I Can’t Find Peace in Heaven
I had a friend ask the following question…
Babyface “I’m having such a difficult time. I can’t seem to stop my mind from racing. I am currently going through a divorce from a very controlling man. He has tried every way possible to make my life as well as my 12 yrs old daughter’s life as miserable as possible.
“As a way to mentally, physically and emotionally get away from it all, I took my daughter to my brother’s house in North Carolina. I figured his huge house on the golf course, with it’s in ground pool and friendly neighbors would be just what my daughter and I needed to find peace of mind.
“My brother owns a restaurant and we got to meet all the clientele. We developed friendships with everyone; a sort of emotional connection. it was wonderful. However, 2 weeks after we got here, one of the waitresses who had been having a rough time of things herself, ended up committing suicide. It was sad. She was a nice girl but a very pained person. I understand why she did this and I do not feel responsible in any way for her decision. but it doesn’t take away the extreme sadness we feel for the loss of such a young life (she was 33). This has rocked me to the bone.
“While I was here, I met a nice southern gentleman. I actually allowed my heart to feel something and on Friday he turned into Dr. Jekyll, all because of stupid drinking. I hate alcohol. Why do people have to drink to the point where they turn into a different person? I feel betrayed. I feel duped. I feel stupid for allowing myself to fall for such a person. He betrayed my brother (he was good friends with my brother). My brother feels betrayed. His kids feel duped. He fooled all of us.
“I’m trying to find peace but it just seems that wherever i go, there’s sadness.
“I need to stop my mind racing and I need to center on myself. But whenever I do my mind races…too many things to think about and worry about.
“I want to feel happiness and I can’t. This is not me. I’m typically an optimistic, loving, happy go lucky person.
“Do you have any words of wisdom that I can use for today that will help me get through today?”
Stopping your mind from racing will take time. You have an untrained mind; you hold illusions about life and what it is about, and have many dramas to sort out before you can feel safe and happy in your world.
So you go to your brother’s house where the things necessary for happiness and peace are all there and still you cannot find it. Why do you suppose that is? It is like I wrote in my blog Suicide Does Not Bring Peace…your life does not change just because you get rid of your body. In your situation your life does not change because you shed your outer circumstances and move into a new one.
Many people misunderstood that blog. They thought I was judging people who commit suicide. I was not. I was simply saying, wherever you go, there you are. The problems in our lives live inside of us. They may appear to come from other people, but in reality they do not. We are attracting our problems to us through Law of Attraction. The outer circumstances of our lives are a reflection of our inner world.
I believe one of the reasons people misunderstood that blog was because of the false beliefs they hold about reality…they believe that either we die and are completely gone, thus we can no longer suffer…or they believe that when we die we will go to heaven and then all must surely be well. Your brother’s huge house in North Carolina situated on a golf course with an in ground swimming pool and friendly neighbors sound just heavenly! Such abundance including a restaurant providing an income and all the food one could eat. Surely this must be heaven.
Yet somehow it is not heaven. So what is missing? We run here, we run there, we change friends, spouses and lovers, and still peace and happiness is missing. For a short time the new circumstance may seem to be just what you needed, but soon enough it all changes. Why? Because it is what you have created. It may seem like others have created it, but really and truly, you are coming to conclusions about these other people and how they affect you. It is the way you think about them and what their actions mean that is taking away your peace and happiness. You are God and you have intentionally incarnated into a world of duality (right and wrong, good and bad, pain and pleasure) and are holding your focus in a limited reality, and thus you are creating with limited information and limited understanding about life.
I wrote a blog called The Evolution of a Soul which helps explain more about life and how it really is. To a physically oriented person it may seem like the contents of that blog are not very useful, but I assure you it contains very practical information. We need to move past our limited ideas about life; we need to expand our vision so that we really understand who and what we really are. We are God. We are the creators of our lives and our reality. We are evolving. If you do not understand this basic fact about life, then you will never understand how to create the peaceful and happy life you seek.
I always recommend my blog Meditation and the Wandering Mind because Peace and Happiness come when we can still our minds and come back around to understand that “All Is Well.” Right here and right now sitting still and simply accepting life as it is, in the non-doingness, in just being, all is well. We are now, and always will be whole and complete. The rest of this is just an illusion we have created and we can stop anytime and remember this. Once we have rested in the Truth of Who We are then we can re-enter the doingness of life while still remembering our wholeness. Engaging in a meditation practice twice daily helps us to secure this perspective within us.
As for this nice southern gentleman who drank and became a different person…as for hating alcohol…again you misunderstand. You should love alcohol because it revealed what is truly inside of this “nice” southern gentleman. It was not the alcohol. Alcohol does not have a personality. Alcohol only removed his inhibitions such that this man is free to be who he really is. Without the alcohol perhaps he could have hidden this side of himself from you such that he was able to take more from you at a later time. But now this wonderful Alcohol has revealed him for who he really is. He is not the bringer of your peace and happiness, nor is he the one who takes it away. He is just another lost soul who does not yet understand that he too is God and that all is well and this world is filled with abundance.
Besides your getting into a regular practice of meditation and contemplation I recommend one other thing which always works to being peace and contentment…A POWERFUL Creative Tool – Giving Thanks. Be grateful for what you do have, no matter how little or how much it is. Even if it is only Life Itself…you will always have Life; it can never be taken from you, for you are Life Itself.
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