Divorce Counseling Transcript for Sue

Michael Skowronski offers Marriage, Relationship and Family Counseling from a Spiritual Perspective. This form of counseling can help you improve your marriage, relationship and family life by reading and applying what you learn from the free "Loving Relationships" and the free "Walk On Water" ezine. This counseling can also help you get past the expectations of others and decide for yourself whether divorce is right for your family or not.

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This relationship counseling transcript is teaching by example; its one of the most powerful ways to learn. As young children we learned everything that way.

This page contains real questions asked by a real person struggling with letting go of her marriage, how it would affect her family and moving on to divorce. To keep it brief I have included only the bits of our exchange that would be relevant to you the reader.

Sue has graciously given me permission to post this page. These email exchanges occurred over many weeks of time. I hope that the advice I have given Sue will help you in your life.

From Sue:

Hi Michael,

I am excited to find your site and wish you the best in your work.

I am hoping you can help me find some peace in my journey as I am struggling through a divorce and am left with three children, while my husband has moved in with his high school girl friend. I loved this man and find it so difficult that he could make such a move.

I have learned a lot about me and want to continue to get back my power and strength.

Thank you for your time
Sue

From Michael:

Regarding your divorce and all such things. Phew... what can I say, that is a heavy topic isn't it? It is enough to make anyone feel miserable.

As you read the ecourse you will find that it all boils down to one simple answer. Trust that the Universe is delivering you everything you have been asking for. This period of time is much like the mess of having your kitchen remodelled. You want the new kitchen (the better feeling life) but there will be a period of time where your home is in a bit of turmoil.

Find something to focus on that makes you feel better... even if you have to make it up in your mind. Because once you do you have reconnected to your Source, or your soul and then it all takes off.

Once a relationship comes to this it usually has gone through its share of dramas and no one is really happy. And life should be happy. Life is meant to be good. There is so much we have been taught about how it should be and when it does not turn out that way, the burden is heavy.

You will have to feel your way through this. Do what feels good to you. Let go of society's expectations. Comfort your children. And keep reaching for things to think about, things to focus your attention on, and things to do that make you and your children feel better. One day at a time you will make it through.

I could go on writing to you for hours to help bring you to a place of comfort but at this point I have other things I must attend to. I suggest you read the ecourse up to #3 and then ask some specific questions.

Blessings,
Michael Skowronski

From Sue:

Hi Michael,

Thank you for getting back to me. Your thoughts and ideas are very helpful.

I am pleased to have someone to write to during this topsy turvey time. I grew up thinking no one ever had problems....my parents never fought, we were upper middle class, and I was taught to be nice. I have been being nice for a long time and now I realize that I need to stand up for myself and that it is okay.

I come to my husbands rescue even today. He chose to leave the family because he couldn't bear not being with this women. Now, he is struggling and I feel as though I should help him. I know intellectually that this is his problem and he made it. I have the repercussions of his actions dealing with my own failures and the kids emotional well-being and I want to help fix him.

What's up with that?

I am being told I should move ahead and sue him for divorce. I hate to have this be confrontational. I will have to deal with him the rest of my life. We will have to deal with each other about the kids. How do I figure out what the "universe" wants me to do.

I don't want to act out of opinion of others but, I don't want to sit here one year from now still in the same place. Limbo I am realizing there is a world out there and wonderful people to meet and I want to be a part of it. I can't when I am still attached to a man who I have lost respect for

Any thoughts?
Sue

PS. Your response gave me a lot to think about and it was nice to hear from someone who is more objective. Thanks:)

From Michael:

Hi Sue,

How are you doing now that you have read a little bit of the “Facts of Life” ecourse? Do you have any specific questions regarding how to proceed in dealing with your separation/divorce? How are your children handling all of this?

(Read the “Facts of Life” ecourse… more will be revealed. Click here to purchase your copy now. Or Click Here to sign up for the FREE "Walk On Water" ezine and the get the first lesson of the "Facts Of Life" ecourse for free.)

I too grew up very unaware of the kinds of problems people had. I only had minor difficulties in my childhood, not the kind of torture some people go through. So I can understand what a shock it can be when you find out!

Do you really come to your husband’s rescue or is it more like you enable him to remain dysfunctional one more day? On the surface it may seem like you are helping him, but in truth you are keeping him stuck if you attempt to solve his problems for him.

Your desire to fix him comes from your desire to have that ideal relationship in your life and deep down you believe if you help him, he will value you more and that will get you there.

We have habits of doing this too. Our society expects this. But you must look after yourself first and foremost. Others second, when you really are in a clear and centered place where you are guided by your Source and know what assistance to offer. Remember it will feel good to offer it and it will feel good to actually give it if the offering is accepted.

Children are such a big issue in all of this. But really it is better for them to live in two separate houses and loved by two loving parents than to live in one house by two stressed out parents who at best tolerate each other and at worst hate each other. Think of the lesson in maturity and acting from a place of wisdom you will be teaching them.

It is about the energy we are creating not about what society thinks is best. It is about what can be felt, whether we are aware of it or not, because others will feel it. These are the most tangible and creative forces in our lives. Not the outward expression of energy. When it comes time for outward action, it will feel right. They are necessary, but only when it feels right.

Suing your husband for divorce is nasty business. I suggest that you trust that the Universe will look after you and do this in the least confrontational way you can. You are right; you will be involved with him for the rest of your children’s childhood and maybe longer. You cannot put a price on the peace of mind you will have if you remain in integrity.

The time for action will come and you will know what action to take. But you must remain centered and in a good feeling place. It may be a few months before the answer comes. This period of time is determined by you; by how quickly you become a vibrational match to the answers you seek. And you do it by nurturing yourself.

If you wish to do something positive for your husband, remember him in all his good qualities. Remember the wonderful times. Remember how good he is with the children (even if there was only one time remember that one time). Remembering all of the other stuff is harmful to you most of all, it puts a sour expression on your face and makes you unattractive. It also makes you rendezvous with him at his worst.

It may be impossible to understand his actions, but try to remember he is not in touch with his Source when he is behaving badly. He must be in some sort of pain to do painful things to you and the kids.

I hope this helps,
Michael Skowronski

From Sue:

Michael,

Your letter was extremely helpful on many issues! Thank you.

I had never really understood that by trying to "fix" my husband or anyone else I was really just trying to create the ideal relationship. I realize more than ever that I am interesting and fun and I have things to offer. I allowed my husband to devalue what I brought to our family. I began to feel worse and worse about me.

I know I have a lot to learn and I want to gain strength and become the person I would secretly like to become. I want my kids to see an awesome mom that isn't afraid. I want to create a new family.

Now, I need to figure out how to separate from this person. I have always avoided confrontation and had a hard time standing up for myself. But, I want out and want to move on........its been over a year and a half that I have been sitting waiting, gathering strength and it doesn't make sense to just be a fence sitter for ever.

I also need to pursue some sort or "career" (I hate that word) I have fought fire for 8 years, taught forest gardening to kids for 7years, was a program director for senior citizens for 5.....now I am planting trees with a friend. I am all over the place and I feel as though being a single parent I should be get something "secure".

Thanks for your thoughts......
Sue

As far as work goes, you will know when the time and opportunity is right. Remember all is well. It can only get better from here. You are in a dynamic and powerful part of your life.

It is a pleasure working with you.

Namaste,
Michael Skowronski

From Sue

Michael,

I've been feeling gut wrenching sadness the last couple of days. I even woke up from a sound sleep crying. I am not sure where this is coming from. I had been feeling on top of all this and for no apparent reason I am sad and can't shake it.

I have so many decisions and don't really want to make them. But, if I just sit here I will be in the limbo stage even longer. I feel as though I want to move forward even if it means the end. My husband has so much baggage and I don't want to be a part of it. He is saying now he want to come back but, not for me just the kids.....that hurts.

Here he comes. gotta go

me

From Michael:

Sue,

Your sadness, where does it come from? This is the easiest question in the world to answer. You need only ask yourself what you have been thinking about. Do you even know? If you do not then you have programmed yourself not to be aware and you simply need to make it your intention to know.

So what were you thinking about? You are taking the next steps in moving forward. It means letting go of things you had not yet been ready to. New grieving must occur, that is if you focus on the loss. But what are you loosing? A ball and chain! So rejoice! This is a very sacred moment you are freeing yourself of a dead weight. You are moving towards a life of awareness and safety and love.

Why are you frightened of him? At what level? Physically, emotionally, verbally? Sue, he pollutes your energy space for you right now. Technically you should be able to deal with it, but right now you have a deep-seated habit of reacting to him in the same way, the way that does not serve you.

It will be difficult to break this with him around. A physical separation should be the first step. Joint custody; it is very normal these days.

As time goes on and you build and practice new habits of thinking you find yourself able to deal with him from a responsible place. To be responsible is to be able to respond, not react, respond from a place of awareness. Right now you are not in this place around him.

You should be able to get to a place where you can easily work out an agreement and each of you have harmonious lives, but if he does not have that, it is not your concern. Only your sanity is your concern. Only the quality of your life is your concern.

And honestly, you can do better than what he has to offer. You can have you wildest dreams come true. I kid you not! You can make some pretty amazing things happen. This that is happening right now is just a simple house cleaning to make room for the new guests.

Life keeps moving on. Enjoy the ride.

Cheers,
Michael Skowronski

From Sue:

Hi Michael,

I have been thinking about you too. I guess I didn't realize I hadn't responded to your last Emil. Yes, it was right on and so very helpful, I keep referring back to it.

You asked what feelings and emotions surround the sadness. I am not sure what you mean by that. I guess its the usual stuff, fear of what is to come, loneliness, loss of something that I had believed in my whole life (marriage-people working stuff out), overwhelming sense of "I am not sure I can do it" ( take care of kids, work at something I love, and make all decisions alone), loss of my kids in respect that they will be spending time with my husband (fine) but with this other women who obviously doesn't believe in morals. Maybe, I am an old fashioned but, I don't think people should sleep with married people.......silly huh!

Anyway, you can imagine all the thought that dance around in my head. I try to keep going back to kayaking through the still water. I love that picture. I also know that something better is coming and I won't be able to grasp it if I stay focused on all the bad stuff.

Next week, we are going to try once again to go to a mediator and separate all our things. I know he wants the house, which I have come to terms with it would be all right for me to move out of this house we built together. He comes in all the time and criticizes me for not keeping the wood stove going or not taking care of the house well enough.....It will always be his house in his eyes. I guess I'd like to move on and live closer to the community we live near anyway. But, he says he doesn't have any money to help me find something else. So, do I stay or what? I hate the picture of him living in this house with the kids, with his girlfriend and me alone in some goofy apartment (alone). I know, remove that negative thought.

My other huge barrier is work and what could should I be doing. I need an income and I need to have something for me that makes my heart sing. I need more self confidence. I have done a little of everything but never can stay focused on one passion.

Ahhhh, Michael you asked how I was. Sorry to carry on. I can't tell you how much your words and ideas have helped me. I am grasping your ideas. They do make sense and I am working at assimilating them into my being. I am excited about all the learning that is taking place. I am not sad all the time. I have had great things happen and expect more.

Please, know you are making a difference.

Thank you so very much, It is snowing and cold here.
Smiles
Sue

From Michael:

Hi Sue,

Sue Said:
You asked what feelings and emotions surround the sadness. I am not sure what you mean by that.

I meant for you to connect your thoughts with your feeling of sadness. And the next step after that is to either change your focus completely. Often this is the easiest way to get feeling better quickly. Or the next step may be to challenge the thoughts you have been thinking with other perspectives that are true and that feel better.

You responded to the question with:
I guess its the usual stuff, fear of what is to come, loneliness, loss of something that I had believed in my whole life (marriage-people working stuff out), overwhelming sense of "I am not sure I can do it" ( take care of kids, work at something I love, and make all decisions alone)

Loneliness is not a good feeling at all. People who find themselves at the end of relationships tend to discover many untapped resources within themselves. They rediscover who they are without the judgements or expectations of another person hovering over them.

Yes, this can be a lonely time. Believe me I know as I am currently going through this one myself. But loving yourself is the answer. Treat yourself as if you were your own lover; as if you are the one who you have a crush on and want to impress. Treat yourself to pampering as you would a new boyfriend.

The loss of the belief in marriage and “to death do us part” is a good thing. In its present form it is a system that fosters duty, obligation and unrealistic expectations on others. You now have an opportunity to readdress this topic and discover what is important to you. I suggest you start with feeling good and go from there.

I know you can do it. Try to stay focused on one day at a time until you do have real world support and things you believe you can rely on. The Universe will support you. If you think about how it will all come about… well you will be very frightened and overwhelmed. So just don’t do it. Do what you have to do and feel like doing today, nothing more.

Use past miracles in your life as a point of focus. You must have some amazing coincidences, timing that was just perfect, and saved you grief in the nick of time. Make a list of these things and go back to them and relive the part where you magically found your needs met and how exciting it was.

Sue also said:
…loss of my kids in respect that they will be spending time with my husband (fine) but with this other women who obviously doesn't believe in morals. Maybe, I am an old fashioned but, I don't think people should sleep with married people.......silly huh!

This is going to be where a lot of your grief is coming from. You have a lot of pain and judgement about this issue. You are still attached to him being your husband. He is not that to you anymore and legal issues don’t count to your soul. You will need to let this go.

I don’t believe in morals either. The word “morals” is a pretty package placed around the concept that other people should live by the rules that I have chosen to live my life by.

You would do much better to realize that your EX-husband is making choices that serve him and would not be making them if you and him were still a match vibrationally. Remember his choice to go elsewhere has much to do with these judgements you hold.

Those judgements don’t feel good and will push him away. Given the little bit you have shared with me, and what I know about people, I am certain there are many more such judgements or moral values that have gotten in the way over the years.

You will have to let these go if you wish to have a loving relationship. Love is connection with our Source. Judgement is disconnection. There is no love in disconnection. None!

You asked about the house. This is my opinion nothing more…

When two people come to live together in partnership, whether they get married or not, they are partners. One person may earn a living or create material possessions like homes while another cooks, cleans, and looks after the children. In an ideal relationship both parties are contributing to their own personal well being as well as that of the family.

In the end it does not matter who earned more or less. It does not matter who did what or how often. The combined creations of these two individuals should be split evenly and fairly.

So in my opinion you own half of that house. If you have to move out he owes you half the current market value of that house. If he moves out you owe him half the current market value of that house. Of course the value of the other possessions comes into play as well as child support.

As far as doing battle to achieve these rights goes, well don’t do that. Keep looking for the ways to do this as loving as possible. Remember it is not so much the outer things you do or say but the inner intentions and thoughts you hold. Keep them loving and you will know the way and things will fall into place.

Resisting, pushing against his walls, doing battle with him will keep you stuck in pain and misery. It will drag you down for many years. Throwing it all away and starting over may be difficult but will give you the freedom to make now and the years to come turn out very well with much love and joy in them.

Which do you choose? Remember, it is not an either or thing. Choose the good feelings while going after what you want. When it feels bad, step back (in your mind), and reach for a better feeling way to think and let inspiration come to you.

By the way… too bad that he does not have the money to help you find something else. That is his problem. That is like saying I don’t have the money to own this house I built. His statement is not truth. What he is really saying is that he is to afraid to give you what you deserve, what you already own.

When he does and says such things simply remind yourself that he is being a frightened child at the moment and is not in touch with his Source. Have compassion for the pain that puts him through. But don’t try to fix the mess he has gotten himself into. Just know there is a loving and powerful being within him that will find the resources to manage once he has to do that.

Sue Said:
I hate the picture of him living in this house with the kids, with his girlfriend and me alone in some goofy apartment

Oooh, I hate that picture too!

How about a different picture? Try this one…

You and your children living in a lovely apartment or home somewhere near a supportive community. You make exciting and aware new friends living here. You find a wonderful job that you love and that actually makes you want to get up in the morning. A job where they value your contribution and skills; remember you are a mature and responsible woman, intense and capable, many employers want just that kind of a person working for them.

In your new life, one day at a time, you rediscover inner resources that you forgot you had and realize that you have some you never knew you had. Your kids thrive. No more arguments or tension in the home. They learn new and interesting perspectives on life from your ex and his lovers and friends.

As you get stronger and more aware of your guidance system your children notice this and rediscover their own guidance system that is protecting them.

This is how it is meant to be. This is how I have seen it happen for many people who get in touch with their guidance system. You get to fill in the interesting details of the exciting events you will join in on.

There is no removing of negative thoughts, there is only focusing on different thoughts. You can only think about one thing at a time.

It is nice to know I am helpful, thanks for letting me know. I know you are not sad all the time. I am sure you are finding many wonderful experiences already. But my role in your life is to help you get past the ones that are holding you back so I expect you to share your confusion with me.

From Sue:

Michael,
Thank you so much. Your ideas certainly hit a chord with me on many levels. I needed to hear those words. Yes, of course I don't mind you using our exchanges for your site. If it helps you and your practice and others I would be honored.

One thought that really resonated with me is my judgments about people. I know I have to let that stuff go. I know if keeps me from appreciating others in their true light.

More later from Sue:

Can you give me any thoughts about my upcoming meeting with my ex concerning the separation of our material things. I am feeling very anxious about it. I don't want to go into the meeting expecting it to fail but, I have all these expectations.

I want to have peaceful loving thoughts. Everytime I see my ex I feel so sad. I look at him and expect him to be the same man......he changed, I changed we needed to grow and learn different things. He is angry at me, I guess because I don't want him back. I can't go back there. I want to move on---(he told me this for months and now I am ready too he doesn't want to).

I don't want to be married to someone who is living with another women. I would rather be alone........

I don't want to have a battle I just want what is fair.

Any thoughts.
Your awesome
keep up the great work!
Sue P

From Michael:

Sue,

I’ll write more later but… to have peaceful loving thoughts you have to hold peaceful loving thoughts in your mind. I think you are trying to have them about him. That may be nearly impossible for you to do at the moment. If that is the case you have to choose other people, places, things and events to focus on. You cannot focus on him right now. It is too soon for you and where you are at.

Now, Sue I know you trust me. So please know this is absolutely true…

If you focus on something totally different, something that makes you feel good when you think about it, most of these other issues will ease up on their own.

You will understand why in time. I can explain why and how it works, but that will have to be later.

From Sue:

Michael,

Thank you for the lesson #5 it is very helpful. I am focusing on all the good in my life. I see it and know it is all around me. Your visualizations are terrific and I think I will write myself some down so I can go there in the mist of the fog.

Tomorrow is our meeting to try to address the separation of our material goods. I am anxious about it. I want it to be productive. I don't want to sit there and cry and cry. When something is in your face it is so difficult to focus on the good stuff. I've got a lot of work to do before the meeting to get mentally prepared.

Sue P

More later from Sue:

Hi Michael,

The meeting went okay. I felt okay about it. We didn't accomplish much. John did a lot of crying and he is very angry. He is directing it at me because of his relationship with the kids. He is blaming me for not letting him see the kids enough. I have said that he can take them when ever he wants. They are busy with school so time is a problem. I suggested he take them 2 nights on the weekend so he could have a longer stretch with them. It didn't seem to satisfy him. I told him he could have the house if he gave me some money to get into something else. That didn't seem to please him or make him not so angry.

We have a very difficult time communicating. We are both so hurt and the hurt comes out as sarcasm on my part and his. I try not to throw daggers but he seems to be able to push those buttons like no one else. He says," oh, its so hard staying home and taking care of the kids whats the big deal". My response is, it is valuable and you never wanted to spend time with them anyway. The TV was always more important......or something. We go round and round. It is a dead end argument. I am finally beginning to move on as he said to me many times and I don't think he likes it.

Two things I thought that were very helpful were saying to myself over and over "all is well." And, keeping my feet planted on the ground and sitting up straight. I wanted to be grounded.

I don't know how to move forward in this. I would like to get separated legally. I don't want to be sitting here 6 months from now in the same position. He doesn't want to do anything because, (who knows) but, I think things are not so rosy with this women and he is hoping he can come back. I have such a hard time standing up for myself. I start to question if I really deserve anything. Maybe, I didn't contribute enough. Maybe, I am lazy.......

Focus on the good........I am working on it. My brother is visiting from Rhododendron Ore. It is wonderful to have him around!

Thank you, thank you, thank you,
Sue

From Michael:

Hi Sue,

I was under the impression this meeting was being managed by a third party. I get the feeling from this last letter that it was not. You must do this through a third party. Don't try to save money here. Get someone to help you with this. You will continue to go through much pain and difficulties trying to work this out with him alone.

All arguments are pointless and waste of time. They hold you stuck in the problem. We do like to have our perspectives heard but this is not what happens in arguments. Instead of bringing clarity and peace your words are like fuel on fire in an argument energy space. There will be disagreements so you must both agree to disagree. Then the focus needs to be on moving forward and doing what needs to be done.

Of course he likes the status quo, it is comfortable, it feels good. So he will stay put and attempt to keep it. You see... he understands what I am teaching more than you. He keeps moving towards what feels good and he is better at it than you. You keep asking yourself, "Am I doing the right thing?" and filtering it through everyone else's value filters and your own fears so you remain stuck or very slow moving.

You will need to take the steps to change this for you. You will need to follow your guidance and do what you need to do for you and only you.

You will need to get clear in your head about what you deserve and what you do not deserve. And then you will need to move forward with your claim to this part of your possessions. And get help with this, there are inexpensive mediation options that can provide you with an inexpensive divorce.

But I caution you not to base it on how much he earned vs. how much you earned. In a partnership this should not matter. The only thing that should matter is did you contribute your time, energy and love to the relationship to the best of your ability? If you were purposely sitting back and letting him take care of you then that would be different, but I don't get that this is what you have done.

Good luck,
Michael Skowronski

From Sue:

We did meet with a counselor she was just their to keep us on track.

Michael Said:
Of course he likes the status quo, it is comfortable, it feels good. So he will stay put and attempt to keep it. You see... he understands what I am teaching more than you. He keeps moving towards what feels good and he is better at it than you. You keep asking yourself, "Am I doing the right thing?" and filtering it through everyone else's value filters and your own fears so you remain stuck or very slow moving.

I am having trouble with this one on some levels. If I do only what feels good.....I could do all sorts of things that will feel good, but could be devastating to me and my family (such as drinking, eating, sex, doing only what feels good). John did what felt good and now he is suffering because it wasn't what it was cracked up to be and he hates himself. He has an alcoholic background and I see him getting his next high but from a women. He is projecting his anger at himself back to me. He told me yesterday "he hates my guts." I know he doesn't he is so angry at himself he can't see straight. I calmly said, I am sorry you feel that way I don't feel that way towards you.

I know I am struggling with making the "right move" and have always put other peoples opinions ahead of my own. Maybe that is one of the many things I need to learn.

Michael, I am so very grateful for your help. You have such a gift. Your ideas and thoughts have helped me get a perspective that raises my limited one. I cannot tell you how wonderful it is to have someone that I can vent to and get back some insight that makes practical and spiritual sense!

I hope things are going well for you and your doings.
Have a great day,
Sue

From Michael:

Hi Sue,

You know what, a little alcohol is a good thing. Your guidance system might just take you there... but if you are feeling your way through it, drinking too much will not feel good. Your guidance system will never take you to places like that.

I highly recommend sex!!! Oh yes, that is a very good one. But again it will only feel good if you do it with love. You can love someone even if it is only a one-time thing. But if it does not feel good to you why would you do it?

It is not as much about the doing as it is about the feeling. Your aim is to feel good and that comes from what you are focusing on, mostly from your mind. As you find yourself feeling bad scan your mind for things that feel better. Then when you find something explore it in your mind first... and notice the feelings. Then scan some more. Again explore with your imagination this new point of focus and feel your way through it.

Choose the best feeling activity... or maybe just the thought process was enough.

You can get so quick with this. And you can expand your horizons when you are already feeling good. Explore options and activities that you can turn to that support and nurture you in the most delicious way. Then when you need one you have options you already understand and it won't be so overwhelming.

Michael Skowronski

As I was putting this page together I wanted to comment some more on what Sue Said:
If I do only what feels good.....I could do all sorts of things that will feel good, but could be devastating to me and my family (such as drinking, eating, sex, doing only what feels good). John did what felt good and now he is suffering because it wasn't what it was cracked up to be and he hates himself.

Things that truly feel good to you will never be devastating to others. If others are devastated it is due to their belief in loss or their judgements about you and your actions.

This question is easy to understand because so many people think they feel good from doing vengeful or harmful things. But it is not truly feeling good. It just feels better than what they have been thinking, doing or tolerating. It goes to show how out of touch with their feelings they really are.

In comparison, hurting someone else does feel better than letting someone hurt you. In comparison getting too drunk too often feels better than all the negative thoughts people think about themselves and their lives and the negative experiences they are creating.

But ultimately, intending to do harm to others or abusing your own body, does not feel good. These kinds of thoughts and actions don’t come anywhere close to the joy, passion and enthusiasm that you can feel.

I am often in such a state of pure bliss that I feel like my body would explode if I tried to bring in any more good feelings. And you know what, if most people were to look at some of the physical circumstances I am currently in… they would wonder how that was possible.

The reason it is possible, is that we always have things in life that we want... ALWAYS! There is ALWAYS something left for us to do or strive for, thank God! And there is ALWAYS something powerfully good and satisfying for us to focus on. So why not focus on what is good rather on the incomplete desire that is yet to be made manifest.

In Conclusion...

Based on other email conversations I have had with Sue, she is doing very well and moving forward with her life. Other dramas have and will come up but these new skills she has learned will become second nature to her. They will continue to serve her for the rest of her life.

Thank you Sue for allowing this to be made public. And thank you dear reader for taking an interest and supporting me in this endeavor.

Sincerely,
Michael Skowronski