feeling and action. Then it requires honest self evaluation and examination as to whether one’s thoughts are according to “right” practices and/or principles that will guide them to a better place, state, activity etc.

“Now again knowing what is right or, wrong is not always as easy because situations that occur are not black and white and one must become examinant, insightful, introspective about right and wrong. This is where seeking knowledge, understanding, and wisdom, even from books that pertain to such needed understanding is a good approach. After all, education is a valued experience that helps all who pursue it in any way. But I also believe as I have practiced the inner spiritual path in pursuit of God (the Divine Source) to learning right and doing right and to becoming “right”.”

My friend +Magdalin+ I appreciate your comment. I feel that it speaks volumes about your integrity and desire to be a kind and loving person and that you have a close connection to God and it says that you are a wise woman.

However I am nit-picking at it to clarify this relationship between thoughts and feelings so that there is NO confusion as to what I am teaching and what I am NOT teaching…because what I am really teaching is one of the most powerful things you can know about Life. It will transform anybody’s life for the better if they really take it in and work with it and practice.

Yes everyone should aim to become that Life Book, and they should become a student of all kinds of books and teachings…it will save them a lot of time and lifetimes of trial and error.

I will agree with you that people who have NOT mastered their thought will have a difficult time understanding their feelings. But still they must aim to master their thoughts. It is exercise and must begin somewhere. MISTAKES WILL BE MADE! But this is the design of Life. We must learn from our mistakes. People who are not willing to do so will not wade so deeply into blogs like mine or yours. They won’t see the point and they will stumble through life in a drunken stupor.

If you are paying attention to your thoughts when you feel pressure, distress, frustration, anger, or sadness, you will find it is due to focus, expectations and attachments on a certain outcome. It does not come from the act of using your feelings as your guide. It is your focus on having a certain outcome, and shifting from one idea about how to get that outcome to the next two or three ideas until your run out of ideas and realize that none of your ideas have worked or will ever work to get you that outcome…then you will be frustrated. That is the process that causes these negative feelings. I still maintain that feelings are our absolutely accurate guide.

If you deliberately refocus your mind on something completely different, something that causes your feelings to change, you will see that your thoughts do affect your feelings and you have the power to change your feelings. If you can do it once, you can do it again, and you can make it a regular practice. After all, no one really wants to feel bad, not for a long period of time. The whole point of chasing money, sex, drugs, prestige, etc is because we think we will be happy when we get it. If we learn we can make ourselves happy by simply changing our mind then we have discovered a very great power that resides within us.

I will expand on one point just a little…when we feel grief, or anger, or some other strong negative emotion it does feel good to cry or scream or to lash out physically. We don’t even want to try to refocus our mind. This is necessary to release a great deal of pent up energy that has accumulated in our physical body. The longer we entertained negative thinking, the greater the emotional energy that will accumulate. We should allow ourselves this outlet to release this energy but not prolong it.

To be continued…

Love and Blessings,

Michael Skowronski

Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Continued from The Evolution of a Soul…

We must realize that there is a force that is seemingly outside of ourselves that has a very strong creative influence in our lives. We must also realize that this force has our ultimate best interest in mind as it puts us into life circumstances that may seem to us in our limited perspective to be painful. We must also realize that this force does have our desires in mind and gives us the chance to fulfill those desires, even if our desires when viewed from a limited perspective seem harmful to us. This force that we call God, or the Masters of Karma, or the Holy Spirit, or our Oversoul are all attempting to create balance within creation, to satisfy all of our desires, to evolve us towards a very delicious and satisfying state of wholeness while maintaining our individuality. If we can keep this in mind while we are going through the difficult moments of our lives, and trust that this is how Life works, then we can let go of our attachments in any single moment of time. If we let go of our attachments then we also let go of suffering and embrace peace.

Desire is not the reason we suffer as some philosophies state…attachment to the outcome is the cause of our suffering. Desire is a creative mental state that draws lifeforce energy through us. Attachment causes us to suffer.

So in practical terms I feel I have covered the basics about life and how to avoid suffering using this new perspective when Life does not seem to be giving you what you want. Now I would like to cover how to use our minds to create within the boundaries I have just described.

Our Creative Mind

Although we may seem tiny and insignificant in terms of the great powers of Life that surround us, our minds really do have a very potent creative ability. This creativity gets much stronger as we expand ourselves into alignment with absolute Truth. Think of it this way…Imagine a small circle somewhere inside of a larger circle. The larger circle represents the full potential of who we are and absolute Truth and the smaller circle represents the developed personality containing all of its experience, habits of thought, and understanding of Life. That small circle is not necessarily dead center within the larger circle, the position within the larger circle is unique for each of us. Our goal is to expand that small circle until it is as large as the larger full circle. We do this by observing our thoughts and the consequences of our thoughts. Our feelings are one of the consequences of our thoughts.

When we start out as a new soul, that small circle is quite small. As we make mistakes and suffer the consequences it remains small. But once we learn from our mistakes, and change our habits of thought, our awareness expands and so does that small circle. Now at least in one small way, we understand a certain aspect of life. And this process continues until that small circle expands to the size of the full larger circle.

Our thoughts are creative. The first things they create are feelings. Our feelings are the primary basis of our experience of life. If we feel good, we experience a good life. If we feel bad, we experience a bad life. All masters tell us that when we are in alignment with God we feel good…the greater the connection, the closer to blissful our feelings get. When we are separating ourselves from God we feel bad, the flow of life-force energy into us is choked off, and it somehow feels like death, we feel like we want to die.

Since God is Life itself, since God is all knowing, all seeing and the greatest and only power that exists, it is foolish to separate ourselves from God. Yet as young souls we do not know this and we do it on a regular basis and come to the conclusion that it is some outside circumstance that is making us feel bad. This is very confusing for us and it takes a lot of time to work this out, and we create a lot of harmful elementals in the process. But once we do work it out we come to realize that feeling good means we are connected with God and all of that power, wisdom and guidance.

So the first thing to know about being creative is that it should feel good. When it doesn’t you are heading down the wrong path, an impossible path, a path that will not yield what it is that you truly desire. When you do not feel good something is wrong and you should stop in that moment and evaluate your thoughts or evaluate what you just came into contact with. You are getting the message that this is not going to be good for you or for anybody else, which is also you.

Sometimes we think that we need to feel bad when something bad happens to us or to someone else and we prolong the bad feelings. Can you see how that is not helpful? I am not telling you that you cannot feel your feelings and cannot have a good cry or that you should not let pent up emotions like anger out. This is not about putting on a happy face when you are really miserable…that will create physical illness in your body. This is about transforming the thoughts that created the emotions in the first place. When you first begin this process, it may take some time before you realize how you feel and those emotions might just build up to the place where releasing the emotions are exactly what you need to do. Have a good cry. Beat a pillow to a pulp. Go for a brisk walk and kick a few stones into a safe direction. Do your best not to off load these emotions onto other people or animals. Release the physical energy that builds up with emotion and while you are doing it restore your mind to sanity. Reach for thoughts that make you feel just a little bit better, and then again just a little bit better still, and keep doing it until you have released all the emotion, stabilized your mind and are feeling good again.

As for creative thought, “Not”, “No” and “Don’t Want” are meaningless! What we focus on expands. If you think, “I don’t want such and such,” then such and such is what you are creating.

One single thought will not create much in this world. It takes much more thought and much more focus on something to attract it into your life. Some people get the notion if I think, “I want such and such,” then such and such should appear. Of course that is not how it works. What about the billions of thoughts you hold in your mind the rest of the day? They are creative too and they will cancel out the single stray thoughts you hold because you really do not believe it is really possible.

Thoughts that create strong feelings are much more creative than thoughts that create weak or no feelings.

Desire is creative and for the most part happens automatically. When you feel something is missing, you automatically desire the missing object. When your car breaks down, you automatically desire the resources to fix it or a car that works properly.

Focusing on “I want, I want, I want” is really focusing on “I don’t have, I don’t have, I don’t have.” It is focusing on lack. It does not feel good. Focus instead on what it will be like when you do have it. Dream of how it will help you to have it.

Focusing on how your desire will come is rarely helpful. If you pay attention you will notice it does not feel good. It feels like a burden. It feels like you have extra work to do, stressful. It feels like you don’t know how to make it happen, frustration. Let God sort out how it comes, but do follow joyful inspiration when it comes, this often leads you to the fulfillment of desires.

Go with the flow. Accept what is coming and where you are. Often we need certain experiences to prepare us for what it is we want. For example, if you want a really good lover and partner, yet you tend to blow up in anger and blame others for your anger, you may need many experiences that help you work through your anger. Otherwise if the right person comes into your life you will alienate them and push them away. But if you have a few lovers come and go through your life, lovers that also have issues around anger to work on, you can both work through them together and part company when it is time to get ready for the partner who is that perfect match you are seeking.

Like attracts like. We attract things to us based on our dominant vibrations. These vibrations are formed by our thoughts and our feelings tell us the nature of these energies. Life is filled with random events, people and things that pass us by on a continuous basis. Yet we only tune into a small fragment of what is passing us by. This tuning in occurs based on our vibration that was created by our thoughts. If we have a desire, but are lost in the “whoa is me” sort of thinking, our desire can float on by and not be noticed due to the mismatch in our vibration. But if you are happy and carefree and feeling good you will notice your desire as it floats on by and reel it in.

Although this may have been a long blog, it really is a short description of a very large reality. In reality Life is much bigger and much more amazing then all of this I have explained. Others will paint a different picture, one that may even seem to conflict some of the things I am telling you. That is okay. Take it in, take it all in, and observe Life. Allow a multidimensional picture to form in your mind about how it all fits together. You may find it takes years for some of the pieces to fit. I used to think there was no such thing as hell. I’d get angry at my Christian upbringing for pushing that concept onto me. But these days I see how it fits…it is just that hell is not an eternal experience like we were taught. Hell is an isolated experience and one we build for ourselves through our thought process. Hell is something our Oversoul and the Masters of Karma helps us move out of by giving us experiences that balance and correct our thinking.

So if you don’t understand how a certain concept fits, let that be okay. Work with what you do understand and observe. You have all of the resources you need to understand Life and to master your own God given creative powers. Other people can guide you, but you have to do the work and make your own connection with God.

For those whose philosophy of life does not include reincarnation, this maybe a difficult explanation to swallow. Reincarnation may be a difficult concept to prove, none the less it does explain so much about the inequities of life. I know of no other philosophy of life that makes any sense or is fair in anyway without reincarnation in it. People that present philosophies without reincarnation in it are fond of saying that the unexplainable is the mystery of God. But I say that reincarnation is a fact based on my own personal experience. ALL prominent masters that I am aware of who are well respected and have been able to perform amazing miracles or had provable psychic abilities, state that reincarnation is a fact. These include masters from all over the world in many different religions and cultures.

What I have presented in this blog is a combination of my own experiences along with the teachings of many masters I have encountered in my years of study as well as intuitive information that comes from my own conversations with God. I know that I still have further to go in fully understanding all of this myself and I am open to receiving comments with alternative views.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story
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The greatest difficulty with understanding how our minds create stem from the narrow focus we hold on our single physical life. We are much more than this ego person in this body in this single physical lifetime. We are eternal beings whose lives have always been and always will be. Eternity is a very long time. No matter what occurs in a single lifetime it cannot affect who we really and truly are. Losing an arm or one’s eyesight is nothing for a soul that is immortal and perfect. For such a being how could there ever be fear or worry or doubt?

So we setup a game, one in which we forget who we are for what seems to be a very long time. Although time does not really exist we have created the illusion that time is real by a sequencing of events and a space in which these events leave their mark and maintain a continuity. The net result is a seemingly real existence where it seems that we can indeed be harmed…the mark is left and the continuity is maintained. The physical dimension is a place where we can experience and feel fear, something that cannot happen in our pure pristine state as God. Because a small piece of God isolates Itself in a human form and perspective, it can experience the rest of God as separate, vast, and powerful. Because God isolates many parts of Itself into many human forms, God gets many different perspectives to experience Itself form. This also gives God the chance to have many other beings to interact with relieving what must be the ultimate in loneliness.

Once we enter this dimension we take on a boundary that seemingly separates us, or delineates us, from the rest of God. This boundary is maintained by our own unique and individual experiences in the worlds of time and space. This boundary is our personality, which we continuously develop and fine tune over many lifetimes. Desires are born from the seeming lack that exists within any given moment and place; these desires draw life-force energy through us and anchor us in the movement through time and space.

In this playground of creativity we have many physical bodies which we call lifetimes or incarnations. When we start out we are a new soul, have forgotten everything about who we are and have a clean personality barren of any sort of habit or skill. When we complete our cycles of incarnation into physical form, we are a mature old soul, we remember fully who we are, we have a well developed personality which has the habits and skills of a master. There are many stages we pass through during our evolution; infancy, childhood, adolescence, young adult, maturity, and old age. This is why you can find old men who behave like a naughty child and a young child that behaves like a mature adult.

From the perspective of our Oversoul we chose the circumstantial setup of our lifetime. These are the broad brush strokes that paint the background of our life. They include people, places and the type of body that we inhabit.

Once in the body every thought we think, every action we take causes us to develop habits of thought and action. These habits of thought are the only thing that we carry forward with us from lifetime to lifetime. The habits of the body die with the body, but are easier to develop in succeeding lifetimes due to the habit of thought that came with the habit of body. These habits of thought are the personality traits that form the boundary that define who we are as a separate being from the rest of God.

There are consequences to our thoughts and actions which includes our feelings too. As a young and immature soul these consequences and feelings are difficult to relate to our thoughts and more easy to relate to our actions and outer circumstances. As a mature soul we come to realize that our thoughts are at the core of all of our actions and feelings. We also come to realize that we can even manipulate outer circumstances, including the actions of others by the way we think.

Our thoughts form permanent elementals in the psychic world which gain strength and energy with repetition of those thoughts and loose strength and energy by the lack of such thoughts. Elementals are Thought Forms. These elementals are the basis of what we call our energy and our habits of thought. These elementals repel certain people and events and attract others. With enough focus these elementals can even take on physical form. These elementals return to us frequently for a refresh of energy, and we feed them each time we think in the way that we created them. How much we feed them depends upon the length of time we give them our mental focus and how steady that focus is. Thus they seem to have a life of their own and they seem to control us when they return to us for a feeding. We can deplete elementals of their strength and energy by not thinking about them and giving our thoughts and energy to other more desirable elementals.

When we die we shed our physical bodies and live in our psychic and mental bodies. These elementals still exist there. They still influence us, cause us to think in predictable and habitual ways, and create the reality that we perceive in the psychic realm. As an immature soul, we have no understanding of these elementals; we believe them to be of a reality beyond our control. Thus we have either a hellish experience or a heavenly one based on the nature of these elementals, and the thoughts they compel us to think. This is one of the reasons so many young souls insist that there is a heaven or hell while in the physical world because this is what they have experienced. As a mature soul we gain control over these elementals and can deactivate them and create more desirable elementals. As a mature soul we can easily escape any hellish elementals and create heavenly ones even while we exist only in our psychic and mental bodies. This is why mature souls insist that life is what you make it while in the physical world because this is what they have experienced. If you have not gained control over your mind in the physical plane, you will not have control of it in the psychic or mental planes after you die.

At the highest level of our individual being is that which I call our Oversoul. Along with the Masters of Karma, or the Holy Spirit, or God, depending on how you choose to label that level of creation, our Oversoul helps our soul in its evolution. Our Oversoul with the Masters of Karma selects the circumstances of our next incarnation including physical bodies that are prone to illness or health, physical living locations which may contain pollutants that cause illness or a clean and natural environment, and kind loving people or abusive predators as relatives, friends, teachers, doctors, lawyers and other professional people we might encounter in our lifetime. Our Oversouls choose such circumstances in order to have experiences that are impossible to have as an unlimited and immortal being. Our Oversoul also chooses such experiences so that we can learn and correct our mistakes in thought and create elementals that support us in gaining that which we desire. The unfulfilled desires we form in our physical lifetimes are also taken into account in the setup of incarnational circumstances. Ultimately all of our desires will be fulfilled in some way over the course of our many incarnations.

For example if in a lifetime we desired wealth and created it at the expense of others our Oversoul would create circumstances for the soul to understand how it feels to be subjugated by another and used to create wealth for someone other than self. Then in another lifetime the Oversoul may create a lifetime where wealth is inherited, while peace and happiness may be kept at arm’s length for the soul to learn that wealth is not the source of happiness. If in a lifetime a soul created extreme pollution as an industrial leader, the Oversoul would create life circumstances where the soul must live in a polluted environment which would cause physical discomforts and diseases. If in a lifetime where sexual appetites were created by a man who forced sex upon his own or other children, or others who were physically weaker than he was, then a lifetime where he is unwillingly forced to meet the sexual appetites of others is created. You will find that in some past eras this was considered natural and normal in certain cultures and in this era it is considered perverted. As many individuals have experienced both sides of this issue humanity as a whole has changed its view on the situation and it is rare to find a culture that supports it. We must realize that we have done many things in our past lifetimes that we would now consider a crime; it is naïve to think otherwise.

From the perspective of the Oversoul evolution and maturity are the goal. The Oversoul wants to bring this separate, individual soul, to full realization of its oneness with God and into full power and access to the creative resources and attributes of God, while it still maintains its own unique beingness as an individual soul. From the perspective of the soul that incarnates in physical, psychic and mental bodies, desires are born, elementals are created, and the personality is formed, all of which lead to consequences and the creation of balancing and fulfilling circumstances by the Oversoul and the Masters of Karma.

To be continued..

Love and Blessings,

Michael Skowronski

Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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World Transformation Radio Talk Show is about healing individuals and discussing solutions to the problems that plague the world at this time. We will be interviewing guests who are authors, healers and have been involved in providing solutions and reviewing the results they have achieved. The main focus of this show is NOT the problems of the world! The focus is on the solutions.

Healing Individuals and Healing the planet is what this is all about. If you look at my blogs you will get a good idea of the sorts of things we will discuss. I wish to emphasize the following blogs which will give you a much better idea of practical plans I am presenting for healing the planet.

*Healing the World Using Law of Attraction
*International World Government
*Crime and Punishment…Both are Insane!
*A Beautiful Vision for Re-architecting Our World

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Past Shows

Searching for Missing People
The Plight of the Boat People of Vietnam

Lat February 26th 2008, we had Terin Taylor on our show…

Join us on for our talk with Terin Taylor about her search for her missing sister and the boat people of Vietnam. Terin Taylor is using her notoriety as a beautiful fashion model to help get the word out about her missing sister and her mission to help others who are looking for lost loved ones. Terin has managed to acquire more than 103000 friends on her MySpace account which gives her a pretty good chance of reaching a lot of people with her message.

The Power of Love

This Tuesday, February 19th 2008, we will have two guests on our show…

HANEEFAH EL-AMIN aka Granny Queen.

When I met this woman on MySpace I went and had a look at her photos. I could see a white hair lady with happy friends and young ones. I felt such a loving energy from her that I dubbed her my Granny Queen. Either I didn’t notice her age, or at the time it said 99 or something like that. I didn’t realize she was only 2 year older than me! LOL…anyway I still think of her as my Loving Granny since she is a very loving lady with lots of energy for reaching out and helping others.

Shyni Skowronski

My other guest is my sweet and loving wife Shyni. I could say more about her, but I have already written many blogs about her, the most recent blog which exemplifies the power of love is The Honeymoon and the Truth about Eju.

It is said that Love conquers all, that Love heals all wounds, and that Love is the answer to all problems. This is true. Between the three of us we will be sharing stories that gives testimony to the Power of Love.

Why is Love so important in transforming the world? Look at all that is happening. Our government has gone fascist and continues to go deeper into this state daily. And pretty much everyone hates 13ush these days. Yet we must remember in the midst of our greatest pain that Love is the Power that will bring us out of our despair. We are not going to transform this world by hating these people, or by clamping down harshly and imposing suffering on more people. We need to bring ourselves to a loving place in order to receive the guidance necessary to successfully transform this world into a peaceful and loving place.

The show of February 12th 2008 Features Mark David Gerson

Mark David Gerson is a spiritual teacher and mentor, creativity coach, artist, sound healer and author of two new books — a visionary novel titled The MoonQuest: A True Fantasy, and The Voice of the Muse: Answering the Call to Write, a book and companion CD for anyone who wants to write, doesn’t believe they can write, is feeling blocked in their creativity, has written forever or is new to writing. His goal in all his work is to help people reawaken experience and express the fullness of their passion and potential.

Besides being a wise man and a healer Mark David loves helping other authors. When I was new to MySpace and just starting to market my book Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story Mark David was very kind and gave me many tips and pointed out some great internet resources for authors.

To learn more about Mark David, what he teaches, and his books please visit his websites:
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Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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This is the third installment of A Beautiful Vision for Restructuring Our World, the second part is Our Power and Resources, How are We Wasting Them?

When the European Conquistadores came to the Americas, these continents contained a population of people that numbered in the tens of millions. These were people who were wealthy, cultured, and organized. They were living in harmony with nature and living happily and peacefully with one another. The Europeans came to the Americas and forcefully took what would have been given to them freely. The native aboriginal people of the American continents were generous. They were willing to share what they had and teach the Europeans how to live with nature and in a peaceful culture. The Europeans could not even see what it was they were destroying. They saw themselves as superior, when in fact they were inferior in way too many ways. It was only in their technology to do harm and kill, and their willingness to do so, that they were superior.

This abuse of power wasted a culture that in many ways is what we are seeking today. If only the Europeans would have shared their technology with the aboriginal Americans and learned the peaceful ways of those people we could be living in a world of peace today.

My point is…since there have been very large civilizations on this planet that did live in peaceful harmony, civilizations that did share and did look out for the greater good of all, then it is possible for us to change and become like they once were. Yet we can retain the lessons that corruption has brought us and keep the wisdom gained from our suffering to help us avoid ever succumbing to such a social system as we have now ever again. We can heal this planet. It worked once so it is possible and WE are the ones who can do it.

Social Systems and Organizations that Achieve Results

I have been reading about the works of the Delancey Street Foundation in reforming the worst criminals in our society. They use these criminals as teachers in what they call an each-one-teach-one system. Each person is a mentor and each is a mentee. They created their own businesses which funds the majority of their needs. They do not use government funding; however they do utilize donations from the public. They even built their own buildings using the labor of the criminals who are enrolled in their program. They have been doing this for 35 years now and are highly successful. They operate more as a family than anything else. They are a model of leadership and a working organization that can be learned from and which lends credibility to the vision I have been putting forth in this and my other blogs of this nature.

If the worst criminals in our society can do such amazing things with their limited resources, just think what we can do with the best of our society! I am certain there are many more models of functional social systems out there that we can use to architect a new society from. We just have to seek them out and learn from them and begin putting what we learn into practice.

World Transformation Radio

We are beginning a new radio talk show called World Transformation Radio where I will be interviewing guests who have been working to heal the planet. We need guests who have experience and achieved results, so if you know of someone, or you are someone like that please contact me. We also need participants that can help formulate these ideas I have presented and help flesh out the fine details necessary to begin implementing them. These talks will remain on the internet. These talks will attract other likeminded people who have the power and the will to take action. This will take time, I don’t expect these changes to happen overnight, but we must start sometime. Why not now? Will you participate?

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story
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