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Relationship Advice - Spiritual Healing

Michael Skowronski’s Relationship Advice, Spiritual Healing, Wisdom & Love Stories
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Karma, Law of Attraction & The Golden Rule

What does Karma, The Law of Attraction, The Golden Rule, and “What Goes Around Comes Around” have to do with each other?

You may have also heard the phrases “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” and “the secret law of attraction” as well as “the universal law of attraction.”

All of these phrases and terms are intimately related.

(More after this video…)
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Relationships Don’t Have to End Like it does in this Video!
Not if you really understand “What Goes Around Comes Around” and how you create your reality!

Mistakenly people think of Karma as a law that is enforced somewhat like a sentence from a governmental judicial system. Karma is often seen as a punishment for something bad they had done in a past life.

Too many people think of the Law of Attraction as the way to get whatever they want; primarily riches, fame, fortune and as many hot lovers as they want. Movies like The Secret as well as marketing campaigns for books or Law of Attraction mentoring programs often leave the impression that this is a law that will bring us everything we ever wanted. Yet the Law of Attraction is ALWAYS active in your life…it even delivers to you what you do not want because you do not understanding how to use your creative energies.

The Golden Rule which states “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” is just plain ignored or is seen as something professed by cultish Christian religions. Even most Christians don’t live by or understand the Golden Rule. Too many (not all) Christians fall back on the fact that they are forgiven and give this advice from Jesus little or no importance.

The phrase “What Goes Around Comes Around” is often said to someone who has done us wrong. People who say such things seem to believe the phrase is true, or at least they hope it is true. They tend to see themselves as the nice guys who have been stepped upon by the bad guys.

I know there are a lot of people who are truly seeking spiritual growth. I also understand how easy it is to misunderstand all of these topics. The world is full of false teachings from false teachers who only believe due to what they have been taught or brainwashed into believing. These false teachers do not know from personal experience. I am glad people are seeking. I am sad that people speak out as if they know when in fact they only believe…which is NOT the same as knowing, understanding or wisdom.

Here is what Karma, The Law of Attraction, The Golden Rule, and “What Goes Around Comes Around” have in common…

They all describe Who We really are and how We create Our reality. (Wonder why I capitalize as I did? Think about it…)

Who We really are…We are all a part of God individualized such as to give God the experience of God from the unique individualized experience that you have as you. We all have the immortal life force energy of God moving through us. We all have the creative abilities of God within us and We all are creating the reality in which We live.

We create our reality with our minds; how we think, what we think, how often we think in certain ways, how the different things we think balance and offset the other things we think…all of it comes into play in the creation of our reality. Our actions come from our thoughts!

Whatever we think about often becomes a habit. Habits of thought become unconscious and automatic thoughts yet they still hold power. In fact they hold more power than you might imagine because you are not aware of how often you think in habitual ways…it is unconscious after all. REactions come from our unconscious habits of thought.

We are ALL ONE. Thus what you think about another you think about yourself. What you do to another you do to yourself…This is the GOLDEN RULE!

What you think about subconsciously or consciously either allows or blocks other thoughts and possibilities…this is LAW OF ATTRACTION!

The habits of thoughts you create stay with you and carry over to the afterlife. This creates the heaven or hell you dwell in until your next life where your habits of thought remain…this is KARMA! Those habits of thought continue to create in your next life too via Law of Attraction.

You do not magically change just because you die. Right here on the physical plane is where you come to fully understand Who You are and change your Karma by changing your habits of thoughts. I call this Reprogramming Yourself. This is how you release yourself from the necessity to come back to live in physical reality and how you find your way back to a conscious experience of being One with God.

All of these spiritual concepts are related. These are the most important spiritual concepts to grasp if you wish to heal your life and heal your relationship and become enlightened and become a self realized master and to have the same incredible power at your conscious disposal as Jesus and other amazing masters had.

All of these spiritual concepts have a great influence on the quality of your relationships with others and the conscious power you hold in the physical world.

All of these spiritual concepts have a great influence on how much love you experience in your day to day existence and how happy and fulfilled you are.

Click here to read about “How do I Know what I Teach is True?

I go into much greater depth on these topics in my audio program The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing and in the blogs you will have access to when you join my Relationship Healing Group. If you join you can even ask me questions directly about these topics during live tele-classes and via email.

Other people have gotten a great deal of benefit from the way I have explained these realities of life. If you wish to read their comment about my writings please visit the following blogs where you will find a taste of the topic and the comments these people have left.

Yes, my Relationship Healing Group is focused on helping you have incredibly loving and fulfilling relationships. It teaches you that by helping you to understand the practical nature of true spiritual growth.

Just as Karma, the Law of Attraction, the Golden Rule, and “What Goes Around Comes Around” are intimately related so is Relationship Healing, Spiritual Growth, and Personal Growth. If you wish to make great progress in these areas of your life, then come and join our Relationship Healing Group…you will be glad you did. Guaranteed or your money back!

Kind and Loving Regards,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Travel Photos

G’day Mate!

Here are some fun photos of places I have traveled to and lived in. The majority of the photos are of Australia where I lived for 5 years. The photos of water play are in the Kingdom of Tonga. Fiji is also featured in some of the photos.

I have also lived in India. Those photos can be seen in my blog series,
A Marriage Made in Heaven
which is a love story and a true story with much adventure, suspense and intrigue!

Cheers,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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She Lied to Her Husband about Money

A woman lied to her husband about making their car payments. Of course it came out later and now there is great turmoil in their lives. What relationship advice would you give this couple?

The following phrase comes to mind when giving relationship advice, “Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.”

The reason is because this woman, if she is paying attention, has certainly learned something. The man too. Specific relationship advice may not be needed. But overall personal growth and understanding are certainly needed for these two people…otherwise they would not be making such big mistakes. Yet perhaps right now they do need specific relationship advice for handling this specific relationship problem. Like a hungry man, its hard to learn how to fish when you are hungry…so give the fish but then teach the skill of fishing.

Specific Relationship Advice - Eat This Fish

The wife needs to sincerely apologize and make it right by taking care of the financial problem she created. The husband needs to love her anyways and try to discover how and if he helped create this situation. Did he somehow leave her desperate for money? Blame won’t help now. Seeking to understand and improve your responses to life will.

Live and learn. When people try to make it about right and wrong, when condemning judgment enters the picture much pain and suffering is sure to follow.

Own what you have done. Make sure you learn from it. Evaluate how it made him feel, how it made you feel, what it did to your own self esteem, how you lost trust in his eyes, how it will feel the next time he questions you and perhaps does not trust you are telling the truth.

But do not condemn yourself or him. Instead come to understand yourself better and the cause and effect nature of life. Reprogram yourself so the habits of thought and action that caused this situation no longer occur.

Relationships are very difficult when we have not come to understand ourselves or life. This is why I lead a Relationship Healing Group and have produced a 4 hour audio program called The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing.

Having a coach to help you understand life, yourself and your relationships better is one of the best investments you can make in yourself. DO IT, and you will be fed for all of your life times! (Yes plural, life times!)

Cheers,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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I Want Love - Self Esteem

In desperation she exclaimed, “I just want love! All I want is love! I want to love somebody! Is that too much to ask? Is there something wrong with that?”

I answered her frustrated questions by explaining, “There is nothing wrong with wanting love, however if you want love, you must feel love which comes from being love…” Then I asked, “How is your self esteem? Do you have low self esteem?”

She was still very emotional and almost in tears when she replied, “What is self esteem?!? When someone treats me right I have high self esteem. When I have been alone for too long I have no self esteem, it is like nobody loves me. But when my boyfriend was fighting with me and when he left me I did have low self esteem…I…I felt like a piece of shit. I just want somebody to love! What does self esteem have to do with this? My self esteem depends on how they treat me.” Her tears came flooding out with those last words.

Sadly this is the state of mind far too many people are in. They simply want to know love, to feel loved, to love forever. But they don’t know how. They don’t know why love is missing from their lives. They don’t know why they attract people who don’t love them back, or who use them and then leave them.

I used to feel that way a lot in my twenties and thirties. Even in my early forties I felt that way at times. But something happened to me in my mid forties that changed me forever. I finally built high self esteem and I became enlightened.

I have a challenge for those of you who are thinking, “What kind of ego trip is this guy on? Enlightened? Who does he think he is?” The challenge is this…for you to think that way means that you don’t believe enlightenment is really possible for us mere mortals, or that you believe it is very rare. You believe enlightenment and high self esteem must be something very difficult to come by. You have not known anyone who was enlightened or had high self esteem.

Is that correct? Do you think and believe something along those lines?

Well I am here to tell you that enlightenment and healthy self esteem are not as rare as you might think and it is not as impossible to come by as you might imagine.

They are skills that must be developed. Like an athlete who wishes to compete against other athletes it requires training and a coach. Certainly you have to do the work, but without someone who knows how to get you there, without the guidance of someone who knows the territory it is easy to get lost and confused and to come to the conclusion that enlightenment is impossible and low self esteem will be your lot in life forever.

Okay, so I digressed…My point is that once I became enlightened, once I had high self esteem, my relationship problems, loneliness and my relationship issues became a thing of the past.

Now I always have love. Now I am never lonely, not even when I am alone. Now I love being alone. And I only spend time with people who treat me good. I find it easy to walk away from situations where I am disrespected without engaging in an ego battle. I am happy whenever I want to be happy, no matter what is happening in the outside world.

I am not bragging here. I am trying to help you realize what is possible! I know many other people who have transformed their lives in just such a way as I have done. I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT TOO! YOU CAN TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE! You can be love, you can give love, and you can receive love…and you can be in love…but not until YOU change. It won’t happen because some knight in shining armor comes along and whisks you away from your troubles. Unless you change love and happiness will be like water held in the palm of your hands, it will slip through your fingers.

Hopefully you are now asking, “How can I build self esteem? What is the best way to improve self esteem? How do I become enlightened?” It doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time and practice. But once you gain these qualities, they are yours forever more.

That is why I wrote my book, Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story. It tells my story of going through this process. And my story of loving and losing a loved one…yet still having love. This book will answer those questions.

That is why I wrote The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing and made it into an audio program so you could listen to it as well as read it to learn from it. That is why I created the Relationship Healing Group so that you could get the personal coaching you need at an affordable price.

You must make an investment in your own life and in your future. At a bare minimum you must invest your time. You must seek out this better life. There are plenty of inexpensive and free resources available. However, having a relationship coach giving you personalized relationship advice, having a life coach teaching you how life really works, having someone to counsel you and guide you will certainly help your personal growth occur much much faster.

What frustrates me is how few people really want to be healthy and happy. Their lack of action speaks loud and clear. They would rather just complain about how unfair life is than to put any effort into changing themselves.

Imagine how much more amazing this world would be if each person owned their own personal power and stopped blaming their miserable lives on others. Happy people everywhere…not the just the fake smiles and temporary gratification that comes from shopping or coffee at the local coffee bar…but true inner happiness.

Truly happy people are a rare gift. I love to bask in their energy when I discover such people. What if everyone was like this? A guy can dream can’t he?

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski

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How to Break Up – Advice for Ending a Relationship

Unfortunately ending relationship problems often means ending a relationship. Whether you want to know how to break up with your boyfriend, girlfriend, or just a friend…“How to break up a relationship?” is a difficult question to answer.

What makes “How to breakup advice” so difficult? Well that is just one of the questions I will answer in this “How to Breaking Up Advice” blog as well as giving you relationship advice on…

  • When to End a Relationship
  • How to End a Relationship
  • How to Break Up Nicely

Click Here for Advice on
How to Cope with a Relationship Breakup

What I will be actually teaching you is how you will know what is best for you in your own unique circumstances. I wish to empower you to be able to make breakup and other decisions with confidence and create the best outcome possible.

Why is How to Breakup Advice so Difficult?

I believe this funny video provides a true glimpse into the nature of unaware people. We are surrounded by such people who are constantly advising us from their limited perspective on life even though they have a lot of relationship problems of their own.

I wish to help you move towards a more powerful and aware version of yourself and away from the influence of such people. Not because they are unworthy but because their approach to life and relationships will not serve you in being happy and fulfilled.

One of the reasons giving relationship advice is so difficult is because the advice that actually brings you the best future life is often NOT what the majority of people are advising. Like all of the characters in that video most people are unaware. They have a very narrow focus in life and are not paying attention to how life really works.People operate from bad habits they learned growing up. People react to their emotions rather than from a peaceful place of knowing what is really going on and from the logic of what will truly bring the best outcome into their life experience.

Unfortunately this majority mindset has too much influence on a person who is suffering over the decision of ending a relationship and how to break up.

While I can and will give you specific relationship advice like “how to breakup” and “how to know when to break up” wouldn’t it be even better if I helped you move into a place of true wisdom and personal power?

In my four hour audio program The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing and in my Relationship Healing Group I help you achieve Spiritual Healing and become a powerful person capable of making decisions that serve you.

Join the Relationship Healing Group and you will discover the root of all of life’s problems and how to overcome them all.

You will have to make millions of decisions in your life. Learning how to make tough decisions for yourself is more important than taking the advice for one specific relationship problem from someone else who does not walk in your shoes.

When to End a Relationship

Ending a relationship should occur when you feel like it is time, when you are ready for it to end…not when other people think you should end it. When YOU are ready!

It does not matter if you took marriage vows of “till death do us part.” It does not matter if your partner will suffer great emotional stress or even threatens to commit suicide. And it does not matter if other people are screaming at you to leave when you feel you should stay.

YOU must make YOUR OWN decisions about what is best for YOU in YOUR LIFE. Other people must make decisions on what is best for them in their own lives. We are all responsible for ourselves number one first and foremost.

You will make the best decisions when you are in a peaceful and loving state of mind, not when you are under emotional stress. Strong emotions cause us to think and react in irrational ways.

This process will help you make ending relationship decisions as well as other important decisions…

  1. Bring yourself to a calm and peaceful state of mind. (Do what it takes. This is a very important step.)
  2. Close your eyes and imagine one of your perceived options playing itself out.
  3. Imagine it in great detail and what each decision leads to.
  4. FEEL how it feels to live that experience as you are imagining it.
  5. Repeat those steps above with each possible option.
  6. Choose the option that feels the best, make the decision, and move forward to the next step.
  7. Life changes, more options appear, you have the opportunities to decide again…repeat the entire process every day of your life. (Notice that this requires that you remain awake and continue to feel and make decisions that make you feel good.)

I teach more about this process and why it works so well in The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing audio program. If you JOIN MY Relationship Healing Group you can ask me personally for more help with this process or anything else I teach along the lines of Relationship Advice and Spiritual Healing.

My specific breakup advice for ending a bad relationship is to get out once you see a negative pattern. Abuse, judgments, manipulations, lies, cheating, anger, hatred are habits that people develop. The very nature of habits is that they are repeated.

When you first start dating you will see your lover behave in a negative way only towards other people, then when they get comfortable with you and have won your trust and devotion they will behave badly with you too.

Unless a person is taking an active role in changing, they will not change. It is that simple…so who are their teachers?

Who is your teacher? If you wish to attract a different sort of person you too need to change; otherwise you can break up and leave this person yet the next person is likely to behave very much the same until you do change. So who is your teacher? Who will guide you in making your changes?

How to End a Relationship – How to Break Up Nicely

The key is to break up as nicely as possible. No matter what your soon to be ex has done, no matter how badly they have behaved, do not let the other person turn you into a monster! You still have to answer to Karma, to God, to your own conscious (and even to the laws of your country) for your thoughts, words and deeds.

By behaving badly yourself you will develop your own bad habits of behaving badly. Do NO Harm! Let Life deal with your soon to be ex-partner and their bad habits…trust me, eventually Life will do exactly that. Even if you never see them get what is coming to them.

However, do not misconstrue this advice to mean you should not protect yourself. You definitely need to protect yourself. But question what is necessary and what is not. Go back to the decision making advice I gave earlier in this blog. Remain calm and peaceful and carefully work out your best options and then follow through to the best of your ability.

Why can’t you “Text Message Breakup” as in the video at the top of this blog? Who says you can’t do it that way? It might just be the right way for you to do it. However in most cases, this is NOT the most respectful way to break up with someone you love or have loved.

Breaking up with someone is difficult. It is emotionally stressful. There is guilt about your own actions. There is worry and fear about what your partner’s reaction might be and all sorts of other negative feelings.

Do NOT run away from your feelings. Feel them! Acknowledge them. Ask yourself which of your own thoughts and actions each of your feelings come from. Make your mind up to change your own habits, to reprogram yourself, such that you do not repeat any behaviors that give you negative feelings.

Negative feelings in regards to your own behaviors tells you that you are not doing your best, you are not living up to your potential, and you are not heading towards your own true goals in life. So let your feelings help you to see where it is that you need to change, and then make the necessary changes in yourself.

How to Break Up Depends Upon Your Circumstances

If your partner might get violent or abusive, do it in public or with a calm and protective friend. If you feel like you might get stalked or harassed seek out legal advice and seek out advice on avoiding a stalker. Protect yourself with information.

A WARNING about involving the police…These days the police are willing to lock up anybody, anytime, for any reason. It is a sad state of affairs in America. A woman can call the police and get a man locked up with a few lies.

Legal fees to pay for an attorney are steep. If you need to involve the police have some compassion for the person you are getting locked up. Be honest. Do not take advantage of the situation to get revenge.

I have seen too much of this lately with women who call the police as a way to get revenge on a man who displeases them in some way. Play nice and play fair.

Jail time and $10,000 in legal fees is not a fair price to pay when someone simply changes their mind or cheats on you or plays some other silly drama. Reserve the calls to the police for when there is a real possibility of danger.

If you feel your partner might do harm to themselves then ask one of their own trusted friends to come and be with you both when you break up so that when you leave your partner they have some immediate support.

If you have a relatively sane partner then just do it quickly and cleanly. You don’t have to go into great detail. By the time it comes to breaking up either you should have already talked your issues out and seen that you were not getting satisfaction, or you just came to the place where you were through with the relationship.

In depth explanations at breakup time should not be necessary.

Trying to remain friends does work for some people. But if there are strong attachments on one side or another, then someone is going to be hoping to reunite every time you meet up as friends. That will be awkward and prolong the pain.

Your intentions are the key in this delicate situation. Wish the best for the partner you are breaking up with. Wish them love and peace and abundance and emotional sanity.

For the next 21 days pray for them daily to have these things. Then go about creating the life you wish to live for yourself.

Relationship breakups can open you up to a whole new world of possibilities. Get excited about what lies ahead and let go of the attachments and pain of the past.

Best Wishes on a Happy New Life,
Michael Skowronski

P.S. Getting involved in my Relationship Healing Group and listening to The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing can help you at any stage of your life. Whether you are single, just starting a new relationship, struggling to keep it together, or breaking up, my Relationship Healing products and services will help you evolve and become enlightened about life.

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My Spiritual Path & Relationship Counseling - A Radio Interview

 Katy Manna and I had a great conversation on her Feb 2nd 2009 Radio Show. Here are some of the topic we discussed…

Radio Interviews with Michael Skowronski

  • Spiritual Growth and my Spiritual Path
  • Working through Relationship Issues
  • Channeled Spiritual Masters and Channeling
  • Dealing with Cancer - Ovarian Cancer
  • Deepening Understanding of Yourself
  • Healing Miracles and Coincidences
  • Conscious Awareness
  • Reincarnation Stories
  • Relationship Counseling
  • Neediness in Relationships
  • My Arranged Indian Marriage Story

(Click Twice on Play Button Below.)

Radio Interviews with Michael Skowronski

I have done a lot of radio shows in this last year and have enjoyed them all. My interview with Katy was certainly a good one. I have posted most of my radio interviews on my social networking site and you will get access to them all if you join my Relationship Healing Group.I hope you enjoy this one.

Kind Regards,
Michael Skowronski

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What Men Want – Understanding Men & Understanding Yourself

What do Men Want? If you knew would it solve your relationship problems? Would you feel better?

I promise I will give you relationship advice about what men really want later in this blog…but first I have to ask you…what is really going on with you when you find yourself wondering “What Men Want?”

As a woman, is understanding men the most important thing or could understanding yourself be much more important? If you understand men will that change the way men behave? NO!

Can you change a man? NO!

Can you inspire a man to change? YES, sometimes, some men.

But more important, and this is what too many people overlook (including SOME relationship counselors, marriage counselors, online relationship advice sites, etc…), YOU CAN CHANGE HOW YOU RESPOND (react) to relationship problems, relationship issues, relationship breakups, etc…such that you are happy and enjoy life no matter what.

I am not talking about stuffing the pain. No, stuffing pain leads to illnesses of many forms. When you understand yourself, how life really works, how you create your own reality then you can be happy no matter what is going on in your own life. You have it within you to be peaceful, content, calm, cool, and collected even in the midst of relationship breakup.

How? Well that is what makes my relationship books, live relationship advice and relationship healing group different from the online relationship advice sites you find or many of the other relationship books you will find. (Notice I said different, NOT better! I believe both types of information are good to have and so I do offer both.)

You see most relationship counselors and authors are giving you advice for one specific relationship problem or another. They can even give advice for hundreds of situations. If you read enough of their advice then you might find what you are looking for or piece the puzzle together. However…what if you were given the keys to understanding the core root of all relationship problems? What if you were given the tools to happiness no matter what the circumstances? What if these tools improved all aspects of your life not just relationships?

That concept may be difficult to grasp given the relationship issues you now face…but think of it this way…if you could be happy no matter what, then why does it matter if you are in a relationship or out of one? Happy is happy right? RIGHT?

Okay I realize some people just cannot imagine that life could be happy when they are alone or when other people are doing crazy things, but trust me it is possible and many people have mastered this skill.

But here is the most important part…if you are sane and happy then unhappy and crazy people will naturally move out of your life while sane, loving and happy people will move into your life. This is Law of Attraction which is always at work. When you don’t understand yourself or how life works it is easy to attract the people and events that bring you pain and suffering and when you do understand how Law of Attraction works you attract the people and events you do want.

Consider these two contrasting experiences…

You put your time and effort into learning what a man wants and how to attract a man and keep him without understanding yourself or how it is that you create your reality. Then you do a really good job of attracting a man into your life, a man who turns out to be needy and demanding, or abusive, or has some other quality that brings a great deal of pain into the relationship. You do such a good job of keeping him that he clings to you and manipulates you into hanging on to the relationship for so many years that great suffering is the end result.

OR…

You put your time and effort into learning about yourself and how you create your reality and balance that with also learning what men want and how to attract and keep a man. You spend some time alone, but are peaceful and happy. You attract a perfect match for you; he is kind, loving, caring and treats you right. You stay together only because you both continue to enjoy each other so much. Perhaps it takes a while to find that perfect guy but you enjoy spending time with a few different men until you find Mr. Right. You enjoy your male playmates until it ceases to be enjoyable and then you easily walk away because you can and you are stable and secure in and of yourself.

Which experience is more appealing to you?

I’ve seen far too many women who lived the first experience only to find that their youth had slipped away and in the end life did teach them something very profound about themselves and how life really works. I have also met a few women who have had the second experience. These are lovely, powerful and happy women.

What Men Want

I’ve looked at the relationship advice that other relationship counselors have given…in relationship books and in online relationship advice sites; there is a common theme. They make it sound like all guys want the things I will be listing just a little further below. But that is not really true.

There are a lot of men out there that are sick and mentally screwed up. They are in need of spiritual healing, emotional healing, or a great deal of relationship counseling. These men are simply not suitable relationship material. On one hand it may be true that they also want the things listed below. Yet their conflicting dysfunctional beliefs cause them to want and attract someone to use and abuse and someone to blame for the miserable life they suffer.

No matter how much you try, you are not going to get through their severe dysfunction. However after these sick men spend many years using and abusing you and then lose you, they might be motivated to change too. Perhaps in this way you are doing humanity a great service. But is that what you aspire to?

There are a lot of men out there who have severe dysfunction life skills!

How many years of your life do you wish to waste learning this lesson the hard way?

I hope the answer is ZERO and I hope that you will give my Relationship Healing Group a try for that very reason.

What Men Want in Women

Remember that these are generalities, the top seven qualities that a reasonably healthy and balanced man wants. Some men might reorder this list, take things off of it, or add other things to it.

Talk to your man and find out what he believes is important in a woman. Do it as early as possible in the relationship so he is not influenced by what he already knows about you. If he doesn’t know or won’t talk about it…well those are some warning flags that he might not be a very good communicator or not be paying much attention in his own life.

  1. Beauty – Each man has his own idea of what physical beauty in a woman is. Even though the outer package may be the first thing that catches a man’s eye, the inner beauty is what will hold his attention for many years. A man wants his woman to add beauty to his life by the way she dresses, by the way she moves through life and social interactions, and by the way she decorates the home.
  2. Femininity and Nurturing – A man wants to be nurtured and mothered. A man wants to witness his woman nurturing his children or pets or even others in appropriate social circumstances. A man wants to feel the presence of feminine energy in his life.
  3. Playful and Fun – A man likes to play with his woman, to take time out of the seriousness of life to enjoy living. He likes to hear a woman tell cute stories and see her face light up with love, laughter and delight.
  4. Sensuality – A man loves a sexy woman! A woman who knows how to touch and who allows him to see and touch her. (Hint: Don’t always make love in the dark!) A man wants a woman who can delight his senses through food, beautiful fragrances, and even texture and colors.
  5. Youthful Energy – Life can get too serious; it is easy to get caught up in duty and obligations. A man wants a woman who can balance the necessities of life with spontaneity and who can look at the world with awe and enthusiasm as if she were a young girl. This is not about chronological age but about attitude and energy.
  6. Social Planer – Men like to have women keep their social life alive; to plan and arrange interesting and exciting adventures with friends and family and out in society.
  7. Stability and Dependability – A man wants a woman who is honest, reliable, and capable. A man wants a woman who can take care of herself and is emotionally stable.

What Men Want in Their Relationship

  1. Love and Partnership – Yes a man really does want to be loved and a man wants someone he can safely give his love to. A man wants a partner who will work with him in building a life together.
  2. Peace and Freedom – A man wants to be free to be who he is. He does not want to have to fight or defend who he is in his own home or relationship.
  3. Stability and Security – A man wants a life he can depend on. In many ways a man loves a good rut! A man wants to feel like his partner is not going to leave him or cheat on him. Financial security is a big part of this too.
  4. Adventure and Excitement – While it might seem like a contradiction to stability and security, a man does like to take calculated and contained risks.
  5. Logic and Reason – A man wants things to make logical and rational sense. A man likes to know why you want him to do a certain thing and what you hope to gain from doing it.
  6. Self Esteem – A man wants to feel good about himself. He wants to be seen as competent, capable and strong. He wants a partner he is proud to present to others.
  7. Honesty and Fairness – A man wants to do the right thing and wants to do his part to make sure the right thing is done in his life and his world. This is one of the reasons men tend to be disciplinary, and join the police or military or at least admire them.

So what happens if you don’t have one or more of these qualities? How do you develop or improve these qualities in yourself? What happens if you have all of these qualities and the man isn’t treating you like the love of his life or the most precious thing in his life? What happens if he breaks up with you?

After posting this blog I got the following message from a woman…

“But what about what women want and need? We all know this…and it becomes more increasingly clear that we must just bend over and bleach our hair…or become a lying cheating whore…”

“I’m sorry if I’m sounding bitter but I am. I’ve recently met a wonderful man, I could see myself spending the rest of my life with and overnight everything changed…I really believe the internet has been the downfall of us all, who are single. There is always someone better a click away, and they are available, no one seems to have morals anymore. And believe me, after dating as long as I have, and to have almost every guy come back wanting friendship or get back together, I just don’t know anymore. I’m to the point of giving up. I’m so tired. This last one has done me in. I started feeling like a mouse that was being played with by a cat…I just don’t know anymore Michael”

- Joanne

This is where coming to understand life and yourself better becomes important.  How is understanding yourself related to why guys do the things they do? Do you have any idea of the numbers of hours I would have to spend trying to explain it all to you?

It is exactly these sorts of questions that I answer in my four hour audio program The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing, in the fifty or more blogs that are on my Relationship Healing Group website and in my live tele-classes.

Seriously, if you read this blog and still have that sort of comment to make then you really do need my Relationship Advice Products and Services. My package is one of the least expensive ways available to you to listen to and read the best wisdom available on these topics and to then be able to get your lingering questions answered.

Also I reveal how I came to understand this aspect of life and grew to be aware of my own inner resources and gain healthy self esteem in my entertaining book Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story.

So please submit your email address in the form on the right or better yet…Click Here to join the Relationship Healing Group NOW!

Kind and Loving Regards,
Michael Skowronski

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Difficulties Letting Go of a Relationship Gone Wrong

I received this letter from a friend who told me…

“I am finding it so difficult to move on and let go of a relationship gone wrong.

“I met person this man on the internet who lied and manipulated me for one year. We had the worst abusive arguments in which he used my own childhood abuse against me. He used other women to make me jealous and disappeared on me more times than I can count. Yet he obsessively sought to possess and control me, accuse me of cheating even though I never did.

“I was not innocent either…I was moody, quiet, bored easily with conversation, demanding, and also very argumentative at times. I entered into abusive behavior and insults and often would self destruct by jeopardizing things when they were smooth. I’m not sure if it was because I was so angry inside, depressed, unfulfilled, lonely, desperate, and resentful or just testing his love for me and my trust of him.

“I have seen these are my issues and have been working on them myself. A lot of things seem clearer but many not and still very confused over everything. After one year we did meet and had some very rare and few beautiful moments, but mostly the same old dramas continued. I also found out lot of truth in this time that the man was a virgin at 42 years old; he lived life of recluse, suffered with mental illness, anger, paranoia, OCD and lived a weird unhealthy life with his mother who he claimed to take care of but he slept all day whilst caregivers took care of her.

“It is my fault that things haven’t stopped because I hold on and it’s been two and a half years now, although after the last huge fight and disappearance at Christmas I tried to get on with life, went on self development courses and did lots of research into my behavior and healing work.

“Three months later he returned wanting me back and saying he loved me, admitting much was his fault. Then be began again to go into old behavior of past and blame and starting fights so I wouldn’t go back, but it sent me backwards and I haven’t been able to get back on track since.

“He has left me alone but I contact him still looking for answers, sometimes comfort sometimes hoping he will realize and change but he feels no changes are needed and goes as far to say that I interpret too much, go to deep when talking about ego and behavior and reasons behind it, also says I use it to get myself off hook, which isn’t true of course.

“He tells me what happened in first year is unrelated, that after we met he made great effort and I destroyed it all with my attitude and pressure on him, so he tells me he’s too exhausted to try though loves me and has no will.

“You would think that would be enough to send me on my way but i am filled with anger and resentment at sacrifices I’ve made as well as time wasted, all the hurt and not having sex for 3 years to please and be faithful to him.

“I’ve come to the end of my rope and through research and self development and my own writing I am much stronger in many ways and aware of much, I still feel confused is this my fault? Why did it happen to me?

“Why does he not realize and change? Why does he not love me enough or see me as special enough to fight for me? But more importantly why can’t I just let this go and get over him, sometimes I just feel he isn’t worth it at all and this is just my own ego in turmoil because it was rejected.

“I would really appreciate some insight into this and how to move forward, also if it helps others can be used for blog but just ask you don’t use my name or links as he is on MySpace too and I fear he would do something nasty if he found out I told anyone of this.”

You won’t find answers in other people. Consider how screwed up you feel at times. From what you have written I know you must feel screwed up. Well MOST of humanity is like that. We tend to think other people are doing fine, when in reality most are just barely holding it together. So don’t look for answers about why other people are the way they are. The reasons are many. There are no answers except to say that other people are very fluid, shifting and changing…there is no stability in others.

You must find the answers inside of yourself. You must find this stability inside of yourself. My blogs are specifically written to help people find that stability. Recently I have hardly done any blogging. That is because the blogs I have already written do contain all the answers you need to gain sanity in your life. They also include reading and video recommendations to help keep your mind focused on positive, uplifting, life giving topics.

Start here Self Healing Guide – From Misery to Bliss because that blog recommends which blogs to read and why to read them as well as fills in the gaps for a complete self healing plan.

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Be sure to read this blog too…Attracting the Right Kind of Lover because it talks about how to read the signs when meeting a new person and first getting involved. All the signs are there right in front of you but you do not know how to read them.

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I hope I have not sounded harsh or judgmental. That is NOT my intention. It is clear to me, and I am sure it is clear to many of my friends who are reading this, that right now you cannot see what is right in front of you. This is because you don’t have enough experience with good healthy people and don’t know what they look or feel like. It will take some time for you to adjust and see through these things. Continue doing the work on yourself and eventually you will get there.

“I’m grateful for your help, everything made sense of what you said, but I am still very disturbed as I gave everything for first time in my life to someone I hardly knew, I also saw what that woman said [in the comments below] that she loved even before she met him and I was very same. Its very difficult to explain but I saw something in him beneath everything like some deep connection I have never experienced before. Maybe he came to teach me a lesson.”

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Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

  • The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  • All of my blogs.
  • MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  • Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  • Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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To Spank or Not to Spank

A friend wrote me with his story and asked…

“I have 2 kids of my own, ages 1 and 3, and I also watch my brothers kids who are 4 and 5. All 4 are girls. Usually my one year old wakes me up around 9:00 am. Then the other 3 usually wake up by 10:00, but not today, the one year old woke me up around 9:00 like usual, but I noticed her sister was gone. When I went in the living room I found that other three older girls had been awake for a while and already destroyed the living room, kitchen, and their bedroom. Seriously it was a disaster.

“Now, usually my brother and his girlfriend tell me that I am too nice to them. Usually that’s true…I let them get away with a lot, I hate punishing them. But today I flipped out and there was a lot of spankings and yelling. Inside I just felt completely powerless, and I wished that there was some kinda magic or something that would just make them be good.

“Please Michael, aid me with some of your Wonderful Advice. – Joshua”

Hi Joshua,

Oh this is quite a dilemma you have presented. Was there any guilt for flipping out and losing control…for spanking these girls and yelling? That would be what I would have felt.

First of all I want to admit that up to the age of fifty I have only been a step father to two boys for three years and had just a little bit of experience with other children over these years. Also I will admit that during those times I was a bit on the lenient side until the stress got to me then I would lose it. And a Scorpio losing it is not a pretty sight…or perhaps I should say a frightening sight. I will admit that I have overdone it and lost control, but I also never did anything that would warrant child protection services getting involved. However for myself guilt was there and I knew I was out of line. I have made great progress in reprogramming myself and overcoming my anger but still, without children in my daily life it has been a long time since I have been put to the test.

If you want some sort of magic that will make children behave I think you are out of luck. This is a very fluid situation, all children are different. We ALL have free will and that goes for children too. Also children are really souls just like you in a younger body than you. But who is really more mature, you or the child? That would depend on the number of lifetimes each of you have had, how much you each have learned, how deeply you each decided to go into the darkness, and how far you have come back into the light. So keep this perspective in mind when dealing with children.

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Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

  • The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  • All of my blogs.
  • MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  • Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  • Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

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Is Polygamy Sinful? Does Killing Feel Good?

I had a friend ask me these questions…

“Do you have any teachings about polygamy? Do you believe it is wrong/sinful to love more than one person at a time while in a committed relationship?”

Is it wrong? There is no such thing as an absolute wrong or right. It depends upon you and your situation and what you want to learn about life and yourself. It depends upon your situation and the people you are involved with and what their desires are and how honest you are being with them. I always tell people to feel their way through right and wrong…good feels good…bad feels bad. I wrote an extensive blog on this topic called What is Right or Wrong? Your Feelings are Your Guide! and speak of this in many of my blogs.

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“I’ve been thinking about what you wrote and trying to analyze what you said about sin, mistakes and desires. All my life I have been taught that certain things are sin such as the 10 commandments; thou shall not kill, thou shall not lie etc. However, if you are telling me that one should do what feels good to them, then where do you draw the line of what “sin” is. It can’t be acceptable to kill or hurt people in this life just because it “might feel good” to someone who chooses to do that. So could you please clarify what sin is. I understand that we all have desires and that we all make mistakes, but how does sin fit in our world and how does it change us if it is ok to do anything that feels right. I’m just trying to understand. If you could please clarify, I would appreciate it.”

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“Another thing as far as sin is concerned. I am a parent of three strong willed kids and constantly am redirecting/teaching wrong choices that they make every day. (Judgement) So what is our role as parents in helping them live their life to the fullest? Kids need direction and guidance, but where do you draw the line with them if they have the right to make “bad” choices and learn from them?”

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Click here to read the comments left by those that read the full blog. You will see that MANY people found a lot of help in the content of my blogs. Unfortunately I had to remove the content of most of my blogs for the reason stated further below.You can continue reading my blogs by joining my relationship healing group, the details of which you can find at http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com By joining my healing group you will get…

  • The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Healing a four hour Audio Program.
  • All of my blogs.
  • MANY hours of additional Audio programs.
  • Live Tele-Classes given by me where you will have the opportunity to ask your own specific questions.
  • Access to my coaching via email just like you have seen in my blogs on MySpace.

Why did I Remove my Blog Content from MySpace & gr8Wisdom.com?

I spent more than a year doing free spiritual and relationship counseling on MySpace. If you review the comments on my blogs (which I have left intact for you to review) you can see that I have spent a great deal of time, covered a lot of topics, AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE HELPED BY MY ADVICE. I have really enjoyed it and thank all of you who have participated. Many of my friends have touched my heart very deeply. I love you all!

Unfortunately doing it for free has resulted in me not being able to write new blogs or serve as many people as I would like too. Doing it for free has caused me to maintain a fulltime job with not enough time to coach those people who want and need the help I have to offer. By charging for my services I will eventually be able to quit my job and do my spiritual counseling work full time.

My blogs really do contain all you need to know in order to live a healthy and happy life and the live coaching I offer in the healing group fills in the gaps. Please consider joining this group today. http://RelationshipAdviceSite.com

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story

Popularity: 65% [?]