Relationship Advice - Spiritual Healing

Of what value is belief? This conversation began with a simple question about the form life takes throughout the universe. An interesting question…a curiosity to satisfy…but we must first come to know who we are, from experience, NOT from belief or from the teachings of others. Only then we can really know the answers to such questions. You should not believe me or anyone else. You must discover the knowledge that lives inside of you…

“I was just curious…and wanted to know what your thoughts are on the possibility of life existing in other parts of our universe? Do you think we are alone?”

There is NOWHERE that Life is Not. For God is Everywhere and Everything.

However, the Human experience is the highest experience that God has of Himself in existence. Perhaps that is duplicated in other places; on other planets…some say it is not, others say it is…I am not certain. But human consciousnesses can experience themselves as one with All which is one with God, and can create with the Almighty many things beyond the grasp of the ordinary human.

“So, humans are the highest experience that god has of himself… and if you look at reincarnation… then, were we ever in existence of a different form other than human? I’ve always wondered how that works…

“Perhaps, I have read in some places that some have been angels who decided to go human. I have read that some go through the experience of being rock, plant, and/or animal then go through the experience of being human.

“In other words, what level are animals? I’ve had it explained to me before that animals and humans don’t go together in reincarnation… rather that animals evolve to a higher existence, but they do not ever reincarnate into a human form. I have not yet put my views on reincarnation into a complete belief pattern… simply because just when I think I understand it, I suddenly learn something new… and so my views are always evolving and changing and growing.”

I explain much of this in my blog Evolution of a Soul. However, we are getting into pretty abstract territory here. The first problem is there are no words to fully describe an experience that is outside of the physical experience. Our words can only accurately describe that which we can experience in the physical world. Yes there are some words to describe those things beyond the physical, but how is it any person can really understand them if they don’t remember an experience that is beyond the physical?

Belief is Not Knowing

The second problem is with beliefs. Belief is NOT KNOWING. So of what value is a belief?

(Most of my answer was removed due to the reasons stated below.)

“I’ve also heard before that as far as reincarnation goes, humans evolve here on earth as far as they can, lifetime after lifetime, but then, once they have moved beyond what they can experience here, then they move onto other planets…where there are other life forms that live in a higher dimensional existence. Or, they stay here, and choose to help other humans on earth with their life experiences. There are whole groups of individuals who have formed religion-like congregations, based from these beliefs.

“There is so much out there as far as information goes… and it’s as if the possibilities are endless! It’s also easy to become confused.”

I too have read many different accounts of how things are beyond our physical incarnations. There are many versions and ideas, they are a lot of fun to explore since they cause us to expand our thinking and our view of this very small experience of life we call physical reality…

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“I haven’t yet decided on what I believe, simply because there is so much out there that cannot be proven…and so then it comes down to picking and choosing what I believe…and how much faith I have.

“I want to know as much as I could possibly know…and understand as much as I could possibly understand before I let myself start having too much faith in one idea.

“Maybe it’s not about what is the truth…maybe it’s simply what kind of truth I want to choose?”

I believe truth can be known, but there again you see I too am using the word believe. It has been my experience that I continue to discover more truths about life through experience…

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• All of my blogs.
  
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Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Popularity: 9% [?]

Are you aware that there are many people who see right through you? No? Okay, so look around the room; make sure no one is looking over your shoulder. Yes, I am writing this to you. Directly to you, the one who is reading this right now.

How does it make you feel to contemplate the fact that you are transparent? Does it push against your right to privacy? Do you believe your thoughts and intentions are private? You don’t have something to hide…or do you?

This is not a joke. This is real folks. There are plenty of people who can see right through you, right now. There are probably a few of them in your life. If that thought makes you just a little bit uncomfortable then you would benefit greatly from the information contained in this and my other blogs…

(There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
see details below)

• The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  
• All of my blogs.
  
• MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  
• Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  
• Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
  

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Popularity: 9% [?]

I had a friend on MySpace ask…

“Why is it when it’s on ’God’s time’ it seems that nothing is happening? At least nothing good.”

We are the ones to label things good or bad. There is no such thing as an absolute good or bad, life just is, and it is eternal. That which you are, always has been and always will be.

When people talk about God’s time what they are saying is that…

(Most of my response has been deleted for the reasons stated below.)

This is why it is essential to be proactive in your efforts to grow. The more you grow, the more you become aware, the more you clear out the misunderstandings you hold about life, the greater the things you attract to yourself will be.

“Then why is it that I see so many screwed up people with good jobs, lots of money, and crazy women with such hot looking men?”

When we look at the surface of other people’s lives they can look really good and appealing. But you don’t know…

(There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
see details below)

• The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  
• All of my blogs.
  
• MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  
• Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  
• Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
  

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Popularity: 8% [?]

I know this blog is going to piss some people off. But for all of you who are pissed off at the title and contents, consider this…this idea you keep spreading that God/Jesus/Whoever is out there and we are all separate miserable sinners lucky to be loved by God if we worship him and only him…this message is doing a huge disservice to yourself and to humanity. Why? Because you are delaying some people from realizing their godly self.

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People all over the world have become enlightened. People all over the world have experienced the realms of heaven first hand! People all over the world have healed others. People all over the world have raised the dead and have themselves risen from the dead. (See my stories of this in my blog Truth vs. the Bible halfway down into the blog.)…

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There was a time where I was groping in the dark…indeed still there is some darkness for me too. I used to read the magnificent stories of many masters who experienced all those things previously stated and wondered, “Can these things happen for me? Can I experience myself as God?” I want to tell you that it has indeed happened for me too. Now I am not saying I have mastered life to the extent some of these others have mastered life, but I have had some very deep and profound glimpses and I have made some deep and profound changes in my personality in the span of my lifetime so far. If you read my book, Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story, you will see a dramatic difference between the man I was in my thirties and the man who is writing these blogs. That is the result of experience and real change. And I continue to evolve and improve with each and every day. So can you! I am NOT unique. I am NOT special. If you admire me, I hope that you can admire your own self and will seek to experience the God within you. I have even had a couple of experiences of Samadhi, a deep state of meditation where the mind is bypassed and an absolute connection with God is established. In such a state I realized the truth that each and every one of us is indeed One and we are all God. This was a very real experience and it is what motivates me to push forward no matter what the expense to me is to help others in their healing. It is because I KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are one with me and by helping you I am helping myself…

(There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
see details below)

• The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  
• All of my blogs.
  
• MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  
• Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  
• Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
  

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

Popularity: 8% [?]

You are living God’s life. Your experience is God’s experience. Forgetting any religious brainwashing you may have…What is it that God would enjoy experiencing through you? How is it you can give God the greatest joy and experience each and every day?

Hint…make time for yourself. Feel, don’t let the mind keep telling you “work, work, work!” Enjoy children, pets, nature. Take time to relax and know all is well. Take time to dream. Make love. And do work when it does feel good. Do whatever it is that feels good with the intention of giving God the best experience possible.

The conflicts in your life are about how…how to go about achieving what you want.

You know what you want. You just feel limited. Forget the how, you will eventually get everything you want or your wants will change.

Zina

Funny, I was telling a troubled co-worker these very words just this morning, only it wasnt a religious brainwashing but an abusive upbringing she is struggling to overcome. Sometimes I feel that I am the only one around me that ’gets it’, then I read this….I am a little dissapointed that there is no blog to comment on tho…

Thank you for, yet again, reminding me that we are all connected, and Im not the only one….Zina

I love Zina. I posted this as a bulletin only one day and it just so happened that she was telling the same thing to a friend that very day! Great minds think alike…(we all share the same mind because we are all one being!)

Zina is one of my dear friends on MySpace. She often leaves some very enlightening comments on my blogs. So do add her as a friend if you need more like minded people on your friends list.

Now Zina has her wish, this here is a blog to leave a comment on.

This blog is very true…if you think about it carefully, think about EVERY single wish you have had, every desire, every thought you repetively think, then you will realize that what you have in your life now is a perfect match to ALL of those thoughts and desires. So be careful what you think about, choose wisely what you desire, meditate, pray, and most of all follow your bliss. Let God move through you, live through you and let God experience the best life possible Through You!

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

Popularity: 6% [?]

This first paragraph from my blog, Relationship Breakups How to Cope, triggered a conversation about Suicide that I thought more people would be interested in.

 Suicide will not take you were you believe you will be going, to a place of peace. Suicide is trying to escape from yourself, and you just cannot do it. Wherever you go, there you are. In the afterlife, you will not be in the heaven you think you will be in; you will still be enmeshed in your life’s troubles, because the afterlife is still life. It is just life in another dimension. And you will not have the ability to change your programming there. You will be stuck with it, playing out your dramas over and over until your next physical life begins. And in your next physical life you will set up the same dramas so that you can finally face the issues and move through them. So in reality you will have to walk through that fire all over again, face the same pain all over again, and finish the walk to the other side. Don’t do it!

“How does ANYONE really know what the outcome of suicide is?

“At any given moment, we are right where we are suppose to be… And, each of us eventually does leave our physical bodies to rejoin All That Is…

“I know many of us have theories and beliefs about killing one self - mostly horrible beliefs with horrible believed outcomes…Are we sure that these conditioned beliefs are not just that? Conditioned beliefs.?.?.?

“This topic is something I have been theorizing about for about a year now…Personally the doom and gloom theory does not “work” for me… 

“I am wondering if you are implying that suicide is not an option only IF it has to do with a relationship gone bad… 

“What about the terminally ill? 

“What if they decide to stop all forms of treatment, knowing that there body will cease to live by doing so? Are they too doomed to such darkness on the “other side”?

“What about the smokers of the world, are they not “killing” themselves each and every day? Sure, it is not a quick gun shot to the head, but in the end, it is still the same, isn’t it?

I make these statements based on two thing:

1. Personal experience and remembrances of the other side…as dim as they may be.
2. The teaching of many masters I have read. Why do I trust they know what is what? Because they brought me quite a ways on my spiritual path, ie.. I got results, and I don’t believe their teachings could have brought me results if these masters did not know what they were talking about.

So in answer to your question…

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This is not about being punished for killing yourself. This horrible afterlife experience is not due to an edict passed down by God that says you must suffer for taking your own life…NO! It is about the fact that…

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“Are not ALL illness’s created from some sort of unresolved psychological states of mind? EVERYTHING that is our life, IS created by our thoughts…Illness included…So, how is this scenario any different from any other?”

I would say not in all cases, but in most cases yes. There are cases where masters are helping to balance the karmic load of a love one. In the book series…

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Lets take Hit.ler as an example…He killed himself because he had lost his war and the rest of the world would soon be coming to take him away, to ridicule him and abuse him and kill him…

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“First I must say….Love the 13ush/Hit.ler theory….I believe that without even having to “decide”…

“Second…How can we be certain that the person who commits suicide is not indeed facing the very “challenge” they set forth to accomplish in this life?

“I’ve heard it called “soul contracts” and “sacred contracts”…. but, could it not be possible that suicide was what that person came here to do? Maybe as a “lesson” for someone in their lives? Maybe a contract was set forth between the two “souls” before manifesting here in this reality? Maybe the act itself goes according to the plan they themselves chose for their “dance” this time around on the big stage…???

“What if I personally wanted to experience the experience of a loved one who kills themselves as one of MY “soul contracts”… Would that “experience” not have to be fulfilled by someone in order for me to experience mine?????”

You obviously think a lot and in depth about things. Bravo. Be sure to feel too. Just a caution from personal experience…thinkers tend not to feel as much and need to make more of an effort to do so.

I’ll admit there are probably cases where a soul chooses to experience killing themselves and also there are those who choose to experience a loved one killing themselves.

But still we come down to the real point to my original statement and that is death is not going to magically transform you. You will…

(There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
see details below)

Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

• The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  
• All of my blogs.
  
• MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  
• Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  
• Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
  

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

 I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

Popularity: 7% [?]

I had a friend, who shall remain Anonymous, write the following letter to me in response to my blog What is Right or Wrong? Your Feelings are Your Guide!…

“Hi: Right or wrong?… Somethings are really uncomplicated when it comes to that topic.. for example, if I took my time to send you and your wife a Valentine’s comment, it would had been RIGHT or proper for one of you to reciprocate and send one back or at least have the courtesy to acknowledge the receipt.. now, that was WRONG! Trust me your time is NOT more valuable than mine whatsoever! Preach… Walk the talk!”

(The rest of this blog has been removed…see details below. This is a VERY IMPORTANT topic in terms of living a happy and successful life or living in pain in missery…so do be sure to tap into my blogs.)

Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

• The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  
• All of my blogs.
  
• MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  
• Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  
• Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
  

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

 I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Popularity: 9% [?]

This blog is an answer to a couple of letters from a friend who is having difficulties leaving her abusive husband. If you have some practical advice or resources for women in California with this sort of difficulty please post as a comment.

“Dearest Michael,

“Thank you for your Relationship Breakups – How to Cope blog. I have found it helpful and I am in agreement with much of what you have said.

“I have been trying to make a marriage work for a long time now that was more than likely doomed from the start and now I am trapped or at least unaware of a way out.”

Becoming trapped in a relationship or feeling trapped is a very bad sign that you are not in the right place, not with the right person, not doing that which nurtures your soul.

“I was unable to work for most of the last 5 yrs due to the abuse I received from my husband. I was depressed and suicidal. I committed myself to the mental hospital 2 or 3 times and was heavily medicated for much of that time.”

I often wonder why people stay in such relationships for so long. I guess this is how we learn that we cannot change other people who do not want to change. But I would suggest to a young and inexperienced person to take heed of such telltale signs early in a relationship and get out much sooner. Don’t let tradition, religion, or the coercion of family stop you from protecting yourself.

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“My husband was sexually molested by a catholic priest when he was 10. He was an altar boy. I am telling you this because I want you to be able to understand, as I do, that there are reasons in his case, for the arrogance as you have explained it. I understand that I have been subjected to his lies, cheating and manipulation, emotional, verbal and financial abuse because of what happened to him.”

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“After a lot of soul searching, reading and contact with blessed angels such as you, I have finally come to a better place within myself; I have a greater understanding. I no longer take any medication other than my blood pressure pill and a multi-vitamin. I was finally able to get a part-time, minimum wage job, which has recently become an “on-call” position and have kept it for about 3 months now.

“Unfortunately, while I am extremely grateful and blessed to be mentally and spiritually better, some of the abuse continues and I know that it would be best for the both of us to move on. He still has anger management problems and is verbally abusive and he still controls all of the money except my tiny paycheck. I have been unable to set much of that aside as I have had to use that money for my basic necessities. I don’t even know how much he makes. And he has told me he will fight having to pay me alimony because of all of the years he had to support me while I couldn’t work. I cannot afford to be alive right now let alone afford an attorney to help me.”

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“There are shelters that may be able to help me, but they are run by the Catholic Church. How am I supposed to go and ask for help from the same people that technically put me in this position to begin with? I have no money or support system. No family that is willing to help me, I’m lonely and scared and I don’t know what to do. And so yes, I have considered suicide. All I know is that I cannot take this situation anymore as it is eating away all of the progress I have made healing myself.”

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“We don’t own any property except our car and I guess I would be entitled to 1/2 the value of that, which isn’t much. I could not afford to stay in our apartment even if I could “kick” him out. I have a call into an attorney and I am waiting for a response. My father told me that he had to pay for my mother’s attorney when they divorced eons ago and he wants me to make my husband pay for the attorney. I honestly don’t know if it works like that or not anymore and I won’t know till I talk to the attorney.”

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“We have been married a little over nine years. Living together longer but I guess that doesn’t count. In California 10 yrs is considered a lengthy marriage and after 10 yrs of marriage I would be entitled to 1/2 of his retirement when he retires. According to the attorney I spoke to a while back, up until 10 yrs, I would be entitled to some sort of alimony for 1/2 of the yrs we were married, so about 4 1/2yrs.

“Understanding how my husband ticks, I think there is an effort on his part, sub conscious or not, to make me end this before our 10th anniversary in December so that I won’t be entitled to any of his retirement. He also has a law suit pending against the church, of which I know few details. I don’t think he wants me to have any access to that potential compensation either, regardless of the fact I have suffered collateral damage from his abuse. He is very Jeckel and Hyde when it comes to money; he always has to have control of it. He is nice as pie when we have it, and mean and nasty when we don’t. So in all honesty the only thing that will be an issue is alimony.

“I’m not looking to rake my husband over the coals. I left my last marriage with little more than bedroom furniture and could have had some alimony but declined it. I just wanted out. I was 22 then and had just gone thru some training and knew that I could get a good paying job. The situation is quite different now. I am going to need some help until I can get on my feet and that’s all I want. After everything I have been through with him (much of which I haven’t mentioned here), I think I deserve at least that.

“I have an appointment with an attorney next week so I should know more then.”

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“Last Sunday I started attending Co-dependents Anonymous meetings to try and get some help and support. My whole life has been spent trying to help and rescue others and now when it is vital to my wellbeing that I focus on rescuing myself, I honestly don’t know how. I am angry and hurt over this relationship and I’m finding it hard not to focus on him and what he’s done to our relationship. And because I’m stuck here with him, I cannot mourn the loss of this relationship appropriately which in turn makes me angrier and hurt.”

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“On top of the marriage problems my 17 yr old college bound, high school basketball star, daughter, informed me last week that she is pregnant and wants to keep the baby. I have a 19 yr old alcohol and drug addicted son who isn’t speaking to me and a 21 yr old daughter who decided to become a stripper instead of going to college. She just got out of jail because her abusive boyfriend falsely accused her of domestic violence. Instead of taking a plea that would have kept her out of jail and could have been expunged, she decided, against my advice of course, to take it to trial where she could end up in jail for quite some time. And, I’m still looking for another job. One with which I will be able to support myself.

“Michael, I feel as though I have stepped into the twilight zone and it is very hard to stay positive during all of this. But I want you to know that I am so grateful for you and my other blessed MySpace friends that have been so caring and supportive during this extremely stressful period in my life. I don’t know what I would do without you guys and I thank my Creator everyday for the blessing of my friends.”

(There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
see details below)

Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

• The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  
• All of my blogs.
  
• MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  
• Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  
• Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
  

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

 I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

image credits to Joseph

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I received this as a comment in my post Brutal Killings and Acts of Unspeakable Horror…

“Lately I’ve been very emotionally troubled and depressed about all the horrible violence that goes on in our world, not just humans hurting other humans, but humans hurting animals too. I am a huge animal lover and recently have seen some horrible videos about the treatment of cows in slaughterhouses, and even worse, the fur trade in China where animals including dogs and cats are often skinned alive. What I have seen is too horrific for words and beyond my comprehension.

“Now I read, in Canada the baby seal hunt is going to start in less than a month and over 300k will be bludgeoned to death at 3 months of age. It breaks my heart to know how many helpless animals are suffering in this way every second of the day. I can’t get these images and thoughts out of my head and is affecting me terribly.

“How can God let this happen? Why is our world so evil and violent? I don’t want to be in a world like this, but there’s no escape and I feel helpless. I can’t help these animals being tortured and killed in China every day. I can’t save 300k baby seals. I can pray and sign petitions, but it still all feels in vain. I guess I am mainly concerned about animals because they are helpless and have no voice, although the amount of pain inflicted on humans by other humans is horrendous too.

 “Why does this all have to happen? Why doesn’t God intervene instead of allowing all this suffering to simply prove a point of some sort or make us learn a lesson? I am to the point where I am angry with God over this. I just don’t understand and I feel so lost. If anyone can help give me peace of mind in some way I would appreciate it. Thanks.”

Dear Holly, thank you for your questions and for letting me post my response in a blog such as this. Many people think and feel the way you do. I used to think and feel this way too. At times my answers here in this blog may seem harsh. I do not mean to offend you or others. I do mean to wake people up and motivate them to make a greater commitment to their own healing process.

We are ALL responsible for the state our world is in. And it will take more than a few people to solve issues as big as these you are mentioning and the many others that plague our world today. There is no way we can get the masses of people to all change without a large base of leaders who we can rely upon to take up the work necessary with integrity, wisdom and courage. Hopefully everyone who reads this will take it as a wake up call from someone who loves life, loves humanity, loves the animals and the planet we live on, and loves all of God’s creation.

(There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
see details below)

Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

• The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  
• All of my blogs.
  
• MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  
• Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  
• Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
  

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

 I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

image credits to Keith Hodos

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While conversing through comments on The Golden Compass blog with my friend Caryl I came to find out about her situation with her daughter who had cancer. Because the conversation in that blog got off topic and because of a statement that I made regarding how our thoughts are creative spurred the following statement from Caryl I thought I would write this blog to help clarify in greater detail how our thoughts create and how Law of Attraction actually works in relationship to diseases such as cancer. (This blog DID HELP Caryl. She was grateful that I wrote it!)

“One more thing I have heard you repeat, that does somewhat bother me, is that you say (loosely paraphrased here) — our thoughts bring about the experiences, hardships, etc. that come our way. Neither my child nor I thought about disease or anything negative of this type to manifest this experience. It was shocking and far from anything we’d consciously or subconsciously think about. So, I’m hoping you mean that a lot of things can surface from our thinking, rather than all.“

As I began to answer this question it too went somewhat off topic, actually a new topic arose, one which will answer the questions of many people about many issues in their lives. I posted that blog and called it Evolution of a Soul (click here to read it).

A few days after posting that blog Caryl said, “This is a great blog… A lot of answers, to questions I asked of you, are within it… and beyond. Thank you :)”

So go and read that blog! It will give context to the answers I am giving here. Even still I want to answer Caryl’s other questions and an email she sent me a bit more directly and with more specifics regarding disease.

Here is the last email Caryl sent me about this topic along with my comments…

“My Daughter doesn’t exhibit a lot of stress in her life. She is unaware of the new findings, though. There’s nothing that can be done at this point and I wanted to let her get through Christmas and her birthday, worry-free, before we deal with anything we may have to in the near months. Her birthday is January 3rd and she will be 18. She was diagnosed the October before last, at age 16. She was in kidney failure and later developed an intestinal blockage, as well as many other chemo related complications…line infections, allergic reactions, and a whole lot more. We spent 4-1/2 months in the hospital, through all of the holidays last year and her 17th birthday, which she was in the Oncology ICU at the time. She went through 15 surgeries…5 rounds of aggressive chemo…illness, etc. in that short time. But, today, she is much better. She was very close to death upon her initial hospital admission. After her release from treatment, she was admitted again, due to a severe drug withdraw, which almost took her life again…the doctors forgot to wean her off of a drug. So, all in all, I should be elated that she made it through so much, a couple of close calls, and more…and, I was…and her future looked bright, to suddenly be dulled again by a ‘possible’ recurrence. I know I should be happy she’s not in a ‘true’ recurrence…but, I’m stuck, as I’ve said before.

“I understand it’s my own doing, my own thoughts, and it’s of no use to myself or my daughter. I know this…something is keeping me attached to the fear and worry, though…And, I fear I will be the cause of a negative outcome, over a positive one that she stays well. Part of why I questioned your words about our thoughts leading to outcomes we create…One thought leads to another and begins to spiral out of control. I understand this…and, I understand I have the power to control it, however I don’t understand why I’m not”

Your lack of control is a matter of a lack of practice, strong habits that do not serve you, and also a matter of not fully realizing through experience how much power you really do have in the way you think…life still seems to be something that is happening to you and not something that is happening through you. This is simply where you are on your journey though life, not a judgment about where you should be.

(Most of my advice removed for the reasons stated below.)

“I feel I need to get a handle on it all, somewhere, either the root of it, or to just change it…“

Get control over your thoughts and give up trying to control the disease or the disease process…

(Most of my advice removed for the reasons stated below.)

“And, I feel I do change my energy and thinking when I’m around her — although I know my personal thoughts, even when not around her still have an adverse affect on her. These thoughts are strongest when I’m alone. When I’m around her, I notice my thoughts switch to those that are only loving and I feel as if I’m glowing from within and I just stare at her and smile (and she finds it creepy, lol) and during these times my thoughts are about how happy I am she’s alive and how grateful I am that I have each moment I’m in, with her…able to sit next to her, talk to her, love her, and on an on. There’s so much more to each moment in any given day, but just too much to relay here. So, I guess what I’m trying to say is that it’s almost as if I bounce from one extreme to another. I’ll find a good balance. I can feel I will. And, I am conscious of how I think, all the time…for me, at least, a step toward improving.

“I read about your previous wife and her cancer. I want to say I’m sorry for your loss, but somehow it doesn’t seem fitting. I also read how you feel a lot of good experiences came into your life, later, which would not have occurred if she was still in your life. That’s another point I’m not at yet. I can’t imagine caring about life beyond my Daughter’s. And, I understand how that is holding on to thoughts or ideas for whatever reasons, not beneficial to myself…and, not wording it well right now.“

I can’t blame you and you should not blame yourself. I found it very difficult to focus on positive things while my wife was suffering with cancer. I also was not as aware of the need to change my thinking as I am now…

(Most of my advice removed for the reasons stated below.)

“I met many parents who resided with their children on the Oncology floor. Many lost their children. I saw how their thoughts changed with each reality they had to cope with…or accept. Many started off fearful, worried, and angry…full of fight to do all they could to save their children…but, as the illnesses took over, many softened, even some began to look as if they were becoming more at peace, with each turn for the worse with their children. It scared me. I felt as if they had lost the fight within themselves and were giving up on hope…accepting what once wasn’t acceptable. At the same time it scared me, it intrigued me and provided a different kind of hope. Although their seemingly different mindsets were appropriate in the times, wanting to let go so the suffering of the children would end, finding peace within their newly found acceptance - and more than just that, I felt they had lost a part of themselves, as if they had each undergone a lobotomy…content and less emotional…uncaring…although, not true.“

You have witnessed the way in which difficult life circumstances changes people for the better. Those people learned how to go with the flow and enjoy their lives.

(Most of my advice removed for the reasons stated below.)

“So, now you can see…which you probably did to begin with…where a lot of my questioning comes from…imaginative fear…and other type thoughts. Letting go…replacing thoughts…and so much more…I understand. I’m just stuck. And, the more I say it and think it and believe it the more it is so. I know this, lol. And, it’s not funny…Just something I have to really work on…

“And, this was all written without hesitation to say something different, or to correct anything, knowing I haven’t addressed all you wrote to me…but, it is long and repetitive in some words, so I’ll end it now. And, I will read again this last message you’ve written and other replies, as well as other blogs you have written, and hopefully you’ll begin to see a positive change real soon. And, my daughter’s health isn’t the only thing in my life, obviously, but I am the sole legal guardian for my Father, who became paralyzed about 3 years ago (he’s in a nursing home now) and when my Daughter become ill I had to give up our home (live with my Aunt now) and my job, income, security and more…and, I’m not that bad off compared to others…I’m very blessed in many ways and I know so…but, just expressing some of my circumstances…even if I sound like a martyr, lol.

“Anyway, I feel you’ve already generously spent so much time responding to me, so I wouldn’t ask for more, other than maybe in the near future, on other blog topics, etc

“Thank you so much, Michael. You’ve been caring, understanding, generous, and encouraging in many ways. I truly appreciate it.

“Much love,
Caryl“

Caryl, you do have a very good grasp on what you have to do, now it is a matter of practice and learning from the experiences you are having. My heart goes out to you as I am sure so many readers hearts too. You and your daughter will be in all of our prayers…

(There WAS much more to this blog but it has been removed…
see details below)

Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

• The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  
• All of my blogs.
  
• MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  
• Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  
• Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.
  

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

 I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

image credits to Mathew Crawford

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