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Suicide Does Not Bring Peace

01.04.2008 by admin Category Caring for Others, Confusion, Self-Worth 1 Comment →

This first paragraph from my blog, Relationship Breakups How to Cope, triggered a conversation about Suicide that I thought more people would be interested in.

Suicide will not take you were you believe you will be going, to a place of peace. Suicide is trying to escape from yourself, and you just cannot do it. Wherever you go, there you are. In the afterlife, you will not be in the heaven you think you will be in; you will still be enmeshed in your life’s troubles, because the afterlife is still life. It is just life in another dimension. And you will not have the ability to change your programming there. You will be stuck with it, playing out your dramas over and over until your next physical life begins. And in your next physical life you will set up the same dramas so that you can finally face the issues and move through them. So in reality you will have to walk through that fire all over again, face the same pain all over again, and finish the walk to the other side. Don’t do it!

How does ANYONE really know what the outcome of suicide is?

At any given moment, we are right where we are suppose to be… And, each of us eventually does leave our physical bodies to rejoin All That Is…
I know many of us have theories and beliefs about killing one self - mostly horrible beliefs with horrible believed outcomes…
Are we sure that these conditioned beliefs are not just that? Conditioned beliefs.?.?.?

This topic is something I have been theorizing about for about a year now…
Personally the doom and gloom theory does not “work” for me…

I am wondering if you are implying that suicide is not an option only IF it has to do with a relationship gone bad…

What about the terminally ill?

What if they decide to stop all forms of treatment, knowing that there body will cease to live by doing so?
Are they too doomed to such darkness on the “other side”?

What about the smokers of the world, are they not “killing” themselves each and every day?
Sure, it is not a quick gun shot to the head, but in the end, it is still the same, isn’t it?

I make these statements based on two thing:

1.Personal experience and remembrances of the other side…as dim as they may be.

2. The teaching of many masters I have read. Why do I trust they know what is what? Because they brought me quite a ways on my spiritual path, ie.. I got results, and I don’t believe their teachings could have brought me results if these masters did not know what they were talking about.

So in answer to your question…what I know is that we don’t magically change consciousness when we leave this realm. We loose our bodies, certainly, but those with open minds and some level of control over what their minds think do experience the same openness and control on the other side. Those without that control in their physical life still don’t have it in the afterlife. Thoughts manifest realities instantly on the other side. Thus these people who are in such a dire mental state remain in their dire mental state and manifest realities to support it.

As for those who have terminal illnesses, choosing to pull the plug on life support is different. Death occurs by natural means, previously it had been artificially sustained. Their mental state remains, but the body is gone. So if they suffered due only to their illness, the illness is gone and their suffering is gone too. But if they suffered due to unresolved psychological states of mind then they too have to deal with that on the other side.

This is not about being punished for killing yourself. This horible afterlife experience is not due to an edict passed down by God that says you must suffer for taking your own life…NO! It is about the fact that the dominant way you think is not going to change in the afterlife. It remains and it dominates your experience there. We change our thinking here and gain control of our minds here on the physical plane. Once we gain control of it, once we realize we can change our lives by changing our thinking, then we have the ability to do the same in the afterlife. But go ahead and ask people if they can change their reality by changing their mind…most people would say no. I have experience that says the opposite. I constantly and deliberately change my life experience and reality by changing my mind. I also have experienced, in this lifetime, NOT having this sort of control and being blown about by the winds of fate.

If you were a master and shot yourself in the head to end it all you would be fine on the otherside because you had control over your mind…but then a master can leave his body when he chooses and would not need to shoot himself in the head to leave this plane of existence.

Are not ALL illness’s created from some sort of unresolved psychological states of mind? EVERYTHING that is our life, IS created by our thoughts…Illness included…So, how is this scenario any different from any other?

I would say not in all cases, but in most cases yes. There are cases where masters are helping to balance the karmic load of a love one. In the book series, The Magus of Strovolos, Fire in the Heart, and Homage to the Sun Daskalos has an illness that he “suffers” with, in that he is stuck in bed and limited due to the illness. But he demonstrates to the author Kyriacos C. Markides he can turn it off at any time and be perfectly well, then he returns the illness to his body. Although this is not my own first hand experience, I trust the author and Daskalos that the experiences conveyed were accurate and did happen and their explanation of why they occurred. He does this to take some of the karmic load off a family member who would have died otherwise. This sort of thing can only work in the case where the other person had learned their life lesson, but still the momentum of energy was such that it had to be dealt with.

But lets look at the majority of the cases…

Most people cause their diseases for various reasons:

1. To understand the disease process and the experiences that go along with it.

2. To pay a karmic debt and learn the lesson that goes with paying that debt.

3. They simply have abused their own life force energy, and bodies, due to the ignorant way they used their mind and their actions in life. This is similar to 2 but not exactly the same.

In all three of these cases the person who dies from a disease has gone through the experience. It has transformed them in someway. When they passover, they no longer have a physical body. The emotional body that the do experience is whole. Often they think they have miraculously been healed from their disease. Most of these folks probably have not gained enlightenment or freedom to move as they please in the psychic (emotional) and noetic (mental) dimensions. They are bound by the confines of the predominant way they use their mind and manifest based upon that just like the one who commits suicide. But they completed their experience in a natural way.

A person who has committed suicide has not completed the challenge they set forth for themselves. Due to karma or due to a poor mental state they found themselves in circumstances that overwhelmed them and caused them to deliberately destroy their life. They thought they could escape the pain of the life they had created, but they have not learned what it takes to move beyond recreating that experience. So in their next life they will once again create such an experience. And in their afterlife they will still not be free of the mental state they are in exactly like the person who dies of disease is not past their mental state either. But usually the person who created the disease already learned their lesson, or most of it and their mental state was altered in a beneficial way by their experience.

Lets take Hit.ler as an example…He killed himself because he had lost his war and the rest of the world would soon be coming to take him away, to ridicule him and abuse him and kill him. Certainly on the other side Hit.ler was creating war, victimizing others, and dealing with the energy of that experience. Did he suffer? Well perhaps not like a Christian might think. He probably had a grand time victimizing others. But did he know God like a great Yogi does? I doubt it.

Then he returns in the life of 13ush and recreates the same experience all over again. Will he kill himself this time when he finally looses, or will he face the world he created and deal with it and fully experience the anger and hatred he created in others?

First I must say….
Love the 13ush/Hit.ler theory….
I believe that without even having to “decide”…

Second…
How can we be certain that the person who commits suicide is not indeed facing the very “challenge” they set forth to accomplish in this life?

I’ve heard it called “soul contracts” and “sacred contracts”…. but, could it not be possible that suicide was what that person came here to do? Maybe as a “lesson” for someone in their lives? Maybe a contract was set forth between the two “souls” before manifesting here in this reality? Maybe the act itself goes according to the plan they themselves chose for their “dance” this time around on the big stage…???

What if I personally wanted to experience the experience of a loved one who kills themselves as one of MY “soul contracts”… Would that “experience” not have to be fulfilled by someone in order for me to experience mine?????

You obviously think a lot and in depth about things. Bravo. Be sure to feel too. Just a caution from personal experience…thinkers tend not to feel as much and need to make more of an effort to do so.

I’ll admit there are probably cases where a soul chooses to experience killing themselves and also there are those who choose to experience a loved one killing themselves.

But still we come down to the real point to my original statement and that is death is not going to magically transform you. You will leave with whatever consciousness you have, whatever abilities you have attained or have not attained.

When making the choice to commit suicide or not, I doubt the person themselves would have enough awareness to realize this is a soul choice they are making. They would probably just feel an overwhelming compulsion to do so. If they were so evolved as to be clearly in touch with their inner voice I find it very unlikely that they would be in a place of wanting to experience suicide.

As for the one who wishes to experience the suicide of another Law of Attraction would most likely hook them up with someone who is hell bent on doing so anyways. Someone who even after reading such advice as I have given would blow me off as crazy, would still believe that sweet oblivion would come or they would be with God and all would be well.

My original statements are for the person who is making the decision based upon the idea that they can free themselves from the horrors of their physical life, which I would guess to be most cases, they are attempting the impossible.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Judgment of Small Things Is a Big Deal

31.03.2008 by admin Category Caring for Others, Confusion, Forgiveness, Personal Experience, Self-Worth 4 Comments →



I had a friend, who shall remain Anonymous, write the following letter to me in response to my blog What is Right or Wrong? Your Feelings are Your Guide!…

Hi: Right or wrong?… Somethings are really uncomplicated when it comes to that topic.. for example, if I took my time to send you and your wife a Valentine’s comment, it would had been RIGHT or proper for one of you to reciprocate and send one back or at least have the courtesy to acknowledge the receipt.. now, that was WRONG! Trust me your time is NOT more valuable than mine whatsoever! Preach… Walk the talk!

Peace, Anonymous

How does it feel to you when you judge people Anonymous? Is that a good feeling? Watch that over time. Notice what it does to your internal system. Do you know that the hormone cortisol is secreted into your bloodstream in excessive amounts when you engage in such thinking? That is a scientifically proven fact. This hormone is also linked to cancer and memory diseases such as Alzheimer’s disease.

So you have to ask yourself is it really worth it to destroy your own body for someone who does not even care enough to give you the respect you deserve? How many people will come into your life that you will have to train in how to respect you? And once you have trained those people, what about the next batch that comes along? This will become your life long duty and it will never end!

I am very sorry that you are offended by my lack of returning a comment. However I did not receive a comment from you, nor did my wife. I just went back and checked them all and there is nothing from you in either of our profiles. And it is rare that I don’t accept a comment, only when it is spam or I suspect the links in the comment are from hackers.

I understand jumping to false and inaccurate conclusions as I have done exactly that TOO MANY times in my life. One thing I have discovered about anger and judgment…there is ALWAYS something I don’t understand. If I only dig a little deeper I discover it.

I do practice what I teach. I am loving in my thoughts and actions. I still have my occasional slip ups but I quickly notice when it happens and change immediately and put in some effort to reprogram my reactions. But I have never taught anyone that being a good person requires that you return comments…where did you learn that from? It is a false teaching. If you think right and wrong can be defined by such a way, then you really do need to read my blog What is Right or Wrong? Your Feelings are Your Guide!

I do make every attempt to return comments, but there are times I just cannot keep up with all the comments I get. I had 3500 friends on valentines day, now I have many more than that. Sometimes I do not return comments that are generic and general in nature. Just because I get the impression people just send the same thing to all their friends and they are not really even writing to me specifically. But when someone writes to me personally and it is an indication they have actually taken the time to read my writings or enjoy my videos or slide shows, then I respond in a very personal way.

I am not offended by your outburst. However I suggest you take a look at this pattern in you for your own sake. You will alienate friends and loved ones this way and you will certainly make your own life miserable with it.

Cortisol? very well aware of it; however, too much credit given to the simple fact that I found it outrageous that someone that “teaches” about life would act in such manner. Very SIMPLE… not judging, no outburst (very funny), no damage to my internal system etc lol Again, I believe in honesty and I simply stated how I felt… I forgot about it after I put my thoughts in writing. SIMPLE, you are going too deep… Courtesy is elementary my dear… As far as friends.. it will happen to you. Have a wonderful day, Namaste, Anonymous.

Finding it “outrageous” that someone would act in such a manner, whether they teach what I teach or not, is certainly a judgment. It seems that you don’t even know what a judgment is. You have created a rule, (you mistakenly thought) someone broke it, and you have judged it to be so wrong that you are outraged by it. That is a judgment.

A non-judgment would be to observe that someone did or did not do a certain thing and to observe that it is either taking that person towards or away from their goals in life. You could even be disappointed they are heading away from their own goals or that you missed out on their company without that being a judgment. But to be outraged that someone does not do what you expect them to do is a judgment.

This is a HUGE issue with far too many people. They do not even understand what a judgment is. And you need to understand the difference between judgment and observation because judgments do harm yourself and sometimes those you judge.

Judgments of SMALL things can do you greater harm than judgments of big things. The reason for this is that with big things you are often afraid to make a judgment because of the repercussions, but with small things you think they don’t matter, but they do. Habits of thinking in judgmental ways are formed each time you hold a judgment. So if you hold judgments about many small things then you establish a strong set of habits that become difficult to break once you do realize you need to break them.

Yes I believe that courtesy is elementary and important. I believe it is helpful in making people feel welcome, wanted and loved. I believe it is helpful in gaining people’s trust and their aid when you need it. But courtesy is not so important as to become outraged when it is not present, it is not so important as to ruin your mood for even an instant, which can snowball into ruining many more moments. And courtesy is not so important as to develop a habit of judgment because courtesy was missing.

I am NOT going too deep. Everyone will eventually want and need to go this deep if they wish to live a happy and peaceful life. I am not judging you either. I am simply observing that what you are doing will not take you to a peaceful and happy life and that it could create disease in your body. My feelings about your letter to me are happy because you offered the substance for a perfect lesson that will heal many people.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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How to Deal with Zealots and Evildoers

28.03.2008 by admin Category Culture, Religion 2 Comments →

My friend Ryan Michael Newsome asked me the following question and I answer it below.

This phrase taken from your blog The Golden Compass - A Waste of Mind you wrote, “They feel the need to seek vengeance upon those who make life painful and difficult, they think punishing the bad guys will make the world a better place…” This of course written in response to what I presume can only be zealots immensely if not somewhat foolishly devoted to a cause.

My question I would suppose is what defines their nature? What is it that drives them to reach such a point?

I believe in the good of all people down to the person and I understand and know that they all mean well. I want to believe that they feel so devoted to the overall good of the world that they have defined boundaries, rightly or wrongly, of who or what they believe are standing in the way of global conscious happiness. In that sense it would make them appear to be good.

But then is their action or response therefore bad?
…Of course in the sense of good and bad purely.

Honestly, it feels like shades of grey in this area. It almost seems like misguided energy, determined to go one way but becomes displaced in the process. While I sincerely disbelieve that in “enemies” I do however believe in people who fervently disagree with a viewpoint, whether widely accepted or contested. I know that thoughts heavily influence anything when circulated, either by word, pen, or action.

Therefore if a group of people esteem a certain thought or thoughts that no longer seem to serve the evolution of our well being and world would it truly be disadvantageous to take up a zealot state of mind as some have?

I could be a person of peace, but sometimes to remain as such one would occasionally have to be a person of war.

I feel cloudy on this as it has been on my mind as of late. And since I’m relatively aware of many people’s points of view I sometimes feel double-minded about certain issues. If for no other reason than the fact that I understand them all so compassionately.

And some of it is astral projected off of my conscience I confess because I have read, really read with a certain intensity; the works of Timothy Freake and Peter Gandy on the origins of Christianity. The results were astounding and liberating, with sufficient, plausible evidence to support their claim. Now in response to my sexual orientation, it was like a dead weight was lifted off my shoulders. However it has only added fire to the triste animosity I’ve occasionally borne against today’s Christianity. The deal of mistruths innocently or deliberately preached; has hurt deeply me for years. I’d be lying if I did not say that having a enormous cannon pointed right back their direction would somehow satisfy me, even if temporarily. Maybe a zealot lies dormant inside of me… I realize that this may not be my true nature speaking, and I may still be healing slowly even as I have already healed through the sense of time; but I felt it apt to address this.

Sadly, a religion meant to give the greatest peace has inspire and produced the worst of all atrocities the world’s ever come across in history past and present.

As for zealots I would say if you use that label you would have to label the majority of humanity with it. Just look at the sales figures from movies with a largely violent content. Look at the viewer ratings…quite high, probably the highest market segment. This says that most of humanity sees life this way, and is using the entertainment to explore the ideas. But exploring these ideas as people do just reinforces the ideas and they will come out in physical action when stress occurs. Look at the way US citizens respond to anger, road rage, guns, and supporting wars. In India where such movies are less popular these people are more prone to work out their differences than fight.

We all have that knee-jerk reaction to lash out, defend ourselves, fight, and punish others for their harmful destructive deeds. The idea that “one would occasionally have to be a person of war” is a tempting idea to embrace, because most people do not have enough experience with the alternatives. And the alternatives seem like they would take too long to make a real difference. However I do have enough experience which tells me that the idea of war is flawed. It is a bit like trying to remove your thumbs from a Chinese thumb cuff. The more you pull on them the stronger the grip they hold on you. The more you make war the more war you create.

If we step back from our initial fight or flight reactions we find we come to a place of mind that can come up with alternative solutions. There have been times on the planet where the only visible options were to fight or die. So why not choose death? The problem is by and large we have not explored that option. What if we ran away and then was able to muster up a large enough group of people to imposes some sort of group pressure on the war-mongers to get them to change their ways? In the arena of world events the combination of the two approaches is the one that will ultimately make the difference and change the direction of humanity for good.

We are facing that very issue right now with the way our government is waging war on Iraq. There is a group of people on the planet that are objecting but we are not rioting. We are not grabbing our guns and murdering our own government leaders since it is truly they who are responsible for this attrocity. We are attempting to educate the masses to pay attention and solve this problem through the established political processes.

Ryan your idea about the good in people is accurate from one perspective and inaccurate from another. Yes all beings are good at their foundation. Yet at the same time, in the limitation of their present human incarnation, many of these beings are expressing pure evil. There is a purpose for it, but still the evil is there. Humanity as a whole gets to chose how to deal with this and how to transform and heal this such that beings wishing to express evil in their incarnation has limited ability to do so and limited ability to corrupt the minds and desires of others to also commit evil deeds.

What drives a person to express evil? In some cases it could be the soul wants to experience something it is not in order to understand what it really is. In most cases the desire to express evil comes from a mistaken idea about life, a response that seems to help a person in the face of a greater evil in the short run. Yet the response creates a habit pattern within the person which causes them to respond with evil in situations where it is not called for and it causes them to create, by Law of Attraction, situations where they can fight evil and express their own evil. The longer a person lives with these mistaken ideas the deeper their habits develop and the more evil they create in the world for them to respond to later once they decide to pull out of it. We are creative beings, we have much power, and we have been at it for a very long time now. This is the disadvantage of taking up a zealot state of mind as you have stated.

As an individual, and collectively as well, we must observe and decide if we have the power to stop evil by the power of love, by spreading the light, if so then we must use love to do so. If we do not have that power right now, then we must turn away from evil and ignore it and allow it to do what it will while we gathered enough power to stop it with the power of love and light. So when a child is creating evil, perhaps we can use love to transform them. When the leaders of our country is creating evil, then we must heal more of our own self and become leaders that can help others heal. Then together face the evil with our combined love. This is the approach I have been taking and working towards. Once I have the notoriety, the backing of tens of thousands of people, and the financial resources to protect myself and those I love I will be much more proactive in shining the light on what is going on in our world and teaching as many as I possibly can how to love our way out of the mess we are currently in. But right now I do what I can, I continue my own healing and I continue to teach others how to heal themselves.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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50 Ways to Leave Your Lover: Lessons for the Young and Old Alike

26.03.2008 by admin Category Caring for Others, Pain, Self-Worth 1 Comment →

This blog is an answer to a couple of letters from a friend who is having difficulties leaving her abusive husband. If you have some practical advice or resources for women in California with this sort of difficulty please post as a comment.

“Dearest Michael,

“Thank you for your Relationship Break Ups – How to Cope blog. I have found it helpful and I am in agreement with much of what you have said.

“I have been trying to make a marriage work for a long time now that was more than likely doomed from the start and now I am trapped or at least unaware of a way out.”

Becoming trapped in a relationship or feeling trapped is a very bad sign that you are not in the right place, not with the right person, not doing that which nurtures your soul.

“I was unable to work for most of the last 5 yrs due to the abuse I received from my husband. I was depressed and suicidal. I committed myself to the mental hospital 2 or 3 times and was heavily medicated for much of that time.”

I often wonder why people stay in such relationships for so long. I guess this is how we learn that we cannot change other people who do not want to change. But I would suggest to a young and inexperienced person to take heed of such telltale signs early in a relationship and get out much sooner. Don’t let tradition, religion, or the coercion of family stop you from protecting yourself.

Abusive people do not change overnight. An apology is not enough. It will happen again because it is a habit they have developed. They need help. If they don’t get help and are not putting significant effort into changing, then get out! What is a significant effort? Changing their TV and Movie watching habits, changing their reading habits, they should be reading something daily that reinforces a healthy mental attitude and healthy habits of action…and I do not count the Bible amongst such books. They should be making time for meditation, contemplation and reviewing their habits of thought and reprogramming them. Read my blog Reprogramming Yourself, if your abuser is not taking the steps I list in this blog they will not change.

I also recommend another blog How to Deal with Passive Agressive Behavior.

“My husband was sexually molested by a catholic priest when he was 10. He was an altar boy. I am telling you this because I want you to be able to understand, as I do, that there are reasons in his case, for the arrogance as you have explained it. I understand that I have been subjected to his lies, cheating and manipulation, emotional, verbal and financial abuse because of what happened to him.”

We all should have compassion for those who do us harm because in fact they are hurting. We may not always know the reasons why they are hurting, but to commit such harm one must be hurting. Even still, compassion does not translate to staying with the abuser…you can be compassionate and loving while you leave to take care of yourself.

“After a lot of soul searching, reading and contact with blessed angels such as you, I have finally come to a better place within myself; I have a greater understanding. I no longer take any medication other than my blood pressure pill and a multi-vitamin. I was finally able to get a part-time, minimum wage job, which has recently become an “on-call” position and have kept it for about 3 months now.

“Unfortunately, while I am extremely grateful and blessed to be mentally and spiritually better, some of the abuse continues and I know that it would be best for the both of us to move on. He still has anger management problems and is verbally abusive and he still controls all of the money except my tiny paycheck. I have been unable to set much of that aside as I have had to use that money for my basic necessities. I don’t even know how much he makes. And he has told me he will fight having to pay me alimony because of all of the years he had to support me while I couldn’t work. I cannot afford to be alive right now let alone afford an attorney to help me.”

I know this about life…there are always more options available than meets the eye. When we are feeling bad we cannot see them. Habits take over. Illness sets in. You must do something somehow to get away from him.

“There are shelters that may be able to help me, but they are run by the Catholic Church. How am I supposed to go and ask for help from the same people that technically put me in this position to begin with? I have no money or support system. No family that is willing to help me, I’m lonely and scared and I don’t know what to do. And so yes, I have considered suicide. All I know is that I cannot take this situation anymore as it is eating away all of the progress I have made healing myself.”

The people running the shelter at your local Catholic Church are not very likely to be the same people who abused your husband as a child. And you are a grown woman. If you discover abuse there you can report it.

Have you considered a live in job such as health care aid or nanny? I know one woman on MySpace who was in great financial trouble, she met another woman on MySpace who had a big house, was all alone and offered her a free place to live. I also know of another person who was given a free place to live due to a friendship that developed on MySpace.

Go inside, get centered, shift your energy such that you feel good. Then take a step in a direction that will free you. This is where faith comes in. The next step will reveal itself to you.

Husbands can say things but that does not mean it will happen like they say. You could look up his pay standard in online salary surveys to determine an approximation of what he earns. Won’t an attorney take the case if they can get their fee out of the settlement?

Have you even contacted an attorney? I bet you have more options than you realize. California is a joint property state I believe. You can file a divorce on your own. You would be due half of your combined property. The court would make sure that happened whether you used an attorney or not.

Living with him is going to suck the life out of you and make you feel unable to do anything so get away from him ASAP! My late wife kicked her ex out of the house. She took his house keys off his key chain before he left for work and once he left she unplugged the garage door opener, packed some of his clothes, put them out on the porch and called him up to inform him he was out and to pick up his stuff. This worked really well for her.

“We don’t own any property except our car and I guess I would be entitled to 1/2 the value of that, which isn’t much. I could not afford to stay in our apartment even if I could “kick” him out. I have a call into an attorney and I am waiting for a response. My father told me that he had to pay for my mother’s attorney when they divorced eons ago and he wants me to make my husband pay for the attorney. I honestly don’t know if it works like that or not anymore and I won’t know till I talk to the attorney.”

I still say kick him out that gives you one or two months of rent paid…you did pay first and last I am assuming. And by then perhaps an attorney will have him paying your rent, or perhaps another option will open up like a live in working situation.

“We have been married a little over nine years. Living together longer but I guess that doesn’t count. In California 10 yrs is considered a lengthy marriage and after 10 yrs of marriage I would be entitled to 1/2 of his retirement when he retires. According to the attorney I spoke to a while back, up until 10 yrs, I would be entitled to some sort of alimony for 1/2 of the yrs we were married, so about 4 1/2yrs.

“Understanding how my husband ticks, I think there is an effort on his part, sub conscious or not, to make me end this before our 10th anniversary in December so that I won’t be entitled to any of his retirement. He also has a law suit pending against the church, of which I know few details. I don’t think he wants me to have any access to that potential compensation either, regardless of the fact I have suffered collateral damage from his abuse. He is very Jeckel and Hyde when it comes to money; he always has to have control of it. He is nice as pie when we have it, and mean and nasty when we don’t. So in all honesty the only thing that will be an issue is alimony.

“I’m not looking to rake my husband over the coals. I left my last marriage with little more than bedroom furniture and could have had some alimony but declined it. I just wanted out. I was 22 then and had just gone thru some training and knew that I could get a good paying job. The situation is quite different now. I am going to need some help until I can get on my feet and that’s all I want. After everything I have been through with him (much of which I haven’t mentioned here), I think I deserve at least that.

“I have an appointment with an attorney next week so I should know more then.”

I believe that is good attitude not wanting to take too much of his money. However, you do need to take care of yourself and I would suggest that you do get the maximum you are morally and legally entitled to. You don’t know what the future holds and you can certainly tell him to stop making payments later down the track if you are doing well and feel like you have received what you need to move on with your life.

“Last Sunday I started attending Co-dependents Anonymous meetings to try and get some help and support. My whole life has been spent trying to help and rescue others and now when it is vital to my wellbeing that I focus on rescuing myself, I honestly don’t know how. I am angry and hurt over this relationship and I’m finding it hard not to focus on him and what he’s done to our relationship. And because I’m stuck here with him, I cannot mourn the loss of this relationship appropriately which in turn makes me angrier and hurt.”

Good job going to co-dependents anonymous that is a great step for you to be taking. Do speak up at the meeting and do make friends with whoever feels good to be around. You need all of the support you can get right now.

Since you have been such a wise and loving counsel for others try this exercise…write out your dilemma, then turn around as if you were a friend or counselor and read what you have written as if you received it from someone else. Take yourself out of your shoes and put yourself in the shoes of a friend or counselor. What advice would you have to give to yourself?

“On top of the marriage problems my 17 yr old college bound, high school basketball star, daughter, informed me last week that she is pregnant and wants to keep the baby. I have a 19 yr old alcohol and drug addicted son who isn’t speaking to me and a 21 yr old daughter who decided to become a stripper instead of going to college. She just got out of jail because her abusive boyfriend falsely accused her of domestic violence. Instead of taking a plea that would have kept her out of jail and could have been expunged, she decided, against my advice of course, to take it to trial where she could end up in jail for quite some time. And, I’m still looking for another job. One with which I will be able to support myself.

“Michael, I feel as though I have stepped into the twilight zone and it is very hard to stay positive during all of this. But I want you to know that I am so grateful for you and my other blessed MySpace friends that have been so caring and supportive during this extremely stressful period in my life. I don’t know what I would do without you guys and I thank my Creator everyday for the blessing of my friends.”

All of your children have to learn from their own life experiences through living them. You can give advice and you should give it. But then you should move into loving them. Forget that they are ignoring your advice, and just love them. The more you can do this the more it will be felt and the more seriously they will consider your advice. But most importantly right now you have to take care of yourself. You need to take your mind out of your problems and give your mind a chance to be open to receiving the solution.

I can feel your fear and your loneliness. I understand this is a very difficult situation to be in. But it is most important to take care of yourself as best you can, which means somehow, someway remove the abusive husband from your life.

So I called this blog 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover. Perhaps my friends will be kind enough to post their story of how to leave a lover when they stop being loving. And if you live in California and know some of the legal rights or social services this woman might be able take advantage of please do post them here.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Proof That It Can Be Done - Healing the World

25.03.2008 by admin Category Caring for Others, Confusion, Karma, Self-Worth 2 Comments →



In this blog I will be delivering solid evidence that we can heal this world using the real life examples of people who have achieved dramatic results. In particular I will be reviewing the wonderful achievements of the Delancey Street Foundation. These folks have a thirty-seven year history of successfully healing the worst of society’s criminals while working WITHOUT government funding.

GOALS to Healing the World: For every single person on the planet…provide housing, food, clean water, sewage, energy, health care. Move into living sustainably on the planet, heal the mental dysfunction that causes so much hatred and violence, cut crime and violence by 90%, reduce drug usage and addiction by 70%, and end all wars. While dramatically increasing the quality of life, peace and happiness of all people everywhere.

I bet if you were to take a poll of all of the people in the world today and ask them if we have the resources to achieve such a goal most folks would say no. I believe the real question is not can we achieve this, but do we have the will and the desire to achieve this?

Solid Evidence – Dramatic Results

Delancey Street Foundation has been in operation since 1971. That makes thirty-seven years they have been in operation as of 2008! That sort of longevity says they must be doing something right. Although their achievements are many I wish to focus on the following since these achievments are critical in duplicating Delancey’s model for healing the entire planet and achieving the goals I stated earlier.

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They have reformed thousands of the worst criminals in society.
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They have helped thousands recover from drug addiction.
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They have educated thousands who were failed by our public education system.
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They have funded their operations largely by their own efforts through businesses that they themselves have created and through private donations.
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They have maintained the highest level of service and integrity in the businesses they run.
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They continue to expand nationwide in the USA as well as influencing programs in other countries too.
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They use an “each one teach one” principle where older residents help newer ones…everybody works.

The basic principle of healing the planet is that people need a better education on how to live a healthy, happy, and abundant life. People need to be given the skills to succeed in their relationships with others, the skills to maintain a healthy mind and body, and the skills to be productive in the workforce. Society as a whole needs better systems to solve the problems we face and manage the common resources we are all creating in our everyday work life.

If an organization like the Delancey Street Foundation can take people with the most dysfunctional life skills and transform them into people with functional and even exceptional life skills, then we can reproduce this success on a larger scale.

What Delancey Street Foundation does is it has the residents who have been in their program longer teaching the newer ones all that they need to know to be healthy and happy members of society. Using this system everyone gets at least a high school equivalent education complete with certification, and many even get a BA college degree. But there is much more power in this system than the fact that a person gets the certificates and degrees that can help get them a job in the real world. Each resident becomes a teacher and a leader too. THIS IS SIGNIFICANT!

By helping each resident become a teacher and leader they also move a long ways towards achieving a healthy sense of self-esteem. They each get to experience patience and compassion. They each have to become a good example for another person to follow. This is a level of responsibility we just are not taught in our usual course of schooling. If you read my blogs Healing the World Using Law of Attraction and A Beautiful Vision for Re-architecting Our World you will see I had suggested a system such as this. Do we really need expensive universities? Perhaps for some things they are necessary, but for many things we could go back to more of an apprenticeship program for teaching job skills. Or we could mix the high school and college education in with on the job training. It would make things more interesting for the students and give businesses cheaper labor.

The other thing that the Delancey Street Foundation is doing is creating businesses and using the residents to run those businesses. We are not talking small, barely making it businesses…no, WE ARE TALKING FIRST CLASS, AWARD WINNING BUSINESSES THAT ARE ROLE MODELS THAT ALL OTHER BUSINESSES SHOULD BE FOLLOWING!

They have a moving and trucking company, run by convicted criminals, that has the highest rating for non breakage and not a single incidence of theft or loss of property. It has been in operation for 33 years. It is the largest independent moving company in the bay area averaging 5100 moving jobs per year.

They built their own headquarters, a beautiful Mediterranean style housing complex for 500 on the waterfront in San Francisco. It won the “Award of Honor for Design Excellence” from the American Institute of Architects.

This complex also houses one of the finest restaurants in San Francisco the Delancey Street Restaurant, which they also operate and use to train their residents in. It was named one of “San Francisco’s Delicious Dozen” and won other awards and high reviews in local newspapers.

The Crossroads Café, Bookstore and Art Gallery is another one of Delancey Street Foundation’s businesses. And like their other businesses this too is a first class operation with attractive décor, spacious and inviting. It provides the best of coffees, fresh juice, bagels and other fare typical of a café.

That is not the end of it either. You really should pay a visit to the http://delanceystreetfoundation.org website to see how truly remarkable this organization is. You will find heaps of videos, articles, photos and resources. You may even find a service they offer that makes you want to hire them yourself or take one of their training courses.

Does this inspire you? It should! If an organization like this can take convicted murders, thieves, drug dealers and addicts and teach them life skills, turn their lives around while at the same time running first class businesses that pay their expenses then certainly we can achieve the goals stated earlier using the same sort of techniques these folks are using. And we could free millions of people who are suffering in prisons all over America and all over the world.

I believe the acomplishments of the Delancey Street Foundation proves that what I have suggested in these other blogs will work for transforming this world; we can achieve these goals. Please read these and help us all by holding these visions in your own mind too.

Healing the World Using Law of Attraction
International World Government
Crime and Punishment…Both are Insane!
A Beautiful Vision for Re-architecting Our World

There are many more poor and disenfranchised people on the planet than there are those who currently control the governments of the world. We need to pool the power of this majority to overcome the sick and corrupted systems we currently call “government”. If we treat them well and give them what they need we will form a solid point of power that will sweep across the entire planet by law of attraction. We can transform this world into a peaceful, loving and functional home where we all thrive.

Use this blog as a hopeful dream of a future that WILL be!

Namasté
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story
Help Make This Dream a Reality

I fully intend to prove that it can be done by actually doing it. This is not an idle conversation we are engaging in. I am looking for your support in achieving all of these goals. There are many ways in which you can participate:

*Very Simple. Read these blogs. Dream of the possibilities presented in them as often as you can. Tell others who feel discouraged about the course of humanity to read these blogs.

*Some Involvement. Comment on this blog with information that can help this process along. Who else is achieving results? Who has failed and why? What pitfalls do you see? What ideas do you have for solving those pitfalls?

*More Involvement. Participate in World Transformation Radio Talk Show. Be a guest on this show and get involved in working out the details of our solution. Actively promote this radio show to your friends and email list. Help me get guests on the show who are well known and carry some level of credibility.

*Total Commitment. Stick with this project for the many years it will take to get it off the ground.

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Is it Your Fault?

21.03.2008 by admin Category Confusion, Culture, Forgiveness, Self-Worth 4 Comments →



Is it your fault that someone lied to you, abused you, cheated on you or disrespected you? Is it your fault when you are mistreated? Are you to blame?

Unfortunately this is such a common belief that too many people hold when they are mistreated by someone else. For most of us as we grew up there were those who we trusted, those who were stronger than us, those who had more skills, those who were in charge of our lives, or those who were cool that gave us messages like, “It is your fault that I am blowing up on you. If you were smarter, prettier, paying more attention, if you did not do that thing you just did, bla bla bla…I would not be treating you like this.” Have any of us escaped the experience of someone else spewing their verbal abuse upon us?

When this happens to us at a young and impressionable age we tend to believe it. We develop all sorts of methods to cope. Some people rebel, get angry, abuse others, break some rule, or damage something. Other people hold it in, think they are at fault, and walk through life doubting themselves. No matter which way you react, the result is a person with low self-esteem.

A rebel who lashes out or who abuses others is just being arrogant. They may know they don’t deserve the ill treatment, they may be strong enough to express it, but they still have low self-esteem and they do not really love themselves. To truly love yourself REQUIRES that you love all other people too. Did you know that? You cannot heal your low self-esteem by becoming really good and skilled at one or more things. Being a great musician, sports figure, business person, or even lover does not make you worthy. Perhaps it helps you get or keep a job, but it can also win you the jealousy of others and get you fired. However doing your best for the good feeling you get from engaging your God given creativity into some endeavor that you enjoy is always a good thing and it does help you with your self-esteem.

The flip side of arrogance is a person who is constantly doubting themselves. They tend to think the problems of others they are in relationship with are their fault. They try too hard to please others. If someone suddenly stops like them, or suddenly disrespects them, they take it personal as if it must be true. If this is happening for you then you need to counter those thoughts with truth. You need to face the fact that most people are in some level of dysfunction in their lives. You need to remind yourself that their spewing is their issue. Reprogram Yourself such that anytime you receive disrespect your mind is flooded with talk that helps you understand the truth of who you really are.

Of course there are times we do things we are not proud of. We feel some guilt. When someone dumps on us at a time like this we feel extra bad. Even at these times you need to remember that their spewing is their issue and yes you too have your own issues to heal. When you realize you did something you are not proud of, something that you feel bad about, simply take a few moments to Reprogram Yourself so you will eventually cease doing such things.

As I was writing my blog I came across this blog called The Awakening that was posted by one of my friends. If you want to read about a great vision for how your life will be as you heal your self-esteem do read this blog. It will inspire you and will direct you in the sort of thinking that needs to be changed. It will provide you with help in your reprogramming efforts.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story
Also on Amazon.com and BarnesAndNoble.com…including awesome book reviews!

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Animal Abuse Must Stop!

19.03.2008 by admin Category Caring for Others, Culture, Pain 6 Comments →

I received this as a comment in my post Brutal Killings and Acts of Unspeakable Horror…

Holly

“Lately I’ve been very emotionally troubled and depressed about all the horrible violence that goes on in our world, not just humans hurting other humans, but humans hurting animals too. I am a huge animal lover and recently have seen some horrible videos about the treatment of cows in slaughterhouses, and even worse, the fur trade in China where animals including dogs and cats are often skinned alive. What I have seen is too horrific for words and beyond my comprehension. Now I read, in Canada the baby seal hunt is going to start in less than a month and over 300k will be bludgeoned to death at 3 months of age. It breaks my heart to know how many helpless animals are suffering in this way every second of the day. I can’t get these images and thoughts out of my head and is affecting me terribly. How can God let this happen? Why is our world so evil and violent? I don’t want to be in a world like this, but there’s no escape and I feel helpless. I can’t help these animals being tortured and killed in China every day. I can’t save 300k baby seals. I can pray and sign petitions, but it still all feels in vain. I guess I am mainly concerned about animals because they are helpless and have no voice, although the amount of pain inflicted on humans by other humans is horrendous too. Why does this all have to happen? Why doesn’t God intervene instead of allowing all this suffering to simply prove a point of some sort or make us learn a lesson? I am to the point where I am angry with God over this. I just don’t understand and I feel so lost. If anyone can help give me peace of mind in some way I would appreciate it. Thanks.”

Dear Holly, thank you for your questions and for letting me post my response in a blog such as this. Many people think and feel the way you do. I used to think and feel this way too. At times my answers here in this blog may seem harsh. I do not mean to offend you or others. I do mean to wake people up and motivate them to make a greater commitment to their own healing process. We are ALL responsible for the state our world is in. And it will take more than a few people to solve issues as big as these you are mentioning and the many others that plague our world today. There is no way we can get the masses of people to all change without a large base of leaders who we can rely upon to take up the work necessary with integrity, wisdom and courage. Hopefully everyone who reads this will take it as a wakeup call from someone who loves life, loves humanity, loves the animals and the planet we live on, and loves all of God’s creation.

“Lately I’ve been very emotionally troubled and depressed about all the horrible violence that goes on in our world, not just humans hurting other humans, but humans hurting animals too.”

Yes it is quite a horrific state of affairs, isn’t it?

“I am a huge animal lover and recently have seen some horrible videos about the treatment of cows in slaughterhouses, and even worse, the fur trade in China where animals including dogs and cats are often skinned alive. What I have seen is too horrific for words and beyond my comprehension. Now I read, in Canada the baby seal hunt is going to start in less than a month and over 300k will be bludgeoned to death at 3 months of age. It breaks my heart to know how many helpless animals are suffering in this way every second of the day. I can’t get these images and thoughts out of my head and is affecting me terribly.”

YES YOU CAN get these images and thoughts out of your head. Stop telling yourself and others that you cannot. To do so you will need to stop looking at the videos and stop reading the bulletins about it these horrible events. Find something else to think about when these images and thoughts come to you. Practice other thoughts. View other more loving images. Look for examples of people who are helping others and healing
humanity. Look at the happiness that is being created by such people. Read books about the lives of masters and those who have conquered themselves, created fantastic miracles, and healed many people. Watch movies that inspire and uplift you. Go love your family and your animals. All of these things will change your focus and get these thoughts and images your of your head.

For book recommendations see the end of this blog post about Self Healing.

For movie recommendations see the end of this blog post The Golden Compass – A Waste of Mind.

But then we come to the real problem. You don’t want to get the images and thoughts out of your head. You want to look at them and you want a solution. You want people to change because they should and it is right and they are stupid and doing horrible things. But this is not going to happen just because you want it to. It will take much more effort than that, much more power, much more energy.

We can fix this problem and ALL of the other horrible problems we face in the world. But it will take real leadership. It will take many people with real power, real wisdom…it will take people who have mastered themselves, mastered their own lives. Are you that person? You can be and that is where the real work begins. Until that happens, follow my first suggestion. Balance your life. Save the ones you can, but focus mostly on things that inspire and uplift you, and heal yourself so you can be a real leader one day.

You mentioned that this is affecting you terribly. Yes it is, and this is a VERY BIG problem for you. This will make you sick. This can lead to very real diseases such as cancer, heart attacks, and Alzheimer’s disease. So you must change your tactics. Merely complaining about the problem will not make the problem go away nor will it help your health or inner peace.

“How can God let this happen?”

Because God is pretending to be all of us people who are pretending to be powerless. God as you and I and all of the others on this planet is in denial. If you wake up to the fact that you are indeed God and you help others wake up to this fact, then you stand a very real chance of regaining your power and becoming the kind of leader that can make a difference.

“Why is our world so evil and violent?”

The world is evil and violent because we used our Godly powers to create the violence and the evil in the world. Every time we see someone do something we don’t like and we judge them we contribute to this creation we call evil. Every time we punished someone we create more evil and violence. Every time we do these things and insist we must punish, every time we insist upon creating laws to judge and punish, we teach others that this is necessary. Over time we have created a lot of evil by this very process. And we get real angry when someone comes along and tells us we need to love those we are judging instead. In fact we have even been known to crucify them for speaking out like that. We are doing this to ourselves!

“I don’t want to be in a world like this, but there’s no escape and I feel helpless.”

You are right. There is NO ESCAPE from your creations. WE ALL created this mess and now WE ALL need to deal with it. You can clean up your world. You can live in total peace on earth while all of this goes on around you and just ignore the rest of it knowing that this world is an illusion, because in reality it is. You can even get to the point where you merge so completely with God that you graduate from this planet and do nothing to prevent things like this from happening. I do realize that masters such as this do influence others who may just go on to do the work that is necessary. I am not judging this situation. I am just saying it is possible.

“I can’t help these animals being tortured and killed in China every day. I can’t save 300k baby seals. I can pray and sign petitions, but it still all feels in vain. I guess I am mainly concerned about animals because they are helpless and have no voice, although the amount of pain inflicted on humans by other humans is horrendous too.”

Everyone is free to create as they wish, even if they chose to create evil. It is after all an illusion. At some point in time each of us will wake up to this fact and we will be perfectly whole and complete and suffer no damage as a result of our actions within this illusion. We cannot take this away from others. But we can remove ourselves from it if we chose.

“Why does this all have to happen?”

All of this happens because too many people are way too lost in life and don’t understand life. There is too much poverty, they suffered too much abuse as a child, our governments lead us to commit harsh acts to punish offenders without any effort to reform and transform them, because religions have spread too much false information about life and how it all works, because we are brainwashed into loving money instead of loving life, etc…There are MANY reasons.

These people who torture and kill unnecessarily will suffer as a result of what they do. It cannot be any other way because we are all One, what we do to others, including the animals and the planet itself, we do to ourselves. These events that are occurring now are a result of the things we have created in the past. I have heard many “nice” people adamantly deny that they ever committed any sort of evil such as the evils they are horrified by. But I have my doubts; especially since these people really don’t understand how life works so how is it they know they have never done such a thing? It seems to me to be a convenient position to take in order to justify their continual judgment of others. We are living in the world we have created. Most people, if not ALL people, have committed some sort of atrocity in their eternal lives.

“Why doesn’t God intervene instead of allowing all this suffering to simply prove a point of some sort or make us learn a lesson?”

This is not about God proving a point. This is about cause and effect. We all chose to enter into manifest creation in order to experience and understand who we really are. While doing so we created it a certain way and now we are living in our creation. If we want it to be different we can create it differently. If we are really and truly done with manifest creation we can complete our experiences here and depart never to return.

“I am to the point where I am angry with God over this.”

Being angry at God is in reality being angry at yourself.

“I just don’t understand and I feel so lost. If anyone can help give me peace of mind in some way I would appreciate it. Thanks.”

If you really want to understand then you will have to put forth the effort to understand. There have been masters walking the planet for as far back as history goes. They have always pointed the way. Religions have clouded their wisdom with their distortions, worship, and superstitions. So by and large most people really don’t believe mastery is possible for the average person.

These masters have not asked for or required people to worship them, but they have asked us all to try out a new approach to life. Most people don’t even try, they insist that they are fine, they insist that it is impossible to understand life, that nobody understands it, or that the master is special in some way, they don’t believe, they disagree, bla bla bla. Sorry to sound so cynical, but if this is NOT you I am describing then you have an advantage, and if this is you then you probably have much more suffering to do before you decide to change and understand.
SOLUTIONS

We really could focus ourselves and fix this one problem. We could force people worldwide to treat animals better. We could create police forces to ensure it. We could create prison terms for abusers. But the dysfunction would express itself in another way and there are already so many more problems that need fixing as well.

Really, it would be much easier if we tackle ALL of the other horrible problems we face in the world at the same time and come up with a very real solution. We need to deal with the root of the problem. But it will take real leadership. It will take many people with real power, real wisdom…it will take people who have mastered themselves, mastered their own lives. Are you that person? You can be; that is where the real work begins.

I have suggested the path to healing this planet in my blogs:

*Healing the World Using Law of Attraction
*International World Government
*A Beautiful Vision for Re-architecting Our World
*Crime and Punishment…Both are Insane!

The World Transformation Radio Talk Show is meant to help this process along but not enough people are participating in it yet. That will come in time. But if you are serious about making these sorts of changes on the planet then get involved. Heal yourself. Become a leader. Help work out the details of how we will make all of these systems come together.

For healing yourself, becoming a master, becoming a leader read the blog post Self Healing Guide – From Misery to Bliss.

PLEASE TELL OTHERS ABOUT my blogs and my radio show…let’s work together to raise awareness of how to solve these worldwide problems.

Namasté
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Your Healing Assignment

16.03.2008 by admin Category Caring for Others, Self-Worth 3 Comments →

Continued from…

Like I said earlier, enlightenment is simplicity itself. Living a good, happy, joyful and peaceful life is simple. It only seems difficult due to the programming we have. These habitual thought patterns take us down the wrong path. In most cases you don’t even question them. If you read my blogs you will see MANY people object to what I teach. They tell me they have “different beliefs” than I do…For the most part I AM NOT TEACHING BELIEFS! I am teaching what I KNOW. Belief is not knowledge. So what these people are really saying is, “I have beliefs that conflict with truth. I choose to remain in my beliefs and refuse to explore the possibility that I can attain knowledge or that I can move past belief to knowing the true nature of life.” But if your life sucks or if it is not going how you want it to in even the most minor of ways, isn’t it time to open up and explore something that is different than your beliefs? Perhaps it is your beliefs that are wrong. Don’t be insulted…investigate. TRY SOMETHING NEW.

For example, in my blog What is Right or Wrong? Your Feelings are Your Guide! many people disagreed with what I had written. There was more disagreement than the comments you see in the blog itself since I received private emails about it too. But this is a very simple thing to prove for yourself. Is there any harm in trying an experiment in your own mind and life to see if my words are true or not? Or are you attached to being right and attached to your beliefs?

Experiments You Can Try

Sit down and think about a relaxing place in nature. Imagine yourself there, enjoying the sounds and the smells…how does it feel? Does it feel good to you? Then imagine someone being abused or raped. How does that feel? As you can see the feelings are different based on different thoughts. Your thoughts do tell you the quality of your thoughts.

Then imagine that you are going about your normal life. Perhaps you generally feel good. You are involved in sports, work family, all is well for the most part. Then you hear from a good friend or relative that someone you love dearly died three days ago, it was a tragic accident while away on vacation in the wilderness and it took three days to get back to civilization to report the accident. All of a sudden you are suffering from the news and the grief. But why didn’t you suffer three days ago when it actually happened? It is because your mind just now became aware and your mind has thoughts about death that cause you to suffer. If you were more psychically aware you may have picked up on this incident when it happened and because of that it would trigger the same worrisome thoughts and a general feeling of grief and despair. But the feelings are telling you about your thoughts about what happened in the life of someone you loved.

Start paying attention to your feeling when you interact with others. Focus on other people. Listen to them. Let go of your thoughts about them and what they say and just feel how that other person feels. How does it feel? Then compare that with your experience of them over time. As time passes you should be able to recognize the connection. When a person says nice things to you but it feels bad and then later you find out they were lying or setting you up to be cheated in some way you will know why the bad feelings came. Or perhaps they say they are fine but inside you feel they are hurting and later you find out their husband had been cheating on them. This is an experiment with feeling others and then comparing it to the outcomes once you have that information.

An experiment in choosing the best option…so you have a choice to make, which one do you choose? Bring yourself to a good feeling place. To do that remember something that feels good to you, being in nature, playing with your children, being with your lover, whatever it is that makes you feel good. Then when you are feeling free and relaxed think about your various choices one at a time. Follow the path one choice will lead you down and see how it feels. Then follow the path of each of the choices, how do they each feel. Don’t get too intellectual and start thinking, I don’t know how I will have the money or the time or the skills or any such thoughts. Just feel what it would be like if the things you needed were there to support each path. Then choose the best feeling path. Observe over time how it works out. You should find that good feelings guide you to the correct path and that bad feelings warn you of the difficulties to come. You are tuning into a higher guidance in this case.

These are the sorts of thing you can pick up with your feelings. They tell you about the quality of your thoughts or the thoughts of others. Feeling good connects you with God and your own Higher Self. Feeling bad is an indication of separation from God or your own Higher Self. So you can experiment with these things in time and prove to yourself if what I am teaching is true or not. Don’t just limit yourself to “I don’t believe that.”

In order to shift from struggling to get through life to loving life you must change your habits of thought. To do so you must hang out with different influences. You can do this in the form of books and movies. And certainly you should be careful of the people you choose to hang out with. Cut loose the relationships with those who do not feel good to be around.There is nothing wrong with this. Those people might tell you there is, but if you are really desperate then you should be willing to take desperate measures. You can always welcome those people back into your life at a later time when you are stronger and have excess energy to cope with them and their games. Perhaps they too will change for the better in that time and the reunion will be a joyful one.

Yes, I have given you a lot of blogs to read. And certainly over time more will come from me and others whose wisdom you respect. Take your time. Read a little each day. And below you will find more reading assignments for your health and wellbeing in the form of book recommendations. In the Golden Compass blog you will find recommendations for movies. Hang out in this different environment for awhile, I am talking years, and you will find that you do indeed change. Make it your intention to change, to grow, to heal, to come in touch with the real you, the you that is One with God and All That Is.

Book Recommendations…

Entertaining Biographical Stories I personally like stories about the lives of masters that also contain wisdom the best because of the entertainment value that goes with the wisdom.

Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story by Michael Skowronski. Yes this is my own book. It gives my own real life examples of how I grew from being a somewhat dysfunctional person into being a much more aware and compassionate person. There is much honesty in this story of how I thought and how those thoughts were creating my reality. It may leave you feeling naked and exposed, because I am sure you will find yourself relating to the thoughts I have thought and you will realize how such thoughts can damage your relationship with others. Of course there is much wisdom offered about thinking and actions that will improve your life too. It is a true story and full of emotion and miracles. Yes actual physical healing miracles occurred in my life and in the life of my late wife Kathryn.

The Magus of Strovolos, Fire in the Heart, and Homage to the Sun all by Kyriacos C. Markedes this is an awesome trilogy about a Greek Mystic who performed many healing miracles and adeptly describes life in the other dimensions.

Autobiography of a Yogi by Paramahansa Yogananda. This is filled with stories of masters of India and the amazing miracles they performed. There are many stories of overcoming death, as in raising others from the dead. The first time I read this book I loved it but wondered if it were true. These days I have no doubt because over the years since I read that book I learned to live the wisdom it contains and have created many profound miracles in my life as a result. These are not the stories of a superstitious uninformed man. These are the stories of a man who has experienced a life we are all evolving toward.

Living with the Himalayan Masters, by Swami Rama
Walking With a Himalayan Master by Justin O’Brien
At the Eleventh Hour: The biography of Swami Rama by Pandit Rajmani Tigunait

Swami Rama died in 1996. He was a very powerful Yogi and like Yogananda also relates his first hand experiences with fantastic miracles over nature and life and death itself. Swami Rama was an intelligent, well educated and articulate man who himself conquered death and proved his amazing miraculous powers to modern scientists in many controlled laboratory experiments. He himself has written many books on the science of yoga that are also well worth reading, however they are too numerous to mention here. They can easily be found by searching the internet.

Books purely on the topic of spirituality, all these are channeled, I recommend…

Planetary Brother, I Come as a Brother, Reflections of an Elder Brother by BARTHOLOMEW as well as the other books by BARTHOLOMEW

Conversations with God I, II & III as well as At Home With God in a Life that Never Ends by Neale Donald Walsch

I have read and recommend Kryon books 1-3 & 6-11

Messages from Michael by Chelsea Quinn Yarbro

A Course in Miracles by Jesus Christ as channeled by Helen Schucman

By the time you run out of these I am sure there will be more recommendations from me posted. I also expect some of my friends will post some recommended reading material in the comments below.

You can heal yourself and you can have a life that is beautiful and meaningful. Don’t let your current level of insanity and suffering stop you. Begin now, right where you are. Take it slowly. Take it one step at a time. But do the work each day and do not stop until you are clear in your heart and your mind that you are loveable, capable, and filled with wisdom.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story
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Self Healing Guide: From Misery to Bliss Part II

14.03.2008 by admin Category Caring for Others, Forgiveness, Pain, Self-Worth 2 Comments →

Continued from How to Heal Yourself…

In this blog I want to make as many resources available to you as possible for greatly improving the quality of your life. Besides my blogs, I offer personal, one on one counseling for free. But I do ask you to read my blogs since they contain so much of what I would teach you anyways. I am also offering you FREE Abraham CDs. (See http://abraham-hicks.com for more information about the teachings of Abraham.). I give credit for my own enlightenment to the information contained on these CDs. They are so powerful that I got them weekly for four years and listened to each CD more than once. This marked a huge surge forward for me in my own personal growth. Which brings up a good point…REPETITION!

If you want me to send you one of these Abraham CDs for free then email me with your mailing address and I will send it to you. This offer is limited to supplies I have on hand. I also have plenty of CASSETTE TAPES, if you have a tape player I can send you one of those tapes instead.

Repetition is essential to moving yourself into a healthy state of mind and in manifesting the things you want in the outer world too. Please allow me to repeat myself so as to emphasize this point. Repetition is necessary, you should read and reread the same material over and over again if you wish to make it part of your being. Repetition develops new habits of thought. You are constantly being exposed to nonsense in your everyday life coming at you from all directions. To counter this you must engage in repetition of material that trains your mind in the way you wish to have it trained.

Enlightenment is simplicity itself. If you are reading and studying true wisdom there will by its very nature be a lot of repetition within it. The complexity in life comes from the nonsense that we are brainwashed with on a daily basis. The complexity in spiritual wisdom comes from helping the student overcome the crazy ideas about life that we all hold.

Exercise is a very important part of maintaining sanity and Self-Healing. There have been times in my life when I just did not get much exercise in for various reasons…until I started to notice I was becoming depressed. Then I overcame the excuses, stopped procrastinating and found some way to get my body back into motion. So if you are not exercising, you MUST add exercise back into your routine. There has to be a way, and no excuse is good enough to let this one go. I know of many mental health care professionals who have prescribed exercise for their patients and the beneficial results were so amazing they did not feel the need to return to their mental health professional for further care.

Yoga is an excellent practice to take on. It consists of stretching exercises, pranayama exercises which is deep breathing, and meditation exercises. All three of these practices are essential for the good health of the body. All of these are intended to be done regularly. Although I don’t do the stretching daily, I do the meditation and pranayamas daily. Yoga classes are offered all over the world these days. So do give it a try. Yoga has helped me to overcome back pains that used to require regular chiropractic visits. I’ll be 50 years old in November 2008. I have been in much better health in my forties than I was in my thirties. Most people think I am 35 years old when they look at me.

I give many good lessons in other blogs I have written, there is enough there to get your healing process well underway. The rest of what you need to complete the process will come to you naturally and seemingly magicly over time. The following is an overview of those blogs so you can easily find the lessons that will help you create peace and happiness in your own life.

It may seem overwhelming. But here is the secret. Take them one at a time. Go back and read the comments too. We get into some very profound discussions in the comments! If you read all of these blogs, and more than once, you will spend many days contemplating some very profound questions about your life and how your mind has created the life you are now living. At the same time the negative brainwashing will be put on hold. You will gain much ground, make much progress in improving the quality of your life. Also reading material like this will raise questions in your mind. When a question is asked, the answer will follow. Some how some way life will present the answer to you if you only ask. Seek and you will find.

Drowning in Worry contains a lesson I call the Secret to Happiness. This blog is an answer to a woman who had so many difficulties she felt like she was drowning in them.

Reprogramming Yourself contains a lesson in overcoming anger. This blog contains a powerful true life lesson in what we can do with the power of our minds to change ourselves and the external world. A miracle occurred. When a person is overwhelmed by the painful dramas in their lives they feel it is not possible to change things. True stories like this are powerful because they help us see what is possible. I give stories like this, from other authors, credit for transforming my own life into what it is today.

A POWERFUL Creative Tool – Giving Thanks explores the power of gratitude.

Relationship Break Ups – How to Cope. This blog will help you understand the importance of living without a regular romantic partner while you are trying to improve your own life.

Drug Addicts, Prostitutes, Child Molesters, Liars & Cheaters…are They the Scum of the Earth? As well as Crime and Punishment…Both are Insane! Are two blogs that will help you to understand the necessity for forgiveness. Do not underestimate the message or the power in these two blogs. I believe this is the biggest place that people fall down in their evolution. Holding onto judgment, hatred and anger is one of the greatest things that holds people back.

What is Right or Wrong? Your Feelings are Your Guide! This blog contains a lot of detail to help you understand one of the most fundamental principles of my teachings…that your feelings will guide you to right thinking and right action and they can protect you by warning you of the harmful intentions of others.

Jealousy and Low Self-Esteem Seem to Ruin Our Lives is a blog about how our attempts to grow and do our best can trigger jealousy and other strong negative emotions in other people and how to deal with that.

The Secret to Creating Lasting Romance is a blog written to help those in relationship improve their relationships and those who are not improve their point of attraction such that they can attract the relationship they desire.

Meditation and the Wandering Mind is a blog about how to meditate. I bet a lot of people really don’t understand the purpose of meditation. Meditation helps a person gain control of their mind first and foremost. there are other purposes beyond that, but gaining control of the mind is the most important purpose of meditation.

Have You Been Abused? Are You Healed? Is a blog written for those who have been abused cautioning them about their point of attraction. Which is to say, if you have been abused repeatedly already you are very likely to be attracted to other abusers in a way that seems very natural and attractive.

Raped by My Father Every Night for Years is a blog written to help those who have suffered sexual or violent abuse.

Is Your Past Real? Is an interesting blog about how we hold ideas about people and events in a certain way that may not be true, and from those ideas we make our choices, take certain actions, and form habits of thought and action. However, as we grow our ideas about life evolve and come closer to the truth, yet do we go back and re-evaluate the past or what we believe happened? Many people did not get this blog…but it will pose some profound questions about what is real and what is not. Also it gives some interesting real life experiences of how we can influence outcomes by changing the way we think. The cool thing about this blog, and most of my blogs, is that the comments bring up some very good questions and the answers are quite profound. READ THE COMMENTS TOO!

You Will Never Get It Done! This is a short and sweet blog that reminds us that there is always way more to do than is possible to do. So let go, let God, do what you can and let the rest go undone! There is always tomorrow.

Cancer and the Law of Attraction is a blog that discusses the frightening issues of life threatening diseases.

The Evolution of a Soul is a blog that helps make sense of the bigger picture…like…Why does God let bad things happen to good people? And is there really such a thing as Good and Bad?

The Golden Compass - A Waste of Mind this is a highly controversial blog that presents the problem of influence the predominant media of film, TV, and the news has upon us. This blog contains many movie recommendations that will serve you better in your healing efforts than the predominant popular movies that are based primarily on violence, suspense, thrills and chills. While MANY people disagreed with what I have presented I would say that most of these people are really defending their taste in movies and their right to choose. They have different goals in life than I do. They feel the need to seek vengeance upon those who make life painful and difficult, they think punishing the bad guys will make the world a better place and are experimenting with such thoughts through their choice in entertainment. Also they have not gone as far with their life experiences as I have nor have they created the magic and miracles I have nor have they had the incredibly close contact with God that I have. Please don’t mistake this statement for arrogance; I am NOT saying I am better or more worthy than they are, I am simply stating I have more experience than they do. It is more like comparing a grade school or high school student with a college graduate who is actively putting his education to the test in the real world of experience. One person is not better than the other, but one person certainly has a far vaster wealth of experience to draw upon. This blog reveals a powerful part of what keeps people stuck in their dysfunctional lives. READ THE COMMENTS TOO!

Continue by reading Part III…

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Cancer and the Law of Attraction

12.03.2008 by admin Category Caring for Others, Pain, Self-Worth No Comments →



While conversing through comments The Golden Compass with my friend Caryl I came to find out about her situation with her daughter who had cancer. Because the conversation in that blog got off topic and because of a statement that I made regarding how our thoughts are creative spurred the following statement from Caryl I thought I would write this blog to help clarify in greater detail how our thoughts create and how Law of Attraction actually works in relationship to diseases such as cancer.

Caryl’s aka Miss Màdamn comment…
One more thing I have heard you repeat, that does somewhat bother me, is that you say (loosely paraphrased here) — our thoughts bring about the experiences, hardships, etc. that come our way. Neither my child nor I thought about disease or anything negative of this type to manifest this experience. It was shocking and far from anything we’d consciously or subconsciously think about. So, I’m hoping you mean that a lot of things can surface from our thinking, rather than all.

As I began to answer this question it too went somewhat off topic, actually a new topic arose, one which will answer the questions of many people about many issues in their lives. I posted that blog and called it Evolution of a Soul.

A few days after posting that blog Caryl said, “This is a great blog… A lot of answers, to questions I asked of you, are within it… and beyond. Thank you :)”

So go and read that blog! It will give context to the answers I am giving here. Even still I want to answer Caryl’s other questions and an email she sent me a bit more directly and with more specifics regarding disease.

Taken from my blog Evolution of a Soul:

Like attracts like. We attract things to us based on our dominant vibrations. These vibrations are formed by our thoughts and our feelings tell us the nature of these energies. Life is filled with random events, people and things that pass us by on a continuous basis. Yet we only tune into a small fragment of what is passing us by. This tuning in occurs based on our vibration that was created by our thoughts. If we have a desire, but are lost in the “whoa is me” sort of thinking, our desire can float on by and not be noticed due to the mismatch in our vibration. But if you are happy and carefree and feeling good you will notice your desire as it floats on by and reel it in.

Here is the last email Caryl sent me about this topic along with my comments…

I replied to your newest blog reply, before reading this [my last comment to her in the Golden Compass Blog…this takes off where the comments in that blog left off…click here to read the comments in that blog search for Caryl’s picture]. It’s so difficult to reply in short and say all that’s on my mind, in response to what you write. Each time I’ve read again what I’ve written and think of things I should have clarified more. It’s okay. Hopefully, you and others will know there is more, and that I’m not really butting heads with you, just my own thoughts, really. It truly has been of great help to read some of your teachings so far and to hear your words, addressed personally to me. I believe it was meant to be.

My Daughter doesn’t exhibit a lot of stress in her life. She is unaware of the new findings, though. There’s nothing that can be done at this point and I wanted to let her get through Christmas and her birthday, worry-free, before we deal with anything we may have to in the near months. Her birthday is January 3rd and she will be 18. She was diagnosed the October before last, at age 16. She was in kidney failure and later developed an intestinal blockage, as well as many other chemo related complications…line infections, allergic reactions, and a whole lot more. We spent 4-1/2 months in the hospital, through all of the holidays last year and her 17th birthday, which she was in the Oncology ICU at the time. She went through 15 surgeries…5 rounds of aggressive chemo…illness, etc. in that short time. But, today, she is much better. She was very close to death upon her initial hospital admission. After her release from treatment, she was admitted again, due to a severe drug withdraw, which almost took her life again…the doctors forgot to wean her off of a drug. So, all in all, I should be elated that she made it through so much, a couple of close calls, and more…and, I was…and her future looked bright, to suddenly be dulled again by a ‘possible’ recurrence. I know I should be happy she’s not in a ‘true’ recurrence…but, I’m stuck, as I’ve said before.

I understand it’s my own doing, my own thoughts, and it’s of no use to myself or my daughter. I know this…something is keeping me attached to the fear and worry, though…And, I fear I will be the cause of a negative outcome, over a positive one that she stays well. Part of why I questioned your words about our thoughts leading to outcomes we create…One thought leads to another and begins to spiral out of control. I understand this…and, I understand I have the power to control it, however I don’t understand why I’m not.

Your lack of control is a matter of a lack of practice, strong habits that do not serve you, and also a matter of not fully realizing through experience how much power you really do have in the way you think…life still seems to be something that is happening to you and not something that is happening through you. This is simply where you are on your journey though life, not a judgment about where you should be. As far as being a negative influence goes, you must do the best you can for where you are at. If you worry about it or have fear about it, you remain stuck in the harmful energy.

This information about our thoughts and how it creates our feelings and life experience is not to be used to flog yourself but to improve your experience of life and to evolve. Also to assign the label of negative outcome to ill health and positive outcome to staying well will not help maters either. You can still want health without being attached to it. It is the attachment to it, and the labels you assign to it, and the way you view it that causes the suffering. It takes practice, contemplation, and experience to really understand the difference.

I feel I need to get a handle on it all, somewhere, either the root of it, or to just change it…

Get control over your thoughts and give up trying to control the disease or the disease process. If a new cure emerges, and if it feels right to try the treatment out, then by all means go for it. But until that happens, and at all times, go with the flow of what is happening. In a fast moving river if you swim against the stream you will only exhaust yourself. If you go with it, then you can travel with ease. You can also swim towards the shore while at the same time going with the flow. That is what gaining control of your mind is. I know it is not a perfect analogy since you can’t really remove yourself from the river of life.

And, I feel I do change my energy and thinking when I’m around her — although I know my personal thoughts, even when not around her still have an adverse affect on her. These thoughts are strongest when I’m alone. When I’m around her, I notice my thoughts switch to those that are only loving and I feel as if I’m glowing from within and I just stare at her and smile (and she finds it creepy, lol) and during these times my thoughts are about how happy I am she’s alive and how grateful I am that I have each moment I’m in, with her…able to sit next to her, talk to her, love her, and on an on. There’s so much more to each moment in any given day, but just too much to relay here. So, I guess what I’m trying to say is that it’s almost as if I bounce from one extreme to another. I’ll find a good balance. I can feel I will. And, I am conscious of how I think, all the time…for me, at least, a step toward improving.

I read about your previous wife and her cancer. I want to say I’m sorry for your loss, but somehow it doesn’t seem fitting. I also read how you feel a lot of good experiences came into your life, later, which would not have occurred if she was still in your life. That’s another point I’m not at yet. I can’t imagine caring about life beyond my Daughter’s. And, I understand how that is holding on to thoughts or ideas for whatever reasons, not beneficial to myself…and, not wording it well right now.

I can’t blame you and you should not blame yourself. I found it very difficult to focus on positive things while my wife was suffering with cancer. I also was not as aware of the need to change my thinking as I am now. I also did not have the skill for changing my thoughts as I do now. Much of what I know now is a result of having gone through those and many other painful experiences. You are where you are. Do the best you can and accept what is as best you can. And in all of that you can continue to dream of an ongoing life experience with your daughter, just stop yourself from dwelling on a loss that may or may not come, or on some future reoccurrence of disease that may or may not come.

Change your thinking NOT to change the course of this disease or of your lives, but change your thinking so that you can feel better in the NOW MOMENT. This gives you the best possible experience of life and the best possible chance of things changing…but do not do it to change things in the outer world, because holding on to that as a goal is attachment and it will cause you to suffer.

I met many parents who resided with their children on the Oncology floor. Many lost their children. I saw how their thoughts changed with each reality they had to cope with…or accept. Many started off fearful, worried, and angry…full of fight to do all they could to save their children…but, as the illnesses took over, many softened, even some began to look as if they were becoming more at peace, with each turn for the worse with their children. It scared me. I felt as if they had lost the fight within themselves and were giving up on hope…accepting what once wasn’t acceptable. At the same time it scared me, it intrigued me and provided a different kind of hope. Although their seemingly different mindsets were appropriate in the times, wanting to let go so the suffering of the children would end, finding peace within their newly found acceptance - and more than just that, I felt they had lost a part of themselves, as if they had each undergone a lobotomy…content and less emotional…uncaring…although, not true.

You have witnessed how difficult life circumstances changes people for the better. Those people learned how to go with the flow and enjoy their lives. That is all that this is about. Life is happening NOW, you cannot live in some future time. Struggling to save the future is not necessary nor is it possible. The future will come and if you struggle to save it you still will not have the skills to enjoy the NOW when that future is the NOW. It may have seemed like they had undergone a lobotomy, but in most cases that is not true. They just came to understand how life works. They made the best of a shitty situation. They enjoyed life in spite of what seemed to be going wrong. They enjoyed their last days with their loved one rather than suffering through them and causing their loved one to suffer even more.

So, now you can see…which you probably did to begin with…where a lot of my questioning comes from…imaginative fear…and other type thoughts. Letting go…replacing thoughts…and so much more…I understand. I’m just stuck. And, the more I say it and think it and believe it the more it is so. I know this, lol. And, it’s not funny…Just something I have to really work on…

And, this was all written without hesitation to say something different, or to correct anything, knowing I haven’t addressed all you wrote to me…but, it is long and repetitive in some words, so I’ll end it now. And, I will read again this last message you’ve written and other replies, as well as other blogs you have written, and hopefully you’ll begin to see a positive change real soon. And, my daughter’s health isn’t the only thing in my life, obviously, but I am the sole legal guardian for my Father, who became paralyzed about 3 years ago (he’s in a nursing home now) and when my Daughter become ill I had to give up our home (live with my Aunt now) and my job, income, security and more…and, I’m not that bad off compared to others…I’m very blessed in many ways and I know so…but, just expressing some of my circumstances…even if I sound like a martyr, lol.

Anyway, I feel you’ve already generously spent so much time responding to me, so I wouldn’t ask for more, other than maybe in the near future, on other blog topics, etc

Thank you so much, Michael. You’ve been caring, understanding, generous, and encouraging in many ways. I truly appreciate it.

Much love,
Caryl

Caryl, you do have a very good grasp on what you have to do, now it is a matter of practice and learning from the experiences you are having. My heart goes out to you as I am sure so many readers hearts too. You and your daughter will be in all of our prayers.

You are welcome. I am here to help you and others walk through these difficult life situations. What you shared was honest and