Unforgettable Love Story

This blog is a guide for healing your life. We all have the power to heal ourselves. Sometimes people think they need expensive weekly therapy for months or years in order to heal. Perhaps in some cases that is true. But most people are capable of healing themselves if they truly desire to do so and if they have access to the right resources. Mental and emotional sanity is much simpler than most people realize, indeed enlightenment is much simpler than most people realize. If sanity feels like a goal that is too far away for you to reach then this guide is for you.

I encounter many people who have extremely difficult lives and continue to have many difficulties even today. To use the word difficult is an understatement in many of these cases…for too many people life really does suck and they just can’t wait for it all to be over. If that is how you have felt about life then this blog is for you. There is a lot here, but it will take a lot of work to heal this big mess. Take your time go through it slowly; reach out for help when you need it.

People like this would find it very difficult to understand what it is like to have a life like mine. How could it be possible to feel good, to feel happy, to be in love and feel love day after day, every day? How could it be possible to be happy even when people insult and abuse you or when you are fired from a job or when a relationship ends or when a loved one dies? How is it possible to be happy even when you have been thrown in jail under false charges? How is it possible to be happy when everything you have worked for or ever wanted is constantly being taken away from you? How is it possible to be happy when you are deported from a country you have made your home, where you have a financial investment in property, and investment in friends and a dog you love?

When I wrote this last paragraph I started out describing the circumstances that others faced, but realized everything in it has happened to me and some of it is still happening to me. Yet to be fair I must also admit that my life has contained many beautiful blessings too. Mostly I have held high paying jobs and received much respect for the work I do. I have been head over heels in love many times, which of course means I have lost many loves too. I have lived in beautiful homes with beautiful views, in various countries around the world. I have had many children come into my life, but they have all left it too. I have no children of my own yet, except for my two adopted children who are stuck in India while we work through the process of getting them visas, so even now I am separated from them as well. I am intelligent, I have written a book, and I have achieved many accomplishments in my life. I am loved by many people, but that has not always been the case. I have been the target of much jealousy and lost many friendships.

I have known the joys of getting what I want and the sorrow of not getting what I want. Earlier in my life I was very lost and blown about by the winds of fate. So I feel that I am the perfect person to write a blog such as this and to give the advice I am giving here because I know both sides of the issue of enjoying life no matter what is happening.

I want to state emphatically that you can have happiness whenever you want it. It is possible. You can listen to your own mind that says it is impossible or you can listen to others who do not have happiness tell you it is impossible or you can listen to those who know, those who have experienced it, those who have mastered life tell you that it is possible. You can learn the secrets to happiness no matter how deep you are in your misery. Creating happiness anytime you want it, no matter what is going on in the outerworld, is a skill.

Continue reading part II…

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Continued from What is Right or Wrong: Your Feelings are Your Guide…

Repeat of +Magdalin’s+ earlier statement…”So if you go with your feelings only, you will never try to do right if it feels bad. You will choose to remain how you are until you are confronted with a situation where you must change regardless of how you feel.”

I never said that someone should go with their feelings only. I have always stated they should use their feelings to guide them as an indicator of being on their path or off of it. Our thoughts are the cause of our feelings. We need to look at our thoughts in order to change our feelings. And we need to tag thoughts we discover do not serve us with the command to ourselves to wake up and shift them ASAP so that in the future we become aware much sooner. We need to contemplate and understand why they don’t serve us and what new thoughts we will replace the old habits of thought with.

This practice gives us the power to make ourselves happy and feel good anytime we want, no matter what the outer circumstances contain. However, there is another point to all of this…when we are feeling good we get in touch with a very deep source of inspiration. We get in touch with God. It is like we move to a higher vantage point where we can see a broader overview of our situation and then suddenly many other paths we had not considered appear before us for our consideration. New options emerge out of the darkness. These options and paths are hidden from us by the thoughts that create negative emotion.

So what is “doing right if it feels bad?” To me it sounds like confessing to a crime that you know will get you into trouble in some way. If you are clear about your thinking you will realize it could only feel bad if you have fear involved, or if intuitively you know that a bad outcome would come of your decision. So then is it really “doing right?” If you confess to a crime that you did and that someone else is being blamed and punished for then it would feel better to take the path of confessing than it would letting someone else suffer for your deeds. But if no one is taking the blame, and you have realized your errors, it would definitely feel bad to turn yourself over to someone who will punish you. In that case I say don’t do that. But if confessing feels better to you than living with the guilt then I say confess and let the chips fall where they may. If there are amends to be made then again confessing would probably feel the best.

What if you have cheated on your lover and you realize your error and resolve to never do it again, do you confess? Perhaps not. It may feel better to purge yourself of your guilt than to live with it. But does it feel better at the cost of the mental anguish your lover will then experience as a result of your confession? Will it feel better to have them doubting you forever more? We have more than one question to ask ourselves while trying to sort through such issues. I certainly have not presented all of the possible questions in regards to these situations. We need to think about how our actions in “doing right” affects us and affects others and then feel how each of those courses of actions feel and then choose the course of action that feels the best. That is “doing right” in my opinion.

+Magdalin+ in a prior response, one that somehow got lost, you wrote something to the effect that, “…people can feel good while they do all kinds of wrong things (superficial, and serious).” I want to comment on that notion.

People in that situation feel good relative to how bad they have felt. In some way they have been abused, judged, neglected, or harmed. After a long period of time of dealing with such a situation and the constant negative feeling of being unworthy, unlovable or unacceptable, they find it exhilarating to feel superior to someone else and they feel that superiority when they succeed in doing some sort of harm, be it verbally or physically. But this is a relative pleasure. It is like when the temperature drops below 20F for week and then it suddenly rises back up to 35F…35F now feels warm, when in fact it is nearly freezing!

We have to be aware of the long term affects of our thoughts and not just the short term affects. If we harm another that harm will eventually come back to us and that does not feel good. In fact the pain caused by this boomerang affect of karma is usually far greater than any momentary pleasure we feel by causing another to suffer.

For a person who experiences pleasure from making others suffer or from watching others suffer I recommend the following exercise to get yourself out of that sort of thinking. Which thought feels better? The thought of getting verbal or physical revenge on another…or the thought of healing one’s own self-esteem and of feeling worthy, lovable and acceptable? Wouldn’t you rather be immune to the judgments and unkind words or actions of others? Wouldn’t you rather help unconscious people wake up instead of causing them to suffer more? We need to compare different ideas and how they feel and choose the thoughts that feel the best. And we need to continue to reach for new thoughts that feel even better still as we move through time and gain experience. With each shift to a better feeling place, new thoughts of a better feeling nature become available to us.

So when we teach people to use feelings as their guides, and to understand how our thoughts create our feelings, we must also teach them this sort of process of reasoning so that they can make sense of it all. Some of it comes so naturally to me now that I often forget I need to mention these things. It is only when people begin to question what I have written and object to it that it brings these ideas up. And actually if I just present them, without the questioning from another person, the reason for presenting these concepts can go right over the head of the student. If you give people information they did not ask for, they rarely take notice of its importance. But if the question is asked, then the opening to understanding is created.

“I would like to expand on the abuse comment in brief…As far as the patterns and cycle of abuse goes, I had to counsel people in those areas and I have had friends that have come from such dysfunctional childhoods. Also most of us do not come from perfect family homes… So, more or less, we all need some help in healing in that area. However, depending on the type of abuse, severity of abuse and the mental/emotional/spiritual status of the individual, people respond differently to certain therapies, treatments, practices, ways for healing from that kind of past. Some people have a certain inner strength or, insight, or even destiny, and support needed, that enables them to find ways to heal on their own. Others, can go down the wrong path and lose themselves even more, before they can even recognize the need for internal healing. Others, seem like they have it together, while using faulty self defense mechanisms to avoid the darkness of the pain in them, by all kinds of addictive behaviors, and so on. Thus, “Healing” is a key word in this type of matter. What will cause healing in each person can differ. There are those who can respond to such therapies as the one you mentioned easily, which is similar to what is called, RET (Rational, Emotive Therapy, which is very popular in psychology) and change their behaviors and feelings by using reasoning to control their thinking. But there are those who need “healing” beyond this type of work. How this healing can occur it depends on the individual and their “Will” to seek the healing they need…where and how it can be found. It may be that they need spiritual healing along with psychological, because it is the need to heal the spirit, the most inner part of the soul that has been affected by the darkness of abuse.”

+Magdalin+ I agree with you that there are people my guidance won’t help for precisely the reason you state, lack of will to heal. There are those who have dysfunctional behaviors they are dead set on exploring. This is normal, this is natural, this is our God given right, and this is how we come to fully understand certain things about life. This is the reason I wrote the blog, Evolution of a Soul. A young soul is NOT going to follow the guidance I am giving. Only mature and old souls will be interested in doing this work. Young souls need to get their hands dirty, need to make a mess of things in order to understand why things are the way they are. It is one thing to be told hurting someone else will eventually hurt you, and another to experience the blows of karma when they beat upon your back.

However, anyone who does correctly follow the guidance I am giving can and will heal! Completely 100%. And I am willing to clarify any misconceptions you may hold so that you can follow this guidance correctly.

I am not here to support those who still want to wallow in the negative side of life. I will love them. I will forgive them…actually I just won’t judge them. (Not for very long that is…I occasionally get caught up in judgment for brief periods of time.) I will stay away from them. I will let others deal with them. This is karma. This is the soul’s path. We have all gone down it at some point in our eternal lives.

+Magdalin+ you emphasized a point that I do make often in my writing…One can feel in certain ways and in response, unconsciously do certain things, and make no connection between the thought/feeling/action they are experiencing and responding to. Ultimately it takes much work to understand the thought behind the feelings and actions. You may have to go through the experiences many times. Then it requires honest self evaluation and examination as to whether one’s thoughts are according to “right” practices and/or principles that will guide them to a better place, state, activity etc.

Yes, this is work. This is a practice. This is not a onetime thing that a person does to become aware. It is an ongoing effort to understand this connection and reprogram negative habitual thinking patterns that we have learned and continues to be taught to us by nearly everyone around us.

To rephrase what you said +Magdalin+…Books, blogs, and lectures by those who have mastered these skills can be extremely helpful. They can cut out much effort of trial and error by leading us directly to the sort of thinking we should engage in for the sort of circumstances we will face in our lives. But again, each person must do the work. We each must purposely and consciously engage in the suggested train of thought and feel where it takes us in our emotional state and see how it plays out in our actions.

“… my comment above [originally presented at the very beginning of this blog] centered on the law of attraction, and positive thinking. I agreed with using positive thinking as it is a right practice. However, I disagree with the gospel that this all can bring about certain expectation to come to be. If something is destined it will be. If it is not, then it is wrong for people to believe that if they focus hard enough on something it will happen. It is a wrong principle in that way. What is right is to seek to know what is possible for your life and focus on making that a reality. Use positive thinking against anything that is negative as to make wise choices and decisions to find and pursue the right solution to the problem.”

And with this statement you show us all that you too understand what I said above about being attached to the outcome. There are many people who misunderstand these teachings and believe that the Law of Attraction will get them anything they consciously want and quickly. Those people are in for a big disappointment…that feeling of disappointment will be their clue that their thoughts and ideas are not in alignment with truth.

But I do NOT agree with the idea that something is destined. It may be that at a specific point in time that too much energy and momentum is already behind a certain path of creation that WE have set into motion. We may wake up in circumstances we don’t like, or see something heading towards us that we do not want, but then it is too late. We must deal with it and put in the effort to set a new course and create differently such that our future will contain what it is that we do want. But WE are the creators of our life experience. And as stated in the blog Evolution of a Soul, WE is much bigger than this ego being we normally think of as ourselves. Also the closer one comes into alignment with their inner being and with God, the quicker our thoughts do manifest in the physical world.

“This I must disagree, with you, although I am not ready to expand on it too much at this point. This is a very complicated subject, and my insights come from personal, spiritual, experiences and revelations. There are things that are destined to occur, regardless. They are based on who you are and what you have been born to live out to a certain extent. I believe what you are doing right here, was pre-destined for you to do. However, certain events, situations, circumstances, choices, future states of being can be affected by present choices and decisions. Most times however, people are missing information viable to what choices or, decisions they are to be making today to effect their future in specific ways tomorrow and thus, the future occurs as it would based on where they are today, and what is destined regardless.

“The focus is on the “NOW”, because your actions NOW, determine the consequences you have to live with tomorrow.”

+Magdalin+ I also agree with your concept of destiny…ONLY if you view it from the physical human ego being level. Yes it does appear to us, to most people, that things are destined and out of our control. What you said is accurate from this human perspective. But the truth of Life is that WE are more than this. We have a higher self, that in reality we are one with and not in any way separate from, this part of our being is participating in this creation we call our life experience, and from that perspective WE are creating it. WE have chosen it, WE desire it, these experiences that we as an ego being say we don’t want, those experience that appear negative, the greater WE wants them because IT knows these experiences will balance us and teach us.

Feeling the Thoughts of Others

There is another point I wish to make about feelings. Feelings can tell you about the intentions of other people. A good example of this is discussed in my blog Jealousy and Low Self-Esteem. You are capable of feeling the thoughts and intentions of others. You will notice this when you first encounter someone or first begin to think about someone or first begin to talk with them on the phone. How did your feelings change when this other person first came into your experience? How did it feel, good or bad? When the conversation changes, did your feelings change?

To be able to discern between feeling your own thoughts about that person or their words and feeling the intention behind their words takes clarity of your own mind. You will find this difficult or impossible if you have agendas especially harmful ones. If you have low self-esteem it might feel like you are being judged even when you are not.

Namasté
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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This is a conversation that occurred in the comment of my blog Evolution of a Soul. It is such an important topic and the debate/discussion brings up many good points that I thought it deserved its own blog so that many people would read it. There is a lot of very good information contained in the comments of my blogs. I have many friends with fantastic insight who add greatly to my blogs by their comments. There are the occasions like this one where I respond which usually means I am answering an important question or clarifying a misunderstanding. If you are on a path of self-healing it would serve you well to read such comments.

+Magdalin+ and I did not always agree, but even when we thought we disagreed, the more we wrote the more we realized we were on the same page just articulating our experiences in different ways. I found +Magdalin+ to be intelligent, experienced in the art of counseling others and to have a lot to offer. Perhaps you will even favor her perspective, if so you might contact her for friendship or her counseling services.

This conversation has been re-ordered slightly so as to match up the point-counterpoints made more clearly. Some of the conversation was removed only because it was more about being polite to each other and not about the topic at hand. I also added some extra clarification as well. If you wish to see the full conversation in the original context it occurred then do read it in my blog Evolution of a Soul.

+Magdalin+

“…My experiences has led me to know that reality and why things happen or, do not happen, is much more complicated than the laws of attraction or detraction. I believe in living according to right principles and practices that can align me with the Divine Source (God), and lead me into the insights necessary to know the proper solution and answer, as it fits each situation. I believe that when you abide in a state of goodness (that being your immediate destiny) it is easy to attract good things and then, because of that, believe that it was your mind’s capacity rather than your present life state to acquire good. Positive thinking is always good, and it should be a practice we apply continuously. But positive thinking alone does not create. It rather propels one to continue striving for the best, for the better. Feelings are not wrong as long as they don’t control you and you are in control of them. When your feelings become a driving force than you must evaluate how they may be affecting your life, your functioning, your purpose. Thoughts and feelings describe where you are mentally and emotionally and can only become a block if they stop you from doing right, from making right choices, and decisions, from reasoning properly, from becoming a better person, from influencing your actions, relationships in negative ways, from leading you down the wrong path, etc…”

+Magdalin+ you said, “I believe in living according to right principles and practices that can align me with the Divine Source (God), and lead me into the insights necessary to know the proper solution and answer, as it fits each situation.”

It makes me wonder if you and others do not realize that what I am teaching is precisely what you have said. How do you know if you are living according to right principals and practices? Did you read what those are in a book? Did someone tell you what those RIGHT principals and practices are? Because no one can do that, it would be an infinitely long book of rules and exceptions to the rules.

“Well, you are semi-correct. I agree, that would be an infinitely long book. But in order for yourself to become that Life Book, you must become a student of all kinds of books first. And then, take what you learn and apply it in writing your own book as you go along….”

What I am teaching is how each person can tell for themselves, without a book of rules, what RIGHT principals and practices are as it fits each situation. Your feelings are your guide. If you are feeling bad, you are NOT thinking/being/speaking/doing/living RIGHT principals and practices. This is simplicity itself. All the rest that I say is to help make sense of that basic philosophy.

“Well, your feelings should not be your guide unless you have mastered your thoughts and they are of Light only. I know many people who feel great while doing all the wrong things, and having all the wrong thoughts. Learning to do right can create pressure, distress, frustration, anger, sadness etc. As anything new that you need to learn to apply or do and while training yourself you feel distressed it is the same with learning to do right. So if you go with your feelings only, you will never try to do right if it feels bad. You will choose to remain how you are until you are confronted with a situation where you must change regardless of how you feel.”

So many people get guidance in so many different ways…some see colors, some hear angels speak to them, others follow the bible or some other book, others talk to God directly…but what is common amongst ALL people? FEELINGS! We ALL have feelings. They are the common guide that everyone can depend upon having available to them.

Both positive and negative thinking creates…It is not just positive thinking that creates. Thought is our creative power. But what is it that you create? Your feelings guide you and tell you the answer.

I never said feeling were wrong. I never said feelings are wrong. FEELINGS ARE NEVER WRONG! I do not, nor will I ever teach that feelings are wrong. FEELINGS ARE ALWAYS CORRECT! They guide us and tell us where we are…on track or off track, with God or moving away from God.

I repeated that so that it would be very clear for everyone. Not to make an example of +Magdalin+ whose comments I am responding to. I know some people think I am knocking feelings. Some people misread what I teach quite often.

You also said “Feelings are not wrong as long as they don’t control you and you are in control of them.” (which is one of the reason I wrote the above statements as well as those below)

How can a feeling control you? IT IS Your thoughts that control you. You might think, I don’t like this feeling so I will not do that. Or you might think, I don’t like how it feels to look foolish so I will hide this thing I did, I will blame it on someone else, I will do further wrongs to cover up something wrong I did. But that is thought controlling you, not feelings. The person is simply running away from the feelings and not understanding that the source of their feelings is their thoughts.

Women tend to confuse this much more than men. IN GENERAL Women worship feelings and men worship thinking. When women approach my writing some of them to want to defend feelings and say things like, “Feelings just are, you need to accept them.” This is simply because they do not understand what I am saying about feelings. And they do not understand the role their thoughts play in creating feelings. Men need to get more in touch with their feeling and understand that their feelings are guiding them in regards to the quality of their thoughts.

“Again we seem to semi-agree as your comment sounds similar to what I am saying. Your thoughts do control you. But one can feel in certain ways and in response, unconsciously do certain things, and has made no connection between the thought/feeling/action they are experiencing and responding to. Ultimately it takes, many times, work to understand the thought behind the feeling and action. Then it requires honest self evaluation and examination as to whether one’s thoughts are according to “right” practices and/or principles that will guide them to a better place, state, activity etc.

“Now again knowing what is right or, wrong is not always as easy because situations that occur are not black and white and one must become examinant, insightful, introspective about right and wrong. This is where seeking knowledge, understanding, and wisdom, even from books that pertain to such needed understanding is a good approach. After all, education is a valued experience that helps all who pursue it in any way. But I also believe as I have practiced the inner spiritual path in pursuit of God (the Divine Source) to learning right and doing right and to becoming “right”.”

My friend +Magdalin+ I appreciate your comment. I feel that it speaks volumes about your integrity and desire to be a kind and loving person and that you have a close connection to God and it says that you are a wise woman.

However I am nit-picking at it to clarify this relationship between thoughts and feelings so that there is NO confusion as to what I am teaching and what I am NOT teaching…because what I am really teaching is one of the most powerful things you can know about Life. It will transform anybody’s life for the better if they really take it in and work with it and practice.

Yes everyone should aim to become that Life Book, and they should become a student of all kinds of books and teachings…it will save them a lot of time and lifetimes of trial and error.

I will agree with you that people who have NOT mastered their thought will have a difficult time understanding their feelings. But still they must aim to master their thoughts. It is exercise and must begin somewhere. MISTAKES WILL BE MADE! But this is the design of Life. We must learn from our mistakes. People who are not willing to do so will not wade so deeply into blogs like mine or yours. They won’t see the point and they will stumble through life in a drunken stupor.

If you are paying attention to your thoughts when you feel pressure, distress, frustration, anger, or sadness, you will find it is due to focus, expectations and attachments on a certain outcome. It does not come from the act of using your feelings as your guide. It is your focus on having a certain outcome, and shifting from one idea about how to get that outcome to the next two or three ideas until your run out of ideas and realize that none of your ideas have worked or will ever work to get you that outcome…then you will be frustrated. That is the process that causes these negative feelings. I still maintain that feelings are our absolutely accurate guide.

If you deliberately refocus your mind on something completely different, something that causes your feelings to change, you will see that your thoughts do affect your feelings and you have the power to change your feelings. If you can do it once, you can do it again, and you can make it a regular practice. After all, no one really wants to feel bad, not for a long period of time. The whole point of chasing money, sex, drugs, prestige, etc is because we think we will be happy when we get it. If we learn we can make ourselves happy by simply changing our mind then we have discovered a very great power that resides within us.

I will expand on one point just a little…when we feel grief, or anger, or some other strong negative emotion it does feel good to cry or scream or to lash out physically. We don’t even want to try to refocus our mind. This is necessary to release a great deal of pent up energy that has accumulated in our physical body. The longer we entertained negative thinking, the greater the emotional energy that will accumulate. We should allow ourselves this outlet to release this energy but not prolong it.

To be continued…

Love and Blessings,

Michael Skowronski

Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Continued from The Evolution of a Soul…

We must realize that there is a force that is seemingly outside of ourselves that has a very strong creative influence in our lives. We must also realize that this force has our ultimate best interest in mind as it puts us into life circumstances that may seem to us in our limited perspective to be painful. We must also realize that this force does have our desires in mind and gives us the chance to fulfill those desires, even if our desires when viewed from a limited perspective seem harmful to us. This force that we call God, or the Masters of Karma, or the Holy Spirit, or our Oversoul are all attempting to create balance within creation, to satisfy all of our desires, to evolve us towards a very delicious and satisfying state of wholeness while maintaining our individuality. If we can keep this in mind while we are going through the difficult moments of our lives, and trust that this is how Life works, then we can let go of our attachments in any single moment of time. If we let go of our attachments then we also let go of suffering and embrace peace.

Desire is not the reason we suffer as some philosophies state…attachment to the outcome is the cause of our suffering. Desire is a creative mental state that draws lifeforce energy through us. Attachment causes us to suffer.

So in practical terms I feel I have covered the basics about life and how to avoid suffering using this new perspective when Life does not seem to be giving you what you want. Now I would like to cover how to use our minds to create within the boundaries I have just described.

Our Creative Mind

Although we may seem tiny and insignificant in terms of the great powers of Life that surround us, our minds really do have a very potent creative ability. This creativity gets much stronger as we expand ourselves into alignment with absolute Truth. Think of it this way…Imagine a small circle somewhere inside of a larger circle. The larger circle represents the full potential of who we are and absolute Truth and the smaller circle represents the developed personality containing all of its experience, habits of thought, and understanding of Life. That small circle is not necessarily dead center within the larger circle, the position within the larger circle is unique for each of us. Our goal is to expand that small circle until it is as large as the larger full circle. We do this by observing our thoughts and the consequences of our thoughts. Our feelings are one of the consequences of our thoughts.

When we start out as a new soul, that small circle is quite small. As we make mistakes and suffer the consequences it remains small. But once we learn from our mistakes, and change our habits of thought, our awareness expands and so does that small circle. Now at least in one small way, we understand a certain aspect of life. And this process continues until that small circle expands to the size of the full larger circle.

Our thoughts are creative. The first things they create are feelings. Our feelings are the primary basis of our experience of life. If we feel good, we experience a good life. If we feel bad, we experience a bad life. All masters tell us that when we are in alignment with God we feel good…the greater the connection, the closer to blissful our feelings get. When we are separating ourselves from God we feel bad, the flow of life-force energy into us is choked off, and it somehow feels like death, we feel like we want to die.

Since God is Life itself, since God is all knowing, all seeing and the greatest and only power that exists, it is foolish to separate ourselves from God. Yet as young souls we do not know this and we do it on a regular basis and come to the conclusion that it is some outside circumstance that is making us feel bad. This is very confusing for us and it takes a lot of time to work this out, and we create a lot of harmful elementals in the process. But once we do work it out we come to realize that feeling good means we are connected with God and all of that power, wisdom and guidance.

So the first thing to know about being creative is that it should feel good. When it doesn’t you are heading down the wrong path, an impossible path, a path that will not yield what it is that you truly desire. When you do not feel good something is wrong and you should stop in that moment and evaluate your thoughts or evaluate what you just came into contact with. You are getting the message that this is not going to be good for you or for anybody else, which is also you.

Sometimes we think that we need to feel bad when something bad happens to us or to someone else and we prolong the bad feelings. Can you see how that is not helpful? I am not telling you that you cannot feel your feelings and cannot have a good cry or that you should not let pent up emotions like anger out. This is not about putting on a happy face when you are really miserable…that will create physical illness in your body. This is about transforming the thoughts that created the emotions in the first place. When you first begin this process, it may take some time before you realize how you feel and those emotions might just build up to the place where releasing the emotions are exactly what you need to do. Have a good cry. Beat a pillow to a pulp. Go for a brisk walk and kick a few stones into a safe direction. Do your best not to off load these emotions onto other people or animals. Release the physical energy that builds up with emotion and while you are doing it restore your mind to sanity. Reach for thoughts that make you feel just a little bit better, and then again just a little bit better still, and keep doing it until you have released all the emotion, stabilized your mind and are feeling good again.

As for creative thought, “Not”, “No” and “Don’t Want” are meaningless! What we focus on expands. If you think, “I don’t want such and such,” then such and such is what you are creating.

One single thought will not create much in this world. It takes much more thought and much more focus on something to attract it into your life. Some people get the notion if I think, “I want such and such,” then such and such should appear. Of course that is not how it works. What about the billions of thoughts you hold in your mind the rest of the day? They are creative too and they will cancel out the single stray thoughts you hold because you really do not believe it is really possible.

Thoughts that create strong feelings are much more creative than thoughts that create weak or no feelings.

Desire is creative and for the most part happens automatically. When you feel something is missing, you automatically desire the missing object. When your car breaks down, you automatically desire the resources to fix it or a car that works properly.

Focusing on “I want, I want, I want” is really focusing on “I don’t have, I don’t have, I don’t have.” It is focusing on lack. It does not feel good. Focus instead on what it will be like when you do have it. Dream of how it will help you to have it.

Focusing on how your desire will come is rarely helpful. If you pay attention you will notice it does not feel good. It feels like a burden. It feels like you have extra work to do, stressful. It feels like you don’t know how to make it happen, frustration. Let God sort out how it comes, but do follow joyful inspiration when it comes, this often leads you to the fulfillment of desires.

Go with the flow. Accept what is coming and where you are. Often we need certain experiences to prepare us for what it is we want. For example, if you want a really good lover and partner, yet you tend to blow up in anger and blame others for your anger, you may need many experiences that help you work through your anger. Otherwise if the right person comes into your life you will alienate them and push them away. But if you have a few lovers come and go through your life, lovers that also have issues around anger to work on, you can both work through them together and part company when it is time to get ready for the partner who is that perfect match you are seeking.

Like attracts like. We attract things to us based on our dominant vibrations. These vibrations are formed by our thoughts and our feelings tell us the nature of these energies. Life is filled with random events, people and things that pass us by on a continuous basis. Yet we only tune into a small fragment of what is passing us by. This tuning in occurs based on our vibration that was created by our thoughts. If we have a desire, but are lost in the “whoa is me” sort of thinking, our desire can float on by and not be noticed due to the mismatch in our vibration. But if you are happy and carefree and feeling good you will notice your desire as it floats on by and reel it in.

Although this may have been a long blog, it really is a short description of a very large reality. In reality Life is much bigger and much more amazing then all of this I have explained. Others will paint a different picture, one that may even seem to conflict some of the things I am telling you. That is okay. Take it in, take it all in, and observe Life. Allow a multidimensional picture to form in your mind about how it all fits together. You may find it takes years for some of the pieces to fit. I used to think there was no such thing as hell. I’d get angry at my Christian upbringing for pushing that concept onto me. But these days I see how it fits…it is just that hell is not an eternal experience like we were taught. Hell is an isolated experience and one we build for ourselves through our thought process. Hell is something our Oversoul and the Masters of Karma helps us move out of by giving us experiences that balance and correct our thinking.

So if you don’t understand how a certain concept fits, let that be okay. Work with what you do understand and observe. You have all of the resources you need to understand Life and to master your own God given creative powers. Other people can guide you, but you have to do the work and make your own connection with God.

For those whose philosophy of life does not include reincarnation, this maybe a difficult explanation to swallow. Reincarnation may be a difficult concept to prove, none the less it does explain so much about the inequities of life. I know of no other philosophy of life that makes any sense or is fair in anyway without reincarnation in it. People that present philosophies without reincarnation in it are fond of saying that the unexplainable is the mystery of God. But I say that reincarnation is a fact based on my own personal experience. ALL prominent masters that I am aware of who are well respected and have been able to perform amazing miracles or had provable psychic abilities, state that reincarnation is a fact. These include masters from all over the world in many different religions and cultures.

What I have presented in this blog is a combination of my own experiences along with the teachings of many masters I have encountered in my years of study as well as intuitive information that comes from my own conversations with God. I know that I still have further to go in fully understanding all of this myself and I am open to receiving comments with alternative views.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
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The greatest difficulty with understanding how our minds create stem from the narrow focus we hold on our single physical life. We are much more than this ego person in this body in this single physical lifetime. We are eternal beings whose lives have always been and always will be. Eternity is a very long time. No matter what occurs in a single lifetime it cannot affect who we really and truly are. Losing an arm or one’s eyesight is nothing for a soul that is immortal and perfect. For such a being how could there ever be fear or worry or doubt?

So we setup a game, one in which we forget who we are for what seems to be a very long time. Although time does not really exist we have created the illusion that time is real by a sequencing of events and a space in which these events leave their mark and maintain a continuity. The net result is a seemingly real existence where it seems that we can indeed be harmed…the mark is left and the continuity is maintained. The physical dimension is a place where we can experience and feel fear, something that cannot happen in our pure pristine state as God. Because a small piece of God isolates Itself in a human form and perspective, it can experience the rest of God as separate, vast, and powerful. Because God isolates many parts of Itself into many human forms, God gets many different perspectives to experience Itself form. This also gives God the chance to have many other beings to interact with relieving what must be the ultimate in loneliness.

Once we enter this dimension we take on a boundary that seemingly separates us, or delineates us, from the rest of God. This boundary is maintained by our own unique and individual experiences in the worlds of time and space. This boundary is our personality, which we continuously develop and fine tune over many lifetimes. Desires are born from the seeming lack that exists within any given moment and place; these desires draw life-force energy through us and anchor us in the movement through time and space.

In this playground of creativity we have many physical bodies which we call lifetimes or incarnations. When we start out we are a new soul, have forgotten everything about who we are and have a clean personality barren of any sort of habit or skill. When we complete our cycles of incarnation into physical form, we are a mature old soul, we remember fully who we are, we have a well developed personality which has the habits and skills of a master. There are many stages we pass through during our evolution; infancy, childhood, adolescence, young adult, maturity, and old age. This is why you can find old men who behave like a naughty child and a young child that behaves like a mature adult.

From the perspective of our Oversoul we chose the circumstantial setup of our lifetime. These are the broad brush strokes that paint the background of our life. They include people, places and the type of body that we inhabit.

Once in the body every thought we think, every action we take causes us to develop habits of thought and action. These habits of thought are the only thing that we carry forward with us from lifetime to lifetime. The habits of the body die with the body, but are easier to develop in succeeding lifetimes due to the habit of thought that came with the habit of body. These habits of thought are the personality traits that form the boundary that define who we are as a separate being from the rest of God.

There are consequences to our thoughts and actions which includes our feelings too. As a young and immature soul these consequences and feelings are difficult to relate to our thoughts and more easy to relate to our actions and outer circumstances. As a mature soul we come to realize that our thoughts are at the core of all of our actions and feelings. We also come to realize that we can even manipulate outer circumstances, including the actions of others by the way we think.

Our thoughts form permanent elementals in the psychic world which gain strength and energy with repetition of those thoughts and loose strength and energy by the lack of such thoughts. Elementals are Thought Forms. These elementals are the basis of what we call our energy and our habits of thought. These elementals repel certain people and events and attract others. With enough focus these elementals can even take on physical form. These elementals return to us frequently for a refresh of energy, and we feed them each time we think in the way that we created them. How much we feed them depends upon the length of time we give them our mental focus and how steady that focus is. Thus they seem to have a life of their own and they seem to control us when they return to us for a feeding. We can deplete elementals of their strength and energy by not thinking about them and giving our thoughts and energy to other more desirable elementals.

When we die we shed our physical bodies and live in our psychic and mental bodies. These elementals still exist there. They still influence us, cause us to think in predictable and habitual ways, and create the reality that we perceive in the psychic realm. As an immature soul, we have no understanding of these elementals; we believe them to be of a reality beyond our control. Thus we have either a hellish experience or a heavenly one based on the nature of these elementals, and the thoughts they compel us to think. This is one of the reasons so many young souls insist that there is a heaven or hell while in the physical world because this is what they have experienced. As a mature soul we gain control over these elementals and can deactivate them and create more desirable elementals. As a mature soul we can easily escape any hellish elementals and create heavenly ones even while we exist only in our psychic and mental bodies. This is why mature souls insist that life is what you make it while in the physical world because this is what they have experienced. If you have not gained control over your mind in the physical plane, you will not have control of it in the psychic or mental planes after you die.

At the highest level of our individual being is that which I call our Oversoul. Along with the Masters of Karma, or the Holy Spirit, or God, depending on how you choose to label that level of creation, our Oversoul helps our soul in its evolution. Our Oversoul with the Masters of Karma selects the circumstances of our next incarnation including physical bodies that are prone to illness or health, physical living locations which may contain pollutants that cause illness or a clean and natural environment, and kind loving people or abusive predators as relatives, friends, teachers, doctors, lawyers and other professional people we might encounter in our lifetime. Our Oversouls choose such circumstances in order to have experiences that are impossible to have as an unlimited and immortal being. Our Oversoul also chooses such experiences so that we can learn and correct our mistakes in thought and create elementals that support us in gaining that which we desire. The unfulfilled desires we form in our physical lifetimes are also taken into account in the setup of incarnational circumstances. Ultimately all of our desires will be fulfilled in some way over the course of our many incarnations.

For example if in a lifetime we desired wealth and created it at the expense of others our Oversoul would create circumstances for the soul to understand how it feels to be subjugated by another and used to create wealth for someone other than self. Then in another lifetime the Oversoul may create a lifetime where wealth is inherited, while peace and happiness may be kept at arm’s length for the soul to learn that wealth is not the source of happiness. If in a lifetime a soul created extreme pollution as an industrial leader, the Oversoul would create life circumstances where the soul must live in a polluted environment which would cause physical discomforts and diseases. If in a lifetime where sexual appetites were created by a man who forced sex upon his own or other children, or others who were physically weaker than he was, then a lifetime where he is unwillingly forced to meet the sexual appetites of others is created. You will find that in some past eras this was considered natural and normal in certain cultures and in this era it is considered perverted. As many individuals have experienced both sides of this issue humanity as a whole has changed its view on the situation and it is rare to find a culture that supports it. We must realize that we have done many things in our past lifetimes that we would now consider a crime; it is naïve to think otherwise.

From the perspective of the Oversoul evolution and maturity are the goal. The Oversoul wants to bring this separate, individual soul, to full realization of its oneness with God and into full power and access to the creative resources and attributes of God, while it still maintains its own unique beingness as an individual soul. From the perspective of the soul that incarnates in physical, psychic and mental bodies, desires are born, elementals are created, and the personality is formed, all of which lead to consequences and the creation of balancing and fulfilling circumstances by the Oversoul and the Masters of Karma.

To be continued..

Love and Blessings,

Michael Skowronski

Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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